Abused by an ex boyfriend of my mom . He raped me and my mom told me I was lying . I totally comprehend why I don ' t trust her but my other family supported me and believed me . I just can ' t trust any of the men in my family and it really hurts to be honest . It ' s also why I feel extremely uncomfortable and threatened by older men . I had and still have a seemingly normal and active sex life but only with younger guys . My SO is a few years younger than me . Now that I ' m pregnant , my paranoia and fear is intensified for my child ' s sake . <| sep |> Being out of shape . Im sorry , but I have no sympathy for someone who squanders their gifts . If they are avidly trying to fix it however , much repect to those people .