I guess they had to go for something else . Another 4 years of Obama would have just been 4 years of stagnant wages . Fear of the unknown is a thing , but sometimes it ' s better than complacency . <| sep |> Either ' s fine , message me if you want to include your real name for me to credit the quote to <| sep |> Does that mean she was handling the other 10 %? I did not pay for water or my phone bill . I did not pay for her car insurance , or any of the repairs her car needed . She did not get her car until later on in the relationship , and she always talked about getting her car , finding a job , and getting work . I wanted her car to be her responsibility and her expense . She still blamed me for not replacing her battery , fixing her oil leaks , etc . As for why I wasn ' t hassling her to get a job constantly , I was working 6 days a week , 52 weeks a year , and mind numbingly exhausted . Not to mention , I was blissfully happy just sharing my life with her . The happiest 5 years of my life . She had me convinced she was in it for the longhaul and we would be building a life together . I didn ' t want to pressure her . I valued and appreciated her presence in my life and she made me happy , and I didn ' t want her to think that all I cared about was her pounding the pavement . If you ' re asking How are you not just an idiot ? I don ' t have an answer . She placed a number of financial demands on me medical billsAn ongoing medical condition needing treatment . Exams multiple times a year to evaluate her condition . Medication . Where in this post is the stuff about you telling her to find work ? You talking to her about your financial situation ? You putting your foot down about spending ? Instead I see you conceding that you bought stuff for her to make life easier . I did put my foot down about spending . Years of reinforcing concepts of frugality and we had our grocery bills down from 400500 dollars a month into the 300 $ range . It occurred with a great gnashing of teeth . It feels like she took as much as she could , under the implication of future reciprocation with plans for building a life together . then she left and said I never really did anything for her anyway , that she literally resented me for doing nothing and having no direction . I still don ' t really understand what ' s happened , but at least posting here has helped me to understand that this is over , and that it being over is necessary for me . She couldn ' t even do that much for me .