It is DELIGHTFUL ! <| sep |> this time tomorrow <| sep |> I was going to say various left wing ideologies . <| sep |> It ' s okay because next door to El Cajon is Santee , where it is mostly white people . <| sep |> I do , too , but only because of the pathogenic concerns inherent in the transfer of sexual fluids . The rest of it the emotional connection , the flood of oxytocin at moment of orgasm that enhances bonding , and even the triumph of getting your partner to orgasm and the joy of giving them pleasure . well , I find that part beautiful . Full disclosure , I ' m a lesbian who had never had sex of any kind , so I ' m speaking based completely on the theory of the psychology of sex . I think penises are gross , but that ' s mostly because I correlate them to pregnancy , which is my biggest fear .