This ! This happens to me every holiday . Especially The husband part . I really feel for you I live w my fianc , her son and her 60 year old meat and potatoes manchild self centered brother . They are meat eaters . Every occasion I cook several meat free sides and a protein tofurky . To go with what she makes . The brother has awful habitsmannersfood safety understanding in general and does things like butter his bread w the fork he ' s been eating with , touch the serving spoons from veg dishes to the meat on his plate , serve dripping meat across the table dripping intoover veg dishes , touch meat with his hands then touch community foodveg dishes he has even poured meat gravy over my tofurkey before because it looked dry Etc . it is his mission to ruin the veg food at any cost . I ' ve tried everything . keeping it in other rooms , serving him myself , serving myself first and writing off having secondsleftovers . Whatever I try he winds up getting meat in something and I get anxious and stressed about it . At which point I GET YELLED AT by my fianc for ruining HIS good time and making dinner awkward being an asshole . Nothing like spending 6 hrs cooking food that ppl ruin on you and then call you a jerk for worrying about it . Every time . I decided after today ' s debacle that I ' m not trying anymore . I just won ' t eat around them on holidays . I ' ll make myself a tofurkey some nice night away from the holidays and just spend the holiday hangingnot eating . I hate to let them win but I can ' t spend hours and hours cooking with happy intentions only to have it all ruined time after time again . Especially when no matter what I do , how much work I ' ve done , how much I try to make it work it ends up that I ' m looked at as the pain in the ass killjoy jerk at the end of the day . Fuck this .