what are you talking about ? i am only relaying my personal experiences . like you said , one should not be offended by personal experiences after all . I don ' t see how you can draw such a conclusion that I started all this when you were the one who replied to me with a string of your own personal experiences as racist as they might have been , but according to you i shouldn ' t be offended , so why should you be offended when i respond in kind when i say my own personal experiences . seems like you want to have some cake and eat it too . <| sep |> Fam gained popularity in the late 90 searly 2000 s in the northeastern U . S . NY I believe . It followed the trend of addressing friends as kid , son , dawg , b , then fam .