I ' ve always had a lack of confidence growing up . I ' m a pretty good looking guy , but I ' m skinny and never had much success with women . The first thing that helped me out was working out . Get fit , and if you look in the mirror and see something you don ' t like , then be a man fix it . You don ' t have to be a body builder . I weigh 145 lbs , but I got little to no fat on me and I ' m well proportioned . The second thing that helped me was wearing clothes that fit . Growing up I liked baggy clothes , but women like clothes that fit , and that are even tight in some places women love ass too so I wear clothes that fit me nice in all the right areas . Going to the gym helps this also . The third thing I ' ve done lately , is listening to inspirational audio recordings . You can find plenty on youtube . Confidence is a state of mind , and listening to this recordings helps me get my mind in the right place and makes me feel more positive , which gives me confidence . The fourth thing , is be dead honest with yourself , and with your date . Do not bullcrap or play games . If you plan on going on a date , specify with them if it ' s a date or hanging out . Before you go on a date , be straight up and tell them what you ' re looking for in a relationship . If a girl can ' t handle that , she ain ' t worth your time . If you enjoy playing mental fckfck games then you can be different , but I take the direct method . The thing that helped me out also was realizing while single men and women can be friends , they are rarely just that . So when I go on a date with a woman , I let her know that my plans are more than friendly with her in the long run , and if she isn ' t on board , she better hop on another ship because this one ' s headed to FunkyTown Port . And get out of your comfort zone . I started working a new job lately , and it placed me as a cashier , and I hate working with people . Or at least I thought I did . Now I love meeting random people and just saying hello and having small talk with them , and busting jokes to make them laugh . This helps me stay on my social PQ ' s , and forces me to interact with women , even if it isn ' t a major thing . Have your own goals in life , your own hobbies , and your own passions . Do not compromise them for no one . And eventually you ' ll find a chic who is down for your beliefs , and that ' s when you pull all the stops and go HAM on her .