Very rory of her ! <| sep |> Tbh , I ' ve recently felt a bit of tension between myself and heterosexual male Tops . I ' ve never had a problem with subs , switches , or other women Tops , just straight male tops . I thought it was a problem of my own attitude , so I made some posts about trying to fix it . When I started to post here , and on Fetlife , I learned that there are plenty of lesbians who face homophobia or eroticisation of their sexuality , and tension between lesbians and male Tops is common . In all honesty , when I was first involved in the kink community . I loved the respect and comradery I felt . Everyone treated me like an equal and nobody made a deal about being trans . I think the local community is an awesome place for transwomen to explore the changes in our sexuality . It started to get wierd when I started to hang out with kinksters more frequently . I thought it was just me , but after talking with other kinky lesbians I ' m not so sure .