She says it ' s from the breastfeeding , and I ' ll giver her some credit on that , I know it ' s hard to have someone clinging to you all day . It also affects hormones and can shut down the sex drive that way . Having the kids in the bedroom though is something you need to have some serious discussion about . If it ' s because she is breastfeeding and it makes her life easier , fair enough , but it doesn ' t explain why the older one is in the bedroom too . Have you had a calm talk about this at all ? outside of bedtime when you two can discuss it properly and you can get your objections across ? instead of just trying to carry them out ? You need to get on the same page and work together on this but not when you are settling into bed .