Yeah I hate that it doesn ' t even tell me why I lost . <| sep |> We have allowed you to read our chat logs , at one time giving you my Gmail password indefinitely . It was removed the first time we broke up , when you were untruthful about your intentions with other people . When we got back together , you were offered the password again , but you declined them . We wanted to see excerpts from the chat log , because you had previously , on two occasions , displayed the same behavior when you were untruthful about your romantic intentions with other people , at least once before the relationship was opened . You have lied and cheated , but due to your past you were forgiven though , it was not forgotten . We felt no longer able to take your word for your intentions in the most recent case , given previous transgressions . We forgive you , and work with you posttransgression , given your revealed psychiatric condition and painful childhood . If you had been anyone else , we would have removed ourselves after the first liecheating scenario . But , on some level , we felt you wanted to change , so we continued to give you chances chances you used to do the same things . It ' s also hard to trust you when you post inflammatory 14 truths on the internet and to coworkers about us . You were believed about the dating site messages , and the concept was only reviewed the day following the initial conversation about the activity . You were told it was best not to use that website , given your history with it , what it ends up doing to your psychiatric condition , and the fact that the last version of the relationship was to help you transition into something meaningful and real . You were allowed to use the dating site if we were not going to be in that relationship . You don ' t demonstrate change you ' re currently doing identical things to previous transgressions . Given the way you ' ve behaved , the pactspromisesagreements you ' ve broken 100 %, even those created by yourself , the handwaving you use to excuse those transgressions and broken promises , we weren ' t comfortable continuing the relationship simply taking your word for things , as we had in the past and ended up being hurt . Since the current person you ' re acting out this behavior with is a coworker , to whom you ' ve badmouthed us , I was not comfortable continuing our close friendship . I told you , I will be there for you if you need someone , as I am for other emotional opportunists who have treated me us with the same level of negligence , dishonesty , disregard , and disrespect such as my father , but i can ' t allow myself to be invested , enthusiastic , or open with you . I really can ' t allow me or my wife to be treated in that way anymore . I ' m sorry . Honestly . I understand that on some level you can ' t help some of that behavior . It makes me feel very bad giving up on you , given your childhood and history , simply because I know it puts me and mine at risk i was raised to think you ' re supposed to deal with those things even if it hurts you . However , I have to make the decision I made I just can ' t allow us to be treated that way , anymore . Good luck with future relationships . We do care about you and love you . We just can ' t be cut open from the inside , anymore .