That ' s the best part to me . <| sep |> He was a Trump surrogate I thought <| sep |> Thank you for your insight . I never really considered this , but you ' re probably right , my siblings do show some behaviour that ' s neurotic and narcissistic . I ' ll definitely look into this . In my original post , I deliberately left out their positive traits , so they might come across as more extreme than they actually are . I don ' t feel like they are outright toxic , because in many ways they are very reliable and fair people . They haven ' t done anything where I felt like they were actively trying to hurt me . They ' re not manipulative or mean . They ' re just really annoying and neurotic . My brother actually used to be fairly normal , but he started to change in his 30 ies . Also a relationship with a borderline woman has made him less easygoing and much more mistrustful and thinskinned . He definitely picked up some dysfunctional relationship strategies from her as well . I ' ll definitely try to look at my siblings ' behaviour more critically , and try to accept that they actually do have narcissistic and neurotic traits that I have to protect myself from , while at the same time acknowledging their positive , reliable traits . In the end , I think I can gain a lot if I manage to distance myself from their nagging . It ' s not acceptable that they do it , but it certainly won ' t help if I keep on taking it seriously instead of just seeing it as their own neurotic problem .