Come to think of it , the EU has the same problem . I personally think the EU has a lot more popular support than the Union did when it was formed . At the turn of the century there was real excitement about the unity of European nations around shared ideals of democracy and so on . That has obviously faded somewhat but many EU citizens still hold on to this idea of a shared Europe even if not as part of a specific movement so I don ' t think the two are really the same . <| sep |> Yeah I agree and I know that OPs just playing , nonetheless there is a difference between being autistic and standing out . <| sep |> and on top of that , if she does leave , she needs to stay gone . Thats what I always think is the hardest part , its not getting fed up and leaving them , its saying not to them when they come crawling back and want you to give them another chance , lying through their teeth that they are going to change , that things are going to be different this time . Its bullshit , dont believe a word of it , they just want you to kep on enabling them so they can continue to drink and have a life , with out making any changes , and without having to be alone themselves . And , you and they both know that if you say no and stay away that it means that it might finally have gone to far , and only by sticking to your conviction to be alone can you truley comunicate to them how not ok it is for them to drink and be in a relationship with you . best of luck !