Mine changes a lot too . It seems to happen monthly though and not in response to my current life stressors . I don ' t really know what causes it honestly but I ' ll go through a month of mindlessly restricting and then another where I keep bping . I hate the bp months so much but at least I never really seem to gain weight . <| sep |> The Establihsment lost big time . Get ready for the fake news bullshit . <| sep |> I can tell you it definitely gets better . <| sep |> I don ' t think it was a lack of respect so much as a way for him to indulge his crossdressing side more in secret which yes , is sort of counterintuitive if he put pictures on a public media , but folks in the closet aren ' t always rational about choices like that . If you ' ve had a good relationship with him until now , I ' d suggest a different tack See if he will go shopping with you . It may not be so much that he doesn ' t respect you and what is yours it may simply be that you have the clothes that he ' d like to wear . but that he can ' t buy for himself . But if he ' ll go shopping with you , he could buy things ' for you ' that he likes and then he ' d have his own supply of clothes he could wear instead of yours . In short , I can ' t see that crossdressing would make him any less worthy of your respect . And the fact that he has been hiding it says more about our current culture than it does about him . Give him a chance . Try to see his side of things . And you might also suggest that he NOT put things that are supposed to be a secret on a public forum .