Not too old for me <| sep |> Other siblings have a different dad . I feel like we should offer to help with Christmas , but at the same time I feel like that ' s moms job , that ' s all she has to spend on her . Why should we , who have her full time with no child support , bear that responsibility ? Like I said we just bought a house this year and with the holidays it is rough ! Especially I feel uneasy OFFERING help . I feel like if she needs the help she should ask . After the thanksgiving holiday I was going to have him reach out to BM again and ask if she understood the parenting plan and was clear that she needs to pay for flights , then go from there , depending on what she said . I do want SD to be happy at the end of day . But we are between a rock and a hard place at this point .