My ex . We were really good friends for a few years before we dated , and when we broke up I was very open to the idea of going back to being friends once we were over each other . My one request was that he give me space and time to heal . Which he absolutely did not . My first postbreakup encounter with him was me walking down the street , him driving by , seeing me , doing a u turn , and getting out of his car . I told him I wasn ' t comfortable but he demanded I talk to him as if I owed him something . So we chatted awkwardly . Then he asked me if I was banging a friend of mine . I exploded at him and stormed off . My second post break up encounter with him was shortly after I had begun to realize and come to terms with the fact that he had actually been an incredibly abusive boyfriend . He invited himself to hang out with me and his brother , despite his brother repeatedly telling him to stay home . He asked if I minded him being there , I told him I did mind , he said ok and then didn ' t leave . It ended with me snapping at him and him demanding I be nice to him . I stormed off and the next day I wrote him a nasty email tearing him a new one for everything he had done during and after our relationship . A few months later he tried to apologize and didn ' t accept that I couldn ' t accept his apology . I had to block him on everything . After that , he didn ' t stop trying to contact me , made violent threats towards me , told everyone he wasn ' t going to leave me alone because it was fun . Drunk dialed me at 7 am . Messaged my friends . Commented on their facebook photos of me . If you ask me he nuked that fucking bridge himself . He can go to hell . I still have nightmares about him 2 years after we broke up , and as far as I know he ' s still obsessing over me and blames me for his newfound misogynistic attitude towards all women .