Isn ' t that the worst ? These are people who are supposed to create healthy relationships and boundaries with mentally unwell people . They ' re supposed to help people with mental illness overcome their fears and trust issues . And then you end up dealing with someone who is apathetic or violates your trust or doesn ' t listen to your concerns etc . and you end up worse than where you started Edit sorry only saw first half of comment . Best of luck to you as well ! <| sep |> Perspective matters . It ' s not about relapsing , it ' s about what you ' re gaining from abstaining . If the last 4 months were amazing then that should be your progress indicator right there . Keep doing you and good luck ! <| sep |> So I ' m back home and I ' m 87 % convinced my younger sister is being stolen valored for sympathy points for banging . She left thanksgiving dinner early to meet up with this guy who just got back from Africa . The dude is a nasty grill 11 b . He said he was in Somalia and saw some shit according to my sister . Is there combat in Somalia ? Is this 1993 ? Is my sister fucking this dude ? Help me .