I have the C section of the locker just full of fish right now . <| sep |> Yeah , Alberta here . we ' ve got our 12 week in a week and a half . I know in BC they don ' t let you know the gender until you can ' t legally abort because there ' s a lot of issues with gender selective abortions , but the nuchal screening 12 wk usually checks for downs , spina bifida and all that . it IS elective , so maybe your doctor didn ' t sign you up for it because you ' re not highrisk . they still should have asked though . <| sep |> Thanks for all the replies . A lot of you suggest social abuse . I ' m having a hard time seeing this , but that might just be the point . We are mostly happy together , and I will not take action in doing anything until after the exam period is over . Knowing myself , it will probably wait till after Christmas . I have looked a little into counseling before and been briefly onto the thought again now , but the thing is that I dont really know it I , deep down , want that . It really sucks , and I hope we ' ll sort it out soon . Thank you everyone for taking the time to reply .