I can understand the desire to pin him down , trying to restrain his violent behavior without hurting him , but she could also try walking away from him when he gets violent and putting a door between herself and him basically sending herself to her room . She should be able to listen through the door to be able to tell if he moves away from the door or is doing something that might cause damage . That said , however , I am with his teachers , pediatrician , and babysitters , this sounds like fairly typical behavior for his age . Remember , these are people who know the mother and child much better than any of us . It ' s unsurprising for children to get angriest and act out the most with those with whom they feel safest . You say he ' s on his third babysitter , but it sounds like babysitter # 1 moved on in life and babysitter # 2 might not have been a good fit . It isn ' t terrible or indicative of anything that he ' s on babysitter # 3 . We don ' t have a lot of information on how he ' s a spoiled brat or how she ' s been saying No more often , but you say this kid behaves well in public , or basically for anyone but mom . For mom , I ' d recommend the book How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will T a lkTalkKidsWillListendptel , Simplicity P a r e n t i n g P a r e n t i n g E x t r a o rdinaryCalmerHappierdptel , or Parenting with Love and L o g i c L o v e LogicUpdatedExpandeddptel to hunt down some techniques that might help . Check the library before buying since she ' s low on funds .