Interestingly , this has been the subject of some serious research . For example , uMaxxters , the mod who wrote a lot of the rsex FAQ , wrote an excellent summary of the research done by Dr . Peggy Kleinplatz and her colleagues The Components of Magnificent S e x c omponentsofmagnificentsex . And the fascinating thing about that research is that each couple thought they were unusual or unique , that every couple is different , yet their descriptions of magnificent sex matched one another on point after point . It turns out , rather unexpectedly , that magnificent sex is a clearly identifiable experience with eight quite strong and identifiable characteristics 1 . Being present , focused and embodied 2 . Connection , alignment , merger , being in synch 3 . Deep sexual and erotic intimacy 4 . Extraordinary communication , heightened empathy 5 . Authenticity , being genuine , uninhibited , transparent 6 . Transcendence , bliss , peace , transformation , healing 7 . Exploration , risktaking , fun 8 . Vulnerability and surrenderThis fits perfectly with my own experience and the experiences of the couples I interviewed for my tantra project . I recommend reading Maxxters ' article and the original research for yourself to get the full descriptions of those characteristics . Ref The components of optimal sexuality a portrait of great s e x c o m p o n e n t s o f o p t i m a l s e x ualityaportraitofgreatsex The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality , March 22 , 2009 Peggy J . Kleinplatz , A . Dana Menard , MariePierre Paquet , Nicolas Paradis , Meghan Campbell , Dino Zuccarino , Lisa Mehak