Yeah but who ' s gonna tell him to his face ? <| sep |> I learned when I was in college , around 20 years old . I had never heard of asexuality as a sexual orientation until I went to a pretty liberal school and started hanging out with a fairly large amount of LGBTQ folk and being interested in those topicsissues . I think I might have first seen it on some sort of documentary or something , so I googled it . That lead me straight to asexuality . org . Finding that forum was absolutely amazing for me . There were other people like me ! I found that my hypothesis that I was somehow broken or damaged being the reason I had such little interest in all things sexual was total bullshit . I ' m just asexual ! I feel like that had a huge impact on my self value and my selfesteem . Finding that label that described me so perfectly was awesome . Coming out to my friends as asexual and having everyone be like Oh yeah , that makes total sense I was 21 before I had my first kiss and be super supportive was even more awesome . That was 6 years ago now , and I have a wonderful SO who is also very supportive and understanding .