The problem though is that this person is above you in grade , yet below you in ability , right ? But she ' s using the fact that she ' s allowed to continue wearing the higher grade as per the rules , and acting as a Senpai , despite being of lower skill . So just fully follow the rules you described then then go 100 % because she is a higher grade , and let her become aware that her skills aren ' t where she thinks they are . Atm you ' re treating her like she ' s a kohai , and being frustrated she ' s acting like a senpai . Just treat her like she seems to want to be treated and give 100 %. She will soon alter her performance i would imagine . <| sep |> Look at Mr Smarty pants over here . you are probably right . <| sep |> If you don ' t know what they like then they arent good enough friends to be giving them gifts . Don ' t give gifts at random to women you don ' t know , it seems strange and creepy .