These dudes have fake heads on the back of their heads that detach when they ' re grabbed by birds <| sep |> No . Different mounting systems <| sep |> For me , dating is like a trial run to see if someone is suitable to be a lifelong partner . It is really important for me that such a partner has similar values as me . I have good news for you , this is what most other people think dating is for as well . Getting at the foundation of it all , selfawareness and selfcontrol are two of the most important qualities to me . I believe that it is important to not only be able to control my words and actions , but to also be able to understand the underlying reason why I felt impulsed toward doing something that I felt tempted to do . In the end , I think self control ultimately amounts to thinking about why you feel like doing something , how your actions will make other people feel , and deciding if it ' s worth doingsaying after taking that into consideration . This is a quality I would like to share with a potential partner . I have bad news for you too . This is very uncommon . Before I even read any examplesexplanations of what this means or how it is practically applied , it was already clear that this is too cerebralmetacognitive for most people to either understand or feel is worthwhile to deal with . I understood your meaning and even so , it ' s just too contemplative to have any functional worth for the average person , when it comes to the thoughts and experiences and emotions they weigh in a day ' s interactions . Basically , how much time did you spend thinking that up ? I spend tons of time in my head , and not only the articulation of this value , but the desire to see it reflected in others is very unusual . I want to give you my opinion , which you probably won ' t be receptive to , because it skews things that you think are logical and altruistic into something that you will probably perceive as a negative value judgment on your character . But it is this a lot of the time people come up with these kinds of hyperlogical thought processes and reasonings just so that they can have an excuse to judge others . Partying and taking selfies and doing drugs are frivolous , to a certain extent , but the overall lifestyles that people lead and bring them happiness cannot be boiled down to impulses and negative or destructive behavior just because their individual parts may not have any functional or noble intent . High standards are often another function of just secretly needing an excuse or explanation for heavily judging everyone around you , that are doing things that you aren ' t . You might feel like your reasoning for abstaining from things other people do totally make sense , and of course they do , for the choices you make and the way you choose to live your life . But that doesn ' t translate into a free pass to look down on other people for making choices that you don ' t . I tried to articulate my thoughts in a way that matches your thinking style . But let me boil it down you are going to have trouble with other people because your thoughts are metacognitive in a way that is redundant and not productive to people who don ' t spend that much time in their head while you are free to make value judgments for your own life and choices , that does not mean they will be well received by others nor that it would make sense for them to preference your views on what is appropriate over their own .