Well yeah the fact that I won wasn ' t a secret , but just how close it was bears pointing out . <| sep |> First and foremost . It ' s your house . If you don ' t want it happening there , that ' s your decision and they should respect that , and not just because you ' re a manager . Just tell them you don ' t feel comfortable with it happening on your property . You may score some cool points if you can suggest an alternate smoke spot maybe within walking distance ? for them . <| sep |> Yep . Cause then mom later on can battle dad ' s attempts to expand visits by citing to the fact the kid has lived primarily with her for years and is stable there . Edited because typo <| sep |> This is all irrelavent to reality . Scotland isn ' t independent an isn ' t taking any oil or gas , in reality . The whole issue is hypothetical .