Your story sounds similar to mine . I ' m not very femme , rarely wear makeup , almost always in jeans and tshirts . People have a real misconception of what it is to be trans . My coworkers have problems calling me by the correct name and pronouns because in their eyes I haven ' t made the switch , even though strangers gender me female most of the time . I think they believe it ' s about presentation and I should show up in a dress , high heels and full makeup and that just isn ' t me . It really sucks in a lot of ways . They are trying to put me in a stereotyped box which I ' m not comfortable with . I just left a fake life when I began this transition . I don ' t want to enter another one , I just want to be myself .