Sure , but for a novice it may not be clear how people are expected to talk about the numbers regardless of the actual weight being lifted . As someone pointed out , sometimes people say they lifted 2 45 s or something , focusing on the plate weight and ignoring the bar . I ' m just saying I could see someone new thinking adding the bar could be exaggerating if people are ignoring the bar weight in conversations . <| sep |> On some nonbra items , EM states that they have leftover stitches in them from production that should break when you put the garment on . Maybe something like that is happening in your bra ? <| sep |> This comment misses the obvious narrative that ALL women claim to have been abused . Every single one of the red flags you have listed for women from abusive relationships applies to all women . Erin Pizzey tried to point out years ago that female victims of abuse are usually part of the abusive cycle themselves . OP , you do not understand women , or LTRs and the very idea of searching for a woman for an LTR who was not abused is messed up . They all think they were abused in previous relationships , they keep expanding the definition of the word to include verbal , financial , psychological etc etc so that any disagreement with a woman becomes abuse . Do not use the language of the feminist , any woman who claims abuse is either a liar , or one half of a previous disfunctional relationship .