Because no other generation has ever spent money on hobbies . <| sep |> Inform him that because these are his guests he invited without asking for your opinion , you aren ' t able to cook a 5 star dinner every day of the week , do all the shopping and all the cleaning up . So you will coordinate this thing and do your best if he will do all the tasks on the chore list you give him , when you ask him to do it . So he will sweep the floors , clean the bathrooms , do all the shopping and whatever else is needed . This is a work intensive situation and in order to make it turn out nice , you need to work together like a team . Otherwise , if he refuses to cooperate , you will prepare or buy ready made some very simple dish and snacks and excuse yourself for the evenings when his friends are there . You can always say you ' re feeling sick and need to lay down . By the way , your husband behaved like an ass .