That ' s how we treat one of my cousins . The dude is a grown ass man , married , has a job , and he ' s responsible . No one gives a shit when he goes out to smoke a joint . It ' s just funny as hell because he still lies about it and tries to hide it . Coming back in with those white as rice eyes . I ' m pretty sure he thinks we still don ' t know , but we do . So you better bet Granny messes with his head whenever he comes back lmao <| sep |> Coming from a female perspective . Looking for partners on the side is just as damaging as actually taking a partner , if not worse . The amount of effort , and interest that goes into looking is arguably more than the actual sex . I ' d suggest couples therapy , and individual therapy . Infidelity is fairly common , you ' re not abnormal . Monogamy isn ' t for everyone .