Not swept under the rug by allowing abortion ? That ' s antichoice ! <| sep |> I have a job that carries a lot of clout . Respectable , kinda public eye , name regularly in national papers etc . My success has been a total fluke . I went to a really bad school in a really deprived area , staffed on the whole by really awful teachers . It wasn ' t unusual for them to scream at their class that we ' d all grow up to be criminals and single mothers on the dole . Honestly I was pretty bitter about it until they invited me to talk at the school specifically about how the school had inspired me and I was able to respond with a very erudite letter detailing the reasons I wouldn ' t be doing that . <| sep |> Wanting to be independent is NORMAL . Moving out and getting your own place is NORMAL . I ' m not saying that living with parents isn ' t valid if that ' s what someone chooses or needs to do but you are not betraying her or doing anything wrong by flying the nest . Mine did this to me too , when I first moved out many years ago . There were tears and I was told that she ' d had a nervous breakdown which I suspect was a lie and she went to great lengths to try to guilt trip me into going back , and then to punish me when that didn ' t work . I ' m sorry that yours is doing this to you . You are doing nothing wrong . Repeat this to yourself over and over again if you must , because you are doing NOTHING wrong . Don ' t let her undermine your confidence .