Shut up . I hate you . Stop trying to make me believe in unicorns . Hope is the first step on the road to disappointment . You ' re not real . Anyway , all I can say about raising boys is educate them and teach them to be intellectual armchair thinkers . Young boys tend to have a crusader ' s energy about these things so you have to simultaneously educate them on the dangers and realities of the world , temper their fury at injustice , and help them avoid falling into the endless pits of void and despair . Make them aware of danger , and teach them how to avoid it or face it , but don ' t inspire them to martyrdom . Brave men die first and all that . The best revenge is living well . Revenge against a world that hates you , that is . You don ' t want them to get to adulthood as jaded nihilists , basement dwelling losers , or looking at prison time because they had sex with a girl who drank a beer . Presumably , you want them to do the best they can in this fucked up world .