My best friend is morbidly obese , and so is his girlfriend . I ' m single , recently lost 85 lbs six foot three , went from 295 down to 210 in two years of work and healthy eating , and they got extremely pissed when I turned down a date with her best friend because she is morbidly obese like her . I told them flat out that is was nothing against her personality , she ' s incredibly cool and loving , but I ' m not physically attracted to fat women in general . So of course , because I was truthful with her , I ' m suddenly made to feel guilty and shallow . It ' s such a stupid way of thinking that I let the whole incident go and kept hanging out with both parties best friends and their friend but never bothered arguing my side of it , just let them call me shallow .