You obviously understand the concept of the usemention distinction . I include the link here in case you didn ' t know the formal name for it . It is an important concept to grasp when discussing offensive language . <| sep |> Jesus just tell her this guy has obvious plans to get in her pants and you are not gonna sit back and let her tell you its different . Women arent dumb enough to not be able to tell when a guy just wants to get with them . Your gf knows and is loving the attention and probably enjoys making you jealous . You talk about how you are the man so be a fucking man and tell her how you see this situation . Stop working so much also , work to live not live to work , with the way you work your gf is getting her relationship needs met by this other guy while you pay her expenses .