I thought 12 year olds weren ' t allowed on this sub ? <| sep |> Is today a gay rights day ? I ' m asking because of Crane ' s arm bandage . <| sep |> There is something terrifying about the mindset of many on here ER stuff and speaking from my own personal experience , the times when I felt like I had no choices and I was a failure , no matter what , turned me into an angry and bitter person for a long time . I turned that anger inward while you seem to push yours out , but it ' s the same . That is what makes me want to learn all I can . My family was spectacularly abusive , actually , and sometimes I don ' t always recognize emotional neglect or helicopter parenting until my spouse points it out . I ' m not here to point at you and hurt you . I know you are hurting already . In fact , what is awesome about this is you know you aren ' t alone .