I am incel because I cannot get casual sex or a relationship if I wanted to . It has been 6 years since I last had a relationship and most girls don ' t really see me in a romantic way , I am just someone else to talk to . I have a passive personality and most girls don ' t like that because they want to be approached by a guy that will make them laugh and smile and etc . I also don ' t really like to orbit girls , it ' s pretty shameful to be there on the sidelines while the girl you like is dating other guys because she has lots of options . I really do think maybe some girl will give me a chance but idk there aren ' t as many girls that make the first move or even go out of their way to find a guy like me . The girls i have tried to approach don ' t want to talk or even make eye contact with me .