If you were really smart you ' d know the thing to do is have a good friend with a boat . All the fun . None of the hassle . Throw him some cash for gas . I ' m actually talking boats . <| sep |> You ' re totally right of course , but if you don ' t mind I am going to nitpick the idea that physical intimacy is being warped . That word assumes the existence of some kind of original , biological human sexuality that existed before human society warped it . I don ' t particularly care whether such a thing exists , since I don ' t think nature automatically means better . If we ever do have a truly egalitarian society which leads to the development of an egalitarian sexuality that sexuality will be just as artificial and warped as that which is dominant now and there ' s nothing inherently wrong with an artificial sexuality . The important thing is that the culture be directed towards encouraging more egalitarian forms of sexuality , not less egalitarian forms . Sexuality was changed for the better towards the end of the 19 th century and start of the 20 th century when the actual free love movement not the promiscuity advocates who appropriated the phrase free love argued that sex should be an expression of romantic love . Sex liberals and sadomasochists are fighting against this progress which in my opinion also included the switch from polygamy to monogamy by seeking to turn sex back into a matter of empty physical stimulation and a duty for women . I think feminists need to stand up for the idea that love is more arousing than raw aggression and violence will ever be .