Was going to recommend what usubspicious said . Grandma and grandpa aren ' t healthy for us to be around . It ' s like a sickness you get when you get a cold , but it ' s a sickness in their heart and in their minds . I know this is sad for you , but it ' s mom and dad ' s job to keep you safe and to make sure our relationships are healthy for you to grow up and know the right way you should be treated and treat others . I don ' t know how old your kids are so more or less info might be more appropriate , but I explain mental illness to my kids DD the same way I explain other contagious illnesses . Emotionally and mentally unhealthy people are as destructive as the Flu or Whooping cough . We protect ourselves and stay away until the person is healthy again . Good luck . And hugs if you want them .