With my ex of 7 years . To summarize thanks BoJack Horseman for being so quotable When you look at someone through rosecolored glasses , all the red flags just look like flags . Outwardly my relationship with my ex who was ten years my senior was ideal because there wasn ' t much fighting and we were both intelligent , talented , successful people . He showered me with his love constantly telling me constantly , everyday , every minute that he loved me and groped , and fondled , and hugged , and kissed me regularly all the time and told me I was the one good thing in his life . Being a lovedeprived child from an abusive , immigrant , working class household , I indulged in this love and thought he was a brilliant person who didn ' t receive the recognition he deserved . However , he was gaslighting and latently manipulating me for the better half of the relationship because he had this terrible fear that I would leave him when I got better I struggled with depression , anxiety , and ADD most of my adult life . I started getting treatment for work related anxiety and it was the first time I ever consistently treated my mental health issues and it helped me gain back confidence and better yet , a love of life . My ex ended up flipping his shit , and just selfsabotaged our relationship . Every time I tried to communicate my feelings he would stonewall me and used some girl he found on OKC to validate his malicious behavior towards me I ' m a bully , that ' s why he has to find emotional support elsewhere in a relationship so it ' s not emotional cheating . I just broke up with him because I couldn ' t trust him anymore . He begged me not to go NC which I initially complied with but when he started flipping his shit every . fucking . time . we fucking . interacted . I just had enough . Before fully going NC , I made the mistake of trying to apologize to the girl he was fucking for her implications in the drama , and that became this overblown drama about how cruel I am because I incidentally did it during election day before anyone knew shit about the results , I didn ' t seem to acknowledge the unknown drama in her life because gasp I don ' t pry , and how I am trying to deliberately sabotage him and his friendship so he ended up blocking me and sending this nasty email to me about how I am fucked up , not a good person , negative , malicious blahbalha and dropped me from the wireless service suddenly we initially agreed to take our time to get my shit situated but whatevz . Instead of responding or being upset , I just sent it to my therapist who straight up said it read like a letter from one her paranoid delusional patients when she worked for a psych ward . I realized that reciprocating the block was also good for me because I don ' t need to deal with his insanity . Last time I checked , he amped up his white savior , persecution complex x 1000 and preaching optimism to my friends who probably keep him as a friend for shits and giggles .