I dont have a facebook <| sep |> Break up . Sounds glib , but this is a common pattern of behavior , when you see it it ' s time to RUN RUN RUN . A lot of people have the wrong idea of what toxic , abusive , rapists , etc . type people are actually like . Rapists aren ' t all like Look at me ! I ' m a rapist ! I hate women ! Hmm . whom shall I rape tonight . because I am a rapey rapist ! No , they are often underhanded , manipulative , they behave in nonsensical ways . Many of them genuinely lack the selfawareness to consciously understand or communicate their own motives . At best he is only an immature , irresponsible , insensitive fool incapable of basic empathy and communication . I suggest you make your escape with as little drama as possible . No more debates , no more arguing , no more JADEing why you don ' t like being sexually assaulted . He has aptly demonstrated that he doesn ' t careunderstand basic human interaction . There ' s a good chance he ' ll really flip out once you tell him you are breaking up , so keep quiet about it until you have a new place to live .