The mom doesn ' t seem to scowl enough to be Izumi . <| sep |> I work as a community support professional for people with developmental disabilities which is a fancy way of saying I provide care , and a main aspect of my job is helping the clients I work with gain and maintain autonomy in whatever way is possible for them . There has been a lot of mainly internal drama at my job lately because the guy I work with the most is stuck in a situation where his growth as an individual is being completely stagnated by his parents . Perhaps not to the extreme of your parents , but certainly in a way that is inhibiting my guy ' s quality of life . They have guardianship over him , so there is only so much that staff can do to help him evolve socially . I bring that up simply to say that what you are doing is very admirable . You recognized the potential in your sister something that I personally feel everyone has to some degree , and you took it upon yourself , at a fairly young age , to put your sister in a situation where she can do more than simply existshe can be an individual , and she can thrive . The importance of that cannot be understated . It is so easy to buy into the idea that there are limits to a person ' s growth , especially they ' re disabled in some way , to the point in which even parents give into it . You ' ve seen it first hand , as have I . It is unfortunately uncommon to see someone stuck in that sort of situation and realize that it ' s a lack of opportunity , not a lack of ability , keeping them from growth . This longwinded , somewhat selfgratifing rant it ' s been rough at work lately , let me tell you is all to say this You don ' t owe your parents shit . You ' re right in saying that it is a stress your sister doesn ' t need , but it ' s also a stress you don ' t need . Talk to them if you think it will help check out your legal options in the likely event it falls to deaf ears . Your parents are jealous , and also probably pissed about the financial help from the government which is stupid and petty of them , and they don ' t deserve to be in your lives if they aren ' t able to recognize that their daughters , both of them , are strong and capable adults . Keep doing what you ' re doing , and make sure you take care of yourself as well . You ' re a rad cookie . I hope things work out .