Probably the Large Hadron Collider <| sep |> Oh , sweet summer child . <| sep |> First off They are being assholes . All of the comments you ' ve mentioned are deeply hurtful , and I completely understand that you ' re upset by all of it . I ' m about your age , and about 36 months ago , I was even beefier than you I ' m also a hell of a lot shorter . I think maybe your wife is trying to downplay it all to try and make it less of a big deal for you , or maybe she doesn ' t get it . Either way , she needs to stand up for you , her husband . That ' s the only right way for a partner to handle this . Having said all of this as you ' ve pointed out , you ' re not a bit overweight . You already know this , but your current weight isn ' t healthy , and it ' s making you manifestly unhappy with the health of some decidedly assholey inlaws . For yourself , and to show up these dickheads , I ' d encourage you to fight back in the best way possible lose it ! I mean this with the best intentions possible though I don ' t know you personally , I ' ve been there , and to some extent , still am though a little less each day ! If you want some resources , or just somebody to shoot the breeze with , let me know .