id keep them , 6 star Exdeath is pain in arena <| sep |> I had the same experience in early 2015 . All hormone levels , blood tests , genetic tests , and physical exams checked out perfectly normal . Yet the micro TESE found nothing . Honestly , you may be too raw and too close to deal with difficult next steps yet . I encourage you to let yourself wallow in self pity and grieve for a few days . This is a bit too much of a blow to just suck it up and move on . After a few months , including a handful of counseling appointments , I eventually came to terms with donor sperm . The switch wasn ' t easy . In the end , my turning point hinged on pragmatism and adoption . I was already OK with adoption , appreciating that raising a child who wasn ' t biologically mine is real parenting . If I am OK raising an adopted child who isn ' t biologically mine , what pragmatic difference does raising a donor child who isn ' t biologically mine make ? My wife , on the other hand , appeared to be reproductively normal . Just because I physically can ' t reproduce doesn ' t mean she can ' t . What right do I have to deny her of that opportunity , knowing how much it hurts me ? Again though , reaching that point took a few months . To retain a feeling of control and engagement , I took charge of the donor sperm process . I chatted with my wife to define our criteria , chose the sperm bank , and reviewed donors . I gave her veto rights over my first choice and a few backups . My company has a flexible hours policy , allowing me to attend almost all of her RE appointments later on . The grief and pangs of jealousy get better . But even over a year out , they don ' t go away completely . Feel free to follow up with any questions or PM if you ' d like to vent .