He ' s one of them lefties <| sep |> I smell bullshit . <| sep |> It ' s very difficult to have a workable realtionship with extremely immature people . That , to me , is the problem here your gf is not handling this realtionship in a rational or mature or kind manner . Beyond the sex , which you are not selfish for wanting really , would you put that judgement anyone else ? your gf is not ready to be in a workable realtionship , and as an asexual , if this is true , doesn ' t really need one . She needs a good friend network , not a boyfriend . And regardless of her age she needs to grow up . You do not lie to hurt someone and if you do , you are actually a crappy person for doing it . You ' ve posted before about this , prior to the talk and I suggested counseling , which you say isn ' t feasible . You may have something of a codependent thing going on here or be afraid to break up because of your own mental health issues , but I think you should break up with this person , and find someone who does not lie to you , and who desires you .