That ' s part of America ' s problem . If one half of the coin was the relentless antagonism among one another about who to scapegoat for all their problems , the other is when people start bargaining with themselves that everything is actually fine as they normalize whatever new low the bar has been set to . It ' s like America ' s permanently stuck in a loop of the first three stages of grief , so when it gets to Bargaining after Anger it just loops back to Denial again and repeats . <| sep |> I was born the same year the Beatles came to the U . S . for the first time . <| sep |> From scenic Union , NJ . <| sep |> Look I ' m going to be entirely honest with you and I may get some shit for saying what I ' m about to say but I don ' t care . Sexuality changes over time . I ' m a bi male and I married a woman . When I was in my early teen years I felt zero attraction to other males , and my preference in women was completely different . Now the only porn I watch is gay or bi porn . I love my wife , I ' m sexually attracted to her , she loves me , and we have the most amazing sex . Sexuality is fluid and I think the most terrible thing someone can assume that it is static and fixed . What I would tell you to do is find a group of open minded people and experiment with intimacy and sex . Never date a man who would expect you to be gay , and never date a woman who would expect you to be straight . Surround yourself with understanding people who love you , and the rest will work itself out . If you still feel conflicted about it maybe talk to an LGBT friendly therapist , or start a daily meditation practice so that you can work trough your feelings .