rescued someone from rapeAny woman who shoots a man coming at her with a knife meaning to rape her is another gunrelated homicide that antigun advocates can cite to advance their agenda . Guns are the great equalizer and the only way a 5 ' 1 105 lb woman like my fiancee would be able to fight back against , say , a 6 ' 0 220 lb aggressor . The biggest problem with guncontrol activists is that none of their data excludes justifiable homicides and most of it includes suicides , too , in order to swell the numbers . <| sep |> You have no unspoken obligations towards them . If she thinks you were taking things further by going into the bedroom that ' s her making assumptions in her world , not you leading her on . Maybe that ' s how she works sh wouldn ' t do that unless she was going to have sex with the guy , but you don ' t work in that way and that ' s very OK and you ' ve got to stand up for that . Else you ' ll feel uncomfortable as you say and a small resentment will start to grow from your side either towards yourself , her or both . Standing up for yourself is maybe the most important thing in keeping a healthy sex relationship . I ' m beginning to do this to and it makes such a fucking difference . Tldr Stand up for yourself man ! You ' re worth it . You ' re not an instrument for her to play out her expectations or a sex toy . Respect yourself . Your feelings are valid and very valuable . Respect yourself . Stand up for yourself . And in this way Love yourself .