Dean was antifeminismI wonder how you came to that conclusion . Before she treated him like a cold potato when Jess arrived , he was very supportive of her and a really good boyfriend . Like Lorelai said Dean was an exceptional first boyfriend . It was when he got desperate because Rory didn ' t tell him what is going on that he got really whiny and clingy . He even put a lot of effort in adopting the ways of the Gilmores . The biggest argument for calling him antifeminism might be the Donna Reed episode but even in that episode he merely said it would be nice to have a warm meal when one comes home and made it clear that the joke in the beginning of the episode was just that and nothing else . It was Rory who took it the wrong way and made an issue out of it . P . S . I just start watching this show last month and am at the start of the fourth season . Still mad how Rory treated him .