I remember those days . I had 3 under 3 , in diapers . Hold tight , brother . You ' ll make it through and eventually have some multiplayer games to play ! <| sep |> I think the difference for me is that things are a lot more vitriolic in the gay community . Straight people are clueless , take longer to convince towards topics they are unfamiliar with or unsure about , and will often make a mistake and laugh it off by saying , Oh silly me , it doesn ' t matter though . . Straight people are frustrating . Gay people tend to either be good allies or vitriolically awful . Either a gay person , when called out will tend to , in relatively short shrift , admit their mistake . Obviously , this can still take a lot of time . But where a sympathetic straight person will take weeks to convince of something , a sympathetic gay person will take days . However , on the other hand , I also find that gays can react with true vitriol . Either very hateful things are said , or deliberate use of erasure and patronisiation to put me down . There are also awful straight people , but they ' re relatively easy to avoid .