Have you considered that it took her snapping out of her depression to realize that she wasn ' t actually happy with the relationship and was overcompesating with her affections to cover it up ? If she ' s really happy with her friends and just cold to you , it very much sounds like she just realized she doesn ' t want to be with you specifically and you ' re taking it hard . Really hard . It ' s not healthy for you to be this focused on taking care of her , including trying to force her into a pregnancy test . She has no obligation to honor a frankly paranoid intrusion into her life , and that really reads as overly controlling especially for someone that ' s already broken up with you ! Honestly , based on that tidbit about harassing her over a pregnancy test , I bet there were more similar behaviors involved in this relationship that she didn ' t see clearly until her mind was cleared of depression fog . Let her go . She doesn ' t want to be with you , she doesn ' t want contact with you , she doesn ' t want to be your friend .