I ' ll add to this I ' ve had relationships in the past with people not into the lifestyle , and I ' ve introduced them to it slowly . Things went pretty well , but we both knew she wasn ' t getting any enjoyment out of it besides doing something for me that I liked . Well after those different relationships ended , I periodically checked rABDLPersonals rLittlePersonals , and once I found someone , also in Florida , who just so happens to live less than 15 minutes away from me . Of course we ' ve made it clear that our relationship must have more to it than sharing a certain kink , and it has , as today ' s the 1 month day of us being officially a couple . It takes time and I consider myself very lucky for just so happening to browse when I did , but I think anyone can get what they ' re looking for with some effort and a lot of patience .