. and you can only change your name once . I believe you can change your name several times , but if you want to do it more than once you have to pay a rather excessive administrative fee . The first time you change your name is free . <| sep |> Wrong use of words sorry PI meant , to freely swap arcanes , just like you can swap mods . <| sep |> Yeah , it ' s a bit out of the blue , but she has a feeling she knows why you ' re asking . I ' m muggleborn . So you don ' t have to worry . she adds that last bit with a small smile . <| sep |> I think you ' re doing a good job of putting yourself in your boyfriend ' s shoes . I agree , that feelings can develop for many people at the same time . The concern mainly lies in whether you guys have decided to be monogamous . While you were able to remove yourself after realizing the extent of your feelings , I believe you should be able to figure out a crush much earlier the next time it ' s possible , which is before love type feelings would develop . Basically , feelings are illogical and you can ' t ever prevent them from happening in the first place what you can do is identify where boundaries were crossed , and figure it out immediate when your feelings for a new person are not platonic . If your main goal is to put your long term relationship above other relationships ie monogamous then it ' s important to keep people you ' re attracted to at a distance . So , no close friendships with people you ' re attracted to . Trust is earned by actions , versus intentions . Now you guys know that becoming close friends with someone you ' re sexual attracted to can develop into a crush quite easily , and crushes can grow if you continue to pursue a relationship with them into actual feelings . Crushes are meaningless ad forgivable , but if you continue that relationship then you are allowing yourself to fall in love . Now , if that ' s OK with you and your bf , then you might look into polyamory . There ' s nobody but you two that can decide what works for you guys .