But it isn ' t a rejection of you it ' s a rejection of piv sex . Liar . Suddenly it ' s all about PIV , as if the LL were only too happy to give oral and manual and other body parts at the drop of a handkerchief . The reality is that HLs routinely go without anything more physical than a peck on the cheek . Nor is it fair for the HL person to demand sex all day long . Again , liar . You make it sound like the LL can ' t even get their work done through all the pestering and constant servicing of the HLs demands . The reality is that people go MONTHS AND YEARS at a time without sexual satisfaction from their partner . <| sep |> Well to me all of socializing is just social chess to me . I usually just try to entertain my friends by coming up with wacky ideas with Ne and letting them do all the sorting out . Everyone always seems to think I ' m so smart and funny especially the ladies . But when it comes to girls I ' m interested in or want to show interest in things get complicated and I find it hard to be my usual quirky , charming , gentleman self . And I ' m just so scared the either she or other people will hold it against me for liking her or that I ' ll embarrass her by admitting that I like her which I see as being way worse . I don ' t know if my fears are justified or if Fe is running loose or what it is . I personally think Ne just likes to show me the worst outcomes with this stuff because I can ' t build a chain of logic that leads to a desirable outcome that I can believe to be feasible . I usually go to my one ENFJ friend for this kind of advice but she ' s a girl and I did get rejected by her in the past but somehow we remained friends , at her request strangely enough . It was almost like she was upset that I didn ' t continue pursuing her though . But yeah I can ' t make use of her mastery of Fe for this like I normally do and may have to learn to control my own . So yeah I don ' t have anyone to talk feelings or insecurities with and as a rationalist that ' s my major obstacle . But for me self confidence especially body wise was always something I had trouble with and being bullied by females around middle school right around the start of puberty didn ' t help .