There are literally dozens of us ! <| sep |> good concept , bad executionnice try though <| sep |> You assaulted two men , which would have scared me too . I think there ' s an argument to be made that you started the violence because , even though they got up in your face , you threw the first punch . It ' s also possible that you misread the situation and your girlfriend realized that it could be diffused without violence . In the end , she saw you hurt these men and realized you ' re capable of hurting her as well . Reasonable or not , some people have zero tolerance for violence , regardless of the context . Now , you can tell me my reasoning is stupid , and maybe it is , but that doesn ' t change how I feel about it . Same with your girlfriend . Just because you think she ' s being unreasonable doesn ' t mean she ' s going to change her mind . If her boundary is I don ' t want to be with someone who uses violence , regardless of the context , and you used violence , then it makes sense that she wouldn ' t want to be with you . At that point it doesn ' t really make a difference if we think it ' s reasonable or not .