I read something that started with ' best ' and i immediately went for it rather than A <| sep |> We are taught this before public speaking . Our brains ADHD or not often try to respond as fast as possible . Mostly , that isn ' t necessary . We can avoid that with acknowledgement . Stimulus Acknowledge Consider Respond . That stimulus might be a question when I ' m presenting , in which case I ' ll say thank you , that ' s a good question . Then I have a few moments to think before replying . It might be an asshole driver , in which case I ' ll think to myself what is that guy trying to achieve ? rather than going straight to what I am going to do about it . It might be a mess in the house , in which case I ' ll write myself a note instead of dealing with it . Expanding that space does give us more freedom .