I ' ve felt that way before about the asshole that did that shit to me . But you ' re right . Many people won ' t believe what ' s directly in front of their eyes . Good on you , btw . <| sep |> Most schools aren ' t good at teaching boys . And even if your boys are doing well there usually are boyish things that the school isn ' t giving them . So , when my kids were young I found out how boys on average learn and what it is that schools aren ' t giving them . That led me and my wife , for example , reading them adventurous , fast moving books and then afterwards discussing them . Not the characters only or even the plot necessarily , but the map of the book where things happened and how the plot moved around . I also played adventure games with them solving the problems together and discussing the game . Discussing TVprograms while watching them was a daily routine . We allowed them a lot of freedom . For example , they both walked or took a bus to school without us at the age of seven . We just gave them mobile phones so that they could call us if they wanted to . I hope that gave them the independence and selfassurance the school necessarily wasn ' t giving . They both played soccer to learn how boys work as a team . There was more but these came to mind first . So , my advice is to find out how boys learn skills and attitudes that schools don ' t necessarily give and then think what works for your family . This goes for girls , too . But they don ' t need it as much because the school usually suits girls much better . PS . They both have become successful and happy as far as I can tell .