strongly disagree that hookup culture necessarily dictates that you can ' t have feelings about the other person . I do believe that it is possible , and desirable , to care about the other person in a hookup . You don ' t have to love them , or see a future with them , but you can and should see them as a person , wish them no ill , and be invested that you both have a great time together for as long as you are together . I see nothing immoral or distasteful about shortterm sexual encounters when both parties come to the interaction with this state of mind . How is this possible if , in most cases , you ' ll never talk to the other person ever again after a brief encounter ? I just don ' t understand how using someone ' s genitals to get you off , in less than 24 hours ' time or however many cumulative hours you spend together off and on as casual partners , gives you any room whatsoever to see that person as anything other than an object . Maybe if you ' re fuck buddies it ' s different , but once women realize how easy it is to do that , they ' re far more likely to also take even bigger risks with STD ' s , possibly getting raped , etc . by engaging in onenight stands . If you can get away with the one with no consequences , hey , might as well have meaningless sex with random strangers , too , right ? It doesn ' t always work out this way , but if you ' re not inclined to be traditionally monogamous and commit to another human being over the longterm , you ' re going to slowly condition yourself to have attachment issues . It ' s just like slowly destroying your attention span via smartphones the longer that you sit on your phone , the harder it ' s going to be for you to commit to reading a book , or meditating , or something like that . The longer you have casual sex , the harder it ' s going to be to see people as people . Your sexual attention span , so to speak , will be destroyed , and you won ' t be getting that quick dopamine rush you ' re looking for by seeing the same boring face over and over . You ' ll never be able to spend ten years with one person , let alone forty . It ' s a slippery slope from fuck buddies to getting trashed and acting like an animal in a night club . It ' s only human nature to slip down said slope when there are no shortterm consequences , and you have an advantage that allows you to tap into the resource in question . Had your first drink recently , and enjoyed getting tipsy ? Might as well take it a bit further next time , and have a second drink ! Society doesn ' t slut shame you for not getting married and having kids while having sex with a bunch of your guy friends ? Might as well take it a bit further next time and have sex with random strangers ! That guy over there is really cute and you ' re not going to get yelled at or arrested for doing it , right ? What ' s the harm to your mental health in trying it just this once ? Porn definitely does this as well , hence the comparison . It ' s a constant , neverending pursuit of dopamine based on an overabundance of a VERY easily accessible resource with no checks , balances , or societal taboos preventing you from gorging . I also disagree that these things don ' t hurt me , or society as a whole . Everything that everyone does affects the entire world in some form or another , given that everything is interconnected . All of our actions in life have consequences . We cannot ever live in a bubble where our actions only affect ourselves , because the world just doesn ' t work that way . The major problems with casual sex are 1 It causes both men AND women to lose their ability to commit to boring monogamy , which is both bad for the future of our species studies have shown that partners who have higher than average partner counts are much more likely to cheat or destroy families when they DO decide to commit and bad for a person ' s sexual attention span when it comes to constantly needing novelty , or a new face , or a new body in order to get off sexually . The more that women are conditioned by the media to believe that selfobjectification is a wonderful thing , the worse they ' re going to be as mothers or wives if they choose to go that route in life at all , and the less of them there will be in the gene pool for actually procreating and producing strong , welleducated , firstworld children if they ' re too busy waking up in strange beds . Personally , I don ' t want the world to head in this direction while the populations of third world countries skyrocket . 2 Not everyone is attractive enough to be able to engage in it , meaning that those who have lots of casual sex have no understanding of how privileged they are when it comes to sexual resources . When it comes to literally any other nonconscious resource on Earth , the solution when people are in need is usually to try to find an efficient , practical way of more equally distributing the resource within the rules , regulations , and laws of society . When it comes to sexual resources , since we ' re talking about literal , living , breathing human beings , we can ' t simply give men or women to the sexually under privileged as though they are objects . This means that a TON of people who otherwise would WANT to engage in casual sex are simply excluded , because they ' re too ugly or too awkward . Imagine denying someone a sandwich for the same reasons , then praising the fattest person you ' ve ever met for not harming anyone with their sociosexual obesity and living life the way they want to live it . You can ' t judge people for any of their life decisions ? Really ? I shouldn ' t warn people not to try heroin , because it doesn ' t directly affect me , personally ? Please .