The N mom ' s It was written before the proposal . It has nothing to do with the proposal . bit . So hilarious . Any normal sane person would want to mend bridges or make up and ask for a fresh start and use your wedding as the start of a new future . But nope . Not your N . Right back to flinging pooh like a N little monkey that she is . The ultimatum , the we ' ve grown so far apart . line is the only truth there . You have . You just have to go for NC . She will not change as she has no intention of doing so . Don ' t let her ruin the next chapter of your life and lock her out . <| sep |> WHY IS THIS A THING PEOPLE <| sep |> I mean we ' re pretty terrible right now <| sep |> 3 . Yes , but there are ways to get around this . One way is to have an exit ticket booked as far out as possible , and simply change to an earlier date when you want to head home . Absolutely rent a car . Public transport is a pain in the ass , even in the major cities . If you prefer hotels , a car will do but in my opinion , if you really want a kiwi experience , rent a small RV . Or hell , you could buy a small RV when you get here and sell it on when you leave .