Take care of yourself honey . Round about the bottom there , you kind of answered your own question why should you be around people like that ? Stay with the Bf ' s family , if they ' re not crazy . If they are , make a pizza , get some awesome cakepie , switch on netflix or Mario Cart and make your own holiday a dream come true . You don ' t need them and you certainly don ' t need their abusive bullshit . If you don ' t go , there will be drama . If you do , you will definitely be miserable , subject to more abuse once again , another holiday is ruined . And drama . By not going , it ' ll only be sent by text and . Well . You can turn your phone off for a day DYou don ' t even need to give the text a dignified response . In form you ' re spending the holiday quietly with your bf , if the deserve even that , and leave it . Anything else , just ignore and grey rock . There will be a lot of baiting and manipulation tactics . Might want to consider blocking numbers . But yeah , don ' t set yourself on fire to keep them warm .