It ' s always a tough call in these kinds of situations . For your first question , you have to draw the line between if you have a positive feeling about this person or if it is simply infatuation brought by repeated adoration . Do you think it will actually work out in the long run or are you driven by some insatiable curiosity that just gnaws on your very being ? Next , you have to evaluate what matters to you most your friendship or the girl . You choose the girl ? Then fuck it , go take that chance and no matter the outcome of those relationships , be satisfied with it . You choose friendship ? Cool . Choosing friendship doesn ' t necessarily mean you have to give up on the girl . Just talk to your friends about it and whoever she chooses is her decision and all of you have to be happy with it . The most generic rule of guy code is Bros before Hoes for a reason . Real friends wouldn ' t despise you because of some girl . True homies won ' t even grudge about it . There may be some negative vibes for a while , but just buy them a beer or an of age equivalent and they ' ll get over it . On how you are going to cope with it just deal with it . Rejection is a common thing that happens in life , Not every single thing is going to work out for you , whether you like it or not . That blind thing known as love may be distracting you from another fantastic relationship that could bud with half the effort or maybe twice the effort , but may give you better results . On what you should do now either you or one of your two friends need to grow some balls . Nothing will come out of living in a land of what if ' s . You think you can do better than some other horny jerkoff ? Then prove it . Go out there and at least get her to notice you or you will forever be as confused as you are now .