Staying in your comfort zone and complaining about it . It kills me when people complain about their lives , yet , they are not willing to take the next step to improve it . I have heard people complain about working at the same place for 30 years but have done Nothing about it . <| sep |> yea just wait til he uses juxaposition lollol <| sep |> I ' ll echo the suggestion for counseling . It ' s very important to get impartial professionals to weigh in on what ' s going on . I also want to tell you that it is possible to have a relationship continue after transitioning . It ' s challenging , but it can be done . My wife and I are going through this together . She ' s been with me for years and after the initial shock , has been my strongest support . I ' m sorry that you ' re worried about your job . On the plus side , you probably don ' t want to work for them if they won ' t support you . Look into antidiscrimination laws in your state , more and more of them are having trangendered people as a protected class . It doesn ' t fix a hostile work environment , but it can be a good way to protect your assets while you line something else up . We ' re here for you .