It ruins the funny . <| sep |> Funny thing is , they never pull that stunt with butch Lesbians , always the Lipstick Lesbians that get that raw deal . Thing is if you ' re femme you ' re the fantasy . The lesbian that they can turn because you don ' t really look gay . If you ' re butch then you ' re just a mannish dyke that they don ' t want , so why go through the bother of writing fantasies about it ? My dad and uncles are all pretty LGBT friendly , hell my dad went to pride with me last year . But I still heard that kind of shit growing up and it made be profoundly uncomfortable whenever they would comment about how ugly kd Lang is or whatever . Now he ' s got a softbutch daughter , though , and has had to learn about why that shit ' s fucked up so I guess karma ' s a bitch like that ! Lol