What do you think of the Germans ? <| sep |> This reminds me of that incident with Maduro not understanding the whole # SOSVenezuela thing . Funny and sad at the same time <| sep |> It ' s not clear from your post if you ' ve actually been shitty or if you just haven ' t been good . This depends on if you have been shitty to her or if you just stopped showering them with attention . Explain why a bunch of girls did exactly that . It ' s often victims of childhood sexual abuse that end up in relationships with abusive partners . There are two factors to it . Abusers can sense that they have got low self esteem and thus will more likely go for them . Those women feel like they deserve the abuse or that it ' s normal . The brain is also weird in the sense that it is addicted to repeating trauma . This repeated victimization , or revictimization , is well known in psychology and abuse prevention . Children who are abused by people they are close to learn to equate love with violence and sexual exploitation . They have not learned to create safe and appropriate boundaries with people , and they grow up unable to see themselves as having any right to choice . Their selfimage is so damaged that they may see nothing wrong with even extremely abusive treatment of them by others . It is seen as unavoidable and the ultimate cost of love . Some women sexually abused as children may believe that their sexuality is all they have of any worth . and Bessel van der Kolk writes , Many traumatized people expose themselves , seemingly compulsively , to situations reminiscent of the original trauma . These behavioral reenactments are rarely consciously understood to be related to earlier life experiences 5 . Survivors of earlier rape and abuse may put themselves at risk of further harm , not because they want to be abused or hurt , but because they may be seeking a different , betteroutcome , or to have more control . It may also be because they believe they deserve the pain inflicted on them . Often , reenactment has a compulsive and involuntary feel . Survivors may feel completely numb , and unaware of how reenactment is taking place 6 . Conversely , it may call forth the same terror and shame as experienced in childhood . Perpetrators of sexual abuse may capitalize on this tendency by giving their victim the only sense of specialness , or being loved , that they have ever had . Bessel van der Kolk tells us that people subjected to trauma and neglect are vulnerable to developing the tendency to traumatically bond with those who harm them . Traumatic bonding is often behind the excuses of battered women for the violence of their partners , and for the repeated returning to a batterer 10 .