New to me . I don ' t think it was posted any where and sounds very duplicitous . <| sep |> There you go . <| sep |> Your friend talks behind peoples backs ? I think everyone talks behind peoples backs , you ' re talking about your boss and your only exfriend behind their backs right now . Its normal , and a socially common thing for everyone to take jabs at each other , look up social comparison theory . Your friend has 5 real friends ? That ' s 4 more than you had , The world has never been historically ever a nice sugar coated bullshit fantasy , reality is filled with unfair negative , decently fair and positive experiences . Unfortunately when a guy is overly nice , that person is seen as someone who can be easily dominated , controlled , used and in the context of dating romance seen as a fake characteristic to just try to get laid . It ' s why a phrase like Nice Guys finish last came to be , and why most overly nice guys aren ' t seen as potential mates . They don ' t seem to be able to lead or have any confidence in themselves to take care of others . They instead get friendzoned and used as buddy wallets . You can tell people NO , you can voice your concerns , you can tell someone you don ' t want to do whatever they tell you to do . If its a matter of job environment , well bosses are going to be bossy and you can leave . Statistically most people don ' t quit companies , they quit whoever was their management . You want to stop being pushed around , the answer lies in why you let people push you around . You allow others to do so , they will believe its fair game to do so . Reflect on your behavior , understand what anxiety triggers you to be compelled to be agreeable or dominated by others . You don ' t have to fight anyone , but you can learn to not be ordered around if its not your problem , you can learn to be witty , you can learn to clap back with sarcasm when someone attempts to devalue you , you can learn to not stop everything you are doing , to do something super inconvenient for someone else that wouldn ' t appreciate your actions , only expect them . Read stuff about self confidence , work out a bit more , and don ' t blame others for using you , blame yourself for allow them to .