Aaaaahhh . dieses lan am ende macht mich fertig <| sep |> My ex wanted to be friends temporarily after the break up , like help each other through it . I left her because she was controlling , explosive , irrationally temperamental and emotionally abusive . I agreed at first because I was still in the fog of abuse and felt guilty for leaving her it was at a particularly hard time in her life . She got angry with me for not initiating enough messaging during our support each other through it phase and gathered that I had emotionally already completely let her go so she blocked me , but this was , like most of her behaviour , only an emotional ploy , and not an actual severing of contact . She sent me an angry email a few days later , we argued a bit and then I had this amazing , beautiful revelation that i never had to tiptoe through the minefield of her feelings ever again and told her never to contact me in any way . Besides a few necessary logistical issues and her trying to tell lies about me to our mutual friends who have slowly come to experience her abusive behaviour now that she can ' t take it out on me , she ' s stuck to it . My only regret is that I didn ' t break up with her 4 yrs earlier and cut contact immediately , but hindsight is 2020 and I learned a lot about not being a fucking pushover .