I hate that having passion for a hobby makes someone considered a ' nerd '<| sep |> I ' m a 31 yearold engineer . Ordered three pairs for myself from chan , have a $ 1000 ish haul coming in from TB soon too . <| sep |> I think this is often what happens when two lonely people come together , things go very fast because they both have that need , but often someone has to put on the breaks and it sucks . It sounds like she might be in a worse situation than you , being on the rebound . It ' s when a certain kind of very painful loneliness is suddenly thrust on you , it can be awful and scary . I know you didn ' t come for advice , but give her some space and some time . If you guys are genuinely good together , you ' ll still be good together in a few months as well , that ' s not going to change . And dating someone in transition , they way she sounds like she is in multiple ways , can be a mess . I think she is probably doing the right thing by taking a break and getting herself in good working order mentally before she goes back to dating .