Um deputado gay do Partido Socialismo E Liberdade , e um deputado homofbico , militar de extremadireita panfletria , que j trocaram cusparadas no meio do plenrio , concordando em algo . <| sep |> I ' m so sorry . The ability for my stbxw to simply stop caring about whether or not anything she does is hurtful , is one of the hardest things for me . The dismissiveness . As in your case , the naked ha ! sense of entitlement to other men ' s attention , and affections , and damn the consequences . I don ' t know if it ' s the same for you , but in the case of my stbxw , if she was hurt by things I did , in her mind I had to have been doing it on purpose . So this is just her asserting herself now , behaving towards me as she has convinced herself that I must have intended to behave towards her . Except that by her own admission , she had these big elaborate conversations in her head about her feelings and her upset , but then even when I tried to draw her out , she would chicken out and reassure me that she was fine , and then beat herself up afterwards about having missed the opportunity to tell me how she really felt . That all seems to have been conveniently forgotten now . By telling herself that I might be capable of something , she justifies herself actually doing it . I can ' t tell you how many things she ' s done preemptively in this divorce that I could never have imagined doing to her .