Steve said let ' s burn the cat . He grabbed the cat and poured gasoline over it . He told his friend to throw it in the fire . The friend later went to police because he felt bad . Steve didn ' t go to the police though . Your friend , Steve the one you say you don ' t care about , but make excuses for him over and over , is a psychopath . I don ' t condone Avery ' s behaviour in anyway whatsoever , just giving you the facts . And many of of them don ' t . But your buddy , Steve isn ' t one of them . I think you meant to say there are many abusers in relationships . Unless of course you are AGAIN making an excuse for Steve Steve being the victim so he punches , burns , rapes , hits and so on . Sometimes there is one abuser in a relationship , sometimes there is two , it isn ' t always one sided . My own opinion is , at the first sign of abuse from anyone , the other person should leave , but that ' s easier said than done unfortunately .