It ' s not that people don ' t want to put in the effort , it ' s that people can get overwhelmed and change their mind . I ' m going to guess you ' re a guy , right ? Do you have any idea how many messages I get as soon as I mention I ' m a woman ? It can be very overwhelming . I totally understand why someone would have second thoughts after that . Also , in regards to low effort responses , I ' m not going to spend hours replying to 50 messages that people put no thought whatsoever into . If I specify in my post I want you to tell me about yourself , what made you reply to me , what we have in common and I get a bunch of messages just saying hey wats ur kik when I always mention I don ' t even use Kik I really can ' t be arsed to dignify that with a response . To put it simply , some messages simply are not worth my time . At the end of the day no one owes you anything . In a perfect world everyone would respond , yeah , but things just don ' t work that way .