With the planning and the journey itself , almost two months . Corin said wearily . <| sep |> The Santa lie was one of the things that led me to conclude that my parents , as much as they loved me and wanted to do the best for me , just weren ' t all that competent at it . I think having at least one person in your life who you can trust absolutely is a good thing . The fact that my parents lied about Santa and other things disqualifies them from that , and I genuinely think it hurt my relationship with them . My parents are still around , and they ' re basically good people , but I don ' t trust their judgement much above a strangerinthestreet . Wellmeaning doesn ' t mean trustworthy . That kinda sucks . I ' d rather have people in my life I can trust absolutely , to tell me the truth and help me navigate the reality of the world , than a fantasy fatman giving me material trinkets . Should I ever have kids ha ! I ' m going to make it a point to never lie to them . That doesn ' t mean drowning them in irrelevant information or spewing highlypersonal intimate details . It just means not giving them information I know to be false . I want them to grow up knowing there is someone on this planet who will always be honest with them . For a long time I ' ve felt I was missing that .