They stop putting in effort . I was there with my boyfriend and he didnt even notice how little time he put into the relationship . I told him very clearly about how i felt and since then he turned 180 <| sep |> At least where I live no one needs makeup to look professional . It ' s just not expected here . Even when I lived in a big city I never felt makeup was a necessity . It was nice , like jewelry , but not a requirement . There ' s a massive difference between undone and done curly hair and looks way different . If anyone has curly hair that looks good undone , I ' m insanely jealous of them . Mine looks like a rat ' s nest . Some people can get great curls without products like my husband , he has long gorgeous curls with no effort AND I ' M SO JEALOUS , but mine seriously looks horrendous and unprofessional . Granted , it also has to do with my natural hair just not be accepted as a western beauty standard .