Best South African ! Think Leo dicaprio in blood diamond ! Worst scouse ! <| sep |> Heeeeeeey , their early stuff was really good . Absolute Gravity is a tune . Edit Snow Patrol that is . Mind you , didn ' t Ok Go do Get Over It ? That was ace . <| sep |> I have compassion for your struggle . I have to establish and maintain my personal boundaries , and it sounds like you ' re doing that ! I can treat people with Courtesy , Respect and Kindness without sacrificing my emotional , spiritual and physical health . I notice that uMyyogatrip shares I no longer judge anyone or the path they walk bc I have no right to do so . For me it ' s important , indeed , essential , that I am clear about the distinction between ' judging ' and ' judgmental '. I will have difficulty eliminating ' judging ' things but can be successful in not being judgmental . Here ' s the difference for me I assess , almost automatically , whether I like something or don ' t like something . I in effect ' judge ' it . Yes No Good Bad Like Don ' t Like . It ' s automatic . The sneaky part is when I associate like don ' t like with good and bad . Simple exampleBilly doesn ' t ' like ' the taste of broccoli . Billy says ' broccoli tastes bad '. Mary likes broccoli Mary says ' broccoli tastes good '. Fine . That ' s judging something . We all judge things . And we don ' t have to agree . One person ' s distasteful broccoli is another person ' s yummy treat . However , being Judgmental for me is thisBilly doesn ' t like broccoli and says it ' s bad . Mary says she likes broccoli . Billy says you ' re stupid , broccoli tastes bad . That ' s judgmental for me . Applying my preferences in life to another ' s behaviors is judging . Applying my preferences in life to another ' s behaviors and making personal attributions about the other is being judgmental . Life brings me things . Some I like , some I don ' t like . So of course , there ' s no problem with the things I like . It ' s the things I don ' t like where I have opportunities . For those , I either 1 Accept them fully embrace the way it is 2 Tolerate them it ' s just ' one more time ' or 3 Remove Myself from them it ' s one time ' too many '. I agree with what you shared about respecting you . I differ in one area as uMyyogatrip notes about judging . I might judge finding the toilet destroyed , and a huge mess as something I don ' t like . That ' s judging . I can also judge the behavior of the other person and say they ' re disrespectful of my boundaries That ' s fine for me too . The border is crossed when I start making personal attributions about them . Finally , I can accept the toilet event , tolerate the toilet event or remove myself from it . One of us has gotta go . That ' s healthy in my mind . As you note , I can have an An Attitude of Gratitude , not be ' judgmental ' about someone else , and STILL say I won ' t have this in my life anymore . Let us know how it goes ! Happy Thanksgiving !