Although there are similarities , the situations are different to me at their core . Lorelai gave an ultimatum , Luke couldn ' t decide on the spot , she wouldn ' t wait and went off to see Chris immediately . There was no hesitation on her part she drove straight to his place from Luke ' s . I understand we all have different views on what that would mean , even if LL was already having problems up to that point . I believe Lorelai was trying to find comfort and Chris is always a safe haven of sorts whenever her relationships are in trouble . She knows she can run to him and he won ' t turn her away , which makes her extremely selfish to me . She may have been hurt and looking for comfort , but she did know nothing would hurt Luke more than her going to Chris . I don ' t think it was a completely malicious action on her part , but I do believe somewhere deep down she knew it ' d be the quickest way to sabotage herself and her relationship with Luke I ' m of the belief Lorelai is her own worst enemy . I see what she did as cheating because there ' s nothing canon did to give me any hint of that being a breakup instead of a fight . On the other hand , Rory and Logan got into an argument , left separately , spent weeks with no communication , had both sides state openly they were broken up after Honor ' s call on Thanksgiving , and though it ' s convoluted even in the script Logan does states that he did mean to breakup and any person he slept , he slept with starting on Thanksgiving when Rory had already gotten Honor ' s call and knew he thought they were over and still decided not to contact him to express her views on how it was a break and not a breakup . She simply accepted it . I think Rory ' s use of the word cheating is misguided . I completely understand why she was hurt after finding out I really do and even if canon is on Logan ' s side on this instance the show is written to make us sympathize with Rory and Lorelai . Although I ' m not a fan of how their conversation went outside Paris ' apartment Rory decided to stay quiet and Logan came on way too strong I don ' t think he was saying those things to make himself the hero in his own life as you stated . The show gave me evidence they were over so I don ' t see what Logan did as cheating . Lorelei is , of course , a much better person than Logan , and has complex feelings regarding Luke and Chris , whereas this Logan situation is another in a long line of stories Logan tells to make himself the hero in his own life . I ' m sure you know by now that I disagree strongly with this . Lorelai isn ' t a much better person than Logan . They both have their qualities and their flaws , which is what makes them such good characters and instigate long discussions about their motivations . They can both be selfish , they can both put their needs above others and they both have their own issues which influence how they act under certain circumstances . I actually find them to be extremely alike and motivated by some of the same things their hard relationship with their families , their need to be their own person despite the pressure their families put on them , their love for Rory , and their need to always be argumentative even if sometimes it can be interpreted as manipulative . Bottom line is I think they ' re both equally good people who are flawed , but ultimately Lorelai gains more sympathy because she ' s one of the two main characters .