Holy shit that spin . Gah damn . <| sep |> I mean it ' s totally up to you and what you ' re comfortable with , but imo that ' s a bit early . Especially if you ' re ex is taking it really hard and you don ' t want him to be upset . He ' ll be crushed if you get a new boyfriend already . <| sep |> There is no time limit , whenever you feel ready is fine . <| sep |> The fears are selffulfilling . If you believe that you ' re not worth it for any girl for example , then you won ' t ask out any girl because you don ' t think you ' re worth it . Then you ' ll watch yourself commit a selffulfilling prophecy and justify your failures as a confirmation bias . So if anything , it shows that anything you put your mind to can become reality . I recently have gotten to a really bad point in my life that I called a suicide hotline and they told me about the book , The Six Pillars of S e l f E s t e e m P i l l a r s S e l f E s t eemDefinitiveLeadingdptel . It ' s really interesting and intuitive on where the logic of selfesteem comes from , and the book covers a lot of detailed accounts of what selfesteem stems from , how its perpetuated , and how you behave with certain esteems both high , medium , and low selfesteems . I ' m still reading it , but the book has spoken to me already .