So hope is lost in basically all generations <| sep |> I ' ve spent so much time trying to figure this all out personally . From what I can figure , gender is not biological sex , it ' s not gender roles completely societal , it ' s not sexual preferences nonstraight people exist , and it ' s not outward expression transvestites , crossdressers , drag queens , tomboys . This is where the conflict starts to happen for me . Is gender brain sex ? As in , not a social construct , and there ' s an intrinsic neurological difference between male and female brains , and sometimes they get mixed up ? If so , gender dysphoria makes complete sense , and transitioning is just the most sensible medical procedure to help the condition . But then there ' s people who identify as transgender without the dysphoria , just as some ethereal identity that has no practical meaning . And as far as I ' m aware , there isn ' t an intrinsic neurological difference . Or at least the differences between male and female brains are so small and blurred , and of course the combinations of sociocultural influence and hormones will absolutely have an effect due to neuroplasticity , along with one ' s personal thought patterns , such that there really isn ' t any clear difference . I ' d probably understand better if I had a strong sense of gender myself , but I really don ' t . hmKix 75 dsg has a good video on that feeling . If it is a social construct , then it basically puts it on par with nationality . It ' s doesn ' t intrinsically define you , but it ' s assigned to you , and there are societal expectations of how you should present and act and what you like and dislike . But I don ' t see people passionately claiming that they ' re born in the wrong country . Agenderness makes sense if gender is a social construct simply not identifying at all with the construct in the first place . But what is agenderness if gender is brain sex ? You can ' t not have a sex in the same way that you can not have a sexual preference . One is either biologically male , biologically female , or somewhere on the scale of intersex . Gender seems to be tightly related to sex and physical expression and behaviour , but at the same time none of them are necessary and sufficient conditions for identifying as a gender , other than feeling like a gender . What does that even mean ?