This is horrid <| sep |> I always love playing League of Legends on holidays . People are so much nicer for some reason . <| sep |> however you can still abuse someone , as well as display patterns of violence and sadism , without being in a relationshipBut Rey didn ' t remain the victim the entire movie . TFA ended with Rey getting the upper hand over Kylo . And before that , she breaks through his mental barriers and escapes on her own . Luke ' s lightsaber goes to her . In the end , she proved to be stronger than him . And from that comment Further , she has consistently shot first in the Takodana forest and in the snowy woods and has demonstrated that she would not hesitate to kill Kylo . Were their genders switched , would we call Rey abusive ? Well . ? Where is the interest in Reylo even coming from , then ? He disobeyed orders from Snoke to chase after Rey instead of stealing BB 8 for the map . Even Hux made fun of him for it . He carried her into the ship himself instead of a using the force to carry her or b ordering a stormtrooper to carry her . When you ' re walking through a battlefield , it ' s stupid to keep both hands occupied that you can ' t wield your lightsaber . He is kneeling when she wakes up and removed his mask while interrogating her . Kylo made himself vulnerable . Only other times he ' s done this is with Han and Snoke when he forgot it to put it back on . In the novelization , he removes her restraints , touches her gently , and tells her that he takes no pleasure in mind probing her . There was a clear contrast between Rey ' s interrogation and Poe ' s . They ' ve both seen into each other ' s minds and know what their greatest fear is . They are in a position to sympathize with each other . He avoids killing her and tries to pitch himself as a possible mentor . Why does Kylo treat her this way ? Obviously he has a special interest in Rey . All of this doesn ' t 100 % romance . But we ' re interested in how it will evolve . Again , there are reylo proponents who believe it will stay onesided with Kylo in canon and Rey will not reciprocate . There are many ways their relationship could go . That ' s cool too . The whole point is that their relationship will likely evolve from enemies to perhaps a less hostile and more compassionate one .