especially when it ' s tagged as spoiler and you have to click on the image again because it warns you about spoilers <| sep |> Male I ' ve been sexually harassed many times at work . It never really clicked with me until after I got home oh , that ' s what being sexually harassed is . I didn ' t feel good about it , made me kind of nervous during the conversation , but knowing I generally won ' t see the customer again makes me more at ease about it . I ' ve gotten my crotch groped , and offered many different variations of sex . After I decline some times I will get called some form of a homosexual , or be referred to as generally less of a man than what is adequate for their liking small penis , bitch , pussy , etc . I just shrug at most of it . I ' m honestly not even mad about it . Granted it doesn ' t happen to me everyday I walk out my house , but once every 2 months is a fair approximation combined with many positive encounters of welcome compliments on a more weekly basis . I kind of save those bad encounters for mental posterity What can I say ? I just drive the lady folk wild like that . The thought of a faded ego that seeks rejuvenation . At its base level it is just nice to know you are found attractive . I imagine it ' s the difference of frequency . After a certain point the constant interference of sexual proposition can hinder one ' s quality of life . I have never been past that threshold . However , I ' ve come to a point where compliments aimed at physical appearance result in a very low yield of gratification . A compliment on my looks could monetarily equate to something of 0 . 250 . 50 cents where as you complimenting me on my knowledge base , my fashion sense , my communication skills will be far more rewarding to me as something monetarily equal to the ability to purchase something of practical use . I generally still agree with the OP ' s quoted statement . I make an effort to give credit where it ' s due . If I see someone , regardless of gender , dressed nicely I tend to compliment them on it . It reinforces good behavior and it provides the recipient with confidence with literally no additive associated burden . Or perhaps when I am genuinely impressed by someone who clearly knows what they are talking about on a subject I will give them credit , Wow , you really know all about this . I didn ' t know you were so passionate about . segue into conversation This concept stems from a child rearing logic I read about once . The core thought approximates to this , It ' s better to compliment a child on how hard they have worked to accrue good grades in school , than to compliment them on how intuitively smart they are . This reinforces the positive behavior of applying effort to reap rewards , as opposed to naturally acquiring things without any real deliberations . So in complimenting someone in a romantic circumstance , I see it as a greater benefit to compliment them on something they ' ve worked on rather than hollow comments of you are so attractive . Incidentally these are the same compliments that grab my own attention . Flattery does not get you everywhere , but it will take you some where . Hopefully where you want to go .