Fuck it . Let ' s separate from Canada . <| sep |> Well all these additional details kind of change the picture . Do you believe that when one partner in a couple thinks that something is important that the other person has to treat that thing as important even if they don ' t agree ? If so , you need to explain that to him . But you also need to live those words too . Don ' t go to the party with him . Go and do what you want on your birthday . Make it clear that he ' s free to do what he wants , but by going to the party he ' s disrespecting you . Correct me if I ' m wrong , but you told him you have always wanted your birthday to be special at least once waaaaay before this party was ever a thing ? <| sep |> I ' m trying not to spend on myself before Christmas , but goddamn the Steam Sale is starting to get to me .