But 63 k hp for an extremely valuable unit <| sep |> OH ! Oops . Haha <| sep |> This happened to me a few years back . I got really drunk , I was vomiting , I couldn ' t walk , I literally had to be carried around by others for parts of the night , she took me into her bed I offered to take a cab home but she said it was cool and I should just cash with her as soon as I flopped into bed she told me to take off my pants but I couldn ' t because I was to damn drunk so she did it for me . We started of cuddling which I was totally cool with but things escalated . Eventually it got too a point where I didn ' t want to keep going but I didn ' t know how to stop it I was so drunk that I didn ' t know how to say ' no ' anymore . The way I make sense of this is to say that what I mean by ' capacity to consent ' is having the ability to say ' no ' when you no longer desire to do the thing . As a matter of fact I no longer had that ability when she tried to have her way with me . I also realized that there are a lot of people out there who don ' t have this ability and it may not always be possible to distinguish those who do from those who don ' t . Most of the time we just trust that others know what they ' re doing . However there are many cases when we have good reasons to believe that someone lacks the capacity to consent . If someone is a child , mentally infirm , looks to you as an authority figure or is very drunk then you have good reasons to believe that they might not be able to say ' no ' if their desires changed . I think she should have known better then to look at someone in that state as the object of her affections . But I don ' t think that this made her a monster she made a mistake , one that she should be held accountable for and one she should never make again with anybody else . I don ' t know if what she did to me legally counted as sexual assault . From what research I ' ve done it varies from jurisdiction to jurisdiction as to exactly what ' capacity to consent ' means some jurisdictions require that you basically be unconscious , some are less strict . For my own peace of mind I know that regardless of the legal status of what she did it was still wrong . It wouldn ' t be okay for me to do that to someone else and it wasn ' t okay for her to do it to me .