That ' s poor judgement . I think it ' s awesome . What are they going to do , leave ? Oh no , please don ' t , stop . <| sep |> As a guy , expected to make more effort most of the time . I get it . It sucks trying to find something similar to what you once had . And at first , getting back into dating is a little hard Meetingtalking to new people , not finding anything Meeting some more , getting bored and frustrated by lack of connection Meeting more again . still fuck all . It feels like shit , and it usually brings up feelings like Oh God , I can ' t find anyone worth while . what if I lost someone specialthe one ? Welp . it ' s bs made up by our brains . They weren ' t special . They probably weren ' t even 1 in a 100 . The thing that worked for me was just working through it , I kept trying . I got bored sure . I mean I ' m still on and off tinder when I ' m not busy with the rest of my life . But I realised somewhere along the line , after talking to a lot of people , meeting girls in clubs etc . that I didn ' t really need anyone anymore . After being single for a while you start to remember how freeing it really is ! Lonely ? Sometimes , but it ' s not crippling anymore , in fact it doesn ' t even feel bad . If you feel lonely , shoot a message to a friend , play some games , listen to music . The point is , when you ' re single for a good amount of time . It ' ll feel good again . And then dating won ' t feel stressful anymore , it ' ll be fun again . And that ' s when you know you ' re ready to really look for something new .