It was great ? Huh ? <| sep |> My sub had a play collar it got damaged and I don ' t trust it enough to use it right now that is far tighter than her day collar , which was deliberately chosen as it could be worn so it was hid under her shirt when around my all too well informed in this stuff family they wouldn ' t judge it is just awkward because family . At the start of play we removed the delicate play collar , and she put the play collar on loosely , part of our play was if I could tighten it to where it should be only enough space to run a finger inside of it , but not so tight to choke she would give in , submit and behave . Otherwise she was allowed to struggle all she wanted . Mind you we had a modification on the collar that made it so it couldn ' t get too tight making such play safer that safety feature is what got damaged , but even before then it was doable . For us the tightness of the collar also represented the expected amount of obedience . During the day or when we were out she was only expected to follow the most basic of rules , at home she could switch to a tighter day collar , but during play then I properly collared her .