Those switches triggered my ptsd . <| sep |> Always someone there before me . <| sep |> Can you explain what this actually means ? A lot of people say it , but I truly don ' t understand . Why did these people think that voting for Donald would make people stop calling them racist , sexist , etc ? Genuinely asking because it doesn ' t make any sense . <| sep |> I ' ve heard of parents doing # 3 for kids who go back to live at home after graduating college , when they need a place to stay for cheap if they are still looking for a job or trying to find a place , and then it ' s a little extra cash to get them started . I ' ve had friends who had to pay for a phone bill out of pocket or their car insurance because their families couldn ' t afford to foot the bill , but your son should be able to live in his home for free . I think the resentment he ' ll have for having to pay rent will outweigh the bonus money when he moves out . His friends will think it ' s crazy that he has to pay rent , and he ' ll be confused when they don ' t have to pay rent . If he has to pay 1015 % to savings and even more money to pay rent , he ' s working a job and pocketing very little of the money for stuff he wants , like games or dates in high school or saving for big stuff , like a car . I know the real world has people pretty strapped for cash , but he should enjoy at least some of the money as he ' s making it and choose on his own how to spend it . It ' s okay to live in the moment a little if he ' s always saving for the future and never spending a penny , what ' s the point of even having money ? I ' m just a college kid , so take my advice with a grain of salt , but I think your advice will be heard , without having to look over his shoulder and balance his checkbook . Honestly , the best time for him to make financial mistakes is now , before he ' s on his own . It ' s way better for him to overspend money and not be able to afford the next big video game release than it is to not be able to make rent or bills in the real world because he bought a new iPad Pro or whatever . You can give him advice , but let him decide how to spend the money and respect how he spends it . He earned it , after all . My family always gave me a dollar when I went out to eat with them and ordered a water instead of a soda . They said they would use the dollar either way , to buy the soda or to give to me . Now , as an adult , I don ' t pay $ 12 for a soda when I ' m out because the lesson stuck with me . A soda isn ' t really worth the dollar or more that it costs . My boyfriend ' s mom buys a soda at a convenience store every morning , even though she ' s leaving her house where they have soda ? !, so she ' s paying way more for the convenience . He buys drinks whenever he ' s thirsty , but I plan ahead and bring a soda from my fridge if I ' m driving somewhere . If I was reprimanded for impulse buys , it wouldn ' t have the same effect on me . Since my parents included me on ordering drinks at restaurants and talked to me about how much cheaper it is to buy drinks in bulk than routinely paying a vending machine to be the middle man , the lessons stuck because I realized that a stupid impulse buy like a soda isn ' t going to last very long and doesn ' t really provide value at the end of the day .