Sorry , no clue how you can pick . Could buy it in store though if you have one nearby . <| sep |> Okay , fair enough , it ' s good to hear some other perspectives and opinions , thank you . This was actually the primary worry of mine , as to how I could come to like someone else and as to if that indicates that something is wrong in the relationship . I was definitely happy before . I know well that for the last few months we have had some difficultly in spending time together , due to both of us working , and other life commitments . I think that is how an emotional affair was able to begin , although I ' m really not sure . Hopefully therapy will help me to figure that out a bit more . Honestly , my boyfriend is the first longterm relationship that I ' ve had , having been years . I ' m not sure if initial excitement with romance can last forever I presumed that it was something that would evolve into something still loving , but different , after years . We still are able to be passionate , just the same as we used to . We both enjoy the relationship dynamic . I can ' t say that there ' s that same spark though , but I don ' t believe that the so called spark ever lasts . From talking to my friends about this who have been in respective long term relationships , they share similar feelings , whereby the spark lessened , and the relationship grew into something compassionate . For me , that spark is always something that changed into something less crazy excitement and more comfortable and loving . As things are now , I would be really happy if I were able to spend the rest of my life with him . He ' s more than just passion , he ' s a life partner , someone I love spending time with and can see myself with into the future . Someone I can always be comfortable with , someone that can always compliment me , as I for him . I think it ' s very special , and it ' s not something either of us want to lose .