Why ' d you quit ? <| sep |> I feel like saying you won ' t get what you need from him is a terrible thing to say . I agree that there are moments where people are more apt to communicating constructively , but to say that you want him to say exactly what you need is manipulative because that is a learned behavior . Maybe what he would normally say is how he really feels , but when you lull him into comfort obviously he is going to be comforting back . That is outright interpersonal manipulation for personal gains . I have been through this . It eats at you in a way that makes you numb . It makes you realize you are only valuable as a cool rock . <| sep |> It looks nasty , but I think I ' m with you . <| sep |> Fuck Smash . God bless .