Nein , es ist scheise . <| sep |> But ToDad has the weakest poker face of all . Can ' t even face his wife . <| sep |> I ' ll spot you . <| sep |> Still . You dont treat people that way . Its sad how disrespectful people have become . <| sep |> Easier said than done , my friend . <| sep |> Wow I don ' t necessarily like Ken in SFV but that mode is sick ! !<| sep |> Because however bad the future may turn out to be , preventing one ' s own death and one ' s mother ' s rape is decidedly worth the gamble <| sep |> Treasure hunter worth it ? <| sep |> I think i ' m just going to ramble , to take what you will from this and hopefully it will help . You write like my wife talks , so you ' re definitely an ENFP . I ' m an INTJ happily married to an ENFP and our courtship sounds very similar to your situation , so much so that I had to double check your name . She always tells people how dark and mysterious I was and how she was drawn to it . She had to figure me out . I was drawn to her sense of wonder and her intense reactions to things . Even today , I do things withfor her so I can experience her reacting and enjoying the world . During that time , we spent many hours in deep and meaningful conversation about things that mattered to us . For comparison , I find my love languages are primarily Quality Time and Physical Touch . I guess that makes sense since I tend to keep people at arms length , and letting someone in means a lot , I don ' t do it just for anyone . And it feels good just to be with her , whether we are talking or just reading different books in the same room . It seems his relationship with you involves a lot of that . In my opinion , one does not simply play with someone ' s hair . He also values Quality Time with you enough to spend $ 100 and 11 hours on a gross , people filled , bus . As far as emotions go , I ' m sure he has them , they ' re probably just guarded . Since I don ' t know him , I can only really draw from personal experience , so I apologize if things don ' t resonate completely with your situation . For me , personal emotions have a lot to do with being vulnerable . I don ' t really like feeling vulnerable . It scares me , gives me anxiety , to think about telling someone my inner feelings . What if they reject them ? Telling someone , I cried during Hamilton is scary . What if they lol ? What if they look down on me ? Will they treat me different now ? Now every time I will see them for the rest of my life I will have to see them and remember . Renew that vulnerability , that shame , of having my emotions rejected . It doesn ' t make sense . It ' s unrational . It ' s unhealthy . But I run through this so often when i ' m about to share emotions . Example . I ' ve been working on expressing my love to my wife through Words of Affirmation because she really responds to that she needs that affirmation . I wrote a little note on a post it , telling her how much she means to me , and left it on the bathroom for her to get when she woke up . That entire hour before she woke up I was a mess . What if she doesn ' t like it ? What if she thinks it ' s stupid ? Did I use proper grammar ? Was my handwriting legible ? What if she thinks I want something from her ? Does she think I ' m trying to manipulate her ? What if for some illogical reason she doesn ' t feel the same ? She could reject it . what if she doesn ' t see it ? What if she never wakes up ? Why is she taking so long in the bathroom ? . on and on and on . I was supposed to be studying . Instead I had this inner emotional turmoil . Well , she loved it . I was in a crazy NiFi loop for no reason . It seems your friend , with the courage of alcohol , got personal with you , got emotional with you , got vulnerable with you . And that ' s scary see above . After the fact , he probably started NiFi looping again , above and tried to do damage control by writing it off as being drunker than he thought . Look , I ' m not sure what stage of life you and your friend are in , but if you want to explore the idea of a more serious relationship with him , and it Feels right to you , then go for it . You probably will have to be the one to take the first step . If you do , be direct , and be honest . And help him know it ' s safe to be vulnerable with you . Oh , and People seem to consider ENFP INTJ a Power Pair . While it takes work , It does feel that way to us . Anyway , hope this helps .