I went out with friends and a girl tried to join our table . We told her clearly that she wasn ' t welcome . She stared at us , so we went to a different bar . She followed . We noticed . We moved again and she followed . Eventually we lost her and went to dance . I remember dancing but I don ' t remember seeing her at that club . I was later told that she approached with a round of shots , apologized , then hung back by the bar . My friends left me alone and I lived close by so that was normal . I woke up in bed with her . She said that we had been walking in the same direction , started talking , and I invited her in for sex . I wanted nothing to do with her . Afterwards she stalked me on Facebook awhile , would try to hang out when she saw me around town . I ended up having to have a talk with her about how I didn ' t want to be friends . I didn ' t realize it was a rape for years .