I really like it ! But please , remove the mask line around the leaf . It ' s too visible <| sep |> I ' m Spanish and I don ' t know anyone how does that . Maybe on weekend or holidays . I have don ' t know where this comes from , I have read it here a lot . I ' m from the North of Spain , maybe in the south they do this in the summer because it would be hard to work outside in the sun . <| sep |> He needed to kill himself before the Russians found him and staged a suicide . <| sep |> You should probably stay away from rgundeals . <| sep |> The speed at which they walk <| sep |> I think the main thing , when looking for a spouse , is to develop the virtues and qualities you see as important and focus on the kind of person you want to spend your life with . That person doesn ' t always look how you thought they would , whether that ' s physically , culturally , or in their formative life experiences . To answer your questions though Did you see God ' s hand in bringing you and your spouse together ? Absolutely I see God ' s hand in it . Everything worked out so perfectly for getting me to the tiny town Jordan was living in and almost immediately meeting the people who would end up introducing me to him . That said , it ' s also very apparent to me that we never would have happened if we hadn ' t chosen to be together . It was a pretty deliberate decision on both our parts , and even if Jordan and I had not chosen to be together , the things I came to this town for would still have been very good for me at that stage of my life and led to other good things careerwise . Meeting the love of my life and choosing to stay here changes the end result in that I ' m much more focused on becoming a mother and building something more permanent now than on progressing to the next stage of my career by moving to a larger centre like I had initially planned when I came here . Do you think that God had this person in mind for you in any way ? I think God had us in mind for each other , but more in the these two COULD work , let ' s introduce them and see what happens than in the these two WILL work , let ' s make them happen sense . Free will is such a huge thing , and played such a role in the development of our relationship . I was praying about it but not very open to the possibility . It took months before my heart softened enough to peek over the fence and acknowledge there was someone there , much less open the gate and allow him in . God was there , but he never forced me to love my husband . It was more like . what I was praying for changed . I started with introduce me to someone who is x , y , and z . And so God did , and then I freaked out because I didn ' t expect God to answer the prayer immediately . Frankly I wasn ' t too sure what to do with my person who was x , y , and z once I met him and so I kept praying to meet someone . Then I started to recognize how freaked out and nervous I was about the possibility that a person who was good for me actually existed , and so I prayed for myself to be open to developing relationships . To be able to go slow . To be able to see with my head and my heart . To be the person my future husband needed . Matthew 7711 talks about asking and it being given to you , and about how God gives good things . Once I started asking for good things they were given very quickly . It was a little alarming at times , but also very beautiful to see how much God wanted to give me those good things and yet still waited until I asked for them . How proactive were in finding thempursuing them ? I met my husband through mutual friends . I met those friends shortly after I came to town , when I was being pretty up front about trying to make some friends and develop a social network in a town of 5000 people where most of the social groups are built around families that have been here since the area was settled and very interconnected . After we met , he was very proactive about pursuing me . I don ' t think proactive is the right word for my approach to him . At first I was very not open to romance and shut down any and all attempts at it . As my heart softened , I was very deliberate about it . The first few months we knew each other things moved slower than snails . We got to know each other better and built trust . We started dating , and it was still deliberate in the sense that it was very clear we were both dating for the purpose of determining if we wanted to marry . There was never any possibility it would be a fling . If we hadn ' t seen something we wanted to continue pursuing within the first few dates we both would have ended it because we weren ' t interested in dating for the sake of dating . We got engaged after six months of dating , ten months of knowing each other and continued to deepen our relationship and learn how to face challenges together . There were a few points during our engagement where one or both of us had to choose to forgive the other , or we needed to revisit a decision we had previously made where if we hadn ' t have forgiven each other , or hadn ' t changed the decision , or hadn ' t been willing to change future plans I think it would have created a scenario where one or both of us wouldn ' t have been ready to marry when we did if at all and it would have created serious doubts for our parents about how well suited and committed we were to each other . We ' ve been married for 5 months now . Most of the time it ' s newly wedded bliss , but things come up . Offers on houses are made , employment becomes uncertain , extended family drama continues , toothbrushes get accidentally borrowed . We still choose to love each other , to change our plans , to forgive each other , and that allows our relationship to continue to deepen and build on all that we have already .