Jason , I just heard about your situation . I wanted to reach out and echo what a lot of others are saying . You didn ' t cause anything that happened , who would suspect that the person they married had the potential to act so selfishly , or harbored such a vile darkness . She was emotionally manipulative , abusive , and toxic to you in your marriage , that alone would take a toll and involve a recovery period of months to years . What she did is on her . I can ' t believe anyone would continue to associate with her , even her own mother . I ' m in shock that they would attempt to fundraise , it ' s a betrayal of the memory of your children , and a violation of your grieving process for them to post images of your children . Please keep us updated on how you are , or if you want any help researching local resources for additional support .