Photos Drop the fish , back up from the camera , get better lighting . Questions It seems you ' re looking for a level of purity in a match that ' s hard to come across on OKC . Most women using the site will not be virgins , and may be turned off that you ' re looking for one . Profile As uarowhena said , you ' re clearly a bright guy . I just had the overwhelming impression I was reading a wellwritten LinkedIn profile instead of an OKCupid profile . Lose some of the formality , don ' t start right up front with your academic CV . <| sep |> Hope she ' ll be okay ! <| sep |> We ' re not so big one the Pirogies over here , though . <| sep |> I grew up in and around NYC . The stereotype of a Joe Pesce doppelganger yelling , Eyyy , I ' m walkin ' ' ere ! is fucking true . We hate tourists and if you stop in the middle of the road you might just well get shoved out of the way . If not , the only reason is because shoving you would slow us down more than deftly avoiding you . We bob and weave our way through crowds and don ' t give a shit who we walk past . That ' s why , this In Western countries , people are more courteous bullshit fucking got me . Are you fuckin ' kidding me , mate ? If anything , I ' d buy into the mystical Oriental social harmony , nobody ever pushes bullshit first , because big Western cities are not courteous . We haven ' t even mentioned how catcalling and street harassment like that in NYC is a problem , either . Tokyo courteous is lacking , give me a fucking break .