I appreciate your insightful response ! I agree with one of your biggest points , I feel like cheating would only provide me with a shallowshort term fulfillment and it seems like I want something more than that . I ' ll try to talk to her about considering an open relationship and we will see what happens . If she says no , then I ' m not really sure what will happen . I feel like it would be hard to stay with someone long term if they will not let you obtain sexual fulfillment , meanwhile they ' re technically fulfilled due to a lack of desire . It would seem so selfish , i just can ' t see why a LL person should deny their NLHL partner from having sex with others when they ' re in a DB <| sep |> their plans and scheming will come to nothing