12 months or a very good reason why not . Commitment is more important to me than any particular label . I actually called my girlfriend my gentleman caller for a short while before we settled on girlfriend . I need to know where I stand with you and where we ' re hoping to take this relationship . I ' m very monogamous and long term oriented . When I say long term , I don ' t mean a year or two . I mean , I ' m looking to settle down with someone and want to take a few years to be certain you ' re the one , including dating monogamously , sex , living together , saving for something together , traveling together , meeting each other ' s friends and family , planning something together , etc . <| sep |> Has he been seen since they cancelled that one large balcony announcement he was supposed to have ?