It ' s annoying , but in my experience , it sometimes helps . When you don ' t put it , people think you are an ass . When you do , they start thinking hmmm . maybe there is another side to this . <| sep |> In fairness , we try to satisfy his sensory needs by using a sensory diet in particular , brushing as well as vigorous sough and tumble play both AM and PM is highly beneficial for him . He ' s a gorgeous 3 year old boy . However , I am reluctant to use chew toys like chewelry because it is the kind of thing that instantly differentiates him from his peers . I accept that being differentiated , alone , is not necessarily a bad thing . I am hesitant because he already shows that he wants to interact and play with other kids he follows them around smiling and happy . The stim happens usually because he doesnt know what to say in a situation or how to react to what is happening in that setting . I worry that having him chew on a toy in front of his peers will lead to them thinking and calling him weird , ostracising him , be mean to him and make the stim worse .