I ' m in a similar boat . My husband ' s family hates me because I married him and think I am keeping him from them . The reality is they are the ones responsible for driving him away I have no control over my husband ' s decisions . They also think that he is immature and doesn ' t want to get a job even though he is a highly respected Marine which they also hate I ' ve burned a bridge by telling them exactly what I thought of them and calling them on their nonsense . Their selfish behavior and ridiculous ideas has made us both my wonderful and accepting family . <| sep |> I ' m thankful that you shared this pic of one of the prettiest discs I ' ve ever seen ! <| sep |> Yes , he is certainly seems to be aware of my problem in the first third of the lecture when he ' s talking about a distinction between ethical and psychological dimensions of agency . I ' m not sure if he quite solves my problem in the lecture though . In the case of rape , I certainly agree that there does seem to be an obvious sense in which we could say that the victim did not act voluntarily in spite of doing so intentionally . However , there is still a very clear sense in which the victim could be said to have made a choice . I think he ended up appealing to intuition in order to show that there is in fact a sense in which the victim is not acting voluntarily , and I appealed to that same intuition in my post . However , I don ' t think he really went beyond that to explain what counts as compulsion , or why it counts as compulsion . I ' ll have a look at the book , he may go into more detail there and in any case he ' s worth reading because he ' s definitely dealing with the same problem .