Hey , thanks ! PM me with the details please . <| sep |> As ufudge 5962 said , there ' s no right or wrong way to break up , well , besides doing it in person , in the middle of having sex . Unless you want to go about it in a malicious way , don ' t worry about how you do it . At the end of the day , it ' s not your problem how she feels about it . Echoing what fudge also said , if you have only spoken for like fifteen minutes in the past month , and she keeps cancelling on you at the last moment , that ' s intentional on her part . If you want , maybe contact her and ask her to organise a date , and if she puts you on the long finger , from that point on , accept it is over . Now onto how you should do it , as I said before , there ' s no real wrong way to do it , however , depending on how long you ' ve been going out , doing it by text is a bit cold though , and it doesn ' t really give them a chance to respond . I ' d only do it this way , if you ' ve only been going out for a few months . My advice to you is , to be honest to her , but not brutal , and to do it by talking to her in person , or over the phone . You ' ll probably have the urge to sugarcoat how you really feel to protect her feelings , but don ' t do that . However , don ' t list off all the ways you feel she has failed you , as that will only result in her getting defensive , angry , and make her not want to listen to what you ' re saying . You could say something like , When you prioritize other things above our relationship , I feel frustrated and unappreciated , and I have decided I don ' t want to tolerate that anymore . After you ' ve hashed things out , make sure you have an exit strategy . After you ' ve made your point and she is just saying the same things over and over again or trying to convince you to change your mind , you could tell her that you ' ve said what you need to say and that you need to go . But whatever about what I think , you do you . And so do it whatever way you feel most comfortable .