Really want it to be Vicarious Visions <| sep |> I think it can be useful for allies to take a deeper look at that anger and try to understand where it comes from , too . Like , not just take offense , or be wounded by it , but really try to understand what kind of experiences a person goes through to drive them to that kind of mindset . What kind of small daily occurrences happen time and time again that grate at a person , what kind of large offenses happen so frequently , that eventually a person is driven to snap and need to vent . It ' s hard for privileged groups to understand but we I say this as a white person need to understand it . We have to realize it ' s not just borne of some inherent bigotry or racism or ignorance but that it ' s borne of being treated a certain way and being fucking tired of it . Have understanding and even empathy for that kind of feeling , we ' ve all been at the end of our rope for one reason or another , it ' s a human thing .