Okay so he ' s never lived in the US before . That makes it a lot harder . This is just tough because you both deserve to live somewhere that will feel like home . How is your relationship other than the strain of where you live ? Because if it ' s good and you ' re happy with who he is as a man then I ' d urge you to do whatever it takes to make this new place feel like home . Get to know the people . Right now there ' s probably a really big cultural barrier , and you ' re the odd one out . But you may really end up loving the people in your community and become attached to that place . But I would also say the US is easier for any foreigner to feel at home than any other place . We are really the only true melting pot on Earth . If he moved to the US , he would be able to find people from back home and still have connections to his culture and way of life . But don ' t get me wrong , he would still have a very tough time adjusting like you are now . Talk about this , a lot . I know he thinks you ' re complaining so maybe just address it in a new way . Instead of talking about it negatively , approach it as a problem that you need his help in solving . Maybe moving back home isn ' t the answer . But involve him in finding a solution to your unhappiness .