The Njoy Wand will allow you to locate the prostate . But I have never orgasmed with it . I can hit it , and leak a lot of pre cum , but no orgasm . The only way I have ever reached a pgasm is when my wife massages my prostate with her fingers . And even then , it doesn ' t happen every time , just every now and then . I also know from experience that you can ' t focus on that pgasm . As soon as I start thinking oh here it comes , it disappears . Which is very frustrating in itself . Every time I have had one , it was after giving up . I would be like , ok it feels good but it ' s not happening today , so fuck it I ' m just going to lay her and enjoy my wife fingering me . And then out of the blue it hits . Also note that everyone is different . Some people get off with vibrations , others get off with direct pressuremassage . Vibrations do nothing for memy prostate . I need direct pressure which is why the Njoy feels good for me , and why my wife can finger me to pgasm