As I ' ve said here before many times used a more depressing user name mostly I didn ' t know my parents were narcissists and thought it was all because there was something wrong with me . BUT after I had my first child a month early , after they finally came to see me and help , I remember leaving them sitting at my kitchen table while I got up and started cleaning up . Etc . They didn ' t bother to help with the next two at all my aunt did come and stay with me to help . My mother couldn ' t wash a dish , she ' s too special . They are much older now of course . Last night at Thanksgiving we went around the table with our gratitudes . As usual my mother cried because finally all her children and grandchildren were there with her and she still has her medical practice with all the patients who love her . that is almost verbatim . My alcoholicN father said he was not prepared and had nothing to be thankful for . It was quite painful , even after all these years . Only recently have I learned that they are the broken ones , not me . Well , they did damage me a lot but I ' m working on it .