when you get ready shoot me a message , or put it up in the daily trades in this sub . <| sep |> Boyfriend has so much wrong about so many things , he does have one thing right though and that ' s infidelity in military marriages . They ' re painfully common but it isn ' t simply because there are more opportunities for people to cheat . The real problem is that the military unofficially pushes its junior members to get married so young . Life in the barracks is miserable , cramped and any semblance of privacy can be shattered by any bored SNCO who comes along and wants to see how squared away your room is at any given time . Get married though ? Hey now you get to live off base and between your new basic allowance for housing and basic allowance for sustenance you just had your measly lance corporal pay check get doubled . So it ' s very , very attractive of an idea to get married to that boyfriendgirlfriend of yours that you ' ve only been with for a year or two and that ' s no foundation for a marriage . So now you ' ve got a bunch of people in their late teensearly 20 s that are married long before they ' re ready to be and then add on top of that long periods of separation and most of the time the spouse has nothing else going on because they ' re uprooted away from their support system of family and long term friends , oh and forget being able to find a job other than the occasional low skill and high turnover type . It ' s no shocker that military marriages fall apart so much . But you guys aren ' t rushing into marriage to bank a better paycheck and you ' re going to be starting a career of your own in the AF so that ' s two giant hurdles taken off the field for you right there . He shouldn ' t let the mistakes of others make him too afraid to live a life of his own . Though the flip side of that coin , don ' t get married during your first enlistment . Wait till either your out and settled or you sign those reup papers . It ' s probably the best advice I ever got when I was first joining up . That and 90 percent of your time in is going to fucking suck , it ' ll be nothing but pure misery that makes you hate your life and everything in it but that other 10 percent will be the greatest times of your life and make all the bullshit of the other 90 percent more than worth it . Anyway , time for me to put my soapbox away . Good luck with everything Siren , the boyfriend issues and especially with becoming an Airman . Normally I ' d have to poke fun a little bit at that because the interservice rivalry is strong but medical personal get a permanent pass . You lot are top notch across the board and get nothing but respect from us grunt types .