I ' m going on and off of here until 2 , which is when it ' s released where I live then I ' m watching it all probably <| sep |> That ' s the point you can ' t produce milk when stressed . Childbirth and pregnancy secrete hormones that make you want to relaaaaaax . So you sit and do nothing but eat , bf , talk to friends or relatives and generally go about your day but not like the high schooler or kid you once were . I developed heart problems in my third pregnancy because of ongoing complications in my personal life . A year later it ' s hard to breathe and if I get stressed my body shuts down . Hormones exist for a reason . Our bodies need breaks , childbirth , pregnancy and lactating are one of the most draining activities . Sorry to make a strawman argument . My point is that for me , three babies and two bf ' ing rounds in , it ' s clear to me why we have to say no to the holiday rush . My MIL is becoming a pain in the arse because she wants to see us but refuses to accept my natural protective and mothering instincts . It ' s just her cycle is over and mine is beginning .