I ' m now at thanksgiving with my family and on my phone so I have to keep this short . In my perfect world , government does not legislate marriage at all . I don ' t think gay marriage should have had to have been legalized because I see no reason for marriage laws to exist . One of the biggest problems with our current political climate is the belief that government holds the key to societal change or reform . I could not disagree with you more on how to respond to people feeling marginalized . People who act irrationally in counter productive ways , which we both agree happens , are not capable or deserving of rational conversation . When you have someone acting insane , you don ' t sit down and try to hear them out . That is not productive and I think is a big part of why we are where we are . We are not marginalizing them , they are doing it to themselves . From a governmental perspective we have done everything we can to give them a fair shot . The onus is on them . Nothing can be handed to them . You can ' t legislate a group into prosperity without taking away from others . Also , being concerned about us slipping is no reason to claim the system is rigged . The system was rigged . I understand being diligent , and it ' s a reasonable view , but until someone can point to an example of institutional racism that exists today there ' s no reason these blanket statements of racism deserve to be heard .