If I had shugesh , praise that glorious bastard , I would feed my entire box into him in a heartbeat ! <| sep |> I learned this when I was about 6 and it ' s stuck with me ever since If someone is running someone down , do not talk behind that persons back and join in . If two of your friends fall out , and either of them come to you for advice When one person is running down the other , do not join in . Bonus fuck up points if you do join in for both people . Your two friends will patch things up . And , they will tell the other what you said . It doesn ' t matter if you say I only said that because you said something mean about them . because they will deny everything . It sounds simple , but you would be surprised how often this happens in the work as an adult too . It might not be as direct , it could be your coworker comes up to you and says Our manager is such a dick , I hate him because X Y Z and you reply ' yeah he ' s a dick , he ' s done that to me before with A B C . because suddenly it ' ll be 6 pm on a friday , he ' s down the pub with that manager , saying Bob said you ' re a dick because of A B C and then you ' re not getting all expenses paid travel to present that new project that you ' ve been working with for the last 3 months to the client .