That sounds a bit highschoolish to be honest . Of course it hurts on some level to part with someone you ' ve been with for a year . Try to address the deeper issues here and try to get her point of view . For example discuss your individual long term plans , which if as you describe here are incompatible , is it really a good idea to move forward ? Maybe you ' ll both come to a mutual agreement . <| sep |> There ' s is still no solid evidence to suggest animals ' feel ' pain the same way we do , or in many cases at all . People have an amazing capacity to assume noises or things animals do that LOOK or SOUND like something a person would do must equal a human emotion or reaction . It ' s projection and the frankly arrogant assumption humanity has that everything works the same way we do .