Just make sure you won ' t accidentally get to know a forced fantasy version of her . Have you two talked to her other partners ? How would they feel about suddenly being denied intimacy by her ? If she hangs out with her intimate friends , would you be okay with her still showing natural affection with them kisses , handholding or do you want her to pretend to be mono in all aspects of her life ? If she ' s feeling something nice for someone else and wants to chat about it , would you instead want her to censor those thoughts when she ' s talking with you ? I ' m asking you these questions because for poly people , acting mono doesn ' t just mean no sex . It means suppressing a huge part of ourselves and our regular daily lives . I had a partner ask me to act mono once , and the version of me that he got to know as a result was miserable , incomplete and resentful of him .