The one that he already has evo . <| sep |> One day , about a year ago , I decided to help and older woman with a stroller up some stairs at my kids ' school . I did it a few more times after that . Sometimes the same lady , sometimes others . That small act of kindness started a snowball effect in my life . Before that I suffered from really bad anxiety . I had a horrible time talking to people , even making eye contact was very hard for me . Never mind making friends . That wasn ' t even on my radar . But ever since I helped those few people , they started smiling and saying hello to me every day . After a few weeks my self esteem had gotten so much better . I was suddenly able to make small talk with strangers and not feel awkward . Now I actually have friends ! Not many , but a few and I ' m making more and more . I have discovered my passion working with kids and many of these new friends are people who can actually help me make something of myself . For the first time in my life I feel like my life is going in a direction instead of spinning in circles . Being kind helped me break out of my shell . I love walking down the street and saying hello and chatting with all sorts of different people in my neighbourhood . Being kind can change your life !