A simple question for you . Have you read and understood any of the founding documents ? <| sep |> One of the good things about getting older is getting better at recognizing and dealing with toxic people . Seriously , when you care about what they think you give them the power to mess with you . Your life will get better if you stop giving a shit about your MILs reactions . They ' re her problem and your fiance , bonus points if it makes him miserable like you . One of the posters here , uMadPirateBippy , has a great technique that I think is tailor made for your situation . She even made a DlY 5 FvVZNk . Do the barking and have FUN with it ! You deserve some fun sweetie . Please keep posting , we ' re all rooting for you !