Kaj misli o VoxFeminae ? <| sep |> I ' m super late to the discussion but I thought your reply was interesting , so I would like to ask you a question . I agree that context is fundamental to understanding these slurs and that they ' re not necessarily homophobic . But there are many instances that I think are controversial because a lot of young people , who in my experience mirror the arguments South Park made , asume it is not homophobic , yet a good case can be argued that they still are under the surface . For example , my friends often call me a fag if I don ' t want to go out drinking with them . Doesn ' t sound homophobic , right ? The thing is that to them a man always has to want to go out drinking , so if you don ' t , you are not a quite a man . Maybe they aren ' t saying that I am gay because I don ' t want to go drinking , but they are calling me a fag because I didn ' t behave like a man . And what ' s the ultimate way of not behaving like a man ? Being attracted to men , which basically means being a straight woman or being gay , so its not a coincidence that they use the same slur as to refer to someone who is gay . It might be a silly example , but it is how I hear ' fag ' used 90 % of the time by my friends . Do you think that given this context it is not underlyingly homophobic ?