I ' m not sure why you think I want it to be federally mandated . You ' re being delusional . I never mentioned anything about states rights vs . Federal government . That ' s a whole different debate . I ' m just trying to understand opposition logic . Your argument is that marriage is about making kids . Who determined that ? Where is that defined ? Where did you get that from ? Is it written somewhere ? When you make your marriage vows , are you required to vow to make children ? Do states mandate married couples to have children ? No . If you have ovarian cancer and have your ovaries removed and are unable to procreate , should you not be able to get married ? As a straight cancer survivor , are you contributing to the decline of the marriage institution ? Because not everyone can procreate , straight or gay , but does that mean they shouldn ' t be allowed to marry ? Some men are impotent , are they harming marriage ? Do you see why that logic is flawed ?