Let me ask you a question . Have you ever known someone who survived a traumatic event ? I ' ll use the example of a combat veteran who saw and experienced terrible things in a war . If you have , then think about that person for a minute and tell me whether they immediately tell people all about it shortly after meeting for the first time . I ' ve known a few old veterans who saw action in WWII and Vietnam . None of them liked to talk about it . To a man they all agreed than anyone who bragged about seeing the sorts of things they saw , were making it up . Likewise , some woman who gleefully tells you in great detail how her last three ex boyfriends beat the shit out of her , killed her hamster raped her , etc . is more than a little suspicious . People don ' t like to relive traumatic memories . They do however enjoy the attention . I don ' t claim that abuse never occurs , and that a woman who has been beaten senseless by some chad is irredeemable , but I ' d avoid any girl who immediately volunteered the info .