I had no contact with them for two years and barely any before that . There were some incidents so I refused to even talk to them . They contacted me last week and I don ' t even really know why but I answered the phone and talked to my dad for a bit . Then they stopped by for my birthday two days later and the visit went surprisingly well , apart from me going into a cleaning frenzy untill 2 am the night before the visit caused by my mother criticizing the state of my flat once 10 years ago . We had no fights unusual , they didn ' t criticize me for my life choices or constantly asked me questions very unusual and well I think they know they ' re on thin ice right now . I ' m gonna visit them for christmas and I really hope that doesn ' t end in a fight because I live far away from them now purposefully and during holidays there ' s no shuttle bus from the train station so I ' d have to walk for a few hours . Still , I ' m going and I hope it ' ll go well . Whatever they ' ve done to me , they ' re still my parents after all . I suspect it ' s my dad who ' s trying to fix our relationship and making sure that my mother doesn ' t overstep boundaries . As sad as this sounds , I don ' t really think my mother really cares about whether we talk to each other or not . She pretended to be happy about seeing me but I know her well enough to see through her facade . There ' s still a lot of bitterness going on here . I wish I was brave enough to really tell them how I felt all that time but I just can ' t . Sorry , I ' m a bit emotional right now . PS I have my kitten around me who has enough love to last me two lifetimes . Never before have I felt such an unconditional love and never have I loved something so much before .