Here ' s my entry . HdvE 1 XuQI 2 g <| sep |> Not at all dude . He edited posts directly . Look it up before you talk . This is huge <| sep |> Wow , just have to say this post and all of the others here like it have helped me out immensely . I graduate from our great university next weekend , and can ' t help but feel like the world is coming to an end . It ' s like all my life I ' ve worked hard to get to this point , and for 23 years all I ' ve thought about is going to a great school and getting that degree . And I never thought past that moment , what I wanted to do for a career , where I want to live , who I want to be . Now graduation is here and I feel like the path I was on is complete , the road just went completely dark and I ' m left to wander on my own until something sticks . I ' ve been obsessing about permanence lately , like my brain just doesn ' t understand that I can be free , and try things out , move new places , meet new people . I was always the kind of person who had thought ok boom , graduate college , right into a career path , get married midlate 20 s , work a job for 30 years moving up the ladder , retire and be happy . And that just doesn ' t work for a lot of people . I can ' t plan out every aspect of my life like that , and it ' s awesome to hear of people who were on that path , realized it was eating them up inside , and made the drastic changes needed to achieve happiness . I say all this as my 2 year relationship is getting rocky , and my gf got a job that ' s in Denver at the end of January . I ' ve always been so focused on that permanence , like I ' m not going to be with this girl unless I think it will lead to us being married , and I have no idea if I could commit to a move that ' s states away when I have no idea if it would end up that way . But your post and a few others have made me realize that taking a leap is just that , and if it doesn ' t work it isn ' t the end of the world , there are so many more things to do out in this amazing earth . It ' s simple , but I ' m finally realizing that the first job I get doesn ' t have to be my career . I can try jobs out until one sticks , try new cities out , be with new people . And I don ' t have to get stuck in this rut of everything being permanent if I don ' t like it that way . Your point about your wife also hits home , you went through a lot of stuff to find the real you and it took hard work on both sides and a lot of compromise , but it sounds like you both gained a lot from the experience . I feel like I ' m going through a little bit of this crisis , and if my own relationship doesn ' t get the support and hard work it needs from both sides , then there ' s no point in continuing it I eventually will be with someone who will put the work in with me and make something great . Forget the permanence of relationships , jobs , cities . I ' m not stuck anywhere . Thanks for sharing your post , some of your words really helped me .