ihr habt alle Nilliken <| sep |> I dated this girl on and off for a year . She would go on dates with me , text me out of the blue . On our second date she said we weren ' t compatible . She then went on a trip to Florida with her ex . Came back we hung out again . I was smitten because of her games , I asked her if she wanted to be exclusive she said no . We parted ways , she then texted me shortly after that and we went out again . We then went exclusive for two months , she then dumped me on my birthday , got back together a month later . In the end I found out basically she was dating lots of men and when it didn ' t work she would come crawling back . Things didn ' t work out . <| sep |> I know an excellent book , Mistakes Were Made , But Not By Me , all about cognitive dissonance and how costly it is to mental health and healthy relationships . All the things we ' ll go through just to avoid admitting we were wrong . It ' s hard enough for some people to admit a mistake as minor as recording a check . Imagine if your entire approach to your life were wrongheaded .