That was the first lore book i ' ve ever read and this story about Eitrigg and Uther is still one of my favorites . <| sep |> Says my name is too short or too long to join this server <| sep |> Most is pretty normally , but I have comments on two things Choking Like actually wants to pass out , but not sure if I ' m capable of that , mentallyThis takes a lot of skill to do right without causing damage , except with the to the point of pasting out . That sounds like the self destructive play I forbid myself from engaging in because it is unsafe . I loved being choked until the edge of consciousness , but if I pass out , that is a full stop right there . Just not safe , red flag . Don ' t do this one . Choke her , but make sure she does something visible for you if she gets light headed . Don ' t let her allow you go so far as her passing out . It just isn ' t safe . likes being called good girltold she did a good jobSounds like she needs approval mostly . This is something that you MUST not neglect in my experience . Failing at this is likely to cause a drop as much as not having proper aftercare . What is interesting though she does seem to be into humiliation as well almost . So I would say she needs it to keep herself from dropping and to remind her it is all just play . For this I recommend saying things like You are doing so well , aren ' t you , you worthless little whore ? Such a good girl Bookending the humiliation with praise so that it sounds almost false , it is difficult to get right at first but for this just relax and talk , don ' t worry about how it sounds . If need be laugh at your stupid comments if they come out cheesy . Beyond that you need to not worry about her challenge for now . First explore your own likes and dislikes . Luckily with such an open girl she will likely go for anything you want to try , but remember to communicate and feel her out . Find your limits first , then find hers . That said , uwhereismydragon is right about the red flags and take that on board . It is possible she doesn ' t 100 % know what she wants so just try anything you can after running it past her fist before hand . It isn ' t uncommon not to know your limits , I occasionally find new limits of mine and my pet . I recommend highly improvised scenes for this type of stuff where you make a list of everything that might happen , but she doesn ' t know what exactly will happen and nor do you because you make it up as you go . It lets you try a new things as a whim , and if one thing is not working you can shift directions quickly to try something else that you know does before one of you drops , helping keep the fun going , as a drop is best avoided if possible , and new stuff can cause one , so always have a plan to avoid it if you can . I use these types of scenes when something new is on the table for just this reason as it means I can transition to avoid drop rather than have to shift to aftercare mode to try to fight one off . As for things to try , as you did ask , these came to mind Ball gag or with her maybe even a ring gag and facefuck her through it . Blindfold . Wax play , though be VERY careful on this and read up on it heavily before you do so . I have a bad burn from a bit of wax . Get a very dull knife , and try some knife play . It always works better when they think it is sharper than it is as the psychological effect is still there , but it is far safer , I do this with two knives , one she is allowed to see that is dull , and the other is basically blunt and is more of a knife shaped metal club , this way mistakes end in bruises at worse when you drop it on her toe from nerves I have seen someone get a foot piercing this way , and not in cuts . She seems like the type to try this , and it might even help you find a boundary . Do your homework first though , and do not forget to discuss this one in full detail . I would say put aside a scene to try this out , or open with this after you both negotiate everything , as this can ' t be improvised . Also start reading up on boundaries , setting hardlimits , safewords , and protocol . Safety is important . Also look around about dom and sub drop and aftercare . Do your homework . EDIT Amended some details with the knife play part