the state ' s and fed ' s wishes are going to win here <| sep |> I should point out he is getting other presents . It ' s not just opening an RRSP . <| sep |> The one thing I ' m pretty sure of is that the quicker you ' re replaced , the more disordered she blatantly is . Or in other words , you were a huge trigger . Whilst you ' re slowly healing through the pain to a healthier future , and learning all the while your ex has to cling on to her new victim straight away . Yes I know that to pwBPD being ' alone ' is worse than death , but it ' s still boils down to the fact she ' s too much of a coward to address her own issues . And guess who suffers as a consequence ? Yep , your soontobemindraped replacement . The end result is all too predictable , and often her traits will eventually manifest in even worse ways with the rebounder than with yourself , because these people never take stock and learn from past mistakes . In short , your replacement is fucked . He just doesn ' t know it yet . And that fact alone should be your closure to move on .