Also , equally important , learn to expect a spotter to ruin your set every once in a while . every fucking time . <| sep |> What does youtube say ? <| sep |> It was the neighbour . I ' ve watched The Bill , it ' s always the fucking neighbour . <| sep |> All the candidate are using HTC 10 ' s as phones . Im guessing they have a deal with HTC . <| sep |> I think I get where you ' re coming from . I had to deal with a lot of crap from people I knew about this sorta stuff when I first started making these allegations . I had one friend literally tell me that he didn ' t believe me , that nobody would believe me , that she ' s just too charismatic , that it wasn ' t ' real ' and that I should shut up about it because I wasn ' t doing myself any favors . I found that the most effective way to respond to this was to use the discursive methods that I ' d learnt from feminism and to point out that his rhetoric wouldn ' t go amiss in an antifeminist hate group . A few days ago the guy who said all this stuff to me pulled me aside and formally apologized to me for saying all those things we ' re good now . So long as I don ' t set my experiences up in such a way as to delegitimize others my feminist friends have made me feel like there is a space for my experiences in feminist discourse . I think it also helps that I frame it in such a way that says we need to be more feminist . That we all need to walk the walk not just talk the talk . But yeah , I need to be super careful about the way I talk about it in general . But bear in mind women who ' ve been sexually assaulted have to deal with so much more crap . The woman who sexually assaulted me had experienced so much worse when she went public about her own rape . Her rapists ' friends would literally spit at her at parties . I comparatively got a small taste of what it ' s like for women who ' ve gone through this shit . I like to think it ' s made me a better feminist .