recently took my friend here . she ' s from Portland and obsessed with 90 ' s everything , as am I . she didn ' t recognize it all and Clueless was her favorite movie . I was so irritated lmao <| sep |>. First of all , stop treating her like she ' s fragile . She ' s not . Show her what healthy relationships should look like , where you and he can freely be friends , and all of you own your own time . Help educate her on what poly means . Agree that physical intimacy will wait while she gets comfy with this , but put a time limit on it . When the agreed time happens , do not push back and do not let her control what happens , make sure that progresses at your and his comfort but know that he may have existing standards , such as condom usage with new partners , that you really should honor .