You don ' t need to be less judgemental , you need to be less selfcentered . Were you less egotistical , you would judge yourself more , instead of others . Your high standards , otherwise indispensable to any development , should be applied to yourself alone , in order to grow and eventually reach empathy as understanding towards others ' limitations . You don ' t love someone because , you love them despite . Turning into a nonjudgmental blob means you will not only not benefit others , because all you will have to offer is complacency , in order to receive it in return , but you will also stop improving yourself . Be humble make room for improvement and be judgemental find room for improvement . i like to think of myself as a generally nice person . And I ' ve yet to see an actual generally nice person say this .