I don ' t know where to turn for answers to this issue . Any help is appreciated . I ' m afraid you ' re going to get a lot of you need to get divorced . Or , from Side A types , go ahead and have sex you ' re married . I don ' t know that either of those pieces of advise is really helpful . I ' d definitely encourage you to seek out the Side B forums at the Gay Christian Network . Side B , if you ' re not familiar with the term , stands for those who believe homosexual activity is impermissible , like yourself and your husband . That ' s the only community I can imagine that might have someone in your same shoes who can counsel you from experience . You ' re certainly in a tough spot . I wish you luck . <| sep |> Im not convinced that will keep my head warm for long .