I think you should maybe assume she ' s no longer interested in you in that way . It might not even be anything you did it could be something to do with her . In any case , give her space right now , and see if she comes around . Be prepared for if she doesn ' t . I know how it feels like but you can ' t force these things unfortunately , you just gotta wait . <| sep |> Except now there is reasonable doubt . <| sep |> it ' s misleading to you apparently . It ' s what I ' ve always identified as , as have the majority of Jews I grew up with . If you look up Russian Jews , it even says most don ' t speak Russian . I ' m not saying I ' m not American , but the question of what I am isn ' t just American . I know Cubans 1 st generation born here who don ' t speak any Spanish and they are still Cuban Americans .