Thanks for this . just reposted link to RedFlagDeals forum to raise awareness for you . <| sep |> Was awakening some stupid units . Shouldn ' t have done that . But at least I have a lot of back up strategy . <| sep |> My husband is an only child as well and is also very attached to his parents . They can be very intrusive and my husband used to really feed into it . They used to invite themselves over , have tried intruding into our finances , my MIL even tried to follow us to our hotel room on our wedding night 😖 because she wanted to give us a card . My parents are divorced and while I ' m close with both of them , I can go a week or two without talking to them I ' m not an only child though . Only children and their parents have a different bond than those with siblings . The children are used to being the center of attention and the parents are used to focusing their attention and energy on one person . It can be really difficult to understand if you aren ' t also an only child or if you aren ' t close with your parents . And while it may be the norm for hubby , it isn ' t fair for your life to have to be affected by it . What you have to do is set boundaries early on . It ' s not easy . It ' s a delicate subject because hey , they ' re his PARENTS , so approach it lightly . Understand that there ' s nothing you can do about how attached HE is to them . But you do have to put your foot down as far as how it affects your marriage , or it ' s only going to get worse . But this would be the perfect opportunity to bring it up . You have a very valid argument here . I would wait until after the Thanksgiving festivities to avoid awkwardness , but approach your husband calmly when you ' re alone and say , hey , I know you really wanted us to all be together on Thanksgiving , but I specifically told you no because I had a lot of work to do and you pushed the subject anyway . As a result , our cat is sick and stressed out from the travel and I ' ve gotten barely any work done . I feel like sometimes the needs of your parents sometimes come before the needs of our relationship can we please talk about this and try to set more healthy boundaries with them ? Make sure you also bring up that since you have a different relationship with your own parents for x reasons , it can be difficult to adjust to his relationship with his parents and how it affects your marriage .