I think crushes happen in every relationship , but this sounds pretty intense . You should look into CBT to reassess how you think about other people . Start focusing on who they really are , not an idealized version of them . Just because someone is nice and has a cute face absolutely doesn ' t mean anything about their worth as a partner . Your BF has shown that he is compatible with your life and is a worthy partner . Every time you think about other people , remember that even if you did act on these urges , their new shinyness would fade . The shitty personality traits would come out . Incompatibilities would quickly arise . They ' re just people , and the vast majority of people you meet are not good relationship partners . You ' ve found a relationship partner and need to focus on being thankful and grateful for that instead of having a wandering eye . Also , perhaps refusing to spend time with them is intensifying your crushes . If you saw them more often , you ' d probably notice more of who they are the good , the bad , the ugly . The feelings would fade . Right now you ' re crushing on a dream , not the actual human beings .