Bitterness doesn ' t belong here , friend . <| sep |> Throwaway due to similar circumstances as yourself . First of all sorry you are going through this , sounds like a very tough time . Never feel like you failed him , he has to take responsibility for his own actions . This may actually help and enable him to do so , the kick he needs to realise he can ' t treat you or anybody like that . You ' ll get through this , it will be tough . Therapy will help , our brains are not wired to deal with this on our own . Are you going to look in the future at property settlementdivorce proceedings , again that will be tough but necessary if your relationship is over . <| sep |> They can understand your tone of voice . <| sep |> Federal Republic of GermanyThis is not the correct way to define German though . People in the German Reich were Germans as well . People in the Weimar Republic were Germans too . And I am born a German even if I was born in the GDR not the FRG .