Asymmetry can be OK , if it ' s discussed and consented to by all parties . But I don ' t think you can ignore anyone ' s needs completely and still consider yourself a good person . Regardless of whether or not you ' re dating them . That said , if a partner says ' I don ' t want you to see anyone else for a few months ' or ' I ' m feeling insecure and I want from you ' You ' ve always had the right to say no . But being poly , or solopoly , doesn ' t absolve you from the consequences of saying no . When you say no to one of those requests , you ' re putting the ball in your SO ' s court . Are they willing to keep dating someone who refuses to do this for me ? Are you willing to keep dating someone who asks for it in the first place ?