If you don ' t feel like you can deal with keeping your relationship as it is , don ' t . You can ' t make her want a serious relationship , and she may never come around . If you ' ve fallen this hard , you ' re just gonna torture yourself , and possibly say something that ' ll kill the whole thing . Here ' s some advice though , that you could explain to her , since she feels the same way about you . When it comes to relationships , what you think of yourselves really doesn ' t matter , what matters is what you think of each other , and you do your best not to do anything that would be detrimental to the relationship . People get hurt , it happens , you can ' t make any promises that you won ' t hurt each other somewhere down the line , but that ' s the risk you take with this shit .