Good on you sweetheart . For me . it was my grandma . She ' s my ride or die ! Haha . <| sep |> I held the nets in the first moments challenge to 8 points . They were scoreless the first half . Little unfair for the CPU . Lol <| sep |> And I am not a person who could be content to coexist in a lesser role with someone who , as you point out , has the power to kill me at will . Does he necessarily have to exist in a lesser role ? Architect I ' m getting a LOT of vibes off this that make me very uneasy . All this time , you ' ve been talking about what he is in relation to you and what you want from him . There ' s no talk of what he wants , and the way you speak of him makes me sense that you don ' t truly see him as someone worth giving equal respect to . You see him as a thing that can provide something to you . If you really want to negotiate with him , if you want to be allies in life instead of locking him away , you have to break out of this mindset . You have to be willing to give as well as get . Recognize that this goes beyond youthat if he is a part , then you are too , and you are not inherently superior to him . amnotsarah Begin by acknowledging that . Then ask him what he wants , and negotiate from there as equals . No threats . No I will kill you if you don ' t agree . If you need to , look up advice for sorting through disagreements , it applies here as well . Also , some links for you Some DID info . More DID info . General multiplicity selfhelp . Refer also to the link I posted earlier . d . org Finding a specialist for dissociative disorders .