Nighty night princess , sweet dreams . <| sep |> For a long time , I was disappointed when feminine men I was attracted to decided they never were men , but women all along . It felt like every attractive feminine guy I really liked was being taken away and were now women . I ' m attracted to people of all genders that I ' m aware , but I ' ve always had a thing for gender nonconformity . Like , in this instance , having a particularly strong thing for feminine men . Both their femininity and male gender identity is something I find attractive about feminine men . I quickly started to realize this way of thinking could lead to a very egotistical , selfish , and entitled sort . And should focus my feelings on feeling happy for the person , instead of the fact I am excited by feminine men . Nobody is a waste , and nobody owes you their gender identity , doing what makes them happy is the most important , whether they appeal to you or not is incidental . This is before I realized that I , myself , too , am a transwoman . If someone is less attracted to someone , now realizing that they ' re a transman , I understand and relate . I think that ' s an okay thing to do . I would be hypocritical if I were to say otherwise , as I ' m excited by feminine men . What ' s not okay is to treat someone like they ' re a waste because who they are now doesn ' t appeal to you . It is incredibly selfish to say that a person is wasted because they do something that means them less romantically or sexually appealing to you . Would I like for there to be more extremely feminine and pretty guys out there ? Yes . But to be quite frank , nobody owes me anything . At all . Someone doing something that makes them less attractive to me is not a waste because I ' m not entitled to anything .