Right click for last hits , quick A for denies <| sep |> Mom asked me yesterday about Thanksgiving I told her I ' m not going , and instead of throwing a tantrum as I expected she immediately started asking if she could bring people back when they missed me she said she knew they would miss me , not even if , she ' s already making assumptions about people for her own ends . I saw through this immediately , she ' d bring back other family members with the people I approved and generally make things go to hell really fast . I told her no , but I ' m worried she won ' t care . I ' m going to reinstate this boundary again before she leaves , but I ' m freaking out because she obviously has had this in mind for a long time . Any suggestions on the firmest best way to make the boundary clear to her ? Even if it won ' t do anything I want to feel I set the boundary in the clearest firmest way I can for my own sake .