Which would be . ?<| sep |> But at the end of the day , when a guy or girl is paralytic , want to have sex , and there is someone jumping on them , you cannot really blame them . Pretty sure you can really blame them . Getting drunk isn ' t a get out of jail free card for consequences . <| sep |> Racial riots against white people ? Not really . That was the 60 s , when black folks were marching for their rights , due to oppressive white men in government . Oh wait , you ' re talking about BLM , which faded away literally right after the election . <| sep |> Tessie is overrated , there ' s a lot of other similar decks . I love mine though . Find one secondhand maybe ? <| sep |> My point is that people generally don ' t . I mean we might visit the area of the country where our ancestors lived for who knows how long , but I can ' t think of anyone who thinks of it as returning home . Your blatantly obvious comment sounds bizarrely patronizing and smug considering your point isn ' t true . Whether you realize it or not , you are arguing about the semantics of our dialect . It ' s like arguing that another language is wrong because an idiom doesn ' t translate wordforword into what you normally think those words literally mean . The other thing is that I don ' t know who you ' ve been talking to , but my point is that people don ' t consider themselves to be closer to a foreign nationality than ours . Maybe there ' s a tiny vocal minority that visits wherever you ' re from , but we have over 300 million people here and it ' s not normal . What I ' ve experienced and what I think many people experience at some point is feeling disillusioned with the country ' s leadership . As someone who was the stereotypical very into politics teenager under Bush # 2 it was embarrassing being American . I wasn ' t old enough , experienced enough , or mature enough to realize that most people don ' t like their governments and have the sense to not to preemptively judge individuals by the actions of their government . That ' s where you find the people that feel distant from our country , not in people who visit whereever their family came from . Last thing to remember is that very few of us come from families that came here hundreds of years ago . For a massive part of the population it was our grandparents or parents who immigrated and that absolutely affects how you are raised and the stories you hear . If your family is full of relatively recent immigrants then of course you ' ll feel some sort of tie to the country , but not in a way where you ' d dismiss the place you ' ve grown up and live in . Let ' s make an example Your parents are German and move to France . You grow up speaking German at home and French everywhere else . You celebrate holidays in a German way as well as a French way , and associate both types of foods with your mother and father ' s cooking . Even though you ' re French I ' d be willing to bet that you would consider yourself more German than Mongolian .