He ' s in the tech industry , so he ' s probably a software developer . This is how it works in the software industry . Linkedin recruiters send you emails every day . <| sep |> So a different perspective I ' m a frugal guy . AND I make good money . When I ' m just starting to date a girl I don ' t do frugal stuff . 1 because I like to feel like I can do nice things and dates are a good place for shared experience of nice or more expensive stuff . I . e . front row seats at a playshowetc . Eating at a goodgreat restaurant you would never normally eat at . 2 I don ' t really want to scare her off with some tiny frugal thing , i . e . I buy peanut butter in bulk when it goes on stale than store it prepper style . Same with black pepper or other random stuff . I bought 200 rolls of toilet paper once at a goingoutofbusiness auction from a restaurant . So while I ' m frugal , it would not come up in the first few dates except as a conversation about how I track expenses or watch my money or whatever .