You know how sometimes a stray cat adopts you despite your best efforts to not have the cat in your house ? You don ' t have to want him , just give up and accept him and we won ' t say that we ' re his actual owners . <| sep |> I pretty much agree with everything you said , except that I DO think the gay shame is something that straight people might experience . You ' re not going to experience it if you ' re gay because there is no such thing as straight shame . That being said , I DO think there might be a biological component to being transgendered . I don ' t think it ' s all psychological . There ' s certainly a psychological component there , but I think it ' s more than that . At the end of the day , transgender equalitytype conversations have really only been a thing for like a decade . When I was a kid in the 80 s , we knew that they existed , but they were just thought of as freaks or weirdos . It ' s gonna take a little longer than a decade for the social attitudes to adjust , but I think that will eventually happen . I can imagine that in another 10 years freshmen in college might not even care if someone is transgender or not . It has a lot to Do with how you ' re raised . I ' ll be the first to admit that I would have hangups about being with a transgender person . But I think a lot of that stems from my experience as a child . If it was a socially acceptable thing when I was growing up , I don ' t think I would care .