Thank you so much I was so worried about posting this because I thought I ' d get so much negative feedback about him when he really is a wonderful person who just has a problem with addiction . It was a huge relief to read this , which not only provides a lot of constructive help , but is also quite sympathetic and understanding towards the situation . I think my issue is that I ' m not an assertive person , i find it really , really hard to put someone in that sort of position because it will hurt them at the time . However , now I see it will help him in the long run . My follow up question , if you do have time on your hands to answer , is how do I approach this ? Obviously six months isn ' t a terribly long time , and while I do love him I haven ' t told him this yet , I don ' t feel as though I have the right to influence and change his life . His friends , while very lovely people , are in a similar drugorientated mindset , and I feel as though if I did ask him to cut down it might alienate him from his friends . Or , even worse , he may continue to do MDMA on a weekend basis and not tell me , because he doesn ' t want to worryhurt me .