It had some heavy liberal implications , but so do most Hollywood flicks . Arrival was a pleasant surprise as a film , kind of like Interstellar but less shitty . <| sep |> This is so dumb . Name your weed Xekoplex , or Zanamorf so people used to corporate heroin won ' t judge you . <| sep |> it is a draw . <| sep |> I think it ' s because Han Solo is a very popular character , and also people seem to really like Firefly , whose main character is very Han Solo . <| sep |> Was too skinny , wearing clothes that were too big . Had a female roommate in college who insisted on a ' makeover ' where I started wearing clothes that fit me well . Started working out , so I got more definition and with it , more confidence . Was luckyprivileged all along to be white , smart , and reasonably good looking . Read books like The Game , How to Win Friends and Influence People , etc , taking the good stuff and discarding the douchey stuff . Got psychotherapy . Continued approaching women despite lots of anxiety doing so in some situations and learned that if you approach women in a way that is confident and direct but also n onthreateningendearingnot cocky , they will generally say yes at least to drinks or something . Build a friendgroup be outgoing in new places and don ' t be afraid to sort of invite yourself along unless you ' re getting extreme messages that you ' re not wanted which goes back to the part where a little therapy 616 months can go a long way . TLDR version Start working on your body by working out and eating reasonably well wear clothes that fit you well get psychotherapy force yourself to be outgoing and utilize social support force yourself to approach women , especially when it ' s anxiety provoking every time you give in to the anxiety by avoiding , the anxiety is strengthened Rinse and repeat .