Been here almost 2 years , glad to have you <| sep |> I totally agree . My youngest got ABA when he was little , but we hired and fired 3 of them before we found one that wasn ' t preaching that torture was a good thing and all stimming must be discouraged . Pay attention to what they ' re doing with and to your kids and if what their doing seems off , put an end to it and find someone else ! Please ! Stims that don ' t hurt them , or anyone else , are beneficial and should be encouraged for self regulation . and sure the kid will resist a new skill , and might get upset , but there ' s a pretty distinct line between consist attempts to introduce a skill , and cramming stuff down their throats even after they ' ve gone into full meltdown mode .