They certainly did kill women and children , take slaves , commit ritual tortureAh yes , so they could bring them into the modern american world of killing native women and children , largescale slavery , and ' enhanced interrogation techniques '.<| sep |> Ugh . OP , your husband is I don ' t even know . Like everybody else has said the obvious lazy , using you like a servant , getting into an argument with you because you don ' t want to work nonstop to feed his guests , selfish because all he wants to do is have fun and host evidently you aren ' t a host , you ' re the hired help . So in terms of responding to your husband ? Tell him that since hosting and entertaining the guests will take up one whole person ' s entire attention , and since you ' ve already cooked , watered and fed both your families , that you ' re going to swap . He can cook , water and feed the guests , YOU ' ll do the hosting and entertaining . I suspect he ' ll start another argument at that point . Which will be sufficient evidence for you as to exactly what type of man you ' re married to . Do with that what you will . Regarding you not being stuck in the kitchen all week being the unpaid help , my suggestion is you tell your husband that he can pay to get everything catered . You ' re going to go to your friend ' s party on Saturday and have no intention of being the maid .