To be honest , unwanted attention is pretty rare and as long as no is no , I ' m good . It ' s even kind of flattering to have guys younger than myself checking me out and have the husband send death glares their way . You know , part of my weight loss is in fact the last big fuck you towards that asshole that forced himself on a 14 yo . I forced myself to not be scared of so many things , when I noticed , how much power , I allowed him to have over my life . He isn ' t worth any of it ! So , this is my life . This is my body . And I ' ll do with it what I want . And yes , like you , I want to look pretty . That ' s about 50 % of my motivation . The remaining half is health . <| sep |> I hope he stays in korea too . Western teams and China ruin Koreans