Ah Thanksgiving ! There ' s really no other holiday like it for family drama . The drinking , the long wait for food , the presence of so many family members . OK , so here are a few things for you to think about . Mom has no excuse to cheatYou don ' t know that . There are parts of your parents ' marriage that are secret , unknown to you and unknown to anyone but them . he isn ' t abusive towards my mom or anything he doesn ' t curse her out or anything . Just because he isn ' t openly , obviously bad doesn ' t mean he ' s good . There ' s a whole lot of territory between abusive ahole and happy , sustaining marriage . Marriages , especially longer marriages , tend to be complicated things , with issue that can span years . Help please . Get out of the middle of this . Don ' t loan your mother your phone any more either she gets her own phone , or she takes yours and gets you a replacement . If either of your parents tries to talk to you about the other , say Look , I am not the person you should be talking to . I do not want to be in the middle of this and then walk away . As much as possible , be somewhere else , doing something else . Classes are good . So are study groups . Your college probably has free events you could attend they might be things you wouldn ' t otherwise check out , but hey , you might find something new to like . Mostly , don ' t be around . When you are around , contribute as much time effort as you can towards keeping the house running . That means doing dishes , cleaning , wrangling laundry , and whatever else you can do to help . If your dad works 60 hours a week , then the time he spends at home should be as free as possible and not spent on ' chores '. The reason you help out more is so your parents have more time energy to work on their stuff . Good luck . You ' ll get through this , one way or another .