I feel like this isn ' t the right answer but for me it ' s vanity . I mean I also think about a better quality of life when I ' m older , but mainly it ' s like I became a dad and then developed a major case of Dad Bod . It seemed like people didn ' t even pay attention to me anymore . Like if I started speaking in a group someone would just interrupt and start some new topic . Maybe it ' s just my neurosis lol but earlier this year I started dieting and going to the gym . I ' m down 35 lbs and have some muscle definition now . Again , I can ' t prove it , but I feel like other women want to talk to me more yeah I ' m married but if feels good OK ? . And it even feels like my opinion gets more weight in a conversation . Crazy , but now I never want to go back to that schlumpy dad bod again . Confidence is high . My blood pressure and cholesterol is looking really good too but if I ' m 100 % honest to you internet strangers it ' s probably the vanity that keeps me eating right and going to the gym 45 times a week .