Same goes for my paternal Grandfather . He beat his kids into submission , and still is very religious . When my grandma became ill she was over 80 , overweight and suffered from mild mental disease my dad wanted to hire a caretaker , since she couldn ' t clean the house anymore , take care of my grandpa who suffered a stroke and is partially disabled and do many other things . My grandpa claimed it was too much money and didn ' t want them to do it of course when a caretaker was hired for him prior , it was perfectly fine . Besides , he was cheap , barely knew anything of his grandkids , and mooched off his psychologically fucked up kids , mainly my dad . I ' m confident many of my dad ' s faults are thanks to my grandpa ' s amazing parenthood skiils aka expertise with a belt . At first I felt really bad for not taking any interest in the guy , but eventually I realized that a terrible human being is a terrible human being , even when he ' s old and disabled .