I am so sorry that you have to deal with this . This is a tough situation for everyone involved . Somebody commented earlier to say that this is a matter of what you wantwhat you can live with , and I think they ' re right . I think giving your friend the numbers of shelters for abuse victims is the very least you can do , but if you don ' t think you canwant to deal with getting her out of this , then you are entitled to cut this out of your life . Ultimately , though , it ' s up to you to decide what you want and what you can or cannot do for her . You should also be aware that deciding that you don ' t want to deal with it won ' t affect Chad ' s decision of whether or not to bother you , so you should prepare for that in any way you can .