It ' s as you say . Fathers can be quite stubborn when it comes to accepting a trans child . Or accepting a cis child , for that matter . I didn ' t even bother trying to come out to my father , because his personality is not the accepting kind of personality he doesn ' t accept his other child either . I spent too many years trying to gain his acceptance , making costly sacrifices to a cruel and capricious god . Now , I observe the rules of basic politeness , and that ' s it . I don ' t expect much of him , so I ' m never disappointed . I came out to pretty much everyone but him . With him , I just told him that I was changing my name to one that is androgynous , because I have Partial AIS and strangers see me as a female , and my old masculine name was getting me into cases of mistaken identity , that eventually being called Miss gets tiresome , as does being told by Uber drivers that they ' re waiting for a boy named . I told him that due to Partial AIS , my brain never masculinized in the womb , and so consequently I have no desire to look like a male and the idea of that was terrifying to me , and so I don ' t see this issue of me not looking masculine as a problem that needs solving , but rather as me just being who I am . His response was predictably unsupportive he told me that he should have injected me with masculinizing hormones at age 9 like he wanted to , but both me and my mom were against it , so he couldn ' t . He said that I should start taking Testosterone to cure myself . He regularly denies my requests that he address me by my legal name , and instead deadnames me . He is the only person who deadnames me . You know , typical dad bullshit . Ain ' t nobody got time for that nonsense . My mom has been more accepting , and I think that ' s probably because my transition has been so subtle . I ' m the same person I was preHRT , except with less facial hair and body hair , wearing female tshirts and jeans instead of male tshirts and jeans . I ' m calmer . There was never a point where I changed abruptly . I just continued with my routine . No huge adjustment was necessary .