I mean you can literally buy anything and wreck . lol . <| sep |> Maybe if you leave a trail of tendies <| sep |> To add to this , how much money are we talking ? $ 10 , 000 ? $ 100 , 000 ? And you are not helping the boy , you are helping your ex girlfriend . If you and your wife agree to hand over the money to the hospital , are you prepared for the following outcomes ? The treatment doesn ' t work and your ex girlfriend still dies . Your son no longer has a need to contact you and cuts off communication . You never see him again . The treatment works and your ex girlfriend makes a full recovery . Your son and ex wife no longer have a need to contact you and cut off communication . You never see them again . My point being that if you and your wife are financially able and willing to make this very generous gift , you need to do so expecting nothing in return . You are under no obligation here but if you do choose to try to help out then that is a very kind decision .