I still have mine geared for Maxwell , in case someone is still trying to get her last minute . I ' ll change after the event , naturally . <| sep |> If it ' s been a year and you still haven ' t said you love her , that ' s sort of a red flag to me . She may have all the qualities that a girlfriend ' should ' have , but that doesn ' t necessarily mean that she ' s the girl you ' re meant to fall for or be with . You two sound like you have different future plans too , which I think will complicate things in the future . It ' s important to have those conversations now to see if you both are compatible , instead of spending several years together only to realize you the plans you have don ' t include one another . Lastly , there are so many people in the world . There will be a girl who is just as amazing , if not more , and who you will be 100 % sure you are in love with .