Start a new game <| sep |> Male here . Do your strongest chemical connections correlate negatively or positively with your emotions or relationship potential for the person ? Ie , do you only mostly feel crazy chemistry with people you are or aren ' t attracted to in other ways emotional , romantic , or does it seems to be unrelated ? I personally can have very good satisfying sex if the other part is into the same things that I am , yet without that chemistry which I personally link to things that are more connected to an attraction that goes further than sex , as in infatuation it will feel like I ' ve done just this very much enjoyable physical activity with her . Nonetheless , I ' m emotional during sex I care about the other part , and very much of my pleasure I get through empathy , but that ' chemistry ' being present will be dictated , I think , by me being mentally satisfied with the whole situation . I ' d say that , what you ' re trying to talk about , is something about ideals . When we have sex with someone , we may be just having sex which is something good already , but we may be also feeling that ' chemistry ' if we think that ' s very much the best situation for us at that moment , as in feeling like we ' re very fortunate of having found someone that gives us what we most deeply wish . It ' s a mental satisfaction of having found something that is very satisfactory and leaves us with no regrets at all . For an example , this is sometimes experienced when having some casual encounter during a trip , with someone you ' re not going to see anymore . You ' re going to be together for a day , maybe two , so you both can feel so free from obligations and worries that the sex together can be very liberating . C . Controversial is it possible that some not all ! people , often women , often inexperienced , with orgasm trouble are actually suffering from lack of chemistry ? Yes and no . Yes in the sense that stereotypically , at least women have an ideal of a partner that has high requirements , who isn ' t only physically attractive , but also experienced , caring , mature , capable , and then they ' ll usually have to do with men that can ' t offer them everything they want . Men are usually easier to satisfy for that matter again , stereotypically . No in the sense of women having orgasm troubles has to do very much with them not having figured themselves out , sexually speaking . This means that if you ' re not going to find the kind of man you ' d ideally like because you ' re ' out of their league ', you ' re going to have to adjust your requirements and learn to enjoy sex with the partners you can do .