Eartha Kitt <| sep |> If you actually want to get over your feelings for her , you have to stop having any kind of contact with her , period . It ' s clear that you ' re still at a point where you aren ' t able to manage your desire to be with her , and it only flares up and gets worse when you two do talk . As for your question , I would suggest moving on from her . You ' re still young and I ' d advise against spending these years of your life pining over someone who was able to break up and move on quickly . Keep yourself busy with other friends , try indulging in your hobbies or pick up a new one . When I was in bed after surgery , I ' d pass time by playing video games , or reading . I know it sucks , but I promise it ' ll get easier . Good luck .