Man in black MiB <| sep |> The guys I know with good wives seem to have found them outside of base towns , usually in college areas . I guess by good I mean they have good jobs and seem to have their shit togetherThe key here is they have their own ambitions and have their shit together . The ones who don ' t have a life and don ' t know how to productively fight boredom when you ' re out for months at a time those are the ones who become the stereotypical dependas . Granted , with having their own ambitions , as someone said it could turn into a conflict with your own PCS requirements . It ' s a tough situation , but that ' s just the way the cookie crumbles on active duty . Trust me , though , don ' t be in a rush to get married .