is worth taking a look at <| sep |> are they just using the word heart for the sake of coming like normal ? Yes , definitely . They ' ll also say things like I ' m just concerned about your well being , I just can ' t help but care about you , I just want what ' s best for you but it really means I just want to control you . Basically take any thing a normal person might say and they take it and use it to disguise or justify their behavior . The words themselves aren ' t harmful , it ' s the context they ' re used in and the pattern of behavior over time . are they even aware of their delusionDebatable , but my super unprofessional opinion is yes . I can elaborate , but I think it ' s important to consider why you ' re asking in the first place . I think it ' s fine to discuss it abstractly , but if we ' re talking about practical examples , I think you first need to ask yourself if it even matters . If someone truly thought they were doing what was best for you even though in reality they were hurting you repeatedly , would you still want to keep them in your life ?