Thanks , being more assertive when it comes to consent is something I have been trying to work on , but I still do struggle in the moment . The difficulty I feel is that it only becomes an issue once we are in the bedroom . To be clear , I do enjoy making out and fooling around , and it only becomes an issue once things start escalating . When I first started seeing my most recent ex , and I asked her to hold off on things , she was quite confused because in her mind , why else would I have let her into my bed without intending to take things further ? Feeling like I have led them on has been one of the reasons why I have consented , especially when they are a person that I want to see again , or that I really like . To add to this , where I live , meeting potential partners in my age group often involves picking someone up from a bar or a party , which is also something that at the time gives the impression that I want to sleep with them .