No to all , but one of your guesses is pretty close geographically <| sep |> Happy belated birthday ! You ' re a strong person , and it ' s obvious you ' re a caring person . I ' m certain your mom appreciates all you ' re doing for her , and believe me you will look back one day and be glad that you were there for her in her worst moments . Terminal illness is a horrible thing for the patient , but it also takes its toll on the one closest to them as well . But that does not mean you have to give up on your own life . I ' ve been through rough patches myself , I can empathise a bit . Just try not to postpone your life too much and always take some me time every day for yourself to just do whatever you want to do . It ' s okay to just want to take a nap , or go out with friends , play video games etc . Try to spend time doing things that make you happy , or make you feel more like yourself . More alive . Otherwise a burnout might be inevitable . Don ' t forget strength and compassion for others can only be there if you take care of yourself . You ' re important . Take care of yourself .