Taking leftovers is not the issue . Showing up uninvited is the issue . Showing up uninvited with styrofoam takeout boxes to pillage the leftovers is what takes it from standard family drama to y o u t h i n k t h a t i s b a d l e t m e t ellyouaboutmytrashyinlaws levels of family drama . By the way , your culture sounds amazing . Let me know the next time you a have a get together . I like my hamburgers medium to medium rare , I like my apple pie with vanilla bean ice cream on it the kind with the little black flecks in it and I prefer a good brown ale , but really any kind of craft brew will suffice go wild , be creative . You all can hold your applause and just help me pack up my cooler so I can be out of your hair in a jiffy .