it ' s an oligarchy , which is Americas actual economic system . <| sep |> I think they are hypocrites about the sharing pictures thing . I get that they are maybe conflicted about it and trying to balance their own wants along with consideration for others , and that ' s what leads to the hypocrisy . But the fact is they straight up said no more filming Carly , but turned around and shared her face on a magazine cover . Some seasons they film , some seasons they don ' t . Now they don ' t even want to be talked about on the show . Will they change their minds next season ? They definitely send mixed messages a lot of the time and I don ' t think that helps the situation at all and I think contributes to CT ' s confusion and poor understanding of boundaries . But really ultimately , I think the person who bears the most blame on their unhealthy dynamic is Dawn . Also one time I heard an audio recording of an adoption panel they did with their church . They were not as nice as they seem on the show and didn ' t hold back . They straight up called Cate , Tyler , and Beth birth mom of their second kid a nuisance and a hassle in their life . Saying that they just wanted to move on and focus on their own family . I could understand that with their first adoption because Dawn really mislead them , but saying that after a second open adoption just seems mean . They knew what they signed up for at that point . Also their second son is apparently half Mexican and they talked about their relief when he was born and passed as white , but once in a while someone will refer to him as dark and that makes them really uncomfortable . Oh and they like to lead strangers in public to think that their kids are biologically theirs because it makes them feel good . That just doesn ' t seem right to me idk .