It is good you have spoken to hin . Have him start by bringing you to orgasm the same way you would on your own and just experiment . Lot of people are influenced by what you see on tv and such which implies that if the man cannot get a woman to orgasm before or at the same time as him he is a failure or lightweight . The reality is that is not uncommon . Sex does not have to end though he can go down on you or stimulate you with his fingers . If need be you guys may need to fall back into foreplay and just keep going . It sounds like you care for him and hopefully he does for you and therefore he won ' t mind putting in the time to help you . Finally if he looks defeated or discouraged complement him and remind him how much you care for him .