This . I can ' t repeat this enough to all my friends who desperately search for a partner and try to be someone they aren ' t . If you have to change yourself to make someone like you , it won ' t last long because at some point you won ' t be able to keep up that mask and once it ' s down , the entire relationship most likely will start crumbling like dried out bread . <| sep |> Also in season 1 , didn ' t he originally hear that audio after hacking the phone of the guy Connor slept with , not looking through Connor ' s phone ? I ' m pretty sure they asked Oliver to hack that phone , too . It was just an oversight on Connor ' s part that Oliver heard that particular detail . Otherwise Oliver hadn ' t been digging into Connor ' s privacy at that point .