Ah didn ' t know you know everyone who knows Sepultura . My bad . Guess the people I talked to are just fucking with me . <| sep |> Go to a bar with a gimmick eg . karaoke , mechanical bull , dance competition walk up to any random person watching the gimmick , and ask Are you going up ? when ' s your turn ? In a joking manner . Go to a trivia night . It ' s normal for the surrounding teams to start talking to each other at some point during the night . All you need is an ice breakera common ground , and an opening . After that conversation just kind of continues on , or it dies and you move on . If you ' re at a dance club , don ' t expect to just be able to go up to a random girl and ask her to dance with no rapport unless you are ridiculously good looking . It ' s not a high school dance . However if you can ACTUALLY dance well , dance by yourself and girls may come to you . And finally , don ' t just try to talk to one gendersex . Talk to groups of people . That way someone can always keep the conversation going , and it builds a level of comfort . Try not to make hooking upfinding a partner the goal . Just talk to people and see what happens naturally .