And if that ' s enough to be worth speaking engagements , paid articles , and of course overturning the entire medical field , then why do any of us bother going to work ? <| sep |> Good luck in the future man <| sep |> I don ' t mean to be the dissenting voice but all these suggested responses sound very rude and short . I don ' t think speaking that way to family is great advice even if it is briefly satisfying . You probably have to deal with them on and off for a long time whether you like it or not , so something you would say to a stranger to get them to piss off isn ' t exactly what I would advocate for . The question is very pushy and invasive of a personal issue , and it does operate on the assumption that your relationshipmarriage ' s point is to make a baby , and that you as the mother are a baby making machine first and foremost in their minds . But I don ' t think they are being intentionally or consciously rude . They are interested in your life but probably know very little about you . They might know your occupation , where you live and your maritalrelationship status if they ' re not particularly close family . So they cling to those three things to fill the void of silence and make conversation . They don ' t know that you don ' t want kids or that you tried and suffered a terrible tragedy . Many are probably old fashioned and don ' t understand the concept of marriage absent children . Understand where their ignorance stems from if isn ' t that they ' re trying to hurt you or be rude or anything of the sort . They just know very little about you and probably can ' t see outside the bubblecontext of their own marriage . I would advocate simply telling them in a matter of fact but otherwise courteous way that you and your husband ' s marital life and family choices are private business not a matter for discussion with the family , but if and when you had news you wanted to share with anyone that you would tell them and so until such time the subject is not to be brought up . Very simple , very straightforward and not at all timid , but also not rude or otherwise acerbic . Family is family and you probably have to deal with these people a lot so best to keep things even keel , especially if you consider they didn ' t mean you any harm they just don ' t realize what they ' re doing and need to be told otherwise .