Exitia points at the AWing , the black one with red racing stripes . That one . Fastest sublight speed in the galaxy , at least as far as I ' ve seen . <| sep |> Oh gosh , I ' m so sorry . I can ' t believe he drags you out of the car by grabbing your arm . That ' s not normal behaviour ! It is unacceptable . He has serious anger issues . Being with him again is something I have not shared with anyone , not even my parents or closest friends , simply because I was afraid of being judged for going back to an abusive ex . I did the same thing . I haven ' t told many people . This is us already knowing that we ' re not with the right person . Instincts . You have the right idea a sudden change of plans will irk anyone but not to this extreme . You realise that and his reaction is not sitting right with you . In my opinion , he is extremely abusive and disrespectful . I cannot tolerate being sworn at in conversation . I don ' t swear at others and I don ' t want to them to swear at me . My partner does it a lot in the middle of fights and I have told him repeatedly that I don ' t like it . An emotionally abusive ex of mine also used to do the same thing . It is how the disrespect begins . They say they don ' t mean it in a bad way and it comes out in anger , but it just gets worse from there . It starts with a ' shut the fuck up ' moves to a ' fuck off ' then ' fuck you ' and then ' bitch ' it just escalates . I can tell that you are a very respectful person from the fact that the swearing upsets you . Him not talking to you for 27 hours is his form of punishment . Classic indication of an abusive partner . They withdraw affection as a form of punishment . What usually happens is that the next time you plan to go out with your friends , you are going to remember this and you will say no to them in order to avoid pissing him off . Also , now he has the upper hand . He is so abusive . My friend ' s bf does the same to her he won ' t say a word to her for 3 days straight . She will text him and he won ' t even reply to say hey or goodnight . 3 days later he will text her as though nothing ever happened , and makes her feel like there was no ' fight ' and she made it all up in her head . Think about it this way when you get mad , no matter how upset you are , do you react as badly as he does ? He ' s made you feel like you ' ve done something wrong when you haven ' t . I don ' t see any other way you could have done it better . I would have handled it the same way if I were you . Going back to the role reversal , what if you were in his shoes , and he said he wanted to stay out longer . Would you get mad at him and not talk to him for 27 hours ? Would you swear at him ? he rang me back to say that he had the right to treat me in whatever way he pleased since I was the one who changed our plans My eyes shot wide open when I read this . My partner says some very similar things . When I tell him to talk to me with more respect and to stop being rude , he says he is nice enough already and will talk to me however he pleases because he will do what he wants . Bratty , immature , and entitled . He cannot mistreat you like that just because you changed plans . It ' s not respectful . This is a mantra I live by No one owes you niceness , but you owe it to yourself to go where the love is . I honestly hope that you get out of this , as do I . It is temporarily nice and has its good moments , but we know in the long run , it is going to destroy us . Yesterday , a friend of mine said she knew she had made a mistake the minute her son was born . Her husband refused to stay nights in the hospital with her , and he was out with his friends . He doesn ' t spend time with his son . She said she always knew at some level that he was going to be like this , but she thought once the child was born , he would change . They don ' t change . Take them as they are . Thinking about any future children is what keeps my sanity in check I ask myself if this is the man I would choose to be the father of my children . I am terrified when I think of raising children with him . I cannot stand to think of the abuse that would ensue . Post on the sub and see what others have to say . I , as someone in the same situation as you , feel your pain , and I hope you find your freedom .