Here is a composite sketch of some of the beta men I ' ve known They ' re mostly in their 30 s and up bad habits seem to take awhile to develop , marriedLTR ' ed , usually with kids . They have spent a lifetime being average , in the middle of the pack , not highly motivated . They coasted through college and into an ordinary career . At work they ' re adequate but not real gogetters , the kind who is more than happy to cut out early on Friday if given the chance . Physically they ' ve gotten a little soft and sloppy . They ' re not sharp dressers . At home they ' re lazy and passiveaggressive toward their wives . They ' ll do the home chores they don ' t mind doing like maybe cutting the lawn with the expensive zeroturn riding mower but they ' ll shirk when it comes to doing anything they find unpleasant . Often their wives will nag at them to pick up after themselves to put their dirty dishes in the sink or clothes in the hamper . They ' ll start home improvement projects that go unfinished once they get bored or hit a snag . Their wives often have a long honeydo list of repairs that their beta partner intend to complete . someday . Beta men are content to let their wives take the lead with caring for and disciplining the kids . In fact , they ' re pretty much content to let their wives take the lead , period ! They have passive hobbies like gaming or watching sports on TV , and often have man caves filled with autographed sports memorabilia . They ' re the kind of guys who will sit in front of the TV or game console while their wife struggles to bring in groceries from out of the rain while keeping the kids from running amok . They won ' t take the incentive to get up and offer her a hand , and if ' called ' on their slacker behavior , a beta will probably whine , Well , she didn ' t ASK ! Not surprisingly , wives get turned off by these betas and generally don ' t give them much affection , although they may stick around for the sake of the kids or because leaving would be financially disastrous . As a result of the lack of sex , betas are generally perpetually horny think of an overlyfriendly Labrador retriever who humps guests ' legs . They will exude a sleazy sort of sexual hopefulness toward any females on their radar coworkers , etc . but since few women find them attractive , there probably won ' t be too many takers . I was once hit on by my stepsister ' s beta husband . I shit you not . Ugh !