I think most people in here know the difference . We know what he is talking about . Anyone knocking this advice just wants to be the tough guy who never gets stuckovertrains . <| sep |> Im tired of this too . I cant imagine having a miscarriage and someone asking . I never get how family members with kids can ask and not act like its a personal thing between the couple . Having kids is not about how the family feels its the couples child really not the business of anyone else . My boyfriends family asked us . I finally gave them an estimate so they would not ask 7 more times last xmas eve . Now im like damn they are gonna ask me in a few years where this child is . I have a health condition that brought alot of anxiety when I was a teenager so im behind on getting things like driving down and working somewhere other than a fast food chain because im gaining my work experience now as a young adult not as a teenager . To my future mother in law this is no reason to not have kids . She even went as far as to say she was younger then me when she had my boyfriends older sister and that you can get foods stamps . We dont even have our own place at the moment . I have to take care of myself to make up for the time I missed I should not be having a kid yet . What kind of life would I even be giving my kid . What kind of burden would that place on my boyfriend as he would become the one taking care of me and our child financially if I cant work immediately . Its just so selfish of them really to ask . We aren ' t even married yet because we want to be stable so we can maybe afford a nice wedding in the future . As a fun side note we didn ' t go to thanksgiving together because I went to his families last year and I wanted to see my family . He wanted to see his grandparents and they were the same time . While I wasn ' t there I guess they asked if he was gay . Then kept calling him gay and his mom said hes lying and im probably a cover up . I miss one thanksgiving with him and now hes gay and im a cover up . We have been together for 5 and a half years so even if they were kidding we both feel pretty insulted .