At Least someone got fucked besides the American people this election season . <| sep |> The first article is trying to define masculinity for me through insultsI can see why you ' d think that , but it ' s sad for me to hear you say that . To me , that article is telling women how to make the most of a potentially great sex opportunity . She has a guy willing to go to lengths to help her actually achieve orgasm . But it ' s not working , she ' s not sure why . Oh , it ' s because it became an achievement goal , and lost the sense of play that we ' re really paying attention to what each other is enjoying . Anyway , because of my upbringing , I went thru years where people liked me , meant well , and were telling me boundaries , etc . But to my ears , it sounded they were telling me why they found me defective . I was never more alone when I couldn ' t hear nothing but insults . That state of mind creates aloneness , and blinded me to everyday opportunities to get out of it . Wonderful to just accept myself everyone as just human , and enjoy friendship all kinds of connection . So it sounds like some of you guys might be missing opportunities for the kind of encounters which would truly satisfy thirst .