When you get outside the wealthier high schools this stops being a thing . <| sep |> Well , that ' s me unsubscribed . <| sep |> Interesting article that I have never thought about , but somehow I felt more comfortable to be in PIGIPS with regular clothes collared tees and chinos than malls in Melbourne SCBD and SingaporeION . I feel like people doesn ' t really care what other wear in malls here , unlike malls abroad . <| sep |> anyone read my post once . I ' ve addressed these with any views ? I ' m making . <| sep |> Love it ! Great job and great series . <| sep |> Hold a mirror behind your ass and gaze upon 100 % premium butthurt <| sep |> You ' re gonna have your hands full with this one and grandkids . You and your DH need to shut this stuff down now before kids come along because that brings out a whole other side of crazy . If you don ' t want your kids having gifts from Santa but your Mil is insisting she will do it anyways behind your back , you are going to have a big problem with undermining . She is showing her true colours , listen to her . I would tell Mil that under no circumstance is gifts from Santa to be a thing and if she does it or tries to do it secret she loses access to alone time with your children , and any gift found to be from Santa will be returned or donated . Same for the dog thing , what if she doesn ' t like the name you and your DH pick out for your children . She does not get to call them whatever the hell she wants because she doesn ' t like the name . If mil keeps doing it , walk away with your child or kick her out of your place if you have too . She needs to learn that it will not be tolerated . I would also suggest you keep any names you pick under wraps until the ink dries on the birth certificate , because there are MILs who try to get the name they want on there , causing fees and issues to have it changed . When you end up pregnant , and don ' t want her there , tell her a due date that is later then your real one so you don ' t get a surprise visit of her coming to help . Also don ' t tell her when you go into labour so she can ' t guilt trip you into allowing her to come like my mil ghost did . Shut down any social media if she has it . If you don ' t want pictures or statuses of baby on Facebook or anything else tell her before hand and if she does it remove access to photos and cut off info for statuses . If she is on your social media limit what she can seeposttag you in . If you want them to be vaccinated before they see baby . Make them show proof and have a cut off date . If they cannot show proof they don ' t get to see baby until baby has had their shots . If she won ' t give baby back when you want them , she loses the privilege of getting to hold them . Any choices you make regarding feeding , sleeping , holidays are not up for discussion with her . If she tries to insert her opinion without you asking for help , shut her down and don ' t give in . She is not a parent , she doesn ' t get a say . Most of all make sure your DH is on your side and agrees with any boundaries and consequences for violating those boundaries . Sit down with him and make up a list of what and what is not acceptable . You both have to then enforce them otherwise she will walk all over them . Having DH in your corner is half the battle , it ' s a lot harder to wrangle crazy if he is not . Learn from our mistakes and make your spines and boundaries solid now , it will save you a whole lot of heartache in the end .