My psych thinks she has borderline personality disorder , and it makes it really difficult to discuss anything with her because she takes it all so personally or gets immediately overwhelmed and tumbles into a depressivenihilistic state for a few days . Well , first of all , there ' s rBPD , which may be worth a visit for you . As for supporting her through depressive episodes , this video 1 Evwgu 369 Jw should be of great help . I just have not had motivation for much the last few weeks and I constantly am fighting with myself over feeling guilty about all these things I should be doingdoing better . I just feel lazy I guess . Tip Try to accept where you are , not where you should be . Things could always be better . Other then that , is there something specific that ' s eliminating your motivation ? So things I am struggling to balance are that I want to make sure I am spending quality time with my kids , especially my son as he ' s with me most days . The issue I ' ve run into lately is that because I work so late , I am exhausted in the morning and doing anything is a big chore . He ends up watching cartoons for the better part of the morning and is the pickiest eater I ' ve met so I am always thinking about if he is getting the nutrition I think he needs , and beating myself up because I am not feeding him properly or doing enough with him . rParenting might be more suited for advice here , but . aren ' t you by any chance being a bit too lose about this ? I can ' t tell your parenting dynamic from here , nor am I an expert in parenting , but that ' s what my first thought was upon reading this . I had been thinking exercise would really help , but I just have not been diligent to do it for more than I few days . I ' d really like to do yoga in the morning and then ride my stationary bike . I have been eating garbage and while I am not fat , I am always thinking about how harmful it is and feeling guilty over it . Ironically , I often just don ' t care . Food is comfort , but logically I know I am not being healthy . Take things one step at a time . Rome wasn ' t build in a day , and health isn ' t either . Try to force yourself to eat healthyexercise once every threefive days to start with , then build up from there . You can constantly ' think ' about doing this , and feel the satisfaction from that , but by doing so it can be easy to fall into the trap of feeling the satisfaction from things you won ' t achieve , and then get frustrated by it , doing nothing in the end . I want to excel in school , but it always feels like I am only ever able to focus on it for so long because something else is demanding my attentionmore interesting . I think this is just a matter of being new to school and not disciplined , but I really want to succeed . I was always a DC student in high school and my goal is to be on honor roll when I graduate . Same here . Aren ' t you a bit to hard on yourself ? It ' s okay to not be perfect . I really don ' t want my relationship with my wife to fail . We ' ve been together 11 years , since high school , and I have realized through therapy that we have developed a terribly codependent relationship . One of us are always in the midst of a depression and trying to help the other one out . I have been trying to stop some of the unhealthy habits we ' ve formed , but I fear it ' s created a distance between us . She gets very hurt and offended if I suggest something between us is right , and rather than try to work on it , she tends to blame herself which I think might be subtle manipulation and fall into a steep depression . That could definitely be borderline . which is not easy . Sorry , but I don ' t think I ' m equipped for helping you on that front . That ' s incredibly difficult . There are a bunch of little things that have been really stressful like keeping the house clean , staying on top of things with the kids , and just being a stay at home dad in general . I think the house always being a disaster has a pretty big impact on how I am feeling . It makes me anxious and I can ' t focus on anything until it ' s at least a little tidy . My kids are obviously a big part of the issue there , but my wife is nearly completely unhelpful when it comes to cleaning . We ' ve discussed strategies many times , but they always fall through and it upsets me that things are just left out with no attempt at even trying to stay organized . Again , I think that you put too high expectations from the getgo . Your entire post reflects many promises you feel the need to uphold , but can you really do them ? I also have PTSD and SADS if that is relevant at all . Oh , btw , I have two incredibly difficult disorders . Then it ' s pretty amazing that you are functioning while having all of this . That ' s amazing . No really , give yourself a pat on the back for that . That really , really isn ' t easy .