I didn ' t shit on anything . I was stating that the video made no sense . I apologize if I hurt your feelings . I am sure others think it ' s funny . You can ' t impress everyone . <| sep |> Congrats honey ! I ' m still working on trying to figure out how and when to come out to my parents . <| sep |> Dude , what if it was an 8 D chess move by Spez ? <| sep |> I ' ve been through this a , few times . Last time it was my sister . Not trying to sound like she is going to die but getting these things addressed let us RELAX and be present for eachother . Here ' s what got me through . First , get a good therapist . Having someone outside the family to talk to for one hour a week really really saved my sanity . Don ' t miss those appointments . Do any homework they assign . Chances are the nurse at your mom ' s oncogist can recommend somebody . Secondly , have important conversations now . Who has medical power of attorney ? Is there a living Will ? A Will ? Start an in case of file . Include any of her passwords and account info . If you can ' t pull paperwork together that ' s OK but you have to be sure somebody else is taking care of those things now . Record her voice . A lot . Conversations , stories , singing , snoring , farts it ' s all good . Treat her like you always would . People stopped telling my sister when others were sick or died . I was the only one who kept her in the loop and she deeply appreciated me not handling her like she was made of glass . And most of all be good to yourself eat well , stay connected with peers , binge on Netflix when you need it , get your sleep . PM me anytime . Fuck . Cancer .