It wont cost money because you will be able to find a lawyer to work on contingency and countersue for SLAPP . It is not legal to file frivolous lawsuits to intimidate others . It can result in receiving legal costs plus some , as well as putting the aggressor attorneys up before their states ethics board and potential disbarment . If someone tries that on you , consider it like hitting the jackpot . Once you show a willingness to fight back , watch how quick they ' re ready to settle and if not get ready to take them to the cleaners . <| sep |> I haven ' t ever cheated but I was in a relationship where , when asking myself if I would , I didn ' t have a firm answer . I ended up breaking it off soon after , but if the woman I was falling for at that point had initiated something , I would ' ve wanted it to happen . Edit My girlfriend had become emotionally abusive . Being constantly insulted and cut down started to take it ' s toll . I had a friend who was supportive and encouraging , but she also didn ' t know the extent of the abuse at home . I developed kind of an emotional affair with her over the course of a year .