Not for the children <| sep |> Same . It ' s become a hobby now . Coming up with horrible puns and unleashing them on anyone I possibly can . <| sep |> Idk my morals are all up in the air rn <| sep |> Darn , Thank you anyway . <| sep |> That ' s interesting to hear , because it happens to me too . I tend to assume a person is male unless they indicate otherwise , and I ' d like to think that ' s because I ' m male as well and not because I ' m stereotyping people <| sep |> BUY A WATCH Or at the very least , look for a clock if you think you ' re dreaming . A great way to check if you ' re dreaming is looking at the time there is no time in dreams , it ' ll appear blank <| sep |> I spent quite some time going to kink meet ups and some flogs . I think what you are missing , what I used to miss until I actually talked to these people face to face is that for most of them they get extremely high from the endorphins from pain . To the point where they are feeling euphoric for two to three days after . That in itself is addictive . Some of these people play hate that word without any genital contact or orgasms with various partners . They just really like the role play and endorphins . Honestly I think a lot of them are sort of like cos players in some way . And then after their high they drop , which sounds awful to me , my life is already complicated enough without coming down from a hormone high and then feeling sad and depressed for a few days until my next flogging session . I think there ' s an undercurrent in every minority or oppressed or misunderstood or discriminated group to flip the script out of anger . They start hating other people who aren ' t like them or shaming people who aren ' t like them out of projection . Then there ' s infighting among the group , whether it ' s kink or poly or GBLT , or attachment parents or pagans or feminists . You aren ' t doing it right comes up a lot . I do have to say in the group I was involved in the women ran everything and I felt safer at their events where people were very scantily clad and there was a sexual environment than I have at mainstream bars . Edit also I was not open about my own sexuality and was not treated badly or made fun of . I did tell people I wasn ' t into public stuff and that I wasn ' t into certain things . But I didn ' t go on about what I am into . And that was fine with people . Also there ' s a very high percentage of bisexual women in that community . I did see actually equal amounts of women and male doms . Surprisingly there were hardly any gay men but I did meet some bi men . I had several female doms want to top me and I just said no thanks and that was it .