If the 407 was in the UK it would be banned because getting fucked by an entire highway has to be considered more than 4 fingers . <| sep |> Yeah , I think I agree with you that not everything is a threat . And if we live assuming everything is dangerous to women , then we are taking away their agency as well . Not many people want to live in a society where the women are never allowed to be talked to or approached except by permission from the women ' s male family . Probably the people living in them don ' t like it either , they just fear the alternative far worse . Similarly , I don ' t want to live in a world where the men are too afraid of being a creep to talk to women , and women are too afraid to talk to men . In our culture it seems we are stuck too . The men are sad that they are seen as the enemy automatically , and the women are sad their concerns are dismissed automatically . Where I have seen gender talk be successful and fruitful is a respectful attitude and open communication . Something like , as a either a man or a woman , I see that you ' re being friendly and , either I welcome interactions with you , or I communicate clearly an alternative way for us to interact that ' s acceptable to me . It ' ll be up to the declining party to be polite and clear , and up to the rejected party to take it graciously and respectfully . It should be like that for both genders . Example , guy offers a hug , I happily accept a hug or I offer a hand shake instead . Guy needs to not c ' mon no hug ? or pull the hand shake into compulsory hug . Another example , girl says hey wanna go get coffee . If it ' s an acquaintance i have a good chance of saying yes . if it ' s a stranger I have a policy of saying no . I will tell her how she can get to know me and then yes , or I would be happy to tell her I have a boyfriend girlfriend and that will be the end of it . Girl needs to respect a no and not yell obscenities or say things like , well if I had bigger boobs or if I dressed sluttier I would have said yes . I would very much like that kind of world . And perhaps it is up to me to keep trying to make it so . But after more than a few encounters with bad apples who don ' t respect no like in above examples , sadly it ' s far easier to assume the worse and shut it all down fast . It ' s not good . It ' s really not good . And it ' s a crying shame for both genders .