I don ' t have what you need , but I wanted to make sure you know that only the female Salandit evolves . In case you need the evolution still . <| sep |> Is Memphis sponsored by Zubaz ? <| sep |> Well , you make a good observation . I have been on the dating scene for two years , a lot of it meeting women from online . And , it has dawned on me that those first meetups are a big enabler for having to keep resetting my badge . Enevitvabely , phone numbers are exchanged and 90 % of the time the woman is comfortable meeting for a drink for a first meetup . I have suggested coffee and that does seem to be the exception . Having a drink seems to be the social lubricant for first meetings , in my experience . I am going to focus on me . Have realized after a reset Wed that I have no business being in a relationship at this point beginning of my sobriety . Good luck .