1 . Discussing with other pedophiles about children is not going to help someone take their minds off of children . It ' s like a bunch of alcoholics talking about their favorite beers or liquors . Unless you try to discuss things that aren ' t pedophilia , the temptation will be there , just like any obsessionaddiction , hardwired or learned . 2 . No , which is why I specifically mentioned professional psychiatric help . Their job is try to understand these minds and help those with a wide range of mental instabilities to cope and work with them without succumbing to their temptations , whether through mental exercise , prescriptions , or any combination of other ethical practices that lie in between . It ' s not selfloathing to think I have an issue , and I need to make sure that I receive help as to cope with this issue , it ' s selfawareness . As long as the issue is perceived as a serious risk , there will be anxiety . If the anxiety is being around children , then pedophiles should stay away from children as much as possible until they successfully cope with the issue . Edit an extra couple sentences .