Nice episode of Black Mirror that . <| sep |> IGN MandiDeposited Luvdisc , lvl 14 Message I want to fill my PokedexThank you so much ! <| sep |> I forgot to mention they hired me privately for everyday care and they ' re the only person I ' m caring for at the moment full time . I have worked for other patients privately that are family friends of theirs . That is where they got the recommendation . The only reason I ' m not working for those families anymore is because who I was caring for eventually passed . I have worked in a a nursing home before that has a locked down dementia unit . I ' m not worried about the dementia patient . She says really off the wall things like any other dementia patient . It ' s just the husband , I ' m worried how he has perceived it . I know how to handle telling it to supervisors and what not , but in this case it is me handling it directly with the family . And the husband only understands dementia to a point . He thinks she understands and perceives more so than she actually does . even when the specialist she sees refuses to even do the MMSE anymore because they know she ' s going to completely fail it and has scheduled no further appointments . It can irk my nerves sometimes because I get to the house and he has obviously let her run wild without supervision . He leaves her to go to the bathroom by herself and she doesn ' t wipe properly and I have to clean her up . I can leave on a Friday and come back on a Monday and she ' ll sometimes be in the same clothes that I left her in . And he is perfectly capable of caring for her in most aspects , I ' m just there so he doesn ' t have to do it all the timeso he can go out . and because the sons knew this was going on and wanted someone else there . They are the ones that pay me , not the husband . I ' ve tried to explain these things to him before . That she ' s not capable of caring for herself in any way . He acknowledges it for that moment , but goes back to believing she can . I know it ' s the denial . I just don ' t know how to handle him . He seemed okay when I went there today , but I ' m not exactly sure .