It makes a difference in this particular case because of the framing of the transposed sentences assuming that the black peoplemen were in positions of power over the other . Personally , I think it ' s absolutely racist or sexist if someone targets a someone from a group that has more power than them solely because of that fact . <| sep |> Can I get a most hated flair ? thanks guys <| sep |> They used to but it exposes their feet too much . <| sep |> Honestly it ' s no problem at all . It ' s easy giving advice and support for something that I ' m familiar with . If there ' s anything else you need reassurance or support with , I ' m just a PM away . Why don ' t you invite her to places ? Are you scared she wont accept ? It ' s completely fine for people to not accept invitations or offers if that ' s the case however , people constantly declining your offers and invites though may be something else entirely . I mean , they could be anxious or very introverted for example . Do you ask her what she thinks of you ? Are you finding yourself frequently asking her for reassurance about things you don ' t like about yourself ? If so , that ' s a little too needy . This is why having only one friend is sort of a burden for you , all of your attention and support needs are coming from one person . Your poor friend is currently acting like 3 of your friends ! Branching out will make you seem less needy , but of course , it ' s easier said than done . Meditation pages sound like an excellent idea ! Also it ' s not just about thinking positively , you must also react and deal with negative situations well too . So if something bad happens , such as your boss shouting at you don ' t let it put you down for the rest of the dayweek . That way , you aren ' t seeking more support from your friend , and your friend will see you as a more stable person as you are dealing with tricky situations positively . In your situation regarding the leaves , you played it perfectly . Nothing more you can do there You tried and she refused , oh well . She knows you were very willing to help and that ' s all that matters , keep trying to help in other ways though . Now I ' m secondguessing as to whether I showed the neediness in other ways e . g . texting back fast , always accepting invitations , being too available , worrying about stuff sometimes I feel like I ' m concealing my worry well , but then she will tell me to relaxcalm downbreathe , etc . and then I realize that she can tell I ' m stressed . This really depends on the relationship you two have . Does she reply to texts quickly too ? Is she very happy when you accept invitations ? Do you feel her becoming ' cold ' to you when you are worrying , or is she warm and endearing ? It sounds like she knows you well if you think you ' re hiding your worries , but she can still see them Unfortunately you ' ve got to keep the smaller , petty things to yourself again , it makes you seem so needy . If she ' s constantly reassuring you and supporting you , she sort of moves to a sort of ' counselor ' rather than a friend ! The big things that you ' re worried about you should absolutely tell her and talk with her about . She ' ll appreciate being involved in the bigger problems too , rather than the smaller , insignificant instances . If she brings it up , then it depends on what she says . If she ' s like don ' t worry about yesterday . , then you can say thanks . and move on . Don ' t drag the conversation on , it ' s clear she also wants to move on . If she has questions answer them honestly , and try and work out any misunderstanding . But don ' t drag the conversation about the topic for any longer than she wants to talk about should she want to in the first place ! . Exactly ! When she told you she loved you , I bet that felt amazing hearing that for the first time . It was a hard moment for her and she had you for support , and she showed her feelings to you . Try and act like that , it ' ll mean a lot and she ' ll never forget it just like you ' ll never forget that moment . Oh , trust me I also panic when I don ' t get a reply back from a text . But picture this she read your message , and smiled a lot , and couldn ' t think of a reply . Much nicer thinking you ' ve made her smile rather than thinking you annoyed her ! Yep , you ' ve got it be the normal , usual you . If she ' s short , don ' t give her too much space . don ' t like , avoid her completely or blank conversations or end them abruptly . But I ' m sure you know that already . I ' m glad I can help . 442 am here so should you reply or PM , I shall reply tomorrow . Have a great day tomorrow !