Just as an fyi , be careful with Backpage , cops have caught on to it and run stings through it in some places . I believe the owner of it got arrested not too long ago as well . <| sep |> simple ! get a life ! <| sep |> The Danvers TD dinner being ruined is the tradition . Eliza turns up and blames Alex for whatever problem that she has with how Kara is living her life not dating enough , dating too much , going public as Supergirl were all Alex ' s fault according to their mom , Alex then gets drunk and they have a big fight . That apparently is the actual traditionLast year she got hammered and told her she worked for the DEO and that broke up the dinner before it even got started . The situation with The Danvers is like if instead of Joe raising Barry , he had just handed responsibility to Iris and made her his caretaker . So Alex in truth had to raise a teenage super when she was only 14 herself