So the LL does not have to change at all to progress forward to make things work , yet all along its been the HL who has done all the changing to match the LL level of desire . Some how I don ' t see how this is a fair request . The truth of the matter is that both parties need to change equally AKA Compromise together to make their relationship work and last . But for a compromise to be successful that would mean then that the LL would have to come up equally in the libido scale as much as the HL would have to be willing to accept less and still be happy . Usually its not as hard for the HL to compromise in these situations cause they are usually getting very little affection at all from the LL spouse and seeing that the LL spouse has to increase some in their fair compromise it would see then the HL actually getting some more of what they have desired all along . From my reading here everyday for over a year now its been my deduction that its much easier for the HL to compromise and usually a very difficult struggle for the LL to change , if at all , and hardly ever for the long term aspect . But remember as the HL conforms to the LL lifestyle cause they choose to stay and not cheat they are the ones who have given the most , and that would then be a 100 % on their part till things change enough to satisfy both parties . At which time it should be a close to 5050 compromise .