Lost 85 lbs in two years working my ass off and changing my lifestyle and food habits . Never felt better . I ' m 6 ' 3 so my 295 lb body didnt look crazy obese , but I hated taking off my shirt and had low self confidence . At the start , people became extremely jealous of my weight loss and people close to me desperately tried to get me to eat normal again aka eat the Standard American Diet , SAD . My male friends would say , wow , what a fag , eating salad over this pizza we just ordered . My family would say , we love you just the way you are . It ' s jealousy . I kept my head to the grind stone and lost most of my gut , but I still gotta lose some more fat to be under the overweight BMI label . It ' s a struggle because I have had tons of fat women interested in me , but I don ' t find them attractive so I stay honest with them and tell them I ' m not physically attracted to them , and suddenly I ' m demonized . Jealoust again . Sorry , but where I ' m at in my life , I want a fit partner that ' ll support my healthy lifestyle and likes to hike and work out with me . Someone who is morbidly obese would most likely try to get me to eat what they ' re eating , rather than fight to lose some weight like I did . Am I an asshole for thinking like this ?