I feel like if I just let myself fully enjoy it and let nature take its course , I am being selfish because I feel like she wont orgasm in the time I will last . That ' s already what ' s happening right now , so it ' s worth a try . I think I will talk to her and tell her how I feel selfish if I finish too quickly , and that I want to try completely relaxing and not worrying , but I need to know that you she will be okay if it still happens to fast the first couple times . Yes . If we indulge ourselves for a while we don ' t get then overwhelmed by those feelings anymore . It ' s very logic if you think of it . That ' s something you totally want to enjoy , but you ' re trying not to . If we keep on worrying about fighting something we should otherwise enjoy , we ' ll always be haning onto the when is it going to be my time to enjoy ? . That ' s kind of the thought that sneaks up on us , that what we otherwise want to dismiss the feelings , to last more , overwhelm us , and then when we feel them we can ' t fight them .