Ah , that ' s a classic ! What he means is that he likes the attention and sex , but he ' s too egocentric , immature , and lazy to attempt any selfcontrol or do any emotional labor . He ' s setting you up so that when he does eventually turn out to be a scumbag , he can claim that he warned you . he ' s basically seeking to preemptively blame you for allowing his own bad behavior while absolving himself of any responsibility for his own actions and choices . People who pull this selfish , manipulative crap are never worth it . It ' s an utterly assholish thing to say , and it really says that he ' ll never really care about you . Please take care of yourself , and I ' m sorry you ' re having to deal with this kind of ugliness .