He ' ll come around in a bit , probably before she does . I say this because he ' ll want the kids to diffuse his issues with being her only target . I ' m almost in the camp of let him tell the kids he doesn ' t want to see them any more , but that brings up ' He ' ll throw you under the bus . ' So . When the kids want to know where Grandparents are , tell them the truth Gramma was disrespectful to Mom and Dad and doesn ' t want to apologize , so they ' re willing to never see the kids again to prove a point . And when they come calling to see their graaaaannnnndbaaaaaaabies tell them No . You both indicated you no longer wanted to see the kids because of your own hubris . We will NOT have our kids in the middle like this . You cannot see our kids EVER AGAIN . And it ' s your own choice . Good day .