You ' re right , I should have specified some men . Not being sarcastic <| sep |> Oh , my bad . <| sep |> YES . Love this . <| sep |> Most of my life I ' ve battled with eating disorders and body image issues , so I ' ll give you my seasoned opinions and hope they help . First Your girlfriend ' s body issues aren ' t your responsibility . Read that again . You are not responsible for fixing her body , for fixing her problems with her perception of her body , etc . You can only do what you can to be kind and supportive , to try to stay aware and be helpful , but know when she ' s talking to you and when her what sounds like disorder is talking instead . Know when you can help and when you really can ' t help any more . You can ' t win here . If you have more sex with her she ' ll feel like you ' re doing it under protest and it will make her feel less sexy . If you initiate she ' ll feel unworthy , if you don ' t she ' ll feel unworthy , everything you do she will interpret in her head as supporting this great big lie her mind is telling her about herself all of her perception of sex with you stems from this lie and is in support of it . She needs therapy , and not from you but a bona fide pro . I would sit down with her and kindly but firmly state that you love and support her , you find her crazy sexy , but her issues with her body are really upsetting you because you care for her and hate what it does to her . Listen to her and support her , and suggest she see a therapist for help . And between you and me , if she isn ' t willing to seek therapy for herself , or at least to try for you , then she ' s not doing her part and maybe this isn ' t a healthy relationship for you to be in . Edit Downvotes ? Really ?