I ' ve actually tried it both ways taking the time to write a short 12 paragraphlong customized message so she knows it ' s not copypasted , and trying to send witty oneliners . I can tell you that in about 1520 oneliners , I ' ve not received a single response . I switched back to proper messages , and started getting responses again . I think the lesson here is to not treat OKC like Tinder . Take a second to read what she ' s written , and tell her how you relate to it . Genuinely sound interested . Obviously there ' s a balance there don ' t get too lengthy because no one has time for that . But I do think that if you put forth some effort , you will have more success . Just make sure your profile picture is good .