Wherebouts in the UK are you ? Outside of London , I really feel for SBs at present . There seem to be many more SBs then SDs available on SA . I discussed this with my recently found SB and she was saying the hardest part was sifting out SDs who were looking for one and done . There are definitely a lot of SDs out there offering 200 PPM for a few hours sex really . I suggest you tell pots that you wouldn ' t consider intimacy until you ' re comfortable and know you have a connection . Tell them that you would like 23 vanilla dates without an allowance to get to know them and see how they set those up . Most one and dones won ' t get as far as 2 vanilla dates . And for the pots that do it allows you to gauge their lifestyle and how they will approach the time you spend together .