I thought that was the case and I actually brought all those points to his attention during our previous sit downs about it . I ' m not sure if it ' s something that happened in his previous relationship or not they ' ve been apart for as long as they were together . I feel like at 30 he shouldn ' t be consistently lying about some of his female relationships . He doesn ' t do it with any of his other contacts , just those two . At least so far . EDIT It might be worth mentioning that when I brought up feeling upset about reminiscing , he asked me if he should just '' hide '' it or '' not have memories '' of course not . He got strangely aggressive at points . Similarly he tried to say that he can ' t bring up his friend last week because '' I ' ll just get upset '' etc , offering to hide stuff . He just seems to want to be secretive . I have never blown up at him , been aggressive in a fight , and haven ' t really been tearful . So I ' m not sure where the '' upsetting '' comes from re mentioning things . Does that change the advice to just break up ?