I hope they extend the event a day , to me that ' s the most fair . I was running it trying to get the trust moogle but without the bonus from my unit and friend unit no way I ' ll make it . <| sep |> I think recounts and audits should be both common and routine parts of elections , paid for by the government . <| sep |> Just park on Chesterfield . It ' s cool . <| sep |> You mean avoiding a damage up , tears up , and the best orbital in the game with no downsides ? Whatever you say s <| sep |> As someone who came from a pair of selfabsorbed parents , it took me a long time to work through a lot of this . I started off fully invested that I had been extremely fortunate as a child , that I had deserved the abuse as had my sister before me and that I was inherently flawed and bad , and I was fortunate that they spared me as much consideration as they did . Later , the idea that they were NOT great parents creeped in , but again , that was covered by But who ' s parents are , really ? Then finally I gradually acknowledged that they WERE terrible parents . not ' like everyone had ', but objectively bad . But I still believed , despite every bit of evidence to the contrary , that they ' had the best intentions '. It was only about three or so years ago when it occurred to me I was allowed to be MAD about any of this . Until it did , it didn ' t MATTER how objectively bad I knew they were . They were still ' in charge '. This is what happens when you grow up where the only consistent message is You are not a priority , and it is not okay for you to be one . Your needs ALWAYS come last . I suspect your DH is not yet at the stage where he ' s internalized the idea that he CAN be angry about this stuff , and that it ' s not unreasonable to expect his parents to prioritize him in their lives . Some people never reach this conclusion . I would just see if you can get him to read the stories over at RBN . That ' s what did it for me .