Grammar is not the reason he is here , nor a birth control method . OP , my boyfriends step dad told him he should go into the military so that way I could go to school free and when he got done he could go to school free . He said while he was away , I would be taken care of where ever we are placed , as long as we were married of course . I shot that idea down too . We don ' t have kids and I am no where near in the same situation as you , however , I do know how she feels . I think it is more she doesn ' t want to raise the kids alone . You could be able to take care of the family more financially but you ' ll miss out on your children growing up . I am sure you are very talented at something that could very well even become a pay increase . Get with a staffing agency possibly for something closer to home ?