Is it possible that your wife might not be feeling very happy or even depressed ? Sometimes women who have been married for a while and had a couple of kids fall into a slump and many don ' t even know it . Their body isn ' t what it used to be childbirth fucks your body up and the hormone shift can make it difficult to lose weight , their life now revolves around their kids and responsibility , and if she ' s a stay at home mom maybe she ' s fallen into a boring routine . Maybe her life has become comfortable but predictable and unexciting ? I ' m not sure if that fits here but it might be worth exploring . You should talk about it and figure out why she ' s acting this way . There might be a reason and she might need medical help . If it ' s a hormone imbalance then that could explain the lack of sex drive etc . But she HAS to be willing to work on making a change . You are clearly unhappy and both of you will need to work together to improve the relationship . As long as she ' s willing to recognize that there ' s a problem and be willing to work on it , I probably wouldn ' t consider jumping ship quite yet . Unless it ' s a matter of you two growing apart over the years and the relationship is dead no matter what you do . I think that ' s something you ' ll have to do some soul searching on . Is this relationship worth saving if your wife really tries ? Or are you done ? Neither answer is wrong , you just need to decide what you want . Is she worth it ?