how old are you OP ? <| sep |> It ' s just not meant to be done for fun . Thus , if you have sex for fun and become pregnant , that is your punishment . It ' s amazing how you dance around it without admitting it . And to put an end to your but it ' s murder ! excuse , there are many stages a fetus goes through before it ' s considered living . It ' s not as simple as it ' s growing so it ' s alive . If it can ' t think , is it really alive ? No , since the fetus doesn ' t even respond to anything until the end of the secondbeginning of the third trimester . That ' s probably why many places won ' t do third trimester abortions . I grew up in the catholic church too , and I have heard many different arguments about it , and what I can tell you is when prolifers are addressed with this information they either have nothing else to say because they didn ' t know this information or they continue in a circle about how sex is for marriageprocreation etc . The Supreme Court doesn ' t recognize it as murder , so I don ' t even accept it as an argument .