You two look lovely together <| sep |> I hope your still here <| sep |> You ' re using the incorrect place to look for a definition . The Diagnostic and Statistics Manual V defines substance abuseaddiction with the following Taking the substance in larger amounts or for longer than the you meant to Wanting to cut down or stop using the substance but not managing to Spending a lot of time getting , using , or recovering from use of the substance Cravings and urges to use the substance Not managing to do what you should at work , home or school , because of substance use Continuing to use , even when it causes problems in relationships Giving up important social , occupational or recreational activities because of substance use Using substances again and again , even when it puts the you in danger Continuing to use , even when the you know you have a physical or psychological problem that could have been caused or made worse by the substance Needing more of the substance to get the effect you want tolerance Development of withdrawal symptoms , which can be relieved by taking more of the substance . To say someone has a problem you need 23 of these 11 things present . Which it ' s arguable that Bell has a number of these .