Derry , unless I am with a friend of mine who is quite the Republican , in that case I try and drop Londonderry into conversation as much as I can just to watch his face go red . <| sep |> If you are entertaining the idea of signing on , you can attend it if you like <| sep |> Yeah women often do this they have a ' back up guy ' where they dump all the emotional shit they don ' t want to dump on their partner . They know they don ' t ' like you that way ' but keep you as a ' Friend ' as I like to call it . Your a normal friend but just with that added twist that you ' re there for them as an emotional back up but you don ' t get any of the good stuff you would expect from a full romantic relationship . It ' s kind of natural when women start paying you attention and luring you into these types of friendships that you will naturally allow it to happen especially when your a ' nice guy ' and can ' t say no . The only thing to do is start to distance yourself from that person once you realise the situation because the problem is that that odd relationship may well prevent you from being open to other possible ' normal ' relationships that you actually seek .