Eating anything I ' m not interested . Once . for something this small immediately smile and say just feed yourself and stop worrying about me . I think a lot of the replies are over simplifying things . There are certainly times to show off your strong back bone and speak your mind . Turning down the bday cake at a work party could be taken as an insult . In the lock step , group think , blooper world having the courage to do your own thing is often seen as something negative . The idea that you shouldn ' t talk about improving yourself so you won ' t have to listen to detractors has been put forth several times at TRP . I see the kind of lying I am talking about as a similar strategy to avoid annoying pushback .