Class and race are intertwined with each other . IMO this is a silly argument to have . <| sep |> Sounds great ! I ' ll PM you payment details this afternoon at the latest . <| sep |> Why yes , even if it ' s just a physical relationship , you want to be valued , not be coerced into doing something which you think is forcing you or degrades you . This just points up the dichotomy between raw sex and a relationship in which each person is actually love and valued . Without the latter , what ' s the real point if someone likes you or thinks you ' re hot just because you ' re open to doing what they want and exploiting your own need for affection and love that might have been inferred or openly promised ? This is just a continuation of what boys used to say to girls when I was young If you love me , you ' ll let me go ' all the way '. How many girls and young women wound up pregnant and in a situation the boy never had to pay for ? They didn ' t mean it then and they don ' t mean it now . It ' s always been about what they want , regardless of what you want .