Little update on progress , Valves all tuned nicely , no ticking anymore . Managed to keep the speed slow and I made it to the mechanics to get my car professionally aligned . I ' m still leaking coolant and engine is overheating even after adjusting the carb . Not sure what to do . In the meantime I ' ve left my car at the mechanics , borrowed his crazy muscle car and ordered a new radiator , carb and gauges . I ' m just busy doing jobs and earning money to pay for it all . <| sep |> Thank you so much yes I do wonder about how its effecting me . I know my self esteem is low right now because of this step backwards . When we decided to go on our first break I took the time about 4 months to see a therapist whilst it was all happening and to try and bring closure to everything . The irony was that the therapist felt I was fine , but just needed the support . its one of those things really , I can see how my ex is burning bridges , with me , with her sister , her occupation , her savings . everything .