' Love and shyness ' rforeveralone links to it from the sidebar . That ' s for loveshyness though , and done by Gilmartin . Hardly a reputable scientific source , and also hardly representative of incels in general . Gilmartin would seek out specifically people with shyness and romance fixation issues . You could , of course , try to project that data on all sexually undesirable men as a whole , but you ' ll run into the problem of such assumptions running contrary to what actually goes on in incel communities and what interests incels . if your desire is to intentionally keep her in a vulnerable position where she can ' t even surviveI don ' t see how a preference for such stories a preference that doesn ' t even exist , mind you reflects a desire to keep someone in a vulnerable position . Sounds more like an excuse to demonize incels .