You can ' t treat everyone the same if everyone has different needs . But I understand the intent of your statement . <| sep |> Affleck got his start in several moderately successful Kevin Smith films before striking out on his own alongside Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting , whereas Stallone wrote and starred in his own feature film from the get go . It ' s still a fair comparison , but imo the two are slightly different situations . <| sep |> Then organise your own gathering for it and don ' t put a huge kink an event someone else organised ? And maybe find willing participants not just guys who happened to be in your proximity and are listening to you to be polite ? for that matter , it ' s not really no girls allowed either . I guess I was exaggerating and it wasn ' t literally no girls allowed . But if you joined in as a girl even just a listener you ' d be talked down to and given the whole this is guy stuff , you wouldn ' t understand .