i feel so ashamed . Well here ' s the # 1 thing you need to work on . Stop giving a damn what others in the gym think of you . There may be one or two people in the gym who judge you , but those are the kinds of people whose opinions matter to absolutely no one . Do I notice when someone else is using an abnormally light weight , or is doing something like negative chin ups ? Sure , sometimes between sets I may look to see what other people are doing . Do I judge them ? Fuck no . If I ' m going to be judgmental , I ' m going to be judgmental of the guys that ' re using way more weight than what they can obviously handle , just for the sake of their ego . I imagine most other gymgoers are the same . You ' re going to look weak for a while before you begin to look strong . Understand that everyone has to go through that phase . Embrace it , power through it .