Are those piss stains on the top ? Also , I ' m betting meth is the drug of choice for the household . Am I right on that ? <| sep |> That ' s totally fine . I see where you ' re coming from . that ' s what kinda annoys me about the ending . It ' s really not definitive at all . <| sep |> No response is the best . If you don ' t mind poking the bear , you could reply with what doesn ' t even matter , so pick something you are comfortable with and see what happens . Then play bingo with the replies you get , because Ns are so broken they work with a script . They all default to the same responses some of them may be dangerous , so be careful . ETA her claiming to not understand is a case of who owns the problem ? . It ' s her problem and thus not yours to fix , so don ' t respond to that . A lot of your mother ' s messages will be about her problems and you should not fix other people ' s problems . Your problem may be feeling certain ways and you shouldn ' t turn to your mother for help with that . It ' s okay to ask for help with your problems like you ' re doing here now , but asking yourself what is the problem and who owns it ? may help you figure out what is on your plate . Your mother ' s problem of not understanding is hers . She tries to make it your problem , but it ' s not yours . Same goes with a lot of her problems . I hope this perspective helps .