You have to be more mindful of when you are doing it . When you notice you ' re doing it or have the urge , divert your attention to another activity or thought . <| sep |> arrested doesn ' t mean charged . You can get arrested for something , only for it to be later discovered that the conditions leading to the arrest were misinterpreted miscommunicated . Part of why I personally feel the identity of arrestees should remain hidden until they are charged or even convicted . Lots of people have their lives turned upside down because although they are found not guilty or even released before any of that shit because there is literally no evidence , the mob has got it in their heads that there is no smoke without fire