Another example would be a Halloween party . I have a friend who ' s parents are well off , and they have a really nice house . Right . The venue ended up falling through , so I suggested everyone chip in some cash , and we could easily rent something comparable . Why ? This wasn ' t your party , it is up to the organiser to offer a different venue or cancel . Six people responded and the majority weren ' t willing to pay anything . I thought this was pretty pathetic . These people are between 2129 ish years old . This is the reason why so many people are seeing where your wife is coming from . It is none of your business what your friends spend their money on . Why should they chip in to pay for a new venue when your well off friend could probably afford it themselves ? My wife says it ' s me , and I act superior to them , and not everyone finds the same things fun that I do . So have you ever asked your friends what they want to or have you always suggested expensive activities ? I get you don ' t want spend your 20 s drinking but you need to find friends who share the same hobbies as you and stop trying to force it on your existing friends because you are actually pushing them away