What do you do when you faced owner of ReedABBell ? <| sep |> I did not wrote any business proposal to FA minister . It is only a suggestion of idea . <| sep |> Totally understand what you mean . Especially when i was younger it used to last a lot longer . I believe mine stems from growing up in the church and my mother trying to tell me being gay is a sin . <| sep |> Don ' t patronize them by telling them Everything happens for a reason . Sometimes bad shit happens to good people for no reason at all , and people who are grieving need to be allowed to feel that rather than fed platitudes . Offer to do useful things like grocery shop , cook a meal , do laundry , pick up kids , etc . Saying , Let me know if you need anything is just code for Call me when you are better and don ' t need anything . Offering to do specific things lets the person know you actually want to help , you aren ' t just offering to make yourself feel better . Lastly , just be there to listen . Don ' t try and fix anything , just let the person talk it out . Show up with a bottle of wine and do the dishes while they talk it out . Just showing up rather than hiding from the broken person will matter most .