Sounds like maybe a gay man or woman therapist might work , since you can ' t have sex with them ? I don ' t know , just a suggestion . Since you seem to like older men , does that mean you don ' t like sex with people your own age ? <| sep |> I have literally always said this is the biggest mystery . Say for example I see green as the colour of trees and the colour of leaves , but so does the next person . Because we are told our whole lives that that is green . But what if another person sees green as my blue and I see green as their purple . How can we know when our controls in any experiment aren ' t even controlled . We think we all see the same thing because we are conditioned to know certain things are the same colour . I can go on about this forever , so weird to me , but whenever I talk about this to anyone else they look at me like I ' m the one who ' s weird !