I can respect your decision to not act on something because of your beliefs , but try to see this from his perspective . He was relying on you to get something done , and your response was basically , nah I don ' t believe in that . This is one of those situations where you have to weigh the friendship against your values . In this particular case , you chose your values over your friend . That ' s what this whole thing boils down to . And he ' s never going to forget that . Whatever you may say about prolife or prochoice , the sum of the situation is you put your morals and your emotions before him . I find it terribly arrogant of you to complain about how you couldn ' t live with yourself , when this woman is about to have an abortion . She ' s going through a hellscape of emotions right now , and you ' re more worried about giving someone else money . Get over yourself . Your sister ' s inability to have children doesn ' t have shit to do with your friend . Your inability to endorse abortion doesn ' t mean you can ' t help your friend . You made a decision , it had consequences .