As an Asian , I find it disrespectful that Melo and Rose have their shoes on . That ' s a nice wood floor . <| sep |> I ' m at this point now after a year of rejections , promises , and failed compromises . Given the opportunity , I would literally jump on it . I told my LL husband towards the end that I will probably cheat . I ' m sure I mentioned it more than once . He said nothing back , as always . Someone commented that if you are going to do it , then stop any and all intimacy with your partner first . Well I did that and this was what has put me over the edge . I have a non communicative partner . I don ' t know how long he ' ll let this nightmare play out . He may never say anything about my complete withdrawal from him as a sexual being . I ' m tired of begging and clambering for his sexual bread crumbs . I plan to stick it out for awhile for financial reasons . The debt is shared and I don ' t want to get screwed . I don ' t want a bitter divorce . I just want to sign some papers and call it a day . I feel zero guilt . I don ' t think you should cheat if you think you ' ll feel badly about it . I have had FBs in the past . I know I can separate love and sex . If my husband made me feel loved despite lack of sex , I may have hung in there longer . But I am a very passionate person . I can ' t live without it in my life .