TAKE MY UPVOTES . Only to help with the pain <| sep |> Damn . The Pair of Thieves shit is all I would buy from there . <| sep |> Or you ' ve categorically spent your affections on shallow people who are also caught in this destructive cycle of thought . If this is happening to you all the time , I would actually say it ' s less bad luck and more a problem with how you choose your romantic interests . it ' s better to just move past that person and on to the next . No , I would actually sit down and reflect on why this keeps happening to you . If this is as much of a problem as you ' re describing , then I find it likely that you are subconsciously choosing exactly this type of person to fall for . So the question is Why ?