Damn your right <| sep |> I realized the other day when I met someone more introverted than me how narcissism is the root of the issue with self loathing people . Most people learn the whole , who would like me thing from people not wanting to talk to them when they go out , this girl kept going on about people walking away from her because she ' s not likeable . It was a self fulfilling prophecy , she talked about this shit so much I wanted to walk away from her and she thinks it ' s her personality when really it ' s just her going on and on about her insecurities that makes her unlikeable . If you dig a little deeper on that why would any normal person talk to a person sitting in the corner talking about how people don ' t like them when other people are having fun and chatting about other stuff in the same room ? If you think doing that is ok , and wish people liked you or lament people NOT liking you that ' s because you think you ' re special and that if people just got to know you they ' d understand how smart or funny you are . You gotta get over yourself and just get out there and face the fear of social rejection , and then face it again and again and each time it gets easier and easier until you realize you ' re not really an introvert anymore .