Congratulations . Enjoy your life without the drama of your mother . They always cling to the notion of family , don ' t they ? What they really mean is they are your family . My brother and I only kept a relationship with my mother to talk to our dad , and he is gone now . Soooooo . They are toddlers and it always is about them . They can knife you in the back , but somehow they are still the victims . And yes , she did mean to hurt you , but your father is just going along with her to avoid the narc shit storm . It is easier for him that way than to incur her wrath she has beaten him down to parade rest . You can not do anything to make her function like a normal human being because she is not and will never be . Consider this your get of jail free card . Focus on the people who do care for you , the friends and family that are not under her spell . Take a deep breath and enjoy your drama free Thanksgiving .