I can relate . Specifically working on this during the past year , the most helpful perspective has been solidifying who I am on my own . This has meant specifically alotting time to be by myself and go on solo adventures . When I ' m puttering around my home singing , dancing , talking to myself , and laughing at my own funny thoughts . that ' s me . The chameleon without a backdrop . My goal is to be that person at all times where it isn ' t specifically better or enjoyable to adapt to others . I ' m pretty damn good at looking at things objectively from multiple perspectives , but without that core subjective view , I ' m depriving others of my own inner contribution to the world . It ' s especially helpful to do something novel and a little outside my comfort zone when I go on solo adventures . Meeting new people in different contexts is good , too . There ' s less information about them to adapt to , so I ' m more likely to express more of myself .