Ugh , it ' s $ 15 50 bucks for birth control . IUD ' s are the only expensive stuff . Condoms prevent STD ' s anyway . If a relatively new woman or man in your life , especially one night stands , ever say I forgot the condoms or lets do without that should be a big red flag . <| sep |> Lol wtf happen to the vans ? Forgot to feed the dog ? <| sep |> That ' s interesting , why are these Gods so intent on humans interbreeding ? <| sep |> Jeg kan ikke engang lide ham , og jeg ville synes det var kongesjovt . <| sep |> This is where you are going slightly wrong . Sympathy is not something you give out , it ' s not something that is a resource to be distributed . Sympathy does not enable someone ' s misery , it does not directly contribute to a change their selfishness or irresponsibly , it does not have a function that relates to them , showing sympathy relates only to yourself , in a way . it can be selfish . It ' s your feelings . If you feel no sympathy , how can you even show it ? If you do feel it . If you do show it . When does an irresponsible individual care if you show sympathy ? They are usually more concerned with continued actions that relate to them . because the only way someone can change their habits is by making up their own mind . The mind is strange in that it has separate modes that yet work occasionally together chemicals change emotions , time changes pathways and habits , and reactions . However someone ' s mind can be swayed . over time , with trust and understanding , effort comes after that . You are viewing sympathy as a finite resource , to be traded as necessary , whereas in fact if it were to actually be a resource and not bound by time spent it could theoretically be infinite , depending on the individual . Although it ' s probably very rare that an individual that can empathise with everyone or extremely deeply towards individuals , the next best thing is spending time to show understanding . Sympathy is defined as understanding between people common feeling , and it ' s synonym is empathy . It ' s a feeling . Since we can ' t actually walk in another ' s shoes , the only way to feel more sympathy or empathy for someone is to become closer to them and put mental effort and time into understanding what it ' s like to walk in their shoes . Sympathy that is genuine and authentic shows that you actually have the interest in understanding them and spending time knowing what their daily life , month , year is like and potentially helping them if they were ready to ask for help . It ' s true that some people may be happy doing self destructive things , but others have different ways of showing just how unhappy they may be outside of displays of depression or destructive behavior . You ' re right that most people would not ask or want to ask for help . It ' s seen as burdensome and taking your time away from you . Regardless of that , sympathy given to someone is separate from a reward . Time spent with them , provided they appreciate company , is rewarding to them as it is . Merely exchanging the motions of sympathy is not the same as genuinely feeling it . Also , there ' s no proof that showing sympathy would reinforce or diminish a behavior perceived as negative . but there is a chance above zero for it going either way if time is spent attempting to sway their habits . Showing genuine sympathy for someone means you understand them in a deep manner , in a way that could make your opinion worth listening to . This could be positive in swaying their mind , depending on how stubborn or set in their ways they are . Despite all this . There is no one forcing you to put the effort and time into learning how to understand and maybe eventually , help someone . According to others , the reward in spending that time and energy is a huge risk but could be rewarding not necessarily only for them , but for you as well . Conversely , without them actually changing their mind , and thus their habits , could be detrimental to your mental or eventually physical wellbeing . When people are driven by chemicals , or have strongly developed mental pathways that reinforce destructive habits , it ' s like pushing the boulder uphill . you ' re already suffering with life itself , pushing your own boulder up a hill to survive , why would you do that for someone else too ? Regardless , nobody would see the effort someone spent trying to understand another more deeply as undeserving , unless it is highly detrimental to your own wellbeing .