I ' m black , French , Native American , Irish , and Mexican . Mom is Mexican and dad is everything else . My mom ' s side of the family those living in the US identifies as Mexican and my dad ' s side of the family identifies as blackcreole . Me ? I don ' t feel any strong connection to any specific part and not really see a need or reason for me to . I ' m mixed , but I pretty much identify as American . Overall , I ' m me which I think of as the combination of the most important parts of me , which I don ' t really think my raceethnicity is that big of a part of what makes me me . I think it ' s like my eye color or shoe size , I don ' t think about it unless it ' s brought up or relevant to what I ' m doing at the moment . My advice to you and people in generaljust do you . If you want to learn more about your culture , or any culture , just do it for you and try not to let other people ' s thoughts discourage you , or more importantly , feel that you have to dobeknowidentify as something because of others ' expectations . I ' m living in Japan and started learning Japanese before high school not because I ' m Japanese , but because I wanted to learn the language . Most of my close friends in high school were Korean American not because they were Korean or I wasn ' t , but because I liked them and wanted to hang with them . My parents forced me to take Spanish in high school because my Spanish wasn ' t that great and my mom said that I should know how to speak Spanish better because I ' m Mexican around the age of seven I refused to use Spanish because my mom kept trying to push it on me , but after a year I told them that I wasn ' t going to take Spanish anymore and eventually they caved . My dad likes RB , my paternal cousins like hip hop and rap , my mom likes English and Spanish pop , and I like hard rock . You don ' t need to prove anything to anyone . If you ' re interested in something culturally or otherwise just go for it , and don ' t let others dictate how you live your life . One of my favorite authors said in response to who does she write for I write for me . If you try to write for more than one person , you ' re never going to please everybody so might as well not try . I would love to get to know my Malaysian heritage but wouldnt know how to start . ~~ I would never fit in anyway . ~~ That ' s all that ' s important and all that should matter . If you love something and want to do something , then go for it . You may or may not fit in , you may or may not have good experiences , you may or may not have the best time of your life doing it . Maybe they ' ll accept you , maybe they won ' t , but even if the result isn ' t what you wanted , there may be valuable things you pick up along the way , and maybe you will find people who will accept you and make you feel included . My favorite lines from my life ' s songI ' m through accepting limits ' cause someone says they ' re so . Some things I cannot change but ' till I try I ' ll never know . Too long I ' ve been afraid of losing love I guess I ' ve lost . Well if that ' s love it comes at much too high a cost . So soon I ' ll try defying gravity . Kiss me goodbye I ' m defying gravity . And you can ' t pull me down .