Jason , no words can make you feel better , I am sure , but please , please see that this was 100 % not your fault . Please , do not blame yourself in any way . Anyone unhinged enough to do this was not going to be swayed by you . Blaming oneself is a natural part of the grieving process but please believe that in this case it is totally not your fault , and fight that feeling . I am so very very sorry for your loss . <| sep |> thts the beauty of it . a gift and a curse <| sep |> Wait , that ' s not your nose . <| sep |> Excuse the copy pasta from another comment , but . To date , there is no prolife organization that promotes hormonal contraception . There is one secular nonprofit I believe it ' s called Secular Pro Life that states the benefits of the pill and IUDs on their site but refrains from using any funding to give these contraceptions to the women who want them because it ' s too complex an issue or some bs . If you think it ' s murder , then you should be doing everything you can to stop that murder even if it means giving birth control to women you think should not be having sex for pleasure . We know from science that comprehensive sex ed , condoms , and hormonal birth control lower the abortion rate . To be specific , IUDs don ' t have an effect on a woman ' s number of sexual partners or frequency of sex . Secondly they do have an effect on the abortion rate . They lowered it by 42 % in Colorado . But guess what the program was discontinued despite saving the state $ 5 in unpaid Medicaid benefits for every $ 1 it spent . It was discontinued because state Republicans thought it could encourage promiscuity nothing in the study supported this concern . They dgaf about abortion . Or if they do , abortion is preferable to premarital sex .