You ' re quite welcome Molly , happy Turkey day ! <| sep |> Ah i know this feeling bud . Im sorry . Personally afer a breakup , besides work out , i play video games , read books , and hang out with friends . I also journal and come here to help people who remind me of me , and you sound exactly like me . Its ok to feel anger . Its ok to feel hate . Feel them . People will try to tell you its not healthy . People will try to tell you not to demonize them . But honestly . we are all here to look out for # 1 . Thats why the break up occurred right ? Because someone was looking out for # 1 ? And they cared more about # 1 than the other person ? And so for me , if i can find fault within them , i focus on it and use it . For some people , it helps to be angry . Especially if you have good reason to . For example my last relationship failed because she didnt try and probably cheated on me . Im not saying this to demonize her . Im saying this because its true . Because saying it makes it real , and as much as i didnt want to believe it , i had to accept it . I didnt want to accept that she just fell out of love with me . I didnt want to accept that she thought we were incompatible . Ive been in a real incompatible relationship . I know true incompatibility . It hurt to know that she was wrong . I wanted to go and talk to her . I wanted to go and correct her . I just wanted to tell her how i felt . But ive learned that theres no point fighting for someone who wont fight for you . And she had proved several times that she would not fight for me . But i forced myself to accept it . And being angry at her made it easier . Also talk to your friends . They will let you know if they are real friends if you have your head on straight . My council of freinds let me know it was ok to be mad at her , so i allowed myself to feel anger . THAT BEING SAID when your head is clear and you will have moments of clarity analyze the relationship . Take responsibility for your wrongs . Take your licks and move on .