Awesome ! ~~ Now let ' s make another one before we know what the next arc is about . ~~<| sep |> Link To Original Submission I Am A Bot . Please Message uccd if you have any feedback or suggestions . <| sep |> Have I been used ? Yes . Is this emotional coldshoulder just a blame game , a smoke screen ? I know I could ' ve done more to put us in a better situation , but so could she . Is she doing mental gymnastics , am I crazy ? Based from what you ' ve described , it sounds like a culmination of factors was what led to the breakup of the relationship . Most of the blame falls on her shoulders she didn ' t communicate honestly , she harbored resentment for you not being enough even though she knew the situation getting in , and she didn ' t put in much effort into anything job or relationshipwise . Basically she ' s somewhat of an irresponsible partner . On your side , you let your partner walk all over you when you were employed and when you weren ' t , when you should have put your foot down . And this might sound harsh , but you also need to seriously consider your pet , especially when it gives you close to zero options to live elsewhere . What is life ? That is for you to figure out mate . Ask yourself what you want out of it ? . Now , there were a few lessons to be learnt from that relationship , definitely . She wasn ' t a good partner , and she did take advantage of you . That said , it ' s not healthy to dream up how much money you could have saved had you skipped the relationship . Scrooges think that way , they end up miserable and alone , without so much as a drop of blood in their stone hearts . Is that the sort of path you want to take ? I wouldn ' t say it was a complete waste of time you ' ve learned you can give a lot of love to your partner , you ' ve learned you can tolerate a lot of things , you ' ve learnt who you can count on when times are a little tough . Moving forward , you need to be a little more confident about yourself . You need to learn how to stand up for yourself not to be angry and pissed off many overdo it and make that mistake , but to be firm yet respectful to your partner . You need to learn about communication , that ' s probably the most important bit it would have solved a lot of problems early on . You also need to understand what boundaries are if your partner continues to refuse being reasonable , if they continue to refuse communicate with you , if they refuse to be honest with you , you are well within your rights to end the relationship . You don ' t have to feel bad about it . There ' s a small chance she ' ll contact you again in the future . Do yourself a big favor , and don ' t communicate with her ever again . Block her and move on . I suggest taking up a healthy hobby , like working out . Do you work out at the gym ? I suggest starting out . You can game and work out . It ' ll occupy your mind , keep your body healthy and energized . And it ' ll help you think about your next step in life .