At least 3 . 5 pains . Comparable to getting slapped full strength by a 12 year old who doesn ' t do sports . so it hurts , but isn ' t unbearable <| sep |> In several of these pics it looks like he ' s posing by doing the duck face . <| sep |> It would be kinda cool if there was some sort of boss at the center . <| sep |> I ' m a gal and it has worked well for me , so I guess that ' s why I advocate the direct approach . I think it ' s hot when a guy knows what he wants and values his time . and my time . Plus you don ' t have to do it in a way that puts someone on the spot and it doesn ' t necessarily have to be the first thing that comes out of your mouth . At some point early on , preferably before sticking your dick in someone , there should be that conversation .