I promise you , anyone can find someone to have a relationship with . Looks are SO subjective that I can almost without doubt say someone out there must see something in you . Looks are not everything , I promise , and if you take care of yourself and have a good personality , there ' s no reason you wont ' get someone . Love imo does tend to find you when you least expect it though . Sometimes when you want a thing so much , you actually do more harm than good because you can come across as desperate . I think you have the right mindset if you say you ' re not going to focus on love and for the time being you will focus on yourself . But don ' t shut down love completely . I encourage you to still go out , be with friends , do social activities and perhaps even keep dating profile or two up . To lose hope totally is bad but to also make it your everything is also bad . You need to find balance . For the time being , focus on yourself . You can be more fun and interesting . But do it for yourself too . There ' s no reason you cannot be more interesting . Social skills is something you can learn . There are many books and self improvements sites out there .