If he is a reasonable adult , he won ' t care . it may have ruined what we hadNo , not unless he is an ignorant asshole , you ' ll be fine <| sep |> WEWThanks for taking the time to write this post and inform us all . I have a lot more sympathy for him , but I still think he ' s an idiot . And the whole grey quarter thing really gets on my nerves . <| sep |> It ' s not about being strong and independent for me it ' s about having autonomy and the ability to control your own life . A lot of these RPers read a bunch of biotruths on the net and then try to tell me what makes me feel happier just because I have a vagina between my legs . I hate being unable to make any decisions because I feel everything ' s out of my control . Imagine you thinking way differently than everyone else to the point you have to be either very sneaky or very headstrong to see through to things . I hate being told what I have to feel and what should make me happy or unhappy just because I ' m a woman .