I reconnected all the cables , put the camera a bit closer , removed lights behind me , recalibrated the lights on the headset <| sep |> There are three options for a financially unsustainable sailing 1 . keep it let the other sailings pay for its loss status quo 2 . drop it 3 . charge more for itI question the logic of # 1 . I ' d be in favour of # 2 or # 3 . I don ' t know why people who demand a service very few other people demand e . g . a late night sailing aren ' t willing to pay more to reflect the higher cost of running it . <| sep |> Neither her wanting to know where this is headed or you not having an answer are shocking . If you aren ' t ready , you aren ' t ready . But it makes sense to not move in until you have a firm intention to not move out . It ' s a commitment and a big decision , with consequences that you sound like you didn ' t think through . If she wants kids and depending when she ' d like them , it also makes sense that she wants to know sooner rather than later if it ' s going to be with you . Or just in general , not everyone is willing to wait forever to find out whether you are compatible and interested in a longterm together .