there ' s a power differential between men and women , between white men and black men , between prison guards and prisoners . Please explain this power differential based on women having less power then men . For every item you name , I will explain how it isn ' t one andor post something that goes the opposite way against men . <| sep |> You ' ll be fine . I recommend you make the post so that it ' s your fireteam . And check out Team Up Teasdays on here . <| sep |> Oh , that despicable excuse . <| sep |> This is all great advice . Developing thick skin is about developing and strengthening your emotional immune system . When we get rejected or experience other forms of emotional trauma , we are forced to resolve it within . That ' s why we ruminate , we ' re trying to reorganize our internal world and arrive at an Organizing Principle . According to Erikson , overcoming moments of crisis is how we grow towards selfactualization . We have to wrestle with uncomfortable situations and emotionally impactful events so as to frame them in a healthy way . A healthy mind develops healthy narratives and an unhealthy mind develops unhealthy narratives , so really all of this growth is really about selfhealing and becoming more and more emotionally healthy . I think the biggest stumbling blocks for guys is that they too easily place women on this pedestal . This is because for men one of the strongest forms of validation is sexual validation whereas for women its attention . Because of this we make this subconscious judgement that if we can get sexual validation from women then our life will be complete . But that ' s not the case , and the sooner guys learn that this is not the case the sooner they ' ll realize that women are just as fallible and imperfect as they are . Men need to be disappointed in women , but not because women are by virtue of themselves disappointing or something silly like that , but rather , that men subconsciously have unrealistic expectations of women . They can ' t resolve your emotional insecurity , only you can . Once you take responsibility for your own emotions and internal state then you remove the wrong perception that others have power over you thereby acquiring power over yourself . Being able to frame things properly is so important . It makes talking to girls much more natural because subconsciously you ' re not seeking validation from them , which is at the root of giving off creepy vibes it ' s the source of insecurity just like where in a child , according to its baby naturemediacacheak 0 . pinimg . com 736 xb 1 e 319 b 1 e 319 b 47 e 70 f 39 cc 83 cafbafc 186 a 97 . jpg , it feels insecure when it feels that its primary source of validation the mother may abandon it .