I do understand that , and I do try to be sensitive about it . However as with any new partner I think that there isn ' t always enough trust between us for them to take me at my word . I ' ve felt in the past that reassuring them that it isn ' t anything about them has made them more selfconscious , or at least hasn ' t helped , which is why I was hoping to have some helpful advice in how to handle these situations . <| sep |> Corporate sees this and asks for who was responsible . They fire the supervisor but make him work till the day is over . <| sep |> Thats a pretty strong counterjerk <| sep |> I definitely don ' t think shaming is helpful , you definitely shouldn ' t enable their weight , but shame doesn ' t help anyone . Source Was 274 pounds , down to 223 . The only thing that works is wanting it for yourself .