But then everyone would change his life over and over and over and over . <| sep |> Good ! If he leaves a neg come on back and talk to us . <| sep |> I guess Kansas , Arkansas , and North Dakota can go fuck themselves . <| sep |> Here ' s a different perspectiveI ' ve been in your girlfriend ' s shoes before though I never told my partner they had to suck it up and have sex with me when they didn ' t want to . It ' s really hard when you feel so much passion for someone and they don ' t seem to feel it back . Maybe it ' s not so much about the frequency of the sex but the passion involved . For starters , if you ' re just feeling meh about sex as opposed to really not into it try saying yes from time to time . It really is true that the more you have it the more you want it . Secondly , if you want sex twice a week make damn sure that those twice weekly encounters are the most fucking intense thing you ' ve ever done . Show her that you want her ! ! I can ' t stress this enough . Grab her and rip her clothes off as soon as she walks in the door , throw her on the bed when she steps out of the shower because she looks so good in a towel that you just can ' t help yourself . Make her feel like you can ' t keep your hands off of her . That last sentence goes for more than just sex too . Show her that every day ! Check out her body when she changes in front of you , tell her how good she looks in her clothes , grab her ass if she ' s into that in a non predatory way when she ' s standing in front of you . If she ' s doing something that involves her hands like cooking or dishes not when she ' s holding knives wrap your arms around her and press up against her and kiss her neck . Become more physically affectionate and she will feel more wanted and sexy . Edit I should add , try and get this resolved sooner rather than later . Eventually not feeling wanted takes a big toll on someone . I was in your girlfriends shoes and it took so long to fix that now the roles have kind of reversed . I ' m in the mood a lot less like once every two weeks and my partner is missing our once frequent sex life . We ' re working on it now and it ' s improving but it ' s really hard to get over not feeling passion towards you , feeling like your partner isn ' t really interested .