That ' s not silly . It makes perfect sense to feel hesitant and worried to meet new people if you have felt backstabbed before . My personal opinion is that there is nothing wrong with being a lone wolf . And , as long as YOU matter to you , that ' s what ' s important . But , I also feel that everyone ' s got a tribe . And , sometimes it just takes a bit of time for them to find each other . But , when they do , it ' s awesome . Hope you have a good night ! And , thank you for sharing ! <| sep |> yeah no shit the mom pressed him to marry the israeli chick , lest he end up marrying some goy <| sep |> I don ' t really know , you might ask in rchinavisa . There are a couple of folks that employ foreigners in China that follow that sub . I ' d still advise not coming on an L or an M . It would be a bummer to come to Beijing and have the interpretation of the requirements not fall in your favor . To get the Z your employer needs to get an invitation letter and an employment license , so you have made it through the most difficult part although you could still be disqualified by the medical check which is why many employers ask you to have one done in your home country first .