I ' m worried that I ' m a stupid asshole like that guy . Except I would totally want a lady to have a seat on my face and other body parts , I ' m just too anxious to make things happen . Oh well , at least alcohol provides temporary relief to soul crushing nervousness and depression and lack of belief in better future . <| sep |> Or , you could just catch a Magby and not have to worry about being called sexist . Still , this is good advice , and it works on other femaledesired species , too . <| sep |> Why would a LLNL deny a partner who is obviously hurting ? Possibly because it ' s just sex to them . If you don ' t care that much for sushi and your partner loves it , you ' d rather go somewhere else for dinner because there are so many things you ' d prefer to eat many of which your partner may also enjoy , and you don ' t see why your partner makes such a big deal about sushi all the time . I sat my spouse down last year and had The Talk for the millionth time , but this time using many talking points I learned here . I feel ugly . I feel unwanted and unloved . It doesn ' t matter how much work you put into buying a gift for me her love language I hate buying and receiving gifts , I ' m not going to feel like this relationship is healthy when it ' s missing this dimension that is important to me . That seemed to get through . We went from 56 times in 2015 to about 2 xmonth this year . But it doesn ' t change that she hates it , and hurries through it in the fastest and most unenthusiastic means possible , so while I appreciate the effort it still leaves me largely unfulfilled . Ironically , it has made me LL for her knowing her disdain for affection , I can ' t bring myself to initiate any affection toward her anymore . . I guess I ' m coming back around to Marriedscoundrel ' s point that if you have the ability to leave , do so . Sometimes the best of intentions can ' t overcome basic incompatibility .