I can familiarize with this . Growing up seeing adults make dumbass moves that made life difficult for us kids , I learned quickly what not having your priorities straight can do to those you love . How I see it , yes you can have dreams and passions . Buuuut . never quite your day job or sacrifice finances for the sake of it at the cost of those around you . If you do , stay the hell out of others lives and rough it alone . At least don ' t make your problem other ' s problem because of your decisions , unless they themselves offer help . I grew up piss poor . So piss poor I made toast with a clothes iron and to this day make sure I have only one lightbulb in each room it ' s more romantic anyways in my opinion . Why was I piss poor as a kid ? Because my parents were so stupid they ' d make too much debt on cars and things they always wanted at the expense of us kids . After they divorced , it got worse . We went with our mother who ultimately quit her job and lived off unemployment because she didn ' t like her job and needed to think . It affected our education we never had a continuous education and our health the stress and fear of your next meal every day , no 9 year old should experience . Those lost years , us kids will never get back ever again . The other kids ended up just leaving because we all was just going to go homeless again , and I ended up staying behind because I didn ' t know where else to go . I studied my ass off , got into college where I still study my ass off in engineering , and have several job offers thank holly fucking god . But that mother who made life so hard for us kids , guess what she ' s doing after all those years . Nothing ! !! What ' d you expect LMAO . I literally give her money WHILE IN COLLEGE to survive because I felt it was the honorable thing to do , when ironically there ' s no honor in my family . Can the other kids help chip in ? Haha no , they ' re broke too while thinking and chasing their dreams . In their case it ' s fine though . They aren ' t making their problems other people ' s problem AND THEY ASSUME RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR ACTIONS , so kudos to them . Again , it ' s totally fine to need time to think and reevaluate your path in life . It ' s also 100 % fine to go after your dreams and never stop until you get there . Heck , I have a lot passions and goals myself and always work towards them . But . to do any of that under other ' s expenses without being offered help in the first place , it ' s selfish and pretty much abusive to whoever you are taking advantage of . Sorry , but felt like venting .