The culture we live in has pressures out the wazoo to get married and have children and other nuclear family BS blah blah blah . Well I want to be with someone and while I do want kids have decided not to have any despite that desire for responsible reasons . Why do you ask . It boils down to the system that handles break ups and divorce . But around the 3 or 4 month mark of the few relationships I find which are few and far between , when I say never getting married or having kids or explain why , they almost immediately ghost me . Cant seem to find someone who wants to be with a mother person who is willing to not be legally tethered to one another and until I do or if I do I will be alone and I am okay with this because I will not compromise certain things and those two things are on the list .