Thank you very much for the tip , I was able to do it with some practice . I don ' t have a 100 % hitrate yet , but am getting better . <| sep |> He has tried many times to leave over the last year and the last time she threatened to kill herself . He ' s now looking at staying for the holidays '' just in case '' and we ' ve all had it . We ' re meeting him tomorrow for a bit of an intervention and I need help to figure out the best way to help him come up with a solid plan to GTFO . They ' ve been together a long time and he cares for her a lot so telling her to fuck off isn ' t an option , but we need him to have an actual plan to combat the manipulation because every time he tries he ends up backing out when she cries and says she ' ll have nothing to live for , and it takes him weeks to work up the courage again . He ' s the victim of her controlling manipulative crap but she somehow convinces him that she is and he puts it off out of guilt and pity . He ' s dying inside and we want to help him stop the cycle now . I need help to help him !