I ' m proposing no solution . I ' m just making a statement of logic . <| sep |> I really wish I had tried it earlier . The difference was night and day for me . <| sep |> As a former teacher , I had a student crying telling me that she had been thinking about killing herself . I consoled her and gave her hug till she stopped , because that is what you are supposed to do . Other teachers gave me looks as if I had raped her , and the VP told me within a week in a nondisciplinatory way that I have to be careful with my distance with my students . I see female teachers hugging students all the time , and no one complains . It ' s not oppression by any means , but it totally is there . <| sep |> Let me try then . Are you online in the Festival ?