Culturally , the cues we receive are a bit different depending on our gender , but those cues can get to us or not independently of what we have between our legs . But again , this depends on culture a lot . Some are more or less sexist , sexually tolerant , traditional . and the people in them can be more or less hung on their culture , which will be what will define their thoughts about all this . for us when we see a hot girl we get pleasure and feel excited . As a men , not all of us feel that way . When I was young I didn ' t , as I was of the romantic type . Most of my male friends liked some girls for their assets , and talked a lot about that , but I didn ' t care much as I always had someone in mind . But I get confused . What does it mean by opposite attraction . I find people attractive but is it attraction ? One thing is sexual attraction and another romantic attraction . They get intertwined . Some people only care about what turns them on sexually , while other people only care about romance and may see sex only as the product of it . Most people are in inbetween places . It could be said that , in most cultures , women give more importance to romance , but nowadays this is becoming less and less true . If we let ourselves , we could feel sexual attraction to the members of our families , as they are persons like us , but most of us shut that door because we know it ' s not a good idea to . Hence all this being motivated , mostly , by our thoughts .