People accept themselves by forgiving and understanding that autism is a part of their person , whether that person sees it as a problem or not is not all inclusive of being identified by it . What I am concerned with is the obscene amount of ways people think autism prevents them from relating to other people . They start seeing themselves as too alien to ever be understood by the vast swaths of the species called NT . That divisional line is of their own making , and I choose not to contribute more to it . I want to contribute , instead , to the idea that there are more people out there that can relate to one ' s isolation , pain , misery , fears , awkwardness , cowardiceperhaps the joys of a certain interest . I think it is healthier to sooner realize that there is no such thing as a normal individual . For instance , at Thanksgiving yesterday , my father shamed and scolded me for my vocal tics . My cousins were stunned by it I ' m quite used to it , frankly , and instead , after dinner they chose to tell me about their own little quirks . I found out I have quite number of cousins with motor tics of their own .