Yeah this is pretty much sounds like what it would be . I have Aspergers so it is quite scary in that sense . Also I would be worried about having a ' breakdown ' but realise that being out of the situation itself is actually ' less anxious ' than being in it . I did quite a lot of the stuff above mentioned anyway in terms of going to College and 1 job but it was slightly different then because I wasn ' t actually paying bills . That is a really great analysis of it . I am glad it worked out for you . <| sep |> My family found out by stalking my partner ' s facebook I have a nosey family and noticed when my partner changed her name on fb . However , I ' d suggest sitting down woth your fam on facetime , skype , or other video chat stuffs if possible and just explain slowly whats going on . Start with do you guys know what a transgender person is ? If they don ' t , then explain it to them . Then , go well , I ' m dating a woman and they are a transgender person . Stuff like that . Lol