How far in are you ? Like , could you still play it off that you haven ' t known about all of this or is the cat out of the bag already ? I ' d legit play dumb but honest . Oh . I ' m sorry you made all these plans for her but we can ' t swing it . I wish you would have asked me at the get go because I would have told you it wouldn ' t work . This just isn ' t something my daughter can handle , you ' ll have to reorganize your plans . It ' s absolutely the truth , it calls attention to the fact that they didn ' t even ask you , and you ' re being honest about protecting your daughter . If they ' d really have qualms with that you have all the reason you need . Had you asked me , I could have told you . My daughter would ruin your ceremony . Would you rather be mad at me for preventing that or for letting it happen ? I ' ll pick for you . You can be mad at me now . I won ' t put my daughter through that and I also don ' t want to ruin your special day . Sorry , not sorry .