Family is forever . That ' s it ! I know that I ' m not the person that the message is for , but I think the messaging played a part in protecting my abuser as long as I did . I have a big family of my own , my husband and I have a bunch of kids , mostly grown , so I ' m not saying the season is terrible . But I can relate to the furtherunabused sentiment . Everything has a bit of a shadow . Sometimes it occurs to me that I may even be over compensating . You ' re right about one thing , going NC with my Momabsence of abuse , but not healing . <| sep |> No thank you <| sep |> At least demolition of old buildings can be done as a side job ! <| sep |> Sure they call themselves that , but what traditional order are they conserving ? They busy themselves obsessively dismantling the , now customary , programs and protections we have that maintained our society . There are a lot of other adjectives that can describe them . They ' re free market fanatics , they ' re aggressively antitax or government spending , and they ' re religious which might be considered the most conservative thing about them , but the core denominations they pander to tend to be fairly radical and fundamentalist in their outlook so that ' s not terribly conservative either . They ' re certainly nostalgic for an imagined golden age . But that ' s all different from being conservative , which implies caution and prudence and a generally suspicious attitude towards dramatic upheaval or change . But trying to dramatically roll back the clock by half a century , plugging your ears to impending crises climate change , and rejection of authoritative sources of information evolution are all fundamentally radical ideas .