I dont wanna trade sorry <| sep |> It ' s a shit thought cycle . <| sep |> I can feel your frustration through this post , but I have to agree with everyone else here . The thing is , it ' s not like he lead you on , or communicated that he was looking for more . And to be totally frank , he was on Tinder , so in his mind the communication was already done It was a hookup . What this looks like to me is that you actually want more , and you got your hopes up when he was a gentleman , so you feel betrayed , but you weren ' t . You can ' t be angry that he didn ' t want what you did . I ' m sure the worst part of this is that you feel stupid , and hey I get it , I ' ve been there . But I think you really need to be honest with yourself . You didn ' t communicate what you wanted and assumed wrong , this isn ' t on him . This is an unfortunate mistake that you can now learn from and use to better future interactions He thought he met a girl on Tinder looking for a hookup , and he is a nice guy , so he did just that .