If I say that I ' m attracted to cis men , trans men and cis women but not trans women , it ' s not just as simple as attraction . I mean it wouldn ' t be a trans woman ' s potential genitals as I ' m attracted to both cis men and cis women . And it ' s not that she ' s a woman , because I ' m attracted to cis women . And it ' s not the fact that she ' s trans , because I ' m attracted to trans men . It means that I think a trans women isn ' t a woman because I would be attracted to cis women but not trans women , and I have specific stereotypes about trans women , and hence I ' m attracted to everybody except them . Edit so yeah , you ' re of course allowed to be attracted to whatever you ' re attracted to . But with something like this , it is definitely fair to judge you for it . Edit 2 Let me explain a little more what I mean by stereotype . Lets say I say that I ' m attracted to men , but I ' m just not attracted to purple men . What I ' m saying is that I think purple men are different from other men , or that there is something about all purple men that I am not attracted to , that is different from other men . That ' s . a stereotype . I don ' t really care , but lets call it what it is .