I thought about how I could say what I ' m about to say in a way that doesn ' t come across as brash or insensitive . This is the best I can do . You ' ve likely heard the analogy of the monkey swinging from the tree ? It will not let go of one branch until it has a firm hold on another one . The monkey knows the original branch is tried and true , it has already proved to be a solid anchor . As the monkey swings toward uncertainty , it will test the prospects . If the monkey isn ' t 100 % sure the next branch will support its weight entirely , it will not let go of the previous one . This is what ' s happening . You are her pivot point . You ' ve already been vetted , and she knows you aren ' t going anywhere . Here ' s where it might sound harsh . Her actions are extremely deliberate . She knows exactly what to say . She knows exactly what to do to keep you invested enough to be there for her if the other branches don ' t hold up . Rest assured , the second she finds a branch she believes will support her , she will let go and never look back . She will drop you like a rock , and it will be you that is left to pick up all the pieces . She will escape all the pain , as she will have a nice shiny new toy to keep her mind off of you . Don ' t be an emotional tampon for her . Lift your head up . Roll your shoulders back . Stand tall , and be the man you ' re supposed to be .