. for the racist <| sep |> I see all these people listing all these kids . Why would you do that to yourself ? I only wanted one , had two and I ' m so fucking done . I ' m over here hoping they skip grades and move out at 15 to go to college a state over or something . They ' re driving me fucking crazy . EDIT perhaps I just need a nap . or 300 . <| sep |> Maybe he is hiding it from his coworkers but won ' t hide it from you . Can you define for me what happens when he is Triggered ? It sounds like you are really going the extra mile to make this work , but I really encourage you to think about how this is effecting you and your son . I understand it has not escalated to physical violence as of now , but it very well sounds like it could . And even if it doesn ' t , do you really want to be walking on eggshells ? This must be causing great stress to you . It isn ' t healthy at all . Your aniexty does not allow you to be an asshole is a true a phrase as ever in this case . I apologize for the millon questions but I am trying to better undsrstand the situation . Is he even acknowledging his bad behaviour ? Is there something redeeming about the situation that is making you want to hold on ? Do you think that your involvement is helping in some way for his mental health ? Or are you acting as a crutch for him to lean on ? Has he actually ended the relationship with you , and planning to move out ?