OP is coming at this , seemingly , from a consciously openhearted position Aw , thanks for noticing and saying that . Stuff like this makes me happy . I really am being openhearted with most of the stuff I bring up here at PPD . re he ' s a virgin because of virginwalk and not viceversa is also a good one . Does anyone else find the virginwalk story of her to be groundbreaking when we look her they go off to college and come back without the virgin walk even if they are not virgins anymore ? Especially because she isn ' t talking about some boys or a minority of boys , but a lot of guys and the same phenomenon happening every year ? Not arbitrarily but predictable . When we look at it like this 1 . We place boys in an environment . High school . Society provides this environment . 2 . The boys leave this environment . 3 . We place the boys in a different environment college . Society provides this environment . 4 . Soon after they have entered that environment they no longer have the virginwalk and suddenly are attractive or at least no longer unattractive . 5 . This is happening every year and to a lot of boysThey have suffered precollege . They were lonely and miserable , because they were unattractive . The interesting thing is that they hadn ' t been unattractive because of their genetic looks , but because of the virgin walk . The virgin walk that disappears soon after entering college . And this is predictable , happens every year and to a whole lot if not even a majority of boys . Now what does that mean ? It means that society is failing our boys big time . So terribly big time that society should hang its head in shame .