It ' s unbelievable , really . This is a Land of Confusion . <| sep |> This would be great if I knew what a Viennetta was <| sep |> wanting an SO is much different than wanting a little food . what most incels want is a lifetime monogamous commitment from one individual . that ' s a HUGE thing to ask of a person . it ' s much , much larger than asking for $ 5 when you live under the bridge . if you want a lifetime commitment from a person , you have to show them that their lives will be better when theyre with you . you have to earn it . even if someone were to date you purely out of pity , it would be hollow and eventually lead to resentment and toxicity from both of you . getting a fulfilling relationship is so much more difficult than getting food , and it cant possibly be solved through simple charity . i hope this helps .