Holy shit it does look like that huh , window breaks , allowing the wind to blow in falling snow . <| sep |> This is why there ' s a difference between relationship material and just something fun . <| sep |> no , there is one stat , everybody scales of that now <| sep |> it was justin being justin <| sep |> a ? singular ? Just the one ? We can at least buy him a whole slab of the stuff mate . <| sep |> What the heck no <| sep |> Our adoption journey isn ' t complete yet , not by a long shot . We are fostering the sibling group preadoptively , and the teenager is making life . difficult . To say the least . He ' s so afraid to trust , afraid to get too close . He pushes us away at every opportunity , determined to make us move him out so he can get on with the next transition we are his 20 th home in a year and a half . He ' s been taking care of the younger two since they were born , and has essentially been their parent . The boys have had such a hard life , been abandoned by their parents , and extended relatives , more than once before the state stepped in . They lived in parking lots , garages , sheds , and church shelters . They recall twice having their own apartment until a failed drug test on the parents part had them removed from the property . They ' ve been in so many schools , we ' re going to just let them settle for a while before we even mention their poor grades and start pushing harder on that . The bio parents refuse to relinquish rights , so it ' s going to termination trial next month , even though one is incarcerated for a good long while , and the other is indigent , and has no home . The two younger boys only have vague recollections of their parents , and have begun calling us mom and dad as soon as the prospect of adoption was introduced to them . We don ' t do what we do for the money , and God only knows that the state foster care system doesn ' t care enough to keep licensed foster parents to even pretend we matter we actually closed our license before these boys were mentioned to us . We have a stable home , a loving relationship , and no children , so thought we ' d start a family in a nontraditional way . We don ' t see ourselves as white knights , but the younger boys do . The teen is still on the fence about us , and their DNA suppliers are downright hostile because we are taking their kids from them never mind that they abandoned them , literally . It ' s been a struggle , and it ' s not even close to over , but it ' s important to us , and to them , that we end up as a family by the time this is over .