Yep . Parents ask if you ' re gay mine asked if I was transgender . <| sep |> A purple skilled shape peeled from the shadows . Clothed in simple furs and leather the Rift Keeper had been all but invisible in the darkness of the woods . Around his neck the fang of a Rift Chameleon dangled from a piece of leather , making the man a member of the Charonite priesthood . What are you supposed to be ? You don ' t look human , but you are no vamp either . And who is this lady Mar ? <| sep |> Didn ' t find him . <| sep |> Psychiatrists are doctors of psychiatry and prescribe medications , they don ' t usually provide therapy . If your wife needs therapy she or you needs to seek out a therapist . If you feel her psychiatrist isn ' t helping enough or has enough resources to help look for another one . You aren ' t ankle chained to this one doctor . Then for a few days when she is well she says she realises I am the best husband ever and a great dad etc and she doesn ' t mean it . However when she is feeling low she certainly seems to mean it and of course I fall into the trap of trying to remind her of all the good etc . What makes you think she doesn ' t mean it ? Why do you take her negativity all in but her happiness with a grain of salt ? Obviously her mood swings are affecting you , but you have to find a way to take care of yourself too if you want to be of any help to her or even your kids . It sure sounds like your wife could use some therapy to deal with the roller coaster of emotions and not take them out on you , but at the same time you can ' t let her do that . If she is having an argument , dont keep arguing with her . Back off , go for a walk , eat something and cool off . If she keep throwing shade on you , tell her you don ' t appreciate it make consequences . Being ill is no excuse for abhorrent behavior . You don ' t have to take the abuse . Her illness is NO excuse ! Also on a very personal note she has periods where she is unhappy with our sex life and makes me feel very inadequate . I try to make it interesting or more frequent but often she will wait until the next day and say something likeYou only had sex with me for your pleasure or I didn ' t really enjoy it but at least you did or you only had sex with me because you had to . That makes me feel awkward about approaching her about being intimate and then she criticises me for the lack of sex . The thing with bipolar especially in women is that not only does hormones affect this , but so do the moods . I suspect once her BP is more in control so will her own sex life . Do not take her criticism personally they are more about her than they are about you . But you do need to listen . Ask her to explain these feelings . What about it didn ' t you enjoy ? What could help you enjoy it more next time ? . Her comments about having sex with me because you have to and only for your pleasure speak volumes about her insecurity . Remind her why you fell in love with her . What makes you love her . That sex is not what makes you love her but a tool that can bring you closer together because you love her so much . Is it the case I just can ' t help her and I just have to ride it out with her and be there when she feels better ? No , you can ' t help her at this point . You are doing all you can . Now it ' s her turn to do the hard work and get better . Pills are not a cure . Neither is therapy , but they can be great tools in helping to manage it all . She needs to take the initiative to get better . She alone can only make that choice . And if she doesn ' t want to there is nothing you can do about that except live your own life in the way you see fit . You do not have to stand by someone who refuses to take care of themselves and abusive towards you because of illness . You have to take care of yourself and control of your life and the kids if you have to . That ' s all you can do for her .