You ' re a legend ! Thanks a million . <| sep |> Relationship counseling . You two probably need to learn some communication skills , one of those being she needs to be able to hear about your wants without withdrawing into a sulk . Maybe the depression is part of that . but it might also be part of her personality . Some people can ' t take even a hint that they might no be doing the work to uphold their end of a relationship . Which I get , to a degree . No one likes to hear that they ' re not enough or not doing enough . And as far as the depression goes . how long has she been on antidepressants ? Because that could be another culprit . Tldr my best advice is communication and counseling . <| sep |> As if we didn ' t know that already , with those glasses .