easy answer , for many , their bodies aren ' t built that way . For others , they just never learned due to lack of opportunities or want to . <| sep |> Edward Norton was offered the role of Private Ryan , but opted to star in American History X instead . Probably a good decision , he was brilliant in that movie . <| sep |> Yeah , totally do able if you can wank . <| sep |> Gay man here . My last real relationship ended about 5 years ago , and it was a really nasty breakup . He made me feel like I was worthless and stupid . Any time I made a joke he ' d just scoff and roll his eyes . When we ' d get into arguments , he ' d immediately start making fun of my insecurities instead of talking about the root of the problem . It took me a long time to get past the idea that I ' m not worthy of having a significant other . I get anxiety now about falling for someone because I still expect them to get annoyed at my dadjokes . TLDR Be nice to your significant other because your words have impacts .