Would it be possible for you to tell your SO about your relationship with Trigger ? I had a similar triggerperson where I just moved from and I made sure my SO was with me if I ever had to be around them . That way I knew I wouldn ' t have an outburst , we could just quietly talk mad shit about them amongst ourselves . It ' s still hard and I still avoid them EVERY opportunity I can because they are utter shit and would have ruined my life if I wasn ' t so goddamn stubborn and resilient . But I ' ve explained it all to my SO so she feels the same way about them and it is very validating and makes me feel safe . <| sep |> i don ' t trust any of those shit from google and amazon . that shit WILL record you when you don ' t expect it to when you say some stuff that could compromise you and they ' ll give it to the govt .