I really love these <| sep |> Ug I did that with 315 and I thougjt death was imminent , I did like 5 or 6 sets at that weight not all 10 <| sep |> My condolences to your husband . I don ' t need to give the litany of how being distraught causes all kinds of unexpected behaviors RC . I also don ' t need to bloviate about the likelihood any of it is permanent . What I will say is that he ' s engaging in wishful thinking . Seeing patterns and matrixing them into something meaningful and therefore coming to the conclusion they offer some level of predictability . In his admittedly muddled thinking , you being on your way out isn ' t about his choices and behaviors , but some cosmic balancing act . If you ' ve experienced that as part of a larger pattern of thinking outside the DB conflict then I ' d have to conclude that he ' s just one of those that thinks consequences just kind of happen . out of one ' s control . Hopefully this is just a bit of desperation stemming from his loss and it will subside naturally . It ' s the compassionate thing to do to pause the larger issues for a time of course . You sound like you really have your feet on the ground though . Still pointed out the door .