Lmao sleevies . Never heard that before <| sep |> You still might be targeted just to send a message . Wasn ' t just Tywin , that sort of thing happened in RL too for the same reason . <| sep |> You don ' t sound like a whiner , but you do sound like you have low self esteem . You make an honest assessment of your personal appearance , but to me , it sounds like you belittle yourself . You mention that you really liked this girl . She dated you , so obviously looks weren ' t an issue for her . Maybe you just weren ' t a match . But maybe , because you don ' t feel great about yourself , that ' s what you are putting out into the world . Confidence and charisma are very subtle things . You mention that you have social anxiety . Try toastmasters or similar to get over it . Focus on the things that you ' ve already mentioned are good about yourself . Don ' t oversell , but highlight them . Ignore what you feel are your physical shortcomings . They clearly don ' t matter to everyone . Career ups and downs also won ' t matter to the right kind of person , since we a go through them . Having a sense of humor about your troubles shows overs you know how to handle adversity . When you truly start to believe in yourself , others will as well . I know this sounds like motivational speaking , but the reality is that you sound really genuine . If you look around and realize that this is a very desirable , but not very common trait , you will see the leg up you really have .