But by using the word bias and victimhood in these two contexts you imply they are similar the social bias towards say someone of a different colour when employing , and the sexual bias towards someone you don ' t feel attracted to . They are totally different and in one case bias isn ' t a negative thing , it ' s basically another word for prefference . I might have bias towards black chocklate cause i prefer white . I might have bias towards pakistanis cause i think they are shifty and not employ them in my company . One is an irrational personal feeling that i have a right to as individual , the other a social bias based on misconceptions that i can rationally change if i inform myself , unlike my bias towards black chocolate . One bias can be changed by education and information . Another bias can ' t , because it ' s a matter of personal prefference and feelings . Hence the first bias only is something you can accuse people of . The other is their natural right to personal prefferences . That ' s where attraction is . Women aren ' t making you victims by having a natural , personal prefference for things that make them feel attracted to men . There ' s no education or information ' that can rationally change their bias and suddenly make them wet when they see you .