Because after a series of failed ones , I realize I have deep rooted trust issues and codependency problems and I ' m tired of going through the process of developing feelings only to have to shut it all down 8 months in when things fall apart . I am in pretty great relationships with work I ' m an attorney , the gym because punching stupid people is illegal , and booze because I ' m an attorney . I seriously miss all of my exes , I never dated with the intent that it NOT work out , and I never end the relationships . It ' s tougher than I thought it would be , closing in on 30 with stressful employment and student loan debt doesn ' t help anything either . <| sep |> Ryan Hall has a future as an mma analysitpundit , if he wants . Not only because he is highly accomplished in BJJ MMA but his thought process and eloquence is impressive .