And that ' s human nature . Life isn ' t about outwitting people . My uncle was a judge , and he always had this great quote no one wins an argument . My thought was , wait , your job is literally to decide who wins arguments in court . He would respond something like the law is how we ' ve agreed to resolve disputes . The underlying disagreement isn ' t resolved by a verdict the losers still feel like they were right , regardless of the legal outcome . If you go about trying to outwit people , don ' t expect your opponents to have some cathartic moment of realization . You will be disappointed , and a lot of people will hate you for your aggressiveness . Sometimes you can lead people to the right answer , sometimes they have to find it or not find it themselves . but very rarely will people be bludgeoned over the head with a point , and allow themselves to come to terms with its merits . We can sit here and bemoan how people are irrational , but I ' d challenge you to think about how emotional and fired up you get during arguments . It ' s just human nature , and honestly it ' s better to generally allow people to believe what they wish to believe . Especially when it comes to religion . It ain ' t worth it to get upset and make an enemy , just so you can loudly explain your viewpoint . 99 . 999 % of the time , at least .