There ' s a very easy solution to this that I point out in the second sentence of the post . The new order would be purely visual and show up only for you , the card order would remain the same for your opponent . <| sep |> Well you tried . <| sep |> I ' m buying a cat . <| sep |> You ' re an angry little guy <| sep |> So my boyfriend also has a really high libido . He also does NOT want an open relationship I was admittedly really relieved . We kind of plan sex and have it pretty infrequently , but he also knows that he can communicate his concerns without problems . Also , he gives me a backrub after and it really helps . Idk if you ' re sexrepulsed but just doing it really works for us . I kind of like that sex isn ' t the center of our relationship , but I know he doesn ' t . Finally , if this distresses you or these feelings are sudden you can always get your hormones checked . It really gave me a sense of calm and identity to know that nothing was wrong and this was me ! my check was actually for headaches but still haha !