Solution Randomize age cims move in . rrn <| sep |> There are two options here . The first is to text her back and say I ' m afraid I ' m not in a position to provide that kind of reference for you . Please remove my name as a reference and don ' t do it again . Don ' t justify or defend yourself , just state the boundary . The other option iswell , she listed you as a reference . Give her a reference . When they call you and say they understand you were a team lead at Kramerica Inc and supervised this person , say Oh ! That ' s odd , I wasn ' t in a supervisory position at Kramerica , but I ' m happy to provide a reference as a former coworker of X ! And then give them the straight dopeif you can give her a positive and truthful reference , great . But if she was a shit coworker , don ' t feel obligated to be nice . Like , don ' t be untruthful or petty , but you can totally say She didn ' t make deadlines and was sometimes very difficult to collaborate with or whatever .