I was LDR with my boyfriend last Christmas , his mum had met me got me a gift hadn ' t met my kids yet though so didn ' t for them . My kids didn ' t notice the difference . However we are more serious and not LDR this year so they ' ve met his family have Christmas presents from them . I wouldn ' t have expected anything last year as they ' d not met and weren ' t really aware of my boyfriends family yet . Hope this perspective helps . I personally wouldn ' t unless you meet them . And if you do maybe a type of gift that ' s suited to both of them like a dvd to watch or gift card or board game type thing . <| sep |> This caused a problem for myself and some of my friends while we were in the states . We found ourselves in situations where we had to argue our ' Africanness ', because none of us were black African .