But , many male partners won ' t even make the effort . That ' s a bit of an unfair generalisation , don ' t you think ? It ' s based on your personal experience , not actually on men in general . Unless you have data on the matter , of course . Bonus awfulness for men who then shame women for using sex toys . Of course , but consider that almost every male is shamed for using sex toys on himself by men and women alike , but women are usually not shamed for it it is the exception when it happens . Yet men really don ' t have the option to not fuck the people that think that , as that encompasses pretty much everyone . <| sep |> If your skill points are at 10 across the board , you can be a 7 in modesty and you might be the best person in the world .