I hate the gynecologist . My doctor is lovely , but I just hate the exam . I get anxious to the point that I can ' t concentrate on anything else all day till my exam . At the facility , I ' m very physically panicky . And the exam itself is downright intensely painful . And I get what my obgyn means by me being the cause of the tightness . I do . But it ' s difficult to relax when I ' m in pain even when I know the pain will subside when I relax . Now she wants me to get a transvaginal sonogram , and just reading about the procedure is freaking me out . I ' m really unsure how I ' m going to get it done at this point . I ' d like to get it done for the sake of my health , but the pain is way too much even for someone like me . Anyone have this much anxiety ? How did you prep for it ? Are there workarounds ?