Someone seriously bought me coal for secret Santa one year . <| sep |> No , he ' s actually legitimately scary . He ' s manipulative and abusive , I know this firsthand as she and I have been friends for many years . Her husband being quite crazy would make me think that she should probably be even more scared of the fallout should the affair come to light . Him being gone so frequently has helped this go undetected . It doesn ' t help that we have another mutual totally shitty friend that has encouraged Bonnie to do this . Bonnie has always been very timid and broken which I think has made her a pretty vulnerable target for even more abuse from Chance , to be honest . Her family overruns her . People walk all over her all the time . Still , with all that in mind , she ' s not stupid . And this mess is her responsibility . I have no problem dropping the friendship with Chance . I guess a part of me feels sorry for Bonnie and we ' ve been close friends for longer so I think that is why that relationship is harder for me to let go of . Though it ' s becoming clear that I probably need to .