Guys , this doesn ' t deserve downvoting . A lot of this ultimately boils down to how you define person . If you define person in the sense of the contents of a single physical brain , then tulpas are not people . If you define person in the sense of an abstract entity with their own thoughts , feelings , sense of self , and subjective experiences , then tulpas are people . I use the second definition when I say that tulpas are people . Most in this community do so . I don ' t think anyone here ' s ever meant the first when they say that tulpas are people . Also , being a part and a definitiontwoperson are not mutually exclusive . Greater plurality has a term for this , called medianhood , used to describe groups who are more fused in the way you describe . More aspects of one , than several . The important thing is remembering that the host is as much a part as the tulpa . amnotsarah And to not push the you are a part of your host narrative on all tulpas . It ' s a spectrum of existence , not only a difference in opinion . So I ' m not going to yell at you for holding that view . I mainly get cheesed when hosts use it as a way to claim that their tulpas are just parts and aren ' t worth respect , or when they conclude that just because their tulpas feel that way , every tulpa does and the ones that do are some sort of sick deviation , no pun intended . One half of my own headgroup but not the other half , who are much more strongly themselves operates as more of a somewhat unruly gestalt than a collective , to the point that we ' re fine being addressed as and posing as a singular entity . Falunel isn ' t one person , hasn ' t been for a while now . uFreyasSpirit is another group who considers themselves both individuals and parts of a whole . Also for the record , this is my track record on my beliefs re tulpas . Believed they were parts of the host when starting out , then changed to believing they were wholly separate entities within the brain , currently am of the belief that it ' s a spectrum between the two with most falling somewhere inbetween , and that even if they aren ' t completely and wholly separate , they ' re separate enough to be definitiontwopeople and worthy of basic respect . Likewise , folks in my own system have seen their senses of self and goals change over time , with some choosing to fall back and live quietly while others became more ambitious , and hungry for the chance to make their own marks on the world . It honestly really is like physical peopleyou have personalities that correspond to homemakers , small artists , activists , CEOs , and everything inbetween . No one ' s the same , and there ' s no shame in being the homemaking type instead of a CEO . To answer your question honestly , the reason why others can ' t do what you ' ve described is because they don ' t live in the same brain as you . It ' s sort of like asking well , why can ' t this person in the next city over turn off my lights ? They don ' t have access to the interface to do that . Simple as that . As for how it worksno one knows . Common theme in brain things , the brain houses as many mysteries as the solar system and not even the people devoted to studying it can agree on what they find . Science isn ' t a neat , orderly pantheon , but a bunch of arguing , biased humans . The beauty in it is that we still find things of use regardless . If I HAD to venture a guess , I ' d attribute it to a form of blending together . She feels happy and calm , you don ' tshe brings her own mind forward , a bit like what happens in possession without the bodily control , and overwrites those unhappy feelings with her own . Or she causes you to dissociate from those feelings by pushing your mind out just enough to take the edge off them . Or it ' s basically a combination of placebo and conditioning , where your brain learns to associate producing certain feelings with certain commands given to her in the same way it associates certain reactions with physical stimuli , and she learns how to manipulate those associations . The last thing can be done with physical individuals as wella count to five will snap me out of most funks now , whether the person counting is inside of this head or out . Many therapists will also teach these grounding methods . Then there ' s the s o m e w h a t r e l a t e d b u t notrelatedenoughtodiscuss topic of hypnosis . Ask for the specific brain parts , though , and I doubt anyone can give you that answer . Heck , no one even fully understands how Tylenol works . All we know is that eating it does these things to us , and it ' s useful enough that we ' re willing to use it without having to understand the minutae . If I remember correctly , it was also invented by accident from some kind of tar residue EDIT coal tar , the stuff found in cigarettes , and the scientist tested it on himself . Welcome to science , folks , I promise we ' re not all like that . But yeah . Do what comes to you both and don ' t fret about mechanics . Unless you find it fun to .