They ' re both within the second season . <| sep |> No . Not in the slightest . The polearm won Alexander the Great his empire . The polearm was the cause of the Infantry Revolution which completely shifted the face of warfare . The polearm almost completely supplanted the sword and axe in the age of pike and shot . It was a military breakthrough when we learned to make guns into polearms on the battlefield . BUT . they won this battle at the very least . Gratian smirks . <| sep |> What I ' m getting at is that there is always another perspective on any situation and when we have BPD , it ' s important to actually try our best to see another perspective because we get so stuck on our own , immediate feelings about it that we just decide we ' re right and we go into the whirlwind of pain instead of looking at all the angles . Like she doesn ' t want to be with you right now , ok , and she said that she ' s scared of what you might do if she left , she said you don ' t have much in common . Interestingly , in your post , you seem more upset about the idea that ' no one ' will love you , you say ' they stay because they feel sorry for me ' ' what ' s wrong with me ' and yes , these are natural thoughts to have after a break up of course , but what ' s striking is that you have the focus more on yourself than on her in your post . You haven ' t said ' I loved her , she was so amazing , beautiful , she was the one star in the sky for me ' or even ' she was my best friend , my confident , we had something special between us , I can ' t believe it ' s gone '. Instead , you seem to be feeling like you ' re generally unloved , which indicates to me that you may have loved her , but that she wasn ' t really allthat to you , but what was important to you was that she loved you . Do you think that could be right ? That she herself is replaceable but you are more afraid that you will not be loved because you have been given another painful rejection experience ? I felt that way after a break up once , like I was so sad , so upset , but it was more to do with the idea that I didn ' t really like the other person as much as I thought , but that their love for me indicated that I was worth loving and I liked having that attention and that feeling and when they took it away , I was left feeling the same way you are now but looking back on it all , I never really felt much for the guy actually , he wasn ' t really my type at all .