You ' re being selfish , but in the good sense . Remind yourself that he ' s being selfish , too . You ' re both entitled to feel in the way you do . Maybe you could come to some kind of an agreement , which you wanting it know would mean cutting by half the time he asks for . If he asks for a month for a kiss , you say half a month if he asks for a year for sex , you say half a year . That ' s the most fair thing that comes to mind . Anyway , in the same way he feels entitled to state his requirements , you should be able to state yours too . In that sense , you shouldn ' t be hiding them . If you think your feelings will scaredisgust him , then it may be better to let those be known right now , as they ' re not going to change and I don ' t think you want to give a year to someone who may feel disgust or contempt at you if he ever knew how you felt from the start .