I always saw it as the writers making a distinction between love and hero worship . I know many people don ' t see the harm in it and it ' s not horrible travesty or anything but there ' s quite a few good reasons to avoid this type of romance . It ' s a disaster a lot of the time . Cordelia ' s characterization is a great example . I wager an acceptable way the two could work is for them to get rid of the motivation behind Cordelia ' s crush in the first place . But if they do that , her character suffers immensely . <| sep |> Why is this downvoted ? I was told the same thing by a qualified personal trainer . Perhaps not for heavy weights that require a lifting belt , but start with a big breath and exhale as you go up . If that ' s wrong , can someone please explain why ?