Wife may not go for that . <| sep |> Just a pure principle thing , the worker should always be armed etc <| sep |> Chop up any gauze to fit apparently will do the job <| sep |> Is that what literally shaking looks like ? <| sep |> No , men don ' t universally lose interest , but many do once they have a sure thing , or if they commit and then feel stifled in the relationship . And it ' s very hard to know if that ' s how it will turn out when you first meet them , because that new realtionship energy , as it ' s called , masks the underlying issues until you are already well into loving them . But as you ' ve seen in the replies here , that isn ' t always the case ! I ' m not one to be able to help you avoid it again other than my first bf , I always seemed to pick intelligent , witty , expressive , empathetic guys who had sexual hangups , too . But the thing is , you know this man isn ' t going to suddenly turn around and want you the way you want him . Someone else might . Unless your financial situation is going to change sometime soon , waiting to break up may not be worth it . That ' s your call . But yeah , please don ' t stay if he doesn ' t want you . I stayed with my last intelligent , handsome , witty LL bf . going on 21 years now , most of that time utterly sexless . I don ' t recommend it .