When I hang out with other aspiesautistic people they act differently . They don ' t expect me to say greetings , they don ' t care what I do with my eyes and body , they don ' t judge actions as either rude or polite , they don ' t expect me to say goodbye and they don ' t do any of these things themselves . They don ' t jump to conclusions based on things I say , and they don ' t take offense to my opinions . They are direct and easy to understand . I have never , ever met a single NT who is ok with skipping greetings . Autistic people are missing the social programming and social thinking that NTs have . We are different , whether we pretend not to be or not . If I had no need to refer to those who were not autistic , then I wouldn ' t use the word . To pretend we are the same is to invalidate my entire existence .