What do u want <| sep |> except that that ' s not a good enough reason not to tell someone the whole truth . sure , some people might reject her we all have to live with rejection , but there exist people that wouldn ' t and would be very willing to go out with her . so there is no reason to withhold anything . i mean if the goal is a longterm relationship , you ' re stacking the odds against yourself if you ' re being deceitful from the outset . if a person is willing to give it a try and maybe go outside their previous experience , you let them decide to do it . you don ' t force it on people . what ' s the longterm consequence if more trans people were to do this in large numbers ? only a growing since of mistrust , there is no net positive to it . you ' re acting like there was a need to do this , when it was only her want . there was no need . dating is like fishing . this guy came a long and there was a nibble , but there are plenty of fish in the sea . don ' t get salty if you aren ' t successful on your first try and you don ' t need to lie or hide anything along the way .