We don ' t try to change anyone ' s opinion anymore with thoughtful debate . It ' s just devolved into ad hominem attacks and giggling about how stupid the other side is . These aren ' t meant to change anyone ' s opinion , just to solidify your ingroup affiliation . The issue is twofold we don ' t respect anyone anymore . They ' re racist or bigoted or a bleeding heart liberal or a loon , etc . The other side is evil , so they don ' t deserve respect as people . Second , we have a lack of will to debate whether we don ' t want to maybe be told we ' re wrong about something or because we labor under the delusion that everyone is entitled to their opinions , regardless of how right or wrong they are . <| sep |> I like it when girls show interest too . It ' s just hard for me to tell the difference between legit personal boundaries and the game .