Tell me about it ! I was blown away by the whole thing <| sep |> This . I survive because my husband is the primary parent and we are on the same page . He takes over when I ' m just done . I never yell . I never give away my power . I point out what is and isn ' t acceptable . I give hugs even when I don ' t always want to . I high five . I praise when it ' s all good . And yes structure and routines are what keep it all together . Me and my stepson have our bad times but he knows what ' s expected of him and what to expect . Kids are pretty black and white . <| sep |> So ? you act like a dick to random people on the street because they are not your customers ? Like if the job was the only thing stopping you from turning into a total dickhead .