I ' ve seen this argument in every mmo , and it seems to boil down to this , since you will probably never see the person again , what does it matter how you behave . It was the big complaint in WoW when the dungeon finder came in , people complaining you wouldn ' t know who the good players are , since before it you basically had to shout to find a group . I find nothing wrong with things like this . In WoW , before LFG , i literally would be looking in chat , repeating every few minutes , looking for the dungeon i needed to run , for two hours on average . In FFXIV , i ' m on one of the smallest servers , and our PF has on average one or two postings . I ' d also say , even with FFXIV having the duty finder , which finds people from a lot of servers , the community is the best here , and people generally behave well in runs . I have no worries about cross server party finder , and am actually looking forward to it .