xpost from rHAPA HELP ! Some thoughts from a teenager . I ' m a white guy , a senior at an international high school in Asia . My dad ' s work has led me to live in a few places in Asia for my entire teenage life . I ' ve naturally seen bazillions of WMAF couples from the 80 year old men with 20 year old wives in Cambodia to the awkward couple sitting with nothing to say at an expensive sushi restaurant in Tokyo . For some reason , I think I might have a type with Asian girls . Hell , I ' m not even sure if I do . It ' s just that all my crushes until now I ' m 17 have been Asian girls . And it ' s not that I see them as being submissive or easy , or in any way have different mentally my previous girlfriend who I dated for 2 years was bossier than me and had lived in the US longer than I had . My current crush is a badass Korean girl who has her own life , leads our friendship , and does not goggle at me . I ' ve gotten extremely close with over the past year and a half . I don ' t obsess over Asian girls and I have diverse interests that led me to take a fair number of leadership positions in my school . I think I ' m quite an effective , extraverted socializer I ' m an ENFP on the MyersBriggs test . The thing is that I ' ve picked up Japanese not from anime , I can ' t stand that shit from the friends around me over the past few years . I ' m going to Japan for college , and my biggest fear is that I ' ll end up like a bunch of the other white guys who fetishize and view Asian women as being inferior or submissive or any of that bullshit . I ' m not fat , but I ' m definitely not good looking . I ' m just really confused and all these thoughts have been driving me crazy . . help ? How can I preserve my individual identity and ensure I don ' t become fucked up or hotheaded ? Check out copykun on kun !