The stench of Quan ' s foot caused his head to explode . <| sep |> Bill ' s get proposed all the time but end up not happening . Hopefully this is one of those that quietly goes away . <| sep |> There have been several moments for me over the years that have gradually built . I ' ll talk about one . The first is probably my trans coworker who very much identified as male , but wanted to appear as female to get more male attention . He struggled in the gay community because he apparently felt unattractive and discriminated against . Instead of faulting his local gay scene , he decided that he was trans but still male and going to grow breasts but keep his penis . Okay , that ' s his choice , and I believe that people can do what they want with their bodies , if it makes them happy and they ' re doing it for themselves . I ' m a butch bisexual , I suppose I barely like men , but have been in relationships with them , so I ' ll accept bisexual although I feel lesbian but the woman that I loved was killed years ago and I ' ve mostly been with men since then . I like to wear butch clothing and be dapper . I ' d been doing that around coworker forever , but he didn ' t notice , until one day I put on a tie . Suddenly , in his mind forever after , I was trans . Nothing that I could say changed his mind . He gave me a male nickname , and wanted to call me by male pronouns even though this increasingly angered me . He started looking at me as potential male attention for him . He irrevocably started looking at me as a gay transman instead of a bisexual butch woman , just because I had worn a tie and brought a guy to a work party . I don ' t know if it was worse for him to treat me that way , or for other men to mock me for not wearing a dress . This opened my eyes to the wider trend in society to say that being a woman means wearing a dress , makeup , and high heels . Some feminists have fought hard against the transvestite label , yet here we are saying that people ' s gender identity is determined by whether or not they wear masculine or feminine clothes or fit into bullshit gender roles . Churches are telling young lesbians that it ' s more acceptable to transition than to be who they are . Lesbian and women ' s spaces are being invaded and broken up . I feel like our community is being torn apart by the culture of trans .