U . K . Sales . Get gud with facts <| sep |> I have terrible anxiety . When I was younger it was more from the need to be perfect and from the interactions with others . As I grew older the anxiety came from planning everything , having little time and money , feeling completely overwhelmed . Although I have pretty much ' recovered ' from my BPD , holidays still can cause a tremendous amount of anxiety . Luckily I have a great family and support system . I try to work it out so I basically show up not my house with a gift , side dish and a smile . It ' s not exactly that simple but you get the idea . I am extremely careful not to take on much around the holidays , no side projects , no overtime , no office secret santa , no extra baking , I keep things as absolutely basic as possible . And as calm as possible . It ' s kinda boring , and still overwhelming , but it helps me so much .