Seems to me that he ' s not really putting effort into the relationship . He obviously has ties with his ex , acting shady , and somewhat avoiding spending time with you . Their relationship is not completely over and it ' s bleeding over into yours . Pretending she wants to hurt herself , she knows how to reel him in and he shouldn ' t be talking to her anymore . He ' s not giving you the proper relationship that you deserve , and there are too many excuses too often . Where theres a will , theres a way , and he ' s not giving that will . It honestly doesn ' t look too good , but I wouldn ' t do anything until you know what he ' s been up to . Give him the benefit of the doubt but at the same time you should expect the worst . This feels like a lot of trouble for a relationship this short . But just find out what ' s going on . I was in a similar situations a long time ago , and his behavior irritated me .