I think it ' s mostly biology , biology informs social behaviour anyway and so even social conditioning is really just another expression of biological traits . For example women are weaker bioloigically speaking so good survival traits for them is ability to manipulate and there ' s some good examples of this when it comes to them behaving in distress and men being triggered by that distress to intervene in the situation . It ' s where white knighting comes from . It ' s evolutionary favourable because offsprings likelyhood of survival is directly linked to the kind of resources the man can provide traditionally and so good resource provision was key . The hunter that could bring back the kill and have stuff left over was the person you ' d want for your mate . Having excess after a hunt is an outward marker of that persons ability to provision . Some women had a biological attraction to that and so were more likely to survive and pass on the trait of that kind of attraction . Women actually score better on standard empathy tests on average . I ' m not saying you shouldn ' t hold people accoutable for their choices but it requires an active mental process to understand your own bioloigical drives that give your actions bias , to compensate for that bias , in the same way that men want to fuck attractive women but we have to have a mental loop running in our heads to not cheat . Just keep in mind that the average IQ is 100 and 50 % of people are stupider than that , most people aren ' t capable of deep introspective thinking , they just muddle through life blue pilled . You can either accept that and enjoy your social interaction with them to the degree that you can , or you can actively seek to be with people such as yourself , but it ' s a more lonely place , and you have to accept that trade off and be responsible for your own choice to hermit away or whatever it is you end up doing .