It ' s close . But you ' re cuter than orange creamsicles are . And nicersm <| sep |> I ' m surprised that 18 years of salty tears dripping on them hasn ' t corroded them beyond use . <| sep |> As an INTJ , the true master race are the ENTP . If only they ' d realize . But then again that would diminish them . <| sep |> Those inside the family know . For us to speak publicly outside the family would be devastating . DS 1 has still not come to terms with what happened to him why MIL # 5 is in prison . For DD 1 and DS 2 the twins to find out a lot of things that happened when they were first adopted would destroy the relationships they have now . And DD 2 must never know the secrets we keep . And those outside , well , very few would understand . Many would blame me . I spent a lot of time away in various countries , trying to save the world , instead of saving my family . I regret . Others who have found out judge me harshly for what happened . Judge DH . We ' ve lost friends from the change in them when they know . But here ? People may not understand , but they can ' t hurt us for it . And yes , it is solace to know that at least those who have gone before can help light the way for those still travelling . I think I too would prefer the EU over the US . I know that Finland is my home , despite not being from here . I would not want to go back . I ' m just not really sure what your husband expects of you .