Yeah but then it ' s rehosted content and that ' s not allowed either . <| sep |> My best friend is adopted and his adoptive parents told him the same thing many times . From what he says , being told that changes you . The aftereffects of believing that you could be sent back are changing on the same scale as a rape . Seriously . It ' s absolutely , incredibly damaging . Especially over something like eating food . And even more especially on the way he may now feel excluded from the family , because he was rejected at a family event . I say that so that you can understand that your father did the right thing by immediately coming down hard on this . You don ' t need to resolve it except by telling your brother that of course he ' s not going to get sent back , and that the ones who played this joke on him are mean and are being punished for it .