We Brits just can ' t grow weed tbh <| sep |> Donations but some are speculating that it came from Hillary ' s camp or people connected with her like George Soros . <| sep |> Don ' t go . It ' s not worth the triptimemoneyeffort . You don ' t even need to give a reason . Just send a message and maybe a gift they can share , like a gift basket or chocolate box or whatever . Say something like , So sorry I can ' t join you for the holidays , hope you have an amazing time and enjoy the present ! They can ask why , but they can ' t really make a fuss . If they do , just say you ' re busy with a project and can ' t make time to drive to them , then turn it on them and ask about them . My parents are narcissists . They have played me and my sister off against each other since forever . She ' s the arty one and I ' m the science one apparently . They made me take all the sciences and wanted me to be a doctor and made my sister feel like she could never keep up on grades . They made her do singing and music lessons and wanted her to be an actress and made me feel like I could never be creative . She gave up on maths and I gave up on art and music . We are now close and can see how crazy they are . We resented each other for years thinking the other was their favourite . They used to say We treat you two fairly , but not the same and Your parents are supposed to fuck you up . Healthy . She ' s now becoming a teacher and I ' m a drop out with a bunch of medical and mental issues . I have no idea what I want to do as I only ever did what they wanted me to . Sounds like you have a plan OP , you ' re going places . It doesn ' t matter if your family don ' t approve , just be happy with your successes and ride out the rest , be happy with your choices . It ' s not selfish to look after yourself .