Thanks , you too . <| sep |> It is my understanding that couples therapy is to find the best solution . Hopefully it is a way to make the marriage work for all parties . However , sometimes the best solution would be to divorce . You have gone through a lot . Infertility treatments and losses are really , really hard on a person and doubly so on a marriage . It ' s no wonder that both of you are still reeling from it , and most especially the loss of your twins . But be advised , I think a lot of people think divorce and the process of it will be a breeze compared to what they are experiencing in their marriages . It ' s not . It ' s a whole nother layer of hell , my friend . I ' m not saying that divorce isn ' t an option and can be the best option I am saying it is emotionally and financially hell . Keep up with your individual therapy , and don ' t be afraid of going on anti depressents if needed .