A personal anecdote , if I may ? So my ex had these friends . Seemed ok at first , if a little geekynerdy . They liked me well enough and were happy to see us happy . About 6 months into our relationship , both our lives exploded . His dad died , his mom got gravely ill , he was laid off . My car got wrecked , I was forced out of an apartment , my 18 year old cat passed away shortly after , partly due to stress from the move . We agreed that if our relationship were more established , we would support each other through this , but at this point , there was just WAY too much in the way to add deciding if we wanted to continue a relationship or not . We took some time apart . About 4 months later we started seeing one another again . His friends totally turned on me . I had used him . I had cheated on him . I was a whore . I was a lair . I started getting harassing texts . They launched a FB smear campaign I mean holy shit what , these folks were in their 30 s 50 s . None of their accusations were even true ! My surviving cat jumped off the top of a door and hurt himself . Next thing you know , it ' s letters from the SPCA that I have to present health certificate for him , someone actually thought I was abusing my cat . It could only be this group because by then I had deleted FB , and didn ' t associate with any of them . BF still did . He mentioned my injured cat to SOMEONE who then tried to get him taken away . Not ok . So super not ok . I asked my BF to take a stand . I said it was them or me . Well , he was conflict avoidant to a horrible degree and did nothing . After the cat incident , I went to one of their events . I told all of them in no uncertain terms that if they liked nowex so much , keep him , and even ONE further text , message , or accusation would be handled as harassment . So then I was unhinged . When the person who claimed to love and support me turned a blind eye to abuse of me , and even supported my abusers . I ' m thinking Wife has reached her limit of abuse and her husband doing fuck all about it .