Not inviting you on Thanksgiving and then rubbing it in your face is evil . That ' s now how you treat someone you love . That ' s how you treat someone you hate . I think you should go NC , completely , right now . Block them on social media , block their numbers . Go to therapy . Build your own family of friends with your GF . Have Friendsgiving in the future , Christmas eve dinner , etc . You will derive exactly 0 benefit from continuing contact with your family . Just stop now . Otherwise in 10 years you ' re still going to be tormented and sad by their terrible actions . I cut out my biodad 7 years ago and have spoken to him once , by mistake . I have 0 regrets , he ' s a piece of shit who never paid child support and basically hasn ' t helped me with anything my entire life . I don ' t need that . I choose to spend time with and invest in people who love me , and whom I love . My life is much richer for it .