i put on my bino ' s robe and wizard hat <| sep |> First time i ever heard that excuse haha ! <| sep |> Thank you , uBruster 112 ! You have awarded karma to user uHattedthrall . Moderators of rpumparum <| sep |> VATS works as well i belive . <| sep |> OMG u r a genius ! <| sep |> I don ' t feel stupid at all because he was definitely leaving a lot of things out and the way he talked about it was confusing and disjointed . You can ' t ask people for advice without giving some understanding of the events that lead up to the issue . I think he sees that his problem is conflict avoidance . You don ' t just not talk to your family because of absurd reasons and then decide suddenly to go back to talking to them without ironing out the issues prior to that . I ' m not surprised his wife flipped out because to her it feels like ' oh he ' s on my side for a year and now he ' s going back to them '. Just because I ' m not surprised , though , doesn ' t mean I think her reaction was okay in any sense of the word . It sounds like his wife was being unreasonable and he was so averse to engaging in conflict he never bothered to try and figure out wtf was going on and address her batshittery . I honestly feel awful for him because he ' s now stuck between a rock and a hard place . He has a child with someone who clearly is struggling with some kind of victim complex or personality disorder or I don ' t even know what . I hope this can be remedied with counselling or something . Sounds like a god awful train wreck .