ET phone home <| sep |> Am not driver , I skipped that in high school and haven ' t gotten around to it yet . What ' s good though , also from the north shore swampscottmarblehead <| sep |> I suggest forwarding this type of crap to abuseapple . com ! <| sep |> Former coworker went through something similar . Let ' s call her Mary . Mary confided in her best friend at the time who worked with us . She told everyone about the pregnancy and how Mary was considering an abortion due to her not being able to care for a disabled child still in community college , working full time at a retail job . Mary found out easily and confronted her . The conversation infront of everyone went as follows not verbatim , but as close as I can rememberSo , since I can ' t take care of a child right now , let alone a child with special needs , you ' re willing to adopt him I guess . Well . Um . It ' s okay , I have the paperwork to start the adoption process right here pulled a older out of her purse and opened it to show the paperwork . You just fill this out , I ' ll take it to them , and we can get this going . But I never said . Well it ' s obvious that since you ' re so adamant about me keeping the child , even though I couldn ' t provide for him , that you should be the one to do so . If you ' re going to tell everyone about my issue , tell them I ' m horrible for not wanting to have a child suffer and not get the care he needs , and say I should just ' suck it up and be a parent , ' then you ' re a much better option for him to live with . You ' ll no doubt take care of him , and pay for the medical care he ' ll need , and specialized day care or a nurse for when you work here . But this job won ' t cover it , so you ' ll probably need to quit college and get a second job . Mary . I just meant . I mean . It ' s not like that . No . It is . You don ' t have any god damn idea what it would take to raise a child with special needs . I looked into it . I asked around . I spoke to some of the parents of kids in the special education classes back at our high school . I can not do that right now . I can ' t . So instead of neglecting a child I am choosing to not have him . So stop being a selfrighteous cunt when you ' re not ready to do anything to try and help . After that , they both quit about a week apart . Last I heard , Mary was engaged and had a kid . It ' s hard to say what kind of life that child would have had if she had it . Maybe it could ' ve been adopted , who knows . But I think she made the best decision she could have at the time . No reason to have a child and make it suffer just because someone wants to impose their own beliefs on you .