I ' ve been on both sides of this fence . I ' ve asked young married couples when they are going to have kids . Then my wife had a miscarriage . Then another . Both times were heart wrenching and utterly terrifying . I feel for you having to go through that emotion especially during the holiday season with family . I have one bit of encouragement for you don ' t not tell people . Bottling up what happened will only isolate you more . And it ' s okay to tell people who haven ' t been through it . Sure , there will be some awkward conversations . But I guarantee you will be surprised by the amount of people that will respond with their own personal stories about going through miscarriage . Those conversations were the lifeline for my wife and I .