You can definitely ask for advice blindly to the world , and people , esp INFJs might have some great pieces at that but at the end of the day none of these people know you or them or your entire situation and ultimately the decision comes down to you . People giving you advice based on their previous experiences is projection and not necessarily relevant to you . What do you want , how deeply do you care for this person ? <| sep |> For a second i was thinking why the hell would Bayern fans want an exdortmund player to do well . I got it . <| sep |> Prescriptions are free in Scotland . I enjoy being Scottish . <| sep |> It ' s elephants all the way down . Seriously , this is a question that bends your brain when you think about it too long .