NP . This is screwing me . I was grinding all day and was about 5 k away from my last summon tickets . Not wasting my time now since the bonus is gone . <| sep |> So I have Korean parents . With similar old fashioned nonsense that can make things . difficult . So this situation is very relateable for me . Ahnyohasaeyo ! First , don ' t beat yourself up because as far as I see , you did extremely well here . Yes , there are plenty of could have and should haves . But ultimately , you didn ' t budge from what ' s important here and that is standing up for yourself and your son . You drew your line in the sand and didn ' t move . That was strong of you . The fact your eomma didn ' t like it is her problem . And the fact that you were hoping she would find a means to accept that , keeping you there longer than you should have isn ' t wrong . It means you are a loving , caring , hopeful human . Sadly , your eomma and appa ' s words to you are pretty par for the course when it comes to oldfashioned , filial piety nonsense that ' s expected from this culture speak to them using Hasoseoche highest level of polite speech in Korean it ' s so old , it ' s use is basically extinct type nonsense . And I ' m assuming they raised you to respect your elders , defer to their instructions for their age makes them wiser , they know better , total obedience etc . etc . Nevermind that kind of instruction arguably contributed to 200 1415 year old ' s deaths on the Sewol ferry in Korea some years back , but I digress Frankly , I could break this down for ages You are a little girl ? Classic attempt at asserting his elder status But that isn ' t important . What is is your anguish and sadness . It is understandable . You ' re going against your upbringing . You ' ve been trained to feel that this is wrong . It is not wrong . You deserve respect . You are not currency for your parents to show off to others . Repeat that to yourself . And don ' t feel compelled to call them . Based on what you posted here , I ' d say your eomma will be back . She ' ll sweep the shit beneath a rug when its convenient and necessary for her if she ' s a true ajumma in the pejorative sense , she needs to keep up appearances of a perfect , happy family to make her friends and extended family envious , so she ' ll need you eventually . It ' s up to you what to do then , but be careful . Greyrocking is a wonderful weapon . In the meantime though , she ' ll probably say some really terrible things about you to your siblings . Don ' t fall for ' this is how they are ' or buckle under . Trust me , they can be made to show you respect . All you need to do is stand firm . Like how my so old fashioned he ' s 19 th century , lunar calendar counting dad eventually learned .