No , it ' s not true . I think the reason for the misconception is twofold Nice is the beige of personalities . It ' s a neutral characteristic , a baseline inoffensiveness from which to start adding color and texture and individuality . If all you have going for you is nice , you lack any other appeal not because you ' re nice , but because you ' re only nice . Some people conflate nice with complete doormat . People who don ' t express disagreement or anger but instead stew in their resentment as they nod and smile and do anything others ask of them aren ' t nice they ' re uncomfortable to be around . A great number of people who selfdescribe as nice , aren ' t . The people who genuinely treat their friends yes , all of them ! with respect , help shelter pets , work as volunteers for causes they care about they aren ' t typically defending their niceness . They ' re busy actually doing things instead of trying to convince people . So yeah , anytime I hear but I ' m such a nice guygirl , I instantly find someone a little less appealing as a friend or acquaintance .