If you feel comfortable enough , go for it . <| sep |> Of course you don ' t mind cooking you ' re a normal , caring human being who expresses her love through delicious , carefully thoughtout , lovingly prepared meals . A normal person would recognize this intuitively and make the effort to be as cooperative as possible they would know the time and effort it takes and the reason you have undertaken it . Ns don ' t see any of that . They just see their own agendas and interests and if you offer them love , it better have a huge price tag hanging off it , or else they can ' t see it . Or appreciate it . Save your wonderful meal for another weekend then but don ' t expect the Ns to appreciate it . They aren ' t built that way . Maybe save it for a couple of close friends or other loved ones and forget the Ns totally ? It will be more pleasant for all concerned .