Sort of ? I can apply it to other similar problems , but I don ' t see how you came up to the answer . <| sep |> Between the electoral college , the distribution of Senate seats , gerrymandering , and capitalist hijacking of our political parties , we have very little democracy . Revolution is the answer . <| sep |> Or sitting solo in a tiny truck with no phones or electronic devices on an empty flight line watching planes working a 12 with a MRE . . <| sep |> So , your wife wants to bring K over , who isn ' t comfortable with you , and the proposed solution is to hide you away when K comes over ? And you help K pay rent ? What is the problem between you and wife ' s friend ? Have you asked your wife how she would feel were the situations reversed ? You say your wife feels it would be unfair to make K uncomfortable , ask your wife how uncomfortable it might be to hide away in your own house . This is not an equitable arrangement . It ' s also not a sustainable arrangement . You need to have a conversation with your wife about the boundaries of your relationships , because the simple fact that your wife thinks that this is an okay solution , says that there are a few problems with how things have been communicated thus far .