Weird how in some places that works and people get upvoted , but other places it gets downvoted a shit ton <| sep |> Send an email saying its off , and move on with life . If anybodys life anywhere has become this pity please seek professional help . <| sep |> yup once a week would be fucking awesome ! !! i think where i differ from a lot of the other HLs apart from being female is that my guy has a reason its all been explained i know exactly why it is happening and it is absolutely nothing to do with me i dunno leaving him feels like punishing more for something that isnt his fault that he is working so hard to try and fix <| sep |> Yeah , guys who want to be friends with a girl don ' t go out of their way to ask if they have a boyfriend twice , and write a cologne scented card note to them . Treat him professionally at work , but don ' t go out of your way to chit chat . If he asks about the note , you could kindly tell him your restaurant doesn ' t allow servers to hang out with customers outside of work may be true , may not , but it ' s less awkward than straight up saying you aren ' t interested . These situations are really awkward . It ' s not like the guy was crude or inappropriate , but it puts a server in an awkward position when they aren ' t interested because you don ' t want to offend someone . I work at a place frequented by older businessman and we have lots of regulars that love to chat with us , thankfully none of them cross the line into flirting or asking us to hang out , because it would be very awkward to have to turn them down .