Holy shit run far far away . I ' m a man sober in AA for seven years , and I ' m 31 . What you ' re describing here is a malicious , drug addicted older woman who is emotionally abusing a younger dude . People in AA can be fucked up . People in AA can be master manipulators . Again , I say this as a man in AA . People get well , and stop being manipulators , when they have long term sobriety , 1 years , not right after a relapse . Run far far away . She will abuse you worse than your last girlfriend , but trick you into thinking it ' s your fault . <| sep |> They only appear that way , at least until they get caught and kicked out of college <| sep |> Not sure where that ' s at but I assume it gets frigid . SF is just cold relative to southern California . Not cold compared to the rest of the country