All I can think of are durex commercials . <| sep |> You need to take a lot of things into consideration . How long have you been together ? How was your relationship before you found out about the cheating ? Was the cheating a onetime drunken mess or a long term emotions involved affair ? Do you want to continue your relationship ? If you do , what can you do to improve it so this doesn ' t happen again ? If you decide you want to want to move on and continue to the relationship , the biggest thing you have to do it let it go . You have to forgive the person and put it completely in the past . It doesn ' t get brought up in arguments and it ' s not used to make the other person feel bad . If that sounds impossible then you probably need to end the relationship because it won ' t have a chance to be a healthy one . I always thought I would never be able to forgive cheating , and maybe if I ' m faced with it I won ' t be able to , but now , when I do imagine what if , I think about things like what my life would be like separated vs . living with a partner who cheated . Separated has me living alone , a single parent , being lonely , needing to start dating again and all the stuff related . Living with a partner who cheated has me losing trust , feeling rejected , getting sad but eventually getting over it and continuing to spend the rest of my life with my husband . I ' d like to think that I ' d choose to forgive .