We sound like we ' d all make the best of friends You ' re not in the Twin Cities by any chance ? As far as menstrual cups they have literally changed my life , no exaggeration . I use the Instead Softcup which comes in a pack of 14 for about $ 10 . I use one cup for my entire period and throw it away after . I have thought about buying the reusable Diva Cup , but the shape and placement is a bit different from what I understand from the diagrams . The Softcup is placed behind the pubic bone right up next to the cervix , while the Diva Cup sits lower in the vagina . I put in my cup a day or two before my period starts so it can form to my shape a bit . I take it out in the morning and wash it , then again at night while I ' m in the shower . I honestly forget that I ' m on my period when I use it . I only have to empty it once in the middle of the day if at all and it rarely has leakage . I still use a panty liner , but if there ' s any leakage it ' s pretty scant . This means none of that oxidized blood odor ! For sex with the menstrual cup , it has broadened my horizons during that time of the month , but it depends on each couples preferences . Usually , if my SO plans on giving me oral sex , I ' ll hop in the shower quick , empty the cup and clean it , put it back in , and then wash my undercarriage with Summer ' s Eve and pop back out . So the cup allows me to get oral sex during my period and my SO will never have to worry about any blood when he ' s giving me head ! However , once it ' s time for us to move onto vaginal penetration , I take the cup out and we just lay down a towel on the bed . At least in my experience , there ' s no way to have penetrative sex with a cup in without your partner feeling it and dislodging it . As for sex toys , I have always been kinky and my SO was more vanilla until we got together , but we have a nice mix of both in our sex lives . I ' m definitely a sub , so the toys on our wish list pertain to him being able to do a lot of stuff to me with them . We already have your generic rabbit vibratordildo and a plain rubber cock ring , but we ' ve been wanting more for awhile . We just ordered the Njoy Pure Wand which I ' ve have my eye on for a good year or so it ' s used for more Gspot stimulation and you use it in more of a rocking motion rather than thrusting . We also ordered the We Vibe Touch vibrator . Pretty simple , but he can let it sit on me and do its thing while without it needing to be inside me at the same time . Next on our list is a quality pair of leather wristankle restraints , and one of the We Vibe insertable vibrators that are remote controlled or phone app controlled . We really want to do a roleplay at a bar where we pretend he ' s trying to pick me up for the night and he can activate the vibrator from across the bar I ' m also kind of weird , and really want a Bad Dragon dildo . Yeah they ' re like dragon penis dildos . No shame . I ' m also into medical type role plays , so we ' ve thought about getting a stainless steel speculum , and some other medical device looking toys . Oh , and I ' m begging SO to let me build a plywood glory hole wall to fit into our closet door frame so I can be boxed into the closet and we can play out that fantasy ! If you ' ve got any recommendations for toys , etc . , I ' m all ears ! Let me know if you have other questions regarding the menstrual cups , sex toys , or anything !