I have had two in my life and both times the pain was crazy . Sharp lightning pain and unable to really move and the worse part is there is nothing you can really do to stop it . I didn ' t take pain meds , well just alieve , and I took azo which didn ' t really help . First time I suffered for three weeks second time was just one . We all feel your pain and hope you have a quick recovery ! <| sep |> In my experience this is passive aggressive manipulation technique employed by humans that are afraid not being in control . The rejection makes you feel humiliated and worthless allowing the controller to feel dominate . Talking about it openly is the only way to make things better , sometimes therapy is needed . <| sep |> It ' s not like they addressed it , but for all we know he did vote for Bernie in the primary , then went Trump in the general .