I can relate to that so much . While I ' m not morbidly obese most people in the family are so fucking touchy about everything weight related and the best you can hope for is for them to actually start slinging fatlogic . The alternative to that is just being mean , defensive or angry . The only solution that I ' ve come up with is to cut them out of that struggle and find somebody else to talk about that stuff . Of course it hurts a bit to purposefully not involve them into that side of my life , but then again the hottest phase of weightloss is going to be temporarly after all and once I ' m done they can just congratulate me , hate me for being one of those ' naturally skinny ' people or bugger off . Whatever , we ' re still going to be cool . So to sum that up Find somebody else , watch the scale , count the kcals and get on with it . External motivation is overrated anyway