I broke up with my last girlfriend for pretty much the same reason as I broke up with the girl before her for her . The passion was gone and I didn ' t want to put any more work into it . The mistake I made was thinking the next girl as she had would be someone I could have a relationship with . But , you know , I have no actual idea how to chill so that didn ' t work out . In case what happened was a little unclear , I ' m a serial monogamist who jumped from relation to relation , always securing my next before breaking up with the former . Oh , it was a long process , but it happened . Anyway , since then I ' ve sort of danced around dating someone . Lots of time was spent thinking about how I could still fix things with my ex if I weren ' t 200 , 500 , 1700 miles away . Part of me wonders if I moved this far just so I could actually get over her . I think I have . But now I just kind of like being single . I mean sure , there ' s a lot of depression and loneliness . But there ' s also a lot of creativity and selfreinforcement . There is , in effect , a grand range of emotions I experience which are mine and mine alone . They are not tied to a reaction to my S . O . and I quite like it .