Big ass potted plant and shelves ? <| sep |> I ' m with urainydayraindear . I am 46 , and I have no effs left to give . I do understand your fears , though . I still feel that way sometimes . For me , it ' s my family . I ' m a recovering alcoholic , and there ' s a lot of baggage around my past behavior I try real hard to wear things that won ' t cause undue notice when I ' m around them . It ' s less worrying about what they ' re gonna say and more worrying about not creating tension . I spent too many years being a huge source of tension in my family and being the one who gives no effs if they are weirded out by my clothesbehavioretc . So even a 46 year old woman with no effs to give sometimes gets a little anxiety over what to wear . Outside if my family and it ' s baggage , I ' ve discovered that most of my fears of people ' s reactions to what I ' m wearing were baseless . While I ' m over here worrying about whether or not this lady I see in the grocery store is thinking my sweater looks kookoo , that lady is over there worrying about whether I think her pants make her butt look big LOLEven my husband rarely notices changes to my hairwardrobeshoes . Seriously . He ' s either oblivious or prejudiced and thinks I look nice all the time LOL . There ' s good advice here . Phase the new look in slowly . It gives people time to adjust to your evolution , and it gives you time to make sure the new stuff is actually what you like ON YOU vs what you like on mannequinshangers . Good luck with your style evolution !