That ' s nice and all . but I ' m really curious to see her drawings now . <| sep |> Because of many factors . A his GF is married w kidsB my BF is married w a chronically ill spouse , which is the reason for HIS DB . C I ' m not employed yet ! and am not selfsustaining . D Even if I were , I ' d simply be blowing the kids ' tuition money at this pointE Kids are damn near fledged . Seems like quitting right when you ' re at the finish line . F My BF does not have and does not want kids . Even if he were willing to leave the sick wife A complete dick move in his words , I wouldn ' t want to infict my teenagers on him , nor inflict a lessthanthrilled stepdad on my teenagers . F I will have to be the one to pull the trigger . I ' m the one who ' s unhappy , not him . His needs are being fulfilled . It makes absolutely zero logical sense to throw myself headlong into poverty and drag my two kids with me , and demand child support and alimony . Better for everyone if I ' m gainfully employed for a few years , save up tuition , pay down debt , build an equitable nest egg and split when neither support nor custody is an issue . I ' m teaching the eldest to drive now , so we ' re not talking a long time .