Third . My ex was also my first gf we were young and I wish I ' d read something like this well before we met . She played me like a fiddle and I never saw the end coming . I nearly killed myself trying to keep her happy . I don ' t think I ever even raised my voice in anger to her . She stayed with me until I was bled about as dry as I was going to get . she didn ' t work of course Then she grabbed the next branch and swung to the next chadvictim . Of course she told every one of our friends that it was because I was abusive and a sexual deviant . I think most of them saw through it some immediately and others took a while but even more than 20 years later there are a few people who still won ' t speak to me . In the end I got off lucky . Thank God there were no kids , and she made me nervous of damsels in distress . She also made sure the white knights and sjw in my life made it abundantly clear that they were never really my friends . From what I ' ve been told she has gone through several men and they all fared far FAR worse than I did . It seems I was her practice beta . If anyone tells you how awful everyone treats them , avoid that person or you ' ll be the next person they are making up stories about .