I would give her the numbers for some DV shelters and wish her well . She ' s the one that chose to ignore the rage , violence , and abusive behavior when it wasn ' t directed at her , so why should you put yourself in danger to save someone that refused to do the same for you . If she does leave and Chad shows up at your door , don ' t open it . Tell him to get lost because you ' re calling the cops , and do so while you ' re actively dialing the phone . He sounds crazy enough to try breaking the door down , so you ' ll want to have the cops already on the line in case he does . <| sep |> We ' re literally going backwards when it comes to phones . They ' re getting bigger and now they ' re even becoming flip phones . Fuck sake .