That ' s a pretty impressive resume . <| sep |> Oh boy another person slathered with makeup who thinks that they ' re giving us a challenge cause you ' re soooooo attractive , but little did you know that everyone realizes how fake you are . There are way to many of these fucks on this sub <| sep |> I hope optic don ' t go out first seed from their group today . If they do they have to face dignitas in the semis <| sep |> For what you can do not much . Stay by her side , tell her you ' ll always be there for her , but also be sure to say that you don ' t think her husband is good for her . Focus on his actions , not personal attacks , and ask her to think about her children . No matter what , with that man in her life , she and her children are unsafe . He will not get better with the child nor will he truly care about them a man who loves his children does not abuse their mother . Children always know when a parent is being abused , and they ' ll end up with no small amount of emotional trauma . Keep in mind , though , that this is a complicated matter that must be treated delicately . Right now , she is being controlled in her relationship while I have no doubt you care about her , adding more attempts to control her even if its for her safety can backfire . However , I am not an expert , though I am studying domestic abuse . What you can do is look up books about abuse and ways to help loved ones with abuse . My suggestions are To Be An Anchor in the Storm A Guide For Families and Friends of Abused Women ' by Susan Brewster and ' Why Does He Do That ? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men ' by Lundy Bancroft he ' s a doctor who specializes in abusive men for both of you for her for obvious reasons and for you so that you can get a fuller picture of how he is and how to deal with him . I hope you can help your friend and that she will see what she deserves . Sorry if there ' s typos or if this is a bit haphazard , I ' m on mobile .