I ' m not racist but . <| sep |> The latter <| sep |> At the 43 rd , we were done with inproccessing by like day 2 , but weren ' t going to be picked up until the next Thursday . So we just hanged out and watched SHARP videos , Can You Make the Cut , and even American sniper all day . <| sep |> Yeah , but like I said we aren ' t always perfect . The example I gave was at a potluck . it was entirely my fault and I should have let her know I was asking because of allergies , but my inlaws aren ' t food allergy friendly . They tend to think people with allergies are picky eaters who make up their symptoms . I was trying to not create too many waves by advertising to everyone I was asking because of allergies and I let my guard down . I learned my lesson and now I only bring my own food to those events . Its pretty common for people with allergies , especially ones that just make them sick , to be embarrassed about them because they do encounter people like this every day . Food allergy bullying does happen . Sometimes it feels safer to avoid mentioning the word allergy and just ask what the ingredients in something are . If your allergy doesn ' t kill you and you are usually safe with that question , you might not mention it . Especially if past situations have made you afraid someone might use your allergy against you .