When I fostered , we had a membership card with a bulk retailer and I ' d be in charge of buying the cat litter . Between everyone , what I bought and donations . I ' d say we went through 10 40 gal pals . I bought em for $ 10 a pail and our biweekly alone was $ 200 . If you want to donate to a shelter or foster group , cat litter is a big thing . <| sep |> That is so tough , I ' m sorry . Unless you have lived this life , you can ' t fully understand the nightmare is has been and it can be . My best friend of 21 years a lot of the time tells me after I sometimes need to confide to her I know it ' s tough , but there will come a time when you don ' t care anymore and can get over it . It really irritates me . Anyone who hasn ' t been in the middle of an N family member ' s wrath has noooooo clue what it is like . My SO just yesterday talked to me about standing up to my Nmom . They are just clueless to the fact that we have been victim to emotional vampires our whole lives . Remember their are people out there who DO get it and truly can empathize . hugs