es gracioso porque dije algo que despus pueda decir esto hice esos 4 meses al pedo y esto cumple exactamente con lo que pido . Dudo de estar orgulloso de esto despus igual <| sep |> Could be my Aspergers , but I just don ' t see that like a local is a useful term . When I travel , I seek out things that interest me , regardless of whether they are in a tourist book or not . I thought that ' s the goal of travel . EDIT Could also be that I ' m older than you . When I ' m home , I don ' t usually go out much at all . I do chores and go grocery shopping and such . When I ' m traveling , I ' ll go out . So to me , living like a local means living an ordinary life at home . <| sep |> Over , she died about 16 years ago . I think as a mother , my mom did the most important thing a mother could do . She saturated me in love and kept telling me all sorts of positive things about myself . On the other hand I grew up not knowing how to do many of the basic things in life , as she never learned having been a very spoiled child . My mother came down with MS in the 70 s . Back then there was not much that could be done for her . I think the neural degeneration affected her mind as well as her body . I always knew as being a bit eccentric . Part of me has always missed having a competent adult female figure in my life growing up . Its been decades , but I ' ve always remembered a dream I had shortly after leaving for college . In the dream , my mother was that competent adult female figure . She drove up to school to visit me in real life she could no longer drive . I had a conversation with an intelligent woman , a healthy woman , and a woman who I felt that there was a there , there as I spoke something I never had with my mother . It felt so wonderful . Wonderful enough that I always remembered having that dream .