Nr OP ' s Mandarinskrift er bedre end min hndskrift . <| sep |> Surely all these retrospective punishments is a clear sign for the need of a a video ref ? <| sep |> For me , this would be some major coldshoulder ammo . I can be pretty stubborn when it ' s important to me and frankly I cannot imagine why they would think that finding loopholes , in your wishes makes everything OK . You need to tell them . You need to tell them that that was not OK , that you feel like your moment , your privacy , that VERY intimate time has been corrupted by their actions and their . well quite frankly , selfishness during that time . If SO isn ' t going to man up and let them know that they crossed a very distinct line , you need to because it was your body and your birth . If they can ' t respect your wishes for this , it ' s unlikely they will down the road . I also second one of the comments below about contacting the hospital and expressing displeasure . If nothing else you ought to have been consulted about the small crowd hiding behind the curtain .