Wow , thanks for taking the time to look and give feedback ! We ' re going to have to put more interior work on hold as we save for new windows and siding now , but good input ! <| sep |> Fuck . I am perpetually mad at my ex . They did some incredibly shitty things and have continued to do so since we split . But I always use the preferred name and pronouns they asked me to back when things were good . If I get it wrong , I correct myself . My friends ask why I put it so much effort when they ' re such a shit person . But their quality as a person has nothing to do with it . If I disrespect their gender , I might as well disrespect my own . Their status doesn ' t change depending on how I feel about them . It ' s nonnegotiable .