Yup unless you ' re very attractive or witty with words , tinder is hard here . At least for me I think I look okay and I hardly get matches , right now though I changed my location lol . <| sep |> Hmm , I think I ' m in there . Maybe I haven ' t added your code correctly . I ' ll double check . Seems like we ' re mutual friends now , so that isn ' t the issue . <| sep |> Sorry . This will be long and it might seem like I ' m rambling . Got a text from a good friend . One of the old boys from the neighborhood had died . He was in and out of it for a couple weeks after a car accident . Woke up , looked at himself , said goodbye to his family and told them don ' t let me become a vegetable . Slipped back into a coma and was declared brain dead . A few hours later it was all over . We all knew it was coming , we all did everything we could to get blood donors and help pay the hospital bills during those 2 weeks . It was no use . I tried to keep it together , I thought I was prepared . I locked the door to my room , collapsed on the floor and cried for a few minutes . Went out and bought 2 beers , one for me , and the other I set on the other side of the table for him . 1 day before the funeral I was fighting with my girlfriend and broke down again in front of her . Let it all go . One of our buddies who had literally grown up with the guy mustered up the courage to go talk with his father . His father ' s words to us were Please , don ' t be sad . If you boys are sad , my son ' s spirit will be sad , and will never find peace . He will only find peace if his loved ones are happy . Those words were the strongest thing we could have been told . From that point on , no more crying , no more lamenting that he wasn ' t with us anymore . That same night he died we all got together to remember him , and celebrate his life . Now , this friend was a Buddhist . Although not many of us understood his beliefs , we tried . We were talking about how we thought he would be reincarnated . Right at that moment a butterfly flew up to us and perched itself right there in the middle of us . It sounds cheesy , but that moment felt so good to us . We started crying again haha but these were tears of joy and celebration . Cherish your loved ones . Keep your good friendships strong . And always , ALWAYS , strive to put a smile on someone ' s face . That is what our friend taught us . TLDR The boys from the neighborhood love you , Veny . I love you . Thank you .