Stop being a child , and discuss it . Tell her that you ' re not interested in any of that any time soon , you see this relationship as fun for now , and you have no clue whether she ' s someone you ' d want to spend your life with or not , and you ' re not interested in even thinking about a relationship on that level for a while . Talking about the future isn ' t committing to it . It ' s simply letting her know how you feel about it . She ' s not making an unreasonable request . Then she can decide if she wants to keep having fun with you for who knows how many more years , or if she wants to leave and find someone who is interested in and ready to start building something for more than just the now . Most likely , she should break up with you . She most definitely should not move in with you . A 25 yearold woman who wants to have children at some point isn ' t that far away from a good starting age , and it takes a fair bit of lead time . If she spent another three years with you before you decide you know what you want longterm , and it ' s not her , she ' d be in a much worse situation than she likely wants . It ' s okay if you have zero interest in any longterm planning any time soon , but you need to tell her that so she can decide whether it ' s compatible with what she wants . And she definitely shouldn ' t move in with you . I ' ve seen a long line of women who want to get married move in with men who are happy just like things as they are , and it mostly just seems to ensure no future talk will happen .