I ' m in the middle of a divorce from an abusive wife . As you said , I didn ' t fully realize how bad it was until my attorney started asking me questions about our marriage . Initially I didn ' t mind her manipulation because it didn ' t work , then as the 10 years rolled by she crept into a position of power over me until I couldn ' t breathe . I have pretty bad claustrophobia . Shitty self esteem now . ED that was the straw that broke the camel ' s back , she accused me of having an affair when I couldn ' t get it up . I am afraid she will get custody of our 10 year old son , but I feel strongly he will very soon leave her and come live with me . <| sep |> Why did nobody mention Order of the Lotus ? that Skin oder looks so nice and we still only have Karma and Irelia