Ok agreed , but what you ' re saying now is that you need to be aware of weakness , and exercise accordingly , because underused muscles wont magically catch up if you jump into certain exercises without awareness . And this is what the PT was advocating . Except he said that yoga would be good to increase basic strength rather than , for example , bodyweight squats before barbell squats , and he ' s not wrong . <| sep |> I ' ve explained this already . I ' m not withholding anything but I Will do things to a partner that I wouldn ' t necessarily do every night with my husband . He knows this , I ' m not hiding it . If you cant see the difference between fucking and making love then I can understand why you feel ' bad ' for him . If you also think your wife is telling you everything then your living in dream land . This is probably one of the worst sites for talking about this , I only came on here to tell my story . We have since been contacted by several people linking us to other sites , and believe me ' withholding ' is very very common . If I do this again it will be strictly one fuck one time one person , that way there will be no emotional side to it . As I explained earlier if you think a woman can go on dates , cuddle , laugh , flirt and fuck a guy 1015 times and have no feelings for them then your only fooling yourself . Anyway I ' m out of here . Enjoy living in your bubble .