Oh jeez that ' s understandable . Maybe heading to a local shelter when things start getting too much ? As a volunteer I mean <| sep |> A decent rule of thumb is that the relief should be about the same as the gauge of the high E so , 0 . 013 that ' s what Fender does for their factory setups . It ' s really no different than any other setup , make sure the truss rod is set correctly to counter the tension from the strings , adjust intonation at the saddle , make sure there ' s no buzzing . You will likely need to do some nut work when going from 10 s to 13 s , and also considering you ' re going from a plain G to a wound one . Adjust your pickup height to get the tone and sustain and balance you want . Higher action will let you play harder without buzzing at the expense of some intonation accuracy and a faster feel . Heavier strings have more inharmonicity so you will probably need to make some EQ adjustments or adjustments to your technique , especially going from rounds to flats as well . There are a million YouTube videos with step by step instructions for a proper setup if you ' re otherwise comfortably doing it yourself . Edit It seems like every time I post in this sub , I get downvoted . My comment was relevant and said pretty much the same thing other people said . What gives ? If you disagree with what I wrote , say so . Downvoting is for comments that are offtopic .