Maybe not fully self inflicted but a lot of issues on here are clearly self perpetuated . <| sep |> So I don ' t like my stomachsides being touched but I shreik hysterically with laughter even thought I ' m kind of panickingwanting to cry . This meant it took a long time for me to verbally communicate to my boyfriend that I was dead serious about not being touched there . I did that by discussing it at a time that it wasn ' t happening so later in the evening after it had happened so it wasn ' t part of the playful mood . I also explained how it reminded me of another situation where someone had violated my bodily integrity done something I had explicitly told them not to do with my body . You have every right to be bothered . You don ' t have to explain why .