Have any of you dated an Anna Lu or an Uncle Chan ? I wanna hear about your experiences ! Here ' s my personal experience that I hope you younger Asian males can take as a lesson . Tldr Dated a mentally colonized Anna Lu for 2 months , waste of time , money , added unnecessary stress to me and constantly felt disrespected . But most importantly it took away time I could use to hang out with friends to strengthen bonds . I dated this Anna Lu for 2 months . In her past she dated 5 white guys . All of them were yellow fever and societal rejects . They ranged from unemployed junkie , fat guy , socially awkward skinny guy and so on . Some were even abusive . Then she met me ! Silly naive me thought I could change her preference , win here over , it was going quite well at first . Afterall , I figured she must have been raised wrong and never had any Asian influences in her life , hence her preference for white guys . Oh how wrong I was . At first it went well . We would go on fun dates , stay up late all night talking to each other , typical couple stuff . Even going on grocery trips to the local Asian grocery store and cooking food from my culture . However , there were some red flags that I completely ignored because I thought she would be an exception . But I guarantee everything you read about Anna Lus are true . I wish I believed what I read on here sooner . One of the red flags are , she said I was her first Asian guy and that she never dated an Asian before . Another red flag is that she kept all the photos of her white boyfriends and kept comparing me to them . She also only had mostly white friends and said things like she believes in abandoning the Asian culture and adopting a more progressive western one . bullshit because western culture isnt progressive . She also talked bad about Asian countries all the time . One day , we had a talk about culture and upbringing . Apparently she had a good upbringing , really well off family , both parents had a good job . But she straight up says she hates Asian culture and that she wants to move away from it . She also got really annoyed and started an arguement with me for following values and teachings that were taught to me and how I am proud of who I am . She then said that my culture is shit and Asian culture in general is complete shit . figured thats why she dated white guys in the past to gain validation from whites . That is when the truth finally hit me . She was a mentally colonized Anna Lu . I decided to end that shit fast . Plus I hated the way she talked about my people . Looking back on it I had to work 100 times harder just to be with her compared to those low quality white guys vs Asian guy with good career who she spread her legs for easily just because they are white . I was taught to never judge a woman for her past dating experience hence why I was with the colonized trash . My lesson for you all is don ' t end up like me . I wasted time and money on mentally colonized trash . My advice for you is to read around here and don ' t fall into the same trap I did . The place here describes mentally colonized people perfectly . To all readers here . Male or female . Never settle being the back up plan for someone . You ' re better than that . Go with your gut feeling and don ' t ignore the red flags like I did .