I ' m 33 F and currently dealing with my second DB , although things have been improving a little as of late . Our sex life still isn ' t what I ' d like it to be , but I suppose it probably won ' t ever be My first DB started back when I was your age , which ironically that was the same year and partner with whom I first began to really enjoy sex myself for the first time in my life . Before that I had never been able to feel an intimate connection or have an orgasm with a partner ever before . I ' ve always had a high sex drive and never been the cause of a DB though . My current relationship of almost 2 years started to turn DB about 5 months in , but I ' m finally starting to see a glimmer of hope . Things are still kinda sketchy at times though . I will outright admit that my fiance can be a very selfish man a lot of the time . He ' s getting better about some things , but others he ' s stubborn and doesn ' t accept compromise . I ' m a bit wary of our recent improvement though bcuz we ' ve been through the normal DB cycle so many times . It ' s a viscous cycle of me building resentment while he continues to neglect our relationship , I go into this depressive state until I can ' t take it anymore so I usually confront him which prompts us to have The Talk , then he usually spends the next week or two putting in a little effort and the frequency of our sexual encounters increases some bcuz he stops rejecting me as much . This entire cycle usually happens over the course of a month or two , but then repeats itself all over again . This time though it ' s taken a lot longer for the cycle to reset which is a big reason why I ' m so hopeful . Anywho , if you ever need someone to commiserate with or just vent to then feel free to PM me . Lord knows I could sometimes use a friend who ' s empathic and akin to what this feels like .