just be careful dooder . i said i wouldn ' t do a lot of stuff until i did . PM me if you need anything . i got sober recently after saying i never would . i wont push you to , but if you ever decide to , i can help . <| sep |> Long term , that is only going to make thinks far worse . Your poor kid . <| sep |> go for an EZHT fc , it ' d be cool <| sep |> What a madladFTFY <| sep |> I have no idea the numbers but it seems like nonmonogamy is a lot more popular nowadays . Could just be my bubble . Nuclear families are increasingly shunned but much more often simply delayed , and greatly . Like by more than a decade . There are so many 30 somethings who are educated , good looking who never would ' ve been unmarried at the same life stage a generation ago . Even when finances don ' t dictate it there ' s a lot more general disinterest . People are more hedonistic and maybe more aware of the trappings of society and the lies in it all . Part of that surely is because we were raised to be snowflakes so we end up thinking hey I only get this one life , I need to have lots of sexual partners and vacations and when I settle down it ought to be slam dunk perfect . For that reason I ' ve found it damn hard to even find a relationship at all , let alone something leading to marriage . But the thing is at 34 I ' m still years away from wanting a traditional family .