CBC is on par with the Sun for bias . Especially in recent years . <| sep |> I have advice , but you won ' t like it . Before I go into my reasoning and such though , I urge you to take what I say with a little grain of salt and know that I am also not trying to hurt you in any manner , after all , I have been single for a long time and suck at dating . Ok , so here ' s my gut reaction to this scenario don ' t do it . Any time someone says they don ' t want to jeopardize their friendship by going into a relationship , it really means they wouldn ' t value you romantically . If you were truly romantically pulled to someone like you are to her btw you would be willing to jump the friendship border to romantic land , regardless of the outcome . She doesn ' t want to do that , meaning you aren ' t worth the risk to her . Just let that sink in for a bit . Now here is another thing that gives me a red flag , she seems to be flirting with cheating on her current BF . You know the saying , once a cheater always . and although it may not be fair to those on this sub who may have cheated before , the thing is she ' d be vulnerable to cheating again getting into something with you . This would already cause mental stress and since she has mental illness , this would be a severe issue in the future . So if she is inclined to cheat and is mentally unstable , she is most likely to get into that bad habit because she has not maturedhealed enough to get beyond a cheating urge . She may already know this too , which could be why she does not think you are worthy of a relationship with her . She may honestly be trying to battle her inner demons and wishes to solve that with her current BF and you could honestly be hurting that . So bottom line is , it ' s time to back off . You ' ve made your feelings known and that is all you can do . If she wants to date you , she ' ll take that leap , but in the meantime , you need some separation time . Whether you know it or not , you may be taking advantage of her in a vulnerable state and could be hurting her as well as her BF by getting close to sexual scenarios . I know that it is hard , believe me , it is so hard . However , if you give her some time by herself , maybe she will notice your value to her , maybe it will be a romantic pull that she will jump on . If she doesn ' t come to you romantically after some distance and time , then you were not worth it to her the whole time . You ' ve done what you can do , but relationships are 5050 and you cannot make her go into anything . She needs to pull her own weight and if she doesn ' t want to , then you know where you stood all along . I do wish you the best and I hope you do not hate me for my response . I have been there , I have done that and I ' ve been so hurt . But , maybe you can avoid the hurt by making the rules yourself and letting her come to you if she does , so that is why I respond as I have . Peace