10 years of vsrgs <| sep |> As a mother who actually loves her children , I can tell you that I would never talk like this to them . I ' m far from perfect , and there are times when I have to pull rank . However , if my child is hurting , I feel that pain . When my kids are stressed , anxious , sad , or just having a bad day , I look at their faces and feel the pain that I see in them . First , your mother invalidated your feelings . Then she turned it around so that the conversation was about her own needs . Worst of all , she threw your therapymental health in your face . None of these things are something that a loving parent does . I ' m sorry that you had to experience this . Some of us never get to feel love and validation from a parent . But you know what ? There IS love and validation for you out in the world . You are worthy of that love and you are valued !