They prefer to piece the article together one quote at a time with bizarrely angry questions instead . <| sep |> 1 . Gay porn where the bottom is obviously not enjoying himself . 2 . Lesbian porn where the ladies have monster fingernails . Why ? ?<| sep |> The only reason she admitted it in the first place is to lay a guilt trip on you . Ignore it . Hell , Go NC if it ' s what works for you . I ' d say the fact that you aren ' t mourning the loss of your father speaks deeply about the whole situation . I didn ' t feel loss when my paternal Ngma died either . No , there isn ' t really a point at least not one that will do any good with her . If you believe it will help you get some things off your chest , I ' d suggest writing a letter , rather than having the confrontation verbally . Writing it down letter , email , FB message if need be the advantage to this is that A it ' s in print . N can ' t N and gaslight it if you have a copy of what you wrote . Oh , they can try , but you can wave the copy in her face and go Nuuh . and B You can take all the time you need to think about exactly what you want to say , and how you want to say it . No pressure in the moment , no yelling and screaming and getting you angry which will only get you off track and off point which is what the N wants , and why they ' d be yelling and screaming , trying to turn it around so long as they can blame anything but themselves . I don ' t advise having a facetoface verbal confrontation that is certainly not worth it . But a letter , so you can get those things off your chest , and be able to honestly tell yourself that you tried well , that I ' d recommend . Because it ' s exactly what I did . And my Nmother ' s response ? Well , that response is the exact reason I haven ' t spoken to her in near two years , and never will again . But I wrote my letter , I tried to express myself respectfully , and with understand , but laying down my boundaries and the ways I felt wronged . Her response was to refuse any responsibility , to refuse to respect me , to flat out refuse to even acknowledge that I had the right to my boundaries . It was my Nmother ' s choice to throw the opportunity to work with me over the issues out the door you know , after begging for the very chance for months , ignoring my requests for time . My Nmom choose herself over me , and that was the last time . If you think it will help you then write that letter . But don ' t do it for her Because you are absolutely , 100 % right . her health and happiness has never , not even once been your responsibility . And she clearly failed in the fact that as her child , she absolutely , 100 % was responsible for your healthy , happiness , safety , and education .