This is truly great . It ' s been around a month for me and honestly every day has been torture . I know I still have a long road ahead but for the first time since it happened I ' m actually looking at the future with optimism and hope for the future person that I will love . I think you are spot on with the someone to love thing . We are now missing love from our life and that manifests itself as missing that person when it ' s not . It ' s missing love and companionship . We just have to stay hopeful that someone will appear in our lives when we are ready . I try to see it like the children ' s toy with all the different shaped pieces and you have to find the right shape to go in the hole . Well when that person left our lives they left a big hole but it was a specifically shaped hole , we can ' t just find anybody to fill that hole up . We have to heal , repair and close that hole ourselves so that we are ready for a new piece to fill our hearts with .