Why no hatchet ? The hammer is heavy to carry around and the time it takes to break things down kinda sucks . Coffee is also hard to find . <| sep |> Not necessarily , but it would probably be a good idea to talk to a priest . For most people , I think living with someone before marriage would still be at least minorly sinful because you ' re intentionally choosing to put yourself in a position of temptation . If its truly been 13 years without incident then I suppose it might not be such a big deal for you guys specifically . If you don ' t intend to have kids , the only way you will be able to be validly married in the church is to commit to abstinence beforehand . If you change your mind afterwards , normal rules about contraceptives and abortion would of course apply . On both counts , it would be a good conversation to have with a priest .