Yeap . Bonobos are matriarchal , females are promiscous , males don ' t raise kids and females raise kids single mothers . a nice article on wikipedia . <| sep |> I ' m sorry . That stinks that she said that . Still , I would worry more about how she treats you now than how she felt about you then . Some people can date their ' 2 nd choice ' and it can still grow into a happy , fulfilling relationship . For instance , if she said ' I would have pursued him if not for my friend , but I ' m so happy I ended up with you ' that would be no problem . I would urge both of you to go back to counseling and express your feelings about your relationship and see how she responds . Btw you seem like a great husband and sounds like she takes you for granted .