I feel that pain as a father of 2 myself , I ' ve taken to doing things like powering up my pc to do updates while im doing the dishes or something just to keep things updateddownloaded etc then when I finally get a couple of hours to myself I dont have to waste what little time I get doing updates . <| sep |> I ' m terrified of having a disabled child . I have a permanent injury , and that would stop me from being able to care for them properly . Children just by themselves will be difficult with a trashed spine , but if they ' re able bodied they ' ll be easier to wrangle once they ' ve grown up a bit . Maybe . Hoping to just sidestep the whole process and adopt instead . No pregnancy , no childbirth , and I have the chance to love a kid that doesn ' t have that in their lives . Much better .