Let me see . First of all , size doesn ' t matter is really short for if you fall within the normal range , your penis size won ' t rank high on the list of things a woman evaluates when considering if she wants to be with you . But let ' s be clear , size absolutely does make a difference . Q How big is your husband ? Did you measure ? etcI ' ve only measured my husband with a ruler . But I think I can provide good estimates of the others . Measured accurately , my husband is 6 . 5 long and 5 . 25 in girth . He ' s a bit thicker at the base , and gets narrower towards the head . As I said before , I think that ' s above average , but not huge . Feel free to correct me if I ' m misinformed . Guy # 1 was almost identical in appearance and proportion . I ' m comfortable saying that guy # 1 was a bit bigger overall for two reasons . First , he wasn ' t any thicker at the base , but he didn ' t taper as much towards the head . And second , in some positions , my husband will sometimes hit my cervix . With guy # 1 , this would happen a bit more often . The difference was subtle though . Guy # 2 is harder to estimate . He was a lot thinner , but noticeably longer . It wasn ' t really a good combination for sex . He was probably an inch longer than my husband , just based on stacking my hands on him . He was also quite large when soft , which was fun to play with but strictly cosmetic . Guy # 3 was probably about 34 of an inch shorter than my husband . I can just close my fingers around a 6 inch girth , and he wasn ' t quite that big . So I ' d estimate that guy # 3 was 5 . 75 x 5 . 75 . His girth was impressive at the time and we needed to be careful . I ' m not sure if it was his length or the overall proportions , but some positions didn ' t work very well as he wanted to pop out . I would generally classify all of these to be in the normal range . But then there was John guy # 4 . John is in a whole different category . I honestly did not think penises existed this big . I wish I had an exact measurement , but my estimate is pretty good . It ' s pretty common for girlfriends to talk among themselves , especially when somebody is seeing a new guy . And John was definitely a topic of conversation . He ' s the reason I know that I can just close my fingers around six inches . Because I was frantically trying to explain to some friends just how big he was , which resulted in us all running around the house grabbing hold of every cylindrical object we could find . And then measuring them . I couldn ' t close my fingers around John . So he ' s bigger than 6 in girth , by at least 14 . And he ' s not quite as big as a redbull can which I now know is 6 . 7 . So I would say his girth is 6 . 256 . 5 . And that is absolutely massive . As for length , I ' m going to use my hands again . My husband is two hands and a head . If I stack my hands , he pokes out another inch . My hands are about 2 . 75 wide , so that makes sense . With John , he was three hands , with not quite as much head sticking out . He is easily 8 . 25 and quite probably closer to 8 . 5 long . So there are my nonscientific measurements . I stand by them , but admit they might be off by a little . Q How did your husband react ? My husband had a pretty healthy ego about his size . He ' s not small , and I can imagine his previous girlfriends would have said flattering things . On one hand , I feel a bit bad bursting his bubble . But he ' s brought the topic up multiple times since then , so I think it really feeds his submissive fantasy . In those conversations , it came out that my girlfriends and I talk about the size of the guys we dated . I think that revelation had a bigger impact on him . Q Do you fantasize about John ? Would you be up for a booty call ? Would you cheat on your husband ? etc . If I wasn ' t married , and John called me out of the blue for sex . I ' d be there in an instant . He was huge , but he was also very good in bed . When somebody is that large , there are no quickies . It takes a lot of foreplay and a lot of lube to even be able to handle him . It ' s a completely different sensation being that . full . The downside is that it ' s so impractical . He ' s so far outside of the normal range that size does matter in this case . I would have serious reservations about marrying somebody that large . As for booty calls , and cheating on my husband . that ' s not something I ' m interested in . I had my fun in the past , and I don ' t want to wreck my marriage .