To be the honest , pragmatic point here , if you do take her back you ' re being just as weak and stupid as her . You don ' t get to say how dumb she ' s being and how you don ' t get it and then in the same rant say how you ' re going to do the same thing . Her problem , and the pain she ' s causing you , is a lack of internal strength . You ' ve acknowledged that . If you then go on to commit to that same course of action based on an internal weakness of your own , you are now actively committing a strategic blunder , and for that no one will have any pity for you . You are kind , this is good . Now though is the time to be strong , because you need to be alone from her , and that is very hard because it is very painful . But only fools acquiesce to pain rather than work to overcome it . Be strong . You will be glad you did .