I live in Tokyo pref . , but not all catch is research the same way as Westerners feel about Japanese culture . My main point here is that archery is still a safe 3 rd , India is 7 th . <| sep |> I don ' t really know how things work in the Canadian Forces , but in the United States asking someone to be a military wife is a big deal . You ' re asking them to be a single parent and be in a long distance relationship whenever you ' re deployed . You ' re asking them to put their career second to yours , because your family will probably have to move to another part of the country based on seemingly arbitrary orders . You ' re asking them to be in a relationship with someone who might die in combat because their country told them to . Some people are willing to make those sacrifices , others aren ' t . I personally don ' t date military guys because I know I couldn ' t deal with it . Anyway , I don ' t think you should be mad at her over it . She ' s not telling you that you can ' t do it , she ' s telling you what her boundaries and limits are . She can ' t be with you if you ' re going to pursue that career . So , if her and the baby are your number one priority then find a different career that you can be happy with . If the army is your number one priority then go for it and accept the fact that it might mean the end of your relationship and less time with your daughter . Just remember that she ' s not trying to crush your dreams , she just doesn ' t want to live that life .