Nicely written . Well thought out . I do think its important that the implicit link between sex and stipend or no sex and no stipend , in whatever combination be made explicit in advance of beginning an arrangement to fail to do so or trust it will happen organically is an invitation to rinsing or exploitation . <| sep |> I just started a new job last month and I don ' t have any PTO yet so I ' m staying home . I moved to a new state and my family lives on opposite side of the country from me . I ' m going to clean , play video games , and eat tacos . Maybe I ' ll get Chinese for dinner if my favorite place is open . <| sep |> The only person who can help you is you , and the problem you need help with is that you don ' t have enough energy or motivation to help yourself . This is the worst catch 22 I can think of .