NO ONE TELL THEM ! IT ' S MY SECRET ! MINEE ! jk , I didn ' t downvote . Legit question . <| sep |> They hate us coz they ain ' t us ! <| sep |> This picture says otherwise . <| sep |> yeah i think so , only the very best dancers are entertaining to laymen , its a shame but its reality <| sep |> I ' ve read BTD about 20 times since part 4 started airing <| sep |> can you launch poe as admin if you use steam ? <| sep |> 10 years seems a bit much for tax fraud no ? <| sep |> i played it . it was a good game . <| sep |> How about agreeing to asymmetry in terms of communication ? It sounds like you would prefer to know more about what he ' s been up to than he does you , so how about instead of establishing a ' Don ' t ask , Don ' t tell ', you have a simple ' Do ask , Don ' t tell ' arrangement ? That way there is still honesty if I am asked if I ' ve had sex with anyone , I will tell the truth but there ' s not oversharing . If you fail to ask and later discover something has happened , that ' s on you . Your partner has not broken agreements or cheated by not disclosing anything the onus is always on the asker . In any case , I think you absolutely need some agreements on safer sex practises . ESPECIALLY if you guys do opt for a ' don ' t ask don ' t tell '. Example If you have a standard DADT , and a condom breaks , and one of you needs to wait on sex lab results , and you ' re not ' allowed ' by virtue of your agreements to explain why you can ' t have sex with your partner until Xdate , then things get tricky fast . You might want to talk about exceptions to the zero communication rules for these kinds of situations at least . Personally , I strongly prefer an advanced heads up if sex might be happening , but I definitely require a quick ' just so you know , I had sex with person Y since we last had sex ' chat from my life partner if she hasn ' t already prewarned me it was likely . That ' s because she is the only person I am fully fluid bonded with . For partners I ' m not fluidbonded with , then I trust them to take sensible precautions and let me know if something unprotectedrisky has happened , but I don ' t feel the need to know what crazy antics they have been up to and with whom unless they want to share for some reason .