There are no magic words , because you are dealing with the harsh reality of dealing with a loved one who is trapped in a high control cult . One thing is for sure . Do not live your life to please your mother . That will just keep you guilt ridden and obligated . Savour your freedom . Do whatever you have to do in order to throw them off the scent . You do not have to meet with elders , go out in service or go to meetings . These are all control mechanisms to enforce compliance to cult rules . You do not have to live by those rules . Don ' t give in to them ! Each day that you can be your true self , doing what is right for you , will make you stronger . You can vent here as much as you want . We will be here to encourage and support you . Go and get a decent education . That is vital and necessary nowadays . Hope you feel a bit better and can slog your way through this .