I giggled too hard <| sep |> For English speakers try and <| sep |> um , can you say MAJOR inspiration ? ? Love this ! Thank you for sharing ~~~<| sep |> The groom is scared if they go ahead with the marriage the bride might backtrack after the wedding and not pay . After that it would be too late . After 8 months of wedding planning , it is lovely to see the kind of trust and family bonding which has developed between them . Foundation of any solid relationship . It will be consensual only when it is the norm . Even the bride ' s family will demand even higher dowry when it is their turn to get their son married . It is vicious cycle which causes a lot of issues . People would feel burden if they have girls , especially only girls . They feel that they can ' t get the money back similarly through dowry if they don ' t have a son . That ' s why it is still a problem even it is consensual .