In my opinion , the best way to counter this is to just listen to the initial person complain and then change the topic . Don ' t bring your problems or try to 1 up the other person . Uni is hard for everyone and venting is healthy but , we all don ' t need to be doing it all the time . It would help us be better listeners too . <| sep |> If you could forward me that information , for research purposes . That worked be great . <| sep |> That was hilarious . The second part is exactly how I am while driving . <| sep |> None of them are legally allowed to carry lettermail . Which is what this is about . <| sep |> Being physically and emotionally abused as a kid fucked me up pretty bad . There was a good four years of my life that I hated going to home or school because of either being bullied or not knowing what mood my mother would be in . Sad thing is when I was thirteen I told my school counselor what was going on at home and that I was being hit . She said that since it was opened handed there was nothing wrong with it . I lost a lot of respect for any adults in my life . For a long time .