He ' s otherwise unwilling , but says to me on the daily that he can ' t wait to get out . But I feel like the only thing he cares about is being able to play video games 247 and not have to pay rent . His words do not match his actions . I think you need to take a good long look at this relationship and decide if this is what you want to deal with for the next several yearsrest of your life . His mom is an N and most likely never change . Your BF is her surrogate and you are the interloper . The entire dynamic is extremely unhealthy . If I were in your position I would do anything and everything to get the hell away from that family . Even to the point of giving up the animals would be very hard to do but you have to save yourself first .