This is the right answer . You can ' t give a masochist sub what they want . If they enjoy typical punishments , you need to find new ones . Another good punishment is to leave them in some sort of anticipation . Blindfolds work especially well here . Make them believe they are about to receive that pain they were trying to get , then don ' t do it . Do something else . Tickling actually does wonders here . Of extra soft touching somewhere unexpected . If your sub is expecially bad . A good punishment is to leave them totally alone . Sensory deprivation , blindfold , maybe even ear plugs . Tie them up and leave them somewhere . Do not tell the sub you ' re doing this as you get them ready . Just tell them they are being punished . Sit back a few feet away and watch . Be ready to get them out as they are liable to panic and might safe word . It ' s a unique punishment that ' s extremely effective for when a pet does something you really never want them to do again .