my vote for top one would be the art history lecture podcast from the University of Oxford art <| sep |> My answer is a lot like my hand on Sunday . Beats me . <| sep |> Because I found out that the girl I was about to date apparently had a boyfriend of 5 months . <| sep |> I get that but I ' ve also heard a lot that you have to make your intentions clear from the start . If you make friends first she will be much much less likely to every view you as a sexual partner or so I have heard . I totally understand that we learn from our failure . It ' s just I ' ve gone out so many times and no matter if I just try to have fun or if I try to meet a girl or if I just say fuck it I don ' t care I ' m going out just to hang out with my friends , I always end up never meeting women . What I have noticed is that generally any girl that I actually find attractive is 100 % non receptive to me . I can tell the convo has some strain on it and no matter how friendly or interested in her I try to be I get no where . There has only been 3 times total that women have every been receptive to me at parties or bars . 2 times they where girls that I did not find attractive at all and just wanted to hook up . The only other time it was a girl I found attractive and really cool she had a BF and was just being friendly . I guess this makes me feel like I just fail before I ' ve even tried too much . It ' s like if I girl doesn ' t want to talk to me when I try to talk to her like a person she isn ' t gonna want to talk to me if I flirt with her . I wish I could take social skills classes but they don ' t offer them lol . Well there has been this class I ' ve been trying to take for over a year but they constantly cancel due to lack of interest . Also idk maybe I ' m just unlucky cause I don ' t end up really meeting girls at class or from clubs or work .