Like I said in the past . This is social conditioning but I ' m not giving women the benefit of the doubt of pseudo science biology . Fuck that . I as a man still have to take responsibility . Half the time for shit i didn ' t even do . So no more cucking ourselves . We hate women , we abuse them , we don ' t give them the luxury of a choice . I ' ve openly did my dictator accent and said to women who talk about children are you having a boy or an abortion ? at first they think I ' m joking . but i keep on . I call it the Trump card . <| sep |> To play devil ' s advocate , she may not have wanted to mess with your relationship with your best friend hence not telling you , and she genuinely may not remember potential event if there was alcohol involved . A possible scenario of her telling you at the time is that you may have believed that your best friend sexually assaulted your fiancee she may have wanted to prevent that . Obviously that ' s making huge assumptions , so take it with a grain of salt . That being said , I would be extremely uncomfortable in your position . If I were in your shoes I would halt any wedding planning until this gets sorted . I advise you to really think about whether you think this potential skeleton in the closet is forgivable .