Get an electric smoker grenade and he ' ll be forced to move , if not he ' s dead <| sep |> Trust me , when I was your age I also thought hell would freeze over before they would allow it . My mum accepted him because early on I told her he was a convert and because she knows I ' m stubborn . If she had said no to me , I might have seen him behind her back and she didn ' t want that . She had 100 % confidence in me that I would keep the relationship as halal as I could . My family also dislike most Pakistani males in our suburb , I think she was relieved I wasn ' t in love with a drug dealing Pakistani with a penchant for petty crime . My significant other did have to convert to Islam . I told him right from the very beginning that my parents would never let me marry a ' nonMuslim ' and so the decision was made that one day he would convert . He was very understanding and liked certain aspects of the religion i . e . cleanliness , charity and respecting parents , and so this wasn ' t a deal breaker . Parents can surprise you so please don ' t give up all hope . As a young girl I was expected to wear a headscarf , Pakistani clothes , wasn ' t allowed to attend formals , I wasn ' t even allowed to go to the mall with friends . As soon as I turned 18 , they began to relax . Then , when I graduated I gained even more freedom . It ' s a long and arduous journey . Pakistani parents feel a lot of pressure and guilt when it comes to parenting due to their own shoddy upbringing and cultural traditions . I ' m hoping that with time , Pakistani and Muslim parents will learn to chill out and let their children live their own lives . Maybe change will come with the next generation of Pakistani Europeans and Americans ?