I also just wanted to say thanks to the people on here . I ' ve learned loads by reading thus sub , not just about how to improve my profile but also about my approach to dating in general , and it ' s been a great source of comfort to see that it ' s just as brutal an experience for other people as it is for me . <| sep |> This is gotta be cross state federal violating human rights freedom of speech ? <| sep |> I didn ' t know about the sweetheart thing . But could make sense ! In OT we have ObiWan telling Luke that his father was killed by Vader , it ' s like saving Luke from a terrible truth . Maybe Han did the same and hide his daughter from another terrible truth . But . when she was abandoned she had like 5 or 6 yo and Kylo would have been 16 , I bet that he would have noticed his mother being pregnant . Who knows . there ' s a lot of details yet to be discovered .