I think it would be devastating to have our lives laid bare for other people ' s entertainment . As much as we all play the Drama Llama card , the truth is that you can ' t hold it all in and forget your brain won ' t let you . And this community is about the most welcoming one I ' ve ever seen . There are no judgements , no accusations , no discriminations . Just other people who know exactly how you suffer when society ignores your pain . To put that on television for the entertainment of people who do not understand ? It would be so utterly horrific for those who live that life and no person who parents and inlaws who love them would ever understand or believe it . Sometimes we get it here as well , you know ? People say , Why didn ' t you just go NC at the first sign of trouble ? But the world doesn ' t work that way , not even remotely . And going no contact is so , so , so much harder than people think . To have a world of people saying that ? It would be so utterly harsh . I ' m curious why you can ' t go into the things that plague you ? And I think a part of it is also that the men rarely end up being the primary carers . They ' re not the ones living that life , and on some level we are all selfish . As for his reaction , was it an AHA moment for him or was it one where you realised he ' s not as blinded as you thought ?