God , I am in the same situation but , I ' m the girl . I don ' t know if I should be writing this here but anyway . In the beginning of our relationship , I talked to another guy for a month , ignoring my bf . because he was a bit aggressive towards things . but I stopped talking to that guy completely . I never led that guy on or even said to him that I liked him , that guy knew that I was not interested in him . And I very rudely shut him off . Now after 8 months my bf has found out and he thinks It was a side relationship . it ' s been a month I have apologised in any way possible , explained and what not but he ' s not ready to take anything . he loves me sooo sooo madly but he ' s very insecure and doubtful . he says he can ' t leave me and it kills him even thinking to leave me but the thought that I talked to another guy makes him doubt himself and insecure . He swears at me pushes me away . I love him so much I don ' t want to leave but certain things he says , I feel like he wants ME to leave and get the blame . But how do I leave him when I love him . I ' ll keep trying because I know he gets mad because he ' s hurt , but he doesn ' t realise that I ' m getting hurt too .