I don ' t really understand your closing paragraph . But imo unless you have the dating game really down , you ' re better off just focusing on improving yourself gym , meeting friends , socializing and not even thinking about dating until you meet someone worthwhile dating . Dating for men is not really something that they can easily just go out and access like women can , who will have a lot of options just by opening an app , You kind of need to let dating be a side importance to making yourself better looking and more sociable . If you ' re very anxious about finding a partner than nothing will really work for you . I wouldn ' t even put a time line on it but accept and try and be ok with being single for a year or so whilst working on the positives in your life .