I recently learned that Drudge was the first to report on the Clinton Lewinsky scandal . <| sep |> How did they find out about your drug use ? <| sep |> Are you 300 lbs of muscle ? Because that ' s what the goat is . <| sep |> I ' ll try this one day , thank you ! <| sep |> Or Benning pulls a Tortorella at intermission . <| sep |> Hello there , I ' m not American , are you a bit slow ? A conflict like this can ' t be resolved peacefully . May God have mercy on you . <| sep |> And then there ' s that buzzing from the whippets . <| sep |> Stay calm . You ' ve got this . To be the focus of someone else ' s dreams is a heady thing to have to deal with , and that ' s a lot to put on someone . To be the focus of a lifetime of someone ' s dreams and to learn about that in one night , that ' s a nearimpossible thing to wrap your head around . Those are a lot of emotions and a lot of responsibility to process . No wonder his first instinct was to run away ! The status quo is always safer and easier . What you need to do is not run around like a crazy person and make that status quo even more attractive to him . You don ' t need to play games , and avoid him when and if you need to , but don ' t freak out on him or pressure him . This might take a long time . In the meantime , start thinking about cultivating dreams that don ' t involve him , career goals , hobbies , travel , friendships , relationships . Be an interesting and wellrounded person . It ' s healthier for you and will make you more attractive to him . You will have a rich life whether or not he wants to be a larger part of it . For what it ' s worth I ' m rooting for you . Let us know what happened .