you care enough to make a long ass post about it <| sep |> Been there done that , so as someone who has been through it , with kids in tow I have zero advise . Man , it ' s terrible and I hate how everything gets so amplified during the holidays . That ' s why divorce lawyers hire extra staff at the first of the year . Used to be a paralegal . And God forbid her PMS ran smack into your WD , but it could have happened , plus holiday stress . We ' re witnessing some down and dirty first world problems here for sureI guess at the very least this give you some time to pamper yourself a bit . The fact you drove all the way to your stash , but didn ' t eat it is so kickass . Just WOW ! You and your wife need to find a way to drop the defenses for a minute and have an honest and intimate conversation . Hmmm , that sounds like advise . I realize the fact that this very thing is seemingly impossible in these situations , makes it seem not constructive advise overall . Personally , just as a female of the species , I ' ve often craved a man who ' d just take my hand , look me in the eye and sincerely say , we need to make time to talk this through . Because , believe me , when a woman is behaving horribly , SHE KNOWS IT . Nobody wants to be that person . Anyway , I really sorry . I wish I could give you a piece of pie , you certainly earned it .