For some of these I end up going down some serious rabbit holes . I end up spending every nonworking moment researching and collecting information . Think OCDmeetstruecrimehobby . This was one of them . I just don ' t know how people can be there one minute and poof , they ' re nowhere to be found a minute later . I suppose it also factors in that sometimes you know someone similar or the person is the same age as you or your kid or something . I don ' t know exactly why this one grabbed me , but it did . Much like the Phoebe ' s Fall one grabbed me . <| sep |> Yea most questions are lifestyle , personality stuff and relationship issues that can change as a person get older , but things like religion , sexual stuff etc to me are the only major flags to look out for . In my eyes everything else is subject to change .