We are well past a situation where a Civil War is even possible in America anymore . The Government has the American people far far far outgunned . Only 57 % of Americans even bothered to vote this year . Of that less than half voted for Trump . So you have less than 30 % of the country starting a civil war ? What is there to fight exactly ? Either you march on Washington with guns and get completely destroyed . Or you try to fight your elected and already extremely conservative state government for the places that voted Trump . What action can they possibly take ? Even if 30 % of the population and that is generous took up arms , they live in rural America and are generally poor and spread out . <| sep |> Here ' s something I haven ' t seen said yet You can forgive someone while still cutting them out of your life . You don ' t need to keep putting up with this nonsense . Can I get an AMEN to this ! ! Yes ! !! So much yes ! !! But don ' t move out yet ! ! For some reason , that has legal implications . Go to rlegaladvice and figure out your best move . The law probably entitles you to financial stability while you divorce . See that ' s the thing . I ' m so done with this that I would rather be homeless than deal with this . I wouldn ' t be homeless because I have a huge support system , but it ' s still the point . Forgiving him has helped me get over the I ' m going to divorce you and take you for all you have mentality which I had really bad for a while . His name isn ' t on the house it ' s in mine and his dads and they would either have to refinance it to get my name off or sell it . Everything else is in my name the vehicles the bills everything . He ' s basically a squatter . Lol . I would never leave him high and dry and he wouldn ' t do that to me either . I just want to be good coparents and be civil . The only thing he might object to would be sole legal custody going to me . But I HAVE to have that because of my husbands BP he has terrible decision making skills and often time thinks things aren ' t as bad as they really are . Example . Kid fell off a picnic table bench . Busted his scalp open . It took and hour for me to get home with him and my husband said he will be fine it just needs to heal . I took him to urgent care who then sent us to the hospital because he needed STAPLES ! !! He got 3 staples ! ! And had I not been there he probably would have bled for hours . It took us about 4 hours after the incident before the staples we put in and it was STILL bleeding ! ! My son could have lost a lot of blood that night . I ' m still thankful to the Lord for that gut instinct to take him anyways . And , honestly , don ' t separate . Get out . Get all the way out . This marriage is never going to improve . While I agree I ' m doing the separation for me to get my bearings on life as a single parent and for my pastor . I have a really good one and he has agreed to counsel my husband one on one but they are having scheduling conflicts . So I ' m praying my miracle may be planted in there . But if it isn ' t , it will give my pastor assurance . Because my pastor will be held accountable one day for all this crap that I just laid in his lap . And my pastor is my spiritual head so I will respect him and do as he wishes . And I ' m ok with that