  This book is   easy - to - readErik Myers grew up as a shy kid and that   shyness developed into social anxiety combined with low self - esteem mixed with the death of a parent and he was heading down a dark path . So this book is about   practical guide he found out for living a life free of social anxiety .   The author writes from experience with compassion , wit , and insight so that you feel like you ’ re having a heart - to - heart conversation with an understanding friend . To be the best we can be , we must become self - aware , practice gratitude daily , live in a beautiful state of mind , be honest with ourselves and others admit our mistakes , remain humble , love unconditionally , seek adventure , commit to growth , live outside of our comfort zone , and contribute to making other people ' s lives better . Camera in , camera out   Do you go throughout your daily routine with your camera In or OUT ?   Are you trapped in your head or are you living in the present moment ? While someone else is talking , are you thinking about what you ' re going to say next ?   It ' s okay if you do this . It doesn ' t make you crazy , it means you are human and you have room to grow .   The very first step is to start becoming aware of where you decide to focus .   Remember , when our camera is IN , we ' re consumed with fear . When our camera is OUT , we are free to connect with world around us .   5 - Second RuleOur feeling can be either our best friend or our worst enemy , depending on the action ( or inaction ) that we take .   Knowing what to do and knowing why you want to do it won ' t ever be enough . So what ' s the solution ?   In Mel Robbins ' words , " If you have an impulse to act on a goal , you must physically move within 5 seconds or your brain will kill the idea . " Start the countdown once you get the impulse , and then take ACTION ! " when you see the person you have been wanting to meet , you start the countdown ; 5 - 4 - 3 - 2 - 1 say hi and introduce yourself   when your boss asks if anyone has any ideas for the upcoming project , you start the count down ~   There are hundreds and hundreds of opportunities each day that you can use 5 - second rule to overcome your shyness  