I don ' t think I have anything to offer anymore . <| sep |> No , it just doesn ' t fit your particular definition . If the community defines themselves that way , then it is just a term for them , not the term you think it is . Adaptive language , bro . <| sep |> Don ' t worry about it . Leo said with a chuckle , keeping in step . We all start from somewhere . My previous apprentice had the same amount of experience as you do , and he would ' ve taken my place as Toymaker Knight if he had lived longer . The more help , the better . He said with a shrug . Besides , I had already asked her to assist with giving information on the Queen . And the extra set of hands would be appreciated . <| sep |> Speaking as someone who left an abusive relationshipMy selfesteem may have been low before that relationship , but boy , nothing gives you a confidence boost like growing a backbone and leaving their ass . The reasons for staying in my abusive relationship were financial dependence , sunk cost fallacy this is the longest relationship I ' ve ever been in and if I leave that ' s wasted time , and fear . Very real , very powerful fear . At the time they were an upper class , wellregarded member of the community with a tendency to lie like a rug about anyone who crossed them . I knew my reputation would get dragged through the mud if we didn ' t part on his terms . So I made up a lie about leaving him for a highschool sweetheart , that OF COURSE we could stay friends , and that was that . Then I ghosted , blocked , deleted , and changed my number 3 weeks later . The partner after me had him threaten to kill himself , offer to pay for her college tuition , and tried to guilttrip her into staying . I am extremely cautious about mentioning my relationship with someone I ' m intimate with for the exact reasons terpers bring up . I don ' t want you to view me with pity . I don ' t want your protection . I don ' t want you to treat me with kid gloves in the bedroom , or to offer to kill my abuser . I have a therapist whose paid to deal with my problems . Sorry for the blog post , lol . It just realllllly grinds my gears when people treat abuse survivors like social lepers . Most who I know don ' t discuss it casually , and go to great lengths to ' blend in . '