I grew up without my father . Not in a I don ' t know who my father is or my father walked out on my mother kind of way . In a way , it wasn ' t even because he was abusive . mainly because the one time he slapped my mother , she punched him back and proceeded to just walk over and around him for the next hour or so he was unconscious . The main reason I grew up without him ? Because fucking a schizo Welsh woman with half a brain was how he decided to spend his time in the Navy . By the time I was 3 , I was also growing up without my mother , raised instead by her parents . I wondered for years what it would be like to have a normal family . I finally met my father around the time I was 810 . I didn ' t know that the divorce had only been finalized in the last few years . I met my 3 little siblings that I never knew I had all of whom were apparently born while he was still married to my mother . Two sisters and a brother . I was a complete ass to them . I felt they deserved it . They didn ' t get called an orphan and made fun of in school for not having parents . I didn ' t even try to stay in contact . Fast forward to 16 year old me and I decide to maybe initiate contact myself . I contact my other grandparents , go in to visit and meet my siblings again for the first time in a very long time . We get along . Shortly after , I learn that their parents decided to just one day stop paying on their house . They and their mother are being forced to move back to Wales sans our father who is trapped in the US thanks to being massively in arrears on child support to me , nearly 12 years behind . I see them one last time . until stuff gets straightened out , they all come back stateside , each one of them starts smoking weed to cope with life , and the two youngest both have kids before their 18 th birthday . The eldest is in Grad School on GI Bill money that my grandfather and father both seem to have conspired to get denied to me . With it I ' d have been out from under this 30 k of debt I will probably never truly pay off didn ' t even get to finish school . Then again , without it I doubt she ' d be going to school like she is . She will probably never know it , but that is the reason I can ' t bring myself to be close to them anymore . I got thrown to the side twice for their sake , both times affecting my life in large ways . Oh well , at least on Family Secret Friday on the radio a number of years back I could use My little siblings don ' t know they are all actual bastards to win tickets to see Blink 182 and My Chemical Romance in concert with my nowfiancee . That sure makes that student loan debt that did me absolutely no good feel better . Yup .