but , is she racist ? <| sep |> I am a 23 year old female dating a guy I met in college . We ' ve been together a little over a year and I ' ve never dated , let alone slept , with anyone but him . I ' d be lying if I said I didn ' t wish I experimented more in college . Sure it ' s nice never having had the awful breakup but it does leave me wondering if I know what I want in a relationship some times . I completely understand where your ex is coming from . It doesn ' t make it right but some times I think it ' d be better to see what else there is . I ' d like the believe my feelings aren ' t selfishjust inexperienced . The seriousness of your relationship probably scared her more . Being with only one guy is oldfashioned . She probably saw her friends having fun and wondered if there was more to being young . And there is . Maybe you both could go out and live a little . You should ask yourself what you want . Are you particularly upset to be loosing someone you didn ' t trust after dating for so long ? Did you have problems in your relationship before ? It sounds like she is willing to do anything if she broke it off with him so it ' s really up to you .