I don ' t want the time I spent studying the blade to be wasted <| sep |> I want nothing more than for Brady to put the patriots up 4 with a 113 to go and just have the announcers say Staffords got them right where he wants them . Then the stadium just starting StafFord , StafFord , StafFord as it goes into the post extra point commercial break . <| sep |> when you ' re confronted by some home truths , your first instinct is often to get defensive . <| sep |> Yeah , she says that all the time . She just thinks the only way to eliminate the sin is to kill them all off . Holidays are always so much fun for me . <| sep |> Was it a . FREE mason jar ? X . sorry <| sep |> I mean at least they didn ' t lose all momentum . <| sep |> I ' m an ENFP female in a relationship with a very wonderful INTJ male . If there is anything I ' ve learned about us over the course of our relationship is that we probably wouldn ' t work without really solid communication . I obviously have needs for touch , affirmation , and affection things he doesn ' t value . He values his time and his logic . So , when I don ' t feel loved because he doesn ' t express it verbally , I just have to remind myself that he wouldn ' t spend his time with me if he didn ' t value me . Perhaps this is a cynical way of thinking of it , but this is something he has expressed to me many times over the course of our dating . I have to remind him to be verbal , which he tries to give me in return for my patience with him and my openness to the fact that he isn ' t as capable of expressing his love in the ways that I need something I often struggle with . I really think your INTJ values you . He probably wouldn ' t express the things he does , whether or not he ' s drunk , if he didn ' t feel that way . And if he weren ' t fond of you , he probably wouldn ' t make efforts to see you . But I really would try to persuade you to discuss this with him . You are both likely to be good with communication . He may not be able to express his emotions very easily , but I feel like INTJs are really great at problemsolving . If you pose him your thoughts , he will probably respond in a way that will help you decipher what ' s going on . Good luck , and please value yourself and your feelings ! Try not to get hurt . You have needs that he may not be able to fulfill , and that ' s okay ! That would just mean you aren ' t right for each other .