As always , the worst are always the loudest , they ' re the easiest to take notice of . I also feel like there ' s not much education for bpd , especially from compassionate people or people with bpd . I didn ' t know what it was until I got diagnosed with it at 20 . I ' m sorry that stigma exists , i wish things were different . All we can do is stay educated , stick together , and stay strong , I suppose . If it ' s something that really bothers you , you ' re allowed to not mention it . I think many of us have been down the same road , and were all here for you . If you want to mention it and try to fight stigma , that ' s a pretty brave feat that I personally haven ' t been able to do , and I give you my thanks but people aren ' t always going to be open to it . Personally , I notice in many forums where people discuss bpd , they only talk about the bad because people generally vent about the bad , not the good . But everyone with bpd is different . You may have the same symptoms , but we all react to them in different ways and we all have different thoughts on them . Some people are psychopaths and have bpd but people only notice the bod . Some people are really sweet and kind , and they have bpd , but people still don ' t talk about them because they don ' t need to vent . Anyways , hope this helps . Sending luck !