Everyone is entitled to have their own standardsSurah An Noor 243 The fornicator does not marry except a fornicator or polytheist , and none marries her except a fornicator or a polytheist , and that has been made unlawful to the believers . as uempomelettedufromag has pointed out , you can maintain your own personal standards without rushing to label people as either bad or good MuslimsJust because I don ' t find someone physically attractive does not make them ugly . By the same token , the fact that I ' m not physically attracted to them does not make me superficial . However , you seemed too eager to label people that had slipped up as unintelligent . As a male I can tell you that there are alot of good brothers that haven ' t tocuhed alcohol or women in their lives . I must warn you that amongst my circle of Muslim friends alot of guys are struggling with porn addictions and this may be more prevalent than you think . Also I understand why you might be skeptical of someone who suddenly does a 180 and becomes religious when they ' re ready for marriage . Some brothers might be equally skeptical of girls who begin to don the hijab when they become of marriable age . I would not hasten judgement of these people since soem are genuinely trying to change and only Allah SWT can know their intentions 100 %