I ' m not a supporter but I did vote for him You ' re a supporter . Own it . What he does to the country is on you . <| sep |> Listen . Take this with a grain of salt , but I was you when I was your age . I was constantly compared to and then oblivious to trying to live up to my sister . My sis and I were to some extent at odds because of this . She got the better degree , was more attractive , was better behaved , had herself together . All the things that made me feel I would never measure up . There were some really painful holidays . Twenty years later and she ' s my best friend . We ' ve both had successes and fuckups . She has a family and I ' m child free . We both had some resentments we talked about and both at times thought our parents favored the other . We recognize and use each others strengths . We support each other in weakness . But we would probably never have gotten here if one of us stopped going to those uncomfortable fucked family holiday dinners . Things will change . Your parents perception and opinions will change as everybody matures . You be you , roll your eyes at your folks and carry on .