Maybe my problem is I don ' t try . I expect girls to flock to me instead of pursuing them . <| sep |> As someone who started on DaS 2 , the first thing you have to do is chill . The more frustrated you get , the worse off you ' ll be . Here are some basic tips , first , buy that key off that old hag by the fire pit in Forest . It unlocks the blacksmith in Majula . From him , you want to buy the mace . You might have found the morning star on your way to the town , but it doesn ' t do enough poise damage . Take that mace , and start upgrading it to 10 . You ' ll also need a shield , for which your only real option is the tower shield that the merchant sells in town . Don ' t bother upgrading that . After that , just learn to rely on blocking a lot more than you do on rolling . Rolling is still essential , especially with hard hitting bosses , but you ' ll definitely need to bring your agility up to make it effective .