I think you are handling everything very well and patiently so props to you . I don ' t really think there ' s much you can do than what your doing . You seem to be both talking it out and hearing each other ' s feelings and working on the problem . I can say tho feeling like best friends shouldn ' t stop her unless she is fighting a feeling that she doesn ' t really like you but can ' t bear to tell you . I mean my boyfriend of 8 years is my best friend . Someone I trust to tell anything to . Someone who I know won ' t judge me on everything I do . Someone I can conquer the world with . So I am not saying she doesn ' t like you I ' m saying maybe she ' s having a hard time accepting her feelings and doesn ' t know how to show her feelings without feeling judged . Don ' t push her too much but she ' s gotta know that your there for her and that if you aren ' t feeling any affection back the relationship will suffer because you will feel under appreciated , not loved , maybe even taken for granted . You guys both seem to be good at listening to each other and talking it out with out fighting so just keep going in that direction hopefully she will gain the confidence to just be 100 % her around you !