No matter what you do , no matter how much she loves you , no matter how good her head game , PRENUP THAT ASS . Learn from other people ' s mistakes . If you get married , protect yourself from . Legal system that is not set up with your best interest at heart . Your legal section should have some excellent premade prenups for free . If she isn ' t cool with you looking out for your best interest , walk away . Protect yourself , protect your money , protect your property . As to answering your original question , my xwife knew nothing about the military . A lot of times i just told her look , you don ' t have to understand this . But it would mean a lot to me if you tried . I tried talking to her about issues I had after deployment , but she was unable and even uninterested in them . She was not supportive . She also likes to fuck other dudes when I was in Korea or Afghanistan . Your mileage may vary . Some gals are pure gold , others are rotting pos .