In the picture the background of the grabber matches the wallpaper , but mine is just white and black <| sep |> Hmmmm I wonder why he gets rejected so much ? <| sep |> I am so sorry for your loss . She is so lucky to be remembered 28 years later You ' re absolutely right . I know I won ' t be able to make him see how he ' s being manipulated , and in fact I worry that my pushing back will somehow make it easier for nmil to keep her hold on him . He has improved so much since we got married he stands up for me and us a lot more than he did when we were only dating . But , I think he is having a hard time with this because these weren ' t my miscarriages , they are ours , and for them to be so hurtful to me hurts him , too . He doesn ' t want to believe they are so horrible , and this situation is more blatant than they ' ve ever been . They ' re always very subtle , and always out of earshot , and always have some plausible deniability . They say I misunderstood , or I misheard , or they misspoke . This time I called them out and there is no denying it . All of that being said , I told him tonight that I was drawing a line , setting boundaries , and he could be on one side with me , or on the other .