Because I ' m odd . <| sep |> I ' m gonna kill myself <| sep |> Now are you suggesting Putin sent KGB agents and tampered the election in MIYou think the Kremlin doesn ' t have agents and spies in the US ? And that those agents can ' t afford a flash drive and don ' t know how to watch how to hack X voting machine videos on Youtube ? Newsflash . we have spies and secret agents in Russia , Russia has spies and agents here . And all the information on how to hack specific models of voting machines is all over Youtube . <| sep |> kd lobbbb for andre <| sep |> Among other things that happen when you start dating , you are both sizing each other up as to what you want from a partner . And there can be hiding or disguising of a person ' s real intentions when dating . This is where is gets a bit more . situational , especially once you get into your 30 s and 40 s and beyond . There , unfortunately perhaps , has been and still is a school of thought to use sex , or the lurepromise of it to get as much as you can from the other person . Most guys want a partner who is honestly attracted to them , and genuinely likes being physical and having sex with them as an end unto itself . An most guys have had , at one time or another , experience with a woman using unfulfilled promises of attraction to get what they wanted , even if was just someone to do that 11 th grade research paper for them . I can see the mindset of trying to cut to the chase and find out is her MO to play games with me , or is really into me ? That said , what many other posters are saying holds don ' t go any any faster than you want to , and it ' s ok that it is all situationdependent . If you ' re going to , even if it takes quite a few dates , it should be obvious from your interactions that the energy and desire is there and things just need to take their course first . Most guys worth the trouble can see that and will be cool with it . If you start dropping hints about how bills kill your libido and how you really need figure out how the rent will get paid next month . well , don ' t be shocked if they don ' t call back . Now , being completely serious , when I was dating postdivorce in my early 40 s , I encountered the whole range from ' I don ' t care , I just want a FWB ' to ' I ' m looking for guy to pay my way and let me quit working you pay and I ' ll play '. I think it ' s less of an issue for the under 25 crowd , but as a guy . it ' s out there .