Truth . I was bullied at church because I didn ' t have an iPod when they came out . Later became homeless and stopped existing altogether apparently . If you can ' t pay your tithing , or your 10 % is not a lot , nobody can be bothered to know you . Everything ' s fine now , despite having not paid tithing for a great many years and occasionally wearing spaghetti straps . <| sep |> I have dealt with something similar to this . It really comes down to men and women not a having the same perception of sex with each other . As a man I think we are at a disadvantage because in media we are depicted as insatiable when it comes to sex . The reality is we sometimes don ' t feel like it or we are in moods or we just have shit going on . It ' s hard to change this perception . So when we are having sex with our SO they immediately think something is up because the world tells them that something must be wrong with them because their SO isn ' t chasing them around the house trying to get them in the bedroom . It ' s a viscous pattern . Just continue to communicate and reassure her everything is fine . What would she like to have happen ? What do you want ? It ' s entirely possible you are sexually incompatible with each other and that ' s OK too . Does she view sex as a means to validate her looks ? I think that would be a bad thing .