Could I trade you fg loopers and fg chackrams for fg lightning ? Long shot but maybe lol <| sep |> What if your insecurity what was the reason for their decision ? Nope . The reason for their decision is entirely on them . As others have said , if they try to explainjustify it by blaming it on you , they ' re just being horrible . Anyways , on to the main question . I recall reading a study that suggested cheaters don ' t necessarily cheat again though ' chronic ' cheaters do , so don ' t jump to the easy response of Once a cheater , always a cheater . The main thing you have to battle is whether or not you trust them . Frankly , if you can ' t let go of the fact that they were unfaithful then the relationship is already doomed . They ' ve broken your trust , and if you cannot rebuild it then things won ' t work out . You basically hold all of the cards here . If you think you can still make things work provided you want to , you can do so , but you have to make the other person prove it ' s worth it . And if they can ' t , well , there you have it .