they just mean something he said in interview not literally hop on rap genius <| sep |> I do have my hands backwards , I will have to try swapping . I ' m lefty and all the videos are for you right handed people ! I will also try dropping the heat and letting the puddle form . When I tried going higher I was just melting through the pieces and making a general mess of everything . Thanks for the tips ! <| sep |> On the other hand she also has told me , that she has consented to sex when she hasn ' t been in the mood just to please me so I should do the same ? !. Adding to this mess the fact that she has completely stopped initiating sex in fear of rejection , I feel like I should initiate sex when I ' m not in the mood to make her feel good . And that seems to me like some kind of passiveaggressive sorcery . There ' s a very complex balance , here . On the one hand , sometimes you do things that you ' re not really into because your SO wants to do them . I ' ve been to more operas than I care to name . On the other hand , sex is kind of a strange thing . None of the standard rules apply , but I think that if you ' re not opposed to sex , but just more meh , that just going along isn ' t the worst thing in the world . On the other hand , if you start feeling that you have to do the thing , sex or otherwise it starts becoming a huge weight on your mental state , and leads quickly to resentment and bad feelings . On the other hand , stopped initiating because of fear of rejection is also a thing . It can also be a weight on your mind , and can lead to resentment and bad feelings . You and she need to have a chat , and reach some sort of arrangement that makes everyone happy . You also need to accept that this arrangement might consist of breaking up . Not all problems can be fixed . Good luck .