Grateful not to be in solitary confinement . can walk see . no physical deformities . not poor , starving , cold , tortured . clean clothes . The list just goes on . Easiest way for me to feel grateful is to consider that life can almost always get worse . <| sep |> This is excellent advice . I do all of this with all my dates , and go so far as to set expectations before we even meet . If we ' re chatting on Tinder , I make a bet with her about something stupid . If she wins , I say Congrats , you ' ve won the opportunity to buy me a drink . If she loses , I say Now you have to buy me a drink . I also always remember that it ' s not a date , it ' s an audition . She ' s auditioning for my time . If she doesn ' t measure up I end the date and move on .