If it comes to that we would be basically in a dictatorship , so we would only have to options comply or fight . <| sep |> I announced the day before Thanksgiving , and that night husband ' s cousin came down the a nasty virus , and mentioned that there would be a pregnant person at Thanksgiving . His Dr said that for that reason alone he shouldn ' t come , so his mom came by to make him a plate and take home . If he hadn ' t known I was pregnant , he might have tried to stop by . Military he ' s not truly sick unless he ' s dying . I felt sad that I was the reason he didn ' t join us for the holiday , but honestly ? With a 103 fever for 12 hours , you shouldn ' t be going anywhere anyway , it ' s not like I ' m the only one who doesn ' t want to catch that . Then my MIL announced my pregnancy on facebook without asking us , when I haven ' t even told my grandparents and all of my friends yet , with little comments like they ' re still young but I guess that ' s life , and it was totally about her , but what can you do ? Hope everyone had a happy Thanksgiving !