Media is encouraging us to bitch about everything politician wise but we pretty much never heard of hard working politicians unless you are close relevant somewhat . So if we can start a trend of backing certain politicians , give them focus attention they need whether promote campaigns or crowd fundings . On the other hand with additional attentions on them , they are more liable with their action and can easily backfire if chose to abuse one ' s publicity . <| sep |> Unfortunately LDR are really conducive to cheating . I ' m not trying to scare you it ' s just fact bc well , it ' s easier . But even if someone was living with you as so many married couples are it still happens . So , I guess the point is that if it ' s going to happen , it ' s going to happen . All you can do is make sure you ' re paying attention to actions over words , watch out for red flags , listen to your gut , keep talking to your partner about your feelings and be honest , have healthy boundaries in the relationship , don ' t make excuses blinded by love for someone ' s poor treatment of you , etc . Cheating is emotional abuse . It ' s also trauma . Have you tried any type of therapy or anything to deal w your residual emotions around the previous incidents ? That might be helpful . So sorry for your suffering still these things are so painful .