Times have changed . While it ' s not unheard of meeting guys organically , a lot of dating has progressed to being online . I don ' t believe that it has to be an either or situation . Also not all apps are the same . GrindrScruff are more hook up based while TinderOkCupid tend to attract more men who want something more than just sex . I ' d advise to choose a dating appjust one , don ' t get all crazy and download them all while still having your eyes open for men IRL . Apps can be just a tool to increase your chances of finding someone , since that is pretty much what dating is anyways . A numbers game . Also IRL , you have to get a lot more out your comfort zone . Approach those men you have your eyes on and don ' t wait for them to make the first move . Lastly , please get rid of this idea of masc . If you like him , you like him . Most masc guys are just that and don ' t go around openly stating how masculine they think they are .