It ' s me or the cats . How do you like my new apartment ? <| sep |> Yeah , at this point I think he hears you and is choosing to ignore you . So that means , no dog for him . Is there any other areas of the relationship that he lags behind on ? Other cleaning responsibilities , doctors appointments etc ? Does he contribute or is he free loading ? If he ' s home all the time , he should be doing more work than you are . Give him a schedule to follow for the morning ie walk dog at least 15 minutes then feed x amount , fill water bowl , take care of dishes , vacuum living room , etc and tell him if he doesn ' t stick to it , you don ' t need to be taking care of two people ' s lives and a dog when you work 95 and that you ' re out . The ultimatum might be what he needs to get off his ass initially , but it ' s not a good long term solution imo . If he isn ' t 100 % into your lives like you are , I personally would have a hard time seeing a future with this person .