Yep , I have the one that looks like an envelope and one with a custom pic that I took when I was in the white mountains . <| sep |> If you are going to bash people for a quote , let ' s take a look at what you are doing . you are continually using the word hit instead of spank . The two aren ' t interchangeable . If you want to play that game we can call taking toys away stealing , timeouts imprisonment , and chores slavery . You are playing semantic games in order to make the other person seem evil rather than attempting to support your argument with logic . As far as the SO side of things , it is not your SO ' s responsibility to adjust your behavior and your SO is not responsible for your actions . Yes , spankings can destroy trust if they are delivered inconsistently , in anger , and a variety of other factors . So can other punishments . Perhaps spanking was the wrong method for you . Perhaps it was not done in a controlled manner and only used in specific circumstances with clearly defined boundaries . Who knows . However , parenting is not a onesize fits all job . There is no formula that will work for every child . This is the issue with most of these studies . They can ' t be performed in truly controlled environments which leads to only being able to make correlations which have limited meaning . For the record I do have a child that I did not spank because that did not seem to be the best way to correct behavior with them . I was spanked as a child and it worked well at correcting mine whereas some of the things we used with ours did not work at all for my parents on me .