She should be hospitalized for the jungle fever . <| sep |> To be honest , I ' m not especially comfortable with helping you get him back . You didn ' t treat him well previously , and this sounds like a very selfish desire I don ' t think you ' ve devoted any time to think about how your actions may have hurt him and might affect him in the future . Imagine that you ' re him you see a cute girl at work , and get to know her and become more intimate with her . You understand that she has an abusive partner , but you were completely OK with waiting for her to leave after she told you she would . One day during a romantic walk you initiate physical contact and she doesn ' t reciprocate . She says that she ' s going to stay with her boyfriend and marry him because people know him . Imagine how you ' d feel hurtembarrassedtreated as a passing whimlied to you told him you weren ' t just staying with the guy , you were going to marry him ! as if you were complicit in infidelity especially if someone is destined for marriageawkward because this was an office romance . He then finds out that you ' ve broken up with the boyfriend you said you ' d have to marry , so now it just sounds like you made up a horrific excuse marrying your abusive partner to keep the new guy away from you . It ' s hardly surprising that he wants to stay away from you , which is what he did . And then what happened ? ! You went crazy on him and rang him thirty times and messaged him loads and loads as soon as you arrived home . I don ' t blame him for staying away as far as professionally possible . I would recommend you spend time reflecting on your actions and how much of an impact you can have on other people ' s lives , as I see no empathy or compassion in your post . Please let this guy go , and work on yourself for a while .