Lol this was me ! My neighbour is fine . He somehow managed to break his shower , cutting his leg and got 18 stitches . There was a lot of blood D cool <| sep |> I ' m 37 M from Scandinavia , and divorced . 10 years relationship , 3 , 5 of them married . Still on very good terms with the ex . No kids . I married a reasonable , smart person and it didn ' t work out . The split was very painful , but compassionate and reasonable . Even though I got in shape and all the usual stuff , the hardest has been to reset my identity as a single person . All the factors I have built up to define myself now as a good man are because of my marriage . Being more comfortable with being an adult and with masculinity , communication skills in everyday life as well as the sex stuff , taking responsibility for chores and logistics , understanding that love isn ' t really just a feeling , it ' s a combination of an attitude , making conscious choices and taking small and big initiatives every day and acting on those choices and initiatives doing what you say you will do , basically . All this baggage has to be factored in and repurposed for a new person , who also comes with the same baggage . It ' s a lot harder to date in the mid 30 s I find . With a little bit of life experience it ' s easier to make judgements and estimations on chemistry and how a possible relationship might turn out with this new person , even though I have dated wonderful and independent women that on paper are just great . I know now that there are certain key factors that play a larger role than others and that the metaphorical puzzle piece you need to fit with another person is much more complex than when I was in my twenties .