Archive links for this post Archive I am Mnemosyne reborn . Danger , Will Robinson ! Danger ! rbotsrights <| sep |> Being sad is fine . Making comments to ruin her day and make her feel bad is not fine . <| sep |> to be fair though , i would die without my snapchat mods . <| sep |> To me it sorta seems like some combo of cultural conditioning and personal habit . I ' ve realized over the years that men like cuddling and handholding and the like just as much as we do , but are culturally told they should just be I interested in sex . I would keep initiating and don ' t worry about him not being interested . What made me feel rejected in the past was thinking my bf didn ' t want to do it since he didn ' t initiate hand holding , but once I realized he liked it I was a lot more willing to initiate . If you want him to initiate , you can either bring it up casually and clearly or , like I said , just guide his hand to your butt every once and awhile and maybe he ' ll get the hint . You shouldn ' t have to learn to want less affection .