I ' m so sorry . When my dad died I was given his necklace and ring , but I never knew what happened to anything else , so I can sort of relate . I wish people weren ' t so horrible at times . gives you a hug It helps to have some things to remember them by , otherwise it just leaves a sort of gap . I didn ' t even get ashes of my father until my grandmother gave me the small urn she had of them . . . On the upside , my step mom eventually gave me a small chest of his belongings years after he passed , before she officially moved in with her new beau . Things like notes he ' d written , his old watch and ball cap , etc . I found a video of his voice a few weeks ago , I ' d taken it off his computer shortly after he passed , and just about started bawling . Thought I had lost it ages ago .