I never saw a male sandalit <| sep |> When I told my family , I didn ' t go into details . I just told them I didn ' t believe . My in laws came into my home and insisted I sit down with them and explain what I was going through . It was 4 of them asking me questions . I told them I would rather speak with them one on one , since it seemed like they were ganging up on me . They kept pushing so I started to open up about the difficult things I had learned . They immediately got defensive . Then they started attacking me personally . For example , my husband made a comment that a past prophet could be a racist . My FIL turned to me in anger and said , You know what , you ' re a racist ! ! It was horrible , one of the worst nights of my life . My heart was already broken by the church , and now by my husband ' s family . If I had it to do over again , I wouldn ' t go into details . Especially if it ' s not a one on one conversation . There was no attempt to listen and understand , just defend their position .