Eh . Not quite the same thing , but I get what you ' re saying . Say that a person told their racist parents Look mom and dad , I ' m going to date this person anyway , deal with it . Thats all good and well , they accept it or they don ' t , yeah ? But what if they don ' t ? Are you prepared to cut off your parents or strain your relationship with them for something that may just end up going nowhere ? What about if you wind up being married ? How is your SO and her family going to handle the fact that your parents might refuse to go to the wedding ? Or worse , they do go to the wedding and shit is just awkward and strained ? What about if you have children ? How does the idea that your children may wind up with grandparents that resent them sit with you ? Is that a conversation you ' d want to have with your kids ? Then , forget you and your family for a minute how would your SO and their family feel about it ? Are they going to want to go along for the ride after you explain to them why you ' re hesitant for them to meet you parents ? What if your parents flat out forbid you from bringing your SO over on holidays ? How will that make them feel ? Things aren ' t always cut , dry , and easy . If someone has the personal courage to say fuck it , and fuck my parents , they ' re wrong , and I ' m going to do this , good for them . On the other hand , if someone evaluates the situation and thinks that is a lot of what ifs to stake on a date when there are literally hundreds of thousands of other people out there that wouldn ' t bring the same possible complications to the table , then I get it . Maybe it isn ' t right , but I get it .