Other people being dicks is not a reflection of your worth as a person . It is a reflection of them being dicks . You will be ok . You will find people that bring you joy if you try . You don ' t have to make any grand pronouncements or reject the people in your life . Simply start looking for people that enjoy the same things you do and respect you and your time . Also , some of this is just some weird societal shit that is happening right now . It ' s like people think that RSVP is a suggestion until something better comes along , but it is all good because they texted 5 minutes before that they aren ' t coming . My brother who has 22 years sober went through this a few years ago . Got a new house , wanted to have a big party . They got a bunch of food . Lots of people RSVPd and then didn ' t show . They had done all this work for nothing . So it is not just you and it is not because you are new in sobriety . I highly value people that do what they say they are going to do . It ' s rare these days .