It wasn ' t when I wrote it , you goon . <| sep |> I think it might have to do with views on gender . When a society believes that a man is a real man only if he is the boyfriend or lover of multiple women , then cheating will become more normalized and out in the open . However , with that said , I am only addressing the male side of the coin . I ' ve been in Thailand for quite a while and discuss this topic multiple times a week due to the fact that everyone in my village knows that I am adamant about being faithful to my girlfriend and give me shit about it all the time and while they will admit that woman also cheat , I ' ve never heard anyone , male or female , say that a real woman has multiple lovers . Just my experience .