Yes the revenge silent treatment is very different to NC in motive from the perspective of the person denying contact , although it can look the same on the surface to the person thus ignored . I do tend to advocate for NC , because why should we feed these emotional vampires ? They ' ll drain you dry if you let them . I usually suggest flagging the NC for what it is rather than simply ghosting not in every situation though . For two reasons , first if you can deal with these situations with as much integrity as you can muster , you ' ll feel better about how you managed the situation , feel better about yourself , good about yourself even in some cases hey I was strong and I handled an extremely volatile situation effectively . Also to try to get the BPD to understand it is not the vengeful silent treatment they would enact , rather its a request for time and space to deal with our own concerns , in hopes they don ' t misunderstand and assume it ' s a revenge or control tactic , and take it personally and flip out . I ' d trust you on the fact they ' d never honour agreements made in court . I can ' t see old nutjob I deal with ever honouring such an agreement . You ' d want a lawyer like Bill Eddy in your corner to forsee and plan for that eventuality as best as possible .