Well , they told me that , at the least . <| sep |> Thank you for this link ! I didn ' t know about it . <| sep |> I ' m hoping my own DH will develop a spine like yours . He doesn ' t see the subtle forms of manipulation and abuse but has seen when it escalates . It ' s quiet now but it ' s usually the time when they reel him back in by sweeping everything under the rug . Though this situation hurt and was awful for you , it was a huge awakening for you and now you ' re a lot stronger than you think you are . Being able to walk away at all after years of being conditioned is amazing . I highly recommend going to a therapist . They can help you unpack the years of emotional baggage and without all of that , you will emerge with a clearer head . I know how to feels to be brought up on the filial piety thing . My family is Filipino but they stay in their lane . My DH ' s family is Italian and hold onto their children and grandchild with an iron fist .