In different places I ' ve lived kolaches , breakfast tacos , paczi , kringle , smeed <| sep |> I got two from rats as well . Weird when I fought my Ditto vs another Ditto in a gym . <| sep |> I have retarded ejaculation . After eight years of frequent sex with my partner I can count the number of times I ' ve orgasmed during sex on two hands . My partner cannot handle the duration and intensity I require to finish . It bothered me when she seemed disappointed in this or blamed herself and I tried everything I could think of . Eventually she realized that I meant it when I said it didn ' t bother me in the least , she is amazing in bed , and I still love sex with her whether I ejaculate or not . When she stopped caring about it , I stopped caring about it , and now sex is over when she says she ' s done and it ' s better for both of us . So I pretty much only orgasm via masturbation . It takes me thirty minutes minimum , sometimes a few hours . I have to make sure I have enough time before I masturbate for this reason . It is actually incredibly common to have an easier time ejaculating via masturbation than sex . The severity of retarded ejaculation goes from orgasm only under certain conditions during sex to only orgasming from digital or oral stimulation to only orgamsing when alone to complete anorgasmia . So your boyfriend is probably in the mild severity of retarded ejaculation . My advice is to just be understanding and not blame yourself . I know for me it only bothered me when I thought it bothered my partner . It ' s really not about you , it ' s just how his body is behaving now . If there is a medical issue or a new medication that triggered this then this might be able to be resolved by talking to his doctor about this , but if not this is probably just how his body is at the moment and is out of his control .