Hmm you may have a point there . I just try to establish early on that I ' m taking a different approach so people don ' t run a mile . <| sep |> Not as far as the pay is concerned though . After taxes there ' s very little disposable income compared to the US . <| sep |> A nice guy treats me as an equal partner and respects my opinion and vice versa . He does little thoughtful things for me to let me know he ' s paying attention . If I dress up for him , he notices . He ' s there to hold me when I am having a shitty day and will stand up for me without even thinking . He ' ll open the door for me , be appreciative of the effort I put in cooking a good dinner , putting on makeup , putting on sexy lingerie , etc basically the things feminists will demean me for doing when I am perfectly happy in my role as wife and love being feminine . I am a strong woman as well and he does not ever try to hold me back from succeeding , in fact he is always encouraging me . I do the same for him . After we had our boys , he somehow got it into his head that he needed to give up being in a band and I pushed him back into it because I know how much he enjoys it . We push each other to be better people . I don ' t ever feel like he ' s trying to manipulate me and I don ' t do that to him . The longer we ' ve been together , the better we are at communicating . That ' s where I start to disagree with redpill mentality . Because if you look for an intelligent woman , you don ' t need to play silly mind games . You also have to be a man , because women don ' t like a pussy who will roll over or pine after us in a pathetic way . I want to be with a man who I know won ' t go home and slit his wrists if I shut him down , but rather stand up for himself with confidence . I don ' t think most men would enjoy a woman who is pathetic like that either . Redpill mentality was born because of the excessive feminist movement and the emasculation of men everywhere . Somehow it became wrong for men to be men or women to be feminine . I will not apologize for wanting to be female and a wife . I will not allow some nutjob chick try to convince me that it is wrong to look nice for my husband or let him open the door for me . My husband and I run a small business together and we share household duties as well as taking care of the boys . If one of us is sick or having a bad day , the other steps up . Anyway , that ' s my two cents . I ' m sure some feminist Nazi will accuse me of being a guy posting as a woman again .