? how does that tell you anything about the skill level of the game ? That ' s just the equivalent translation of distribution of players . <| sep |> Well , we ' re all millionaires in Zimbabwe <| sep |> I agree that a honest sit down talk outside of sexual settings would be good . She probably suspects that you would be into it , so try not to be too nervous . Be clear and honest , and then be willing to listen . She may be too conservative for it , but maybe she has a hidden fantasy she hasn ' t brought up that could also be a lot of fun . Either way , it is important to remind yourself that thou have to listen if you want to be heard . One thing that me and my hubby said when we started looking into it was that whatever we did , it would be a bonus to our marriage , never a need . For us it is really important to remember that we are the first priority . It sounds obvious , but reminding myself that he comes first no matter what had gotten me through a rough spot when I couldn ' t get what I wanted , so I wanted to share . Edit words