This is way back <| sep |> There ' s a whole basket of reasons . I have general anxiety disorder and chronic fatigue syndrome . So much so that I have been deemed unfit for work I ' m constantly aching , I need days to recover after a few hours of activity and I get anxious when I get too far from home . This means I have no social life outside of my internet friends and family , I ' m unable to live by myself , and my confidence , self esteem and motivation is through the floor . I ' ve been on dating sites and apps for several years without a single conversation so I ' m probably doing that wrong . But mostly I ' m not in a relationship because the girl I love can ' t be with someone who can ' t do things and never had any intention to date she told me this after a 3 year long distance relationship . We still talk and I ' m still trying to change her mind . Every time I look on a a dating site I feel like I don ' t want to messege anyone because I ' m still holding out on her .