Rofl I don ' t even know where to begin . There is so much wrong here . Maybe I ' m jaded but I ' m going to be popping alot of your bubbles . Let ' s start with meeting guys . Unless you actually go somewhere to meet a guy it isn ' t going to happen . Nobody is going to show up on your doorstep if you don ' t even use freaking Facebook . There ' s nothing wrong with finding someone off Grindr . The place sucks balls but there are success stories . The point is put yourself out there and make an initiative . Humor has absolutely nothing to do with masculinity . Sorry to pop that bubble but yeah , don ' t understand how you connected the two . From what I ' ve noticed guys tend to prefer guys who can carry their own weight . Besides one needs to be self sufficient , nobody will always be around to pick up your bags . And yes you WILL have to settle for less . My biology teacher once said there isn ' t EVER going to be Mr . Right . There will only be a Mr . Almost Right . Nobody is perfect and every one has their set of flaws . A beauty about a real commitment is both people know the flaws and have accepted their partners with it because the good outweighs the bad . Virginity is over rated . I don ' t know how else to explain this but yeah first times are usually messy and confusing . But once again that ' s the beauty of it . Wearing make up has nothing to do with masculinity or the lack of it so yeah best get that in your head too . Wishing you the best .