The source of my depression was being an socially awkward , anxious fuck . I cured it with a hell of a lot of selfCBT , and eventually by changing myself as a person , learning to become confident and being able to drive a fun conversation instead of being quiet all the time . It was a complicated 3 year process and I ' m still learning , but I ' m a 10 x happier person than I ' ve ever been , have many more friends than I had , have gotten laid here and there still single though . I still consider myself an introvert but ' uncomfortable social situations ' just aren ' t a thing I need to worry about any more because I can just wing it in any scenario . Happy to provide more details for anyone who ' s looking for advice .