Fun post ! DOverthinking relationships . Been hitting it from the angle of detached love and direct confrontation . Crushing on someone ? Let em know straight out . Don ' t attach myself to expectation with them . Bad or good . Not interested in me ? Eh . Okay . Hope we can stay friends . Are interested ? Cool . Let ' s see where it goes . Interested but unsure ? Alright . Well , they know now , ball ' s in their court , and they can figure it out in their own time . This sacrifices the oxytocin rush of crushing on someone , but the personal payoff is crucial . Oxytocin can come later , if we do get involved . The payoff is becoming a resilient , secure badass that obsesses much less and doesn ' t come across as needy which is more attractive to others , anyway .