I was surprised we gave up almost 40 . I was expecting to give up more than 21 , but not 39 <| sep |> I am at the age where it is going to be funerals and reading obituaries , and recognizing lots of the deceased , until it comes to my own my relatives have been dying off for the last 15 years or so aunts , uncles , grandparent my parents are in their 80 s and my mother in ill health so it is the nursing home or death . it is inevitable my friends who are dying young 5060 ish their parents or relatives who I knew my entire lifeAnd try not to focus on this stuff . It often does not work out how you anticipate that heavy guy makes it until 74 , while your fit , run everyday friend is found dead on a cold morning while on hisher run . Seen this happen . the runner dead at 42 , while the fat guy is still making the drive through a couple times a week . C ' est la vie . like Chuck Berry said . you never can tell .