Trying the jinx , eh Bill ? <| sep |> Moved to different city because of a job opportunity . Was dating a new girl at the time so I was worried that would mess things up . We continued dating long distance , then she moved in with me 3 months later and now we are happily married . It all worked out but I can ' t believe how close I was to taking a job over my soulmate . <| sep |> Hey man I feel your pain . Was broken up with about two months ago now after a four year relationship . I fell into a deeper depression than I had been in a while . But I got better and have been better than ever . This might help everyone who is in the same boat . A couple things that I did that helped me get to the best point in my life in years . Talk to someone therapy , your closest friend , someone you really trust . Talk about what has you fucked up , your qualms , why you can ' t get closure . Your ex is your ex for a reason , and I guarantee you can find reasons you ' ll be better off . It took me a while , but you ' ll find reasons to move on . Make other major life changes I played video games for years , it was an addiction . I ate really bad foods . Got a rice cooker , started eating healthy , simple meals . I save money and have been in much better shape just because of a simple change . Video games are no more and I ' m much more social and productive . Think about small changes that you can commit to . It ' ll make a big difference . You ' ll feel better and you ' ll gain a bit of much needed confidence and self esteem . Get out there use tinder , bumble , friends to hook you up , parties . Go out and talk to people ! Don ' t be nervous , don ' t have a set goal in mind . Be ready for whatever happens . Eat pussy well . You ' ll get tons of compliments , people will be nice to you . It ' ll feel great , you ' ll build on it , and you ' ll find your groove . You can do this . Overall though , just go at your own pace , improve yourself in small but meaningful ways for you , not for anyone else , and go find some new friends or girls to spend time with . I have faith in you ! Anyone can PM me if they wanna read my story or ask some questions