Ended up being more traditional than I would have necessarily thought we would still planning though due to a few things . Wasn ' t sold on dinner , but we wanted to serve alcohol and have a party , and ended up deciding timing wise it made more sense to overlap dinner , and we had enough family traveling that feeding them a meal felt appropriate . Going with the various dances because they mean a lot to our parents , and that ' s not something that would be worth fighting about . I don ' t want to get bogged down in flowers though , so limiting those may be our tiny nod to non traditional . I did decide to only have bridesmaids and no MOH . All the girls are already the most important women in my life , I didn ' t want to delineate between them any more than that .