They send you an email . In the email is a link to activate . Follow the link , and you ' ll be able to make a password <| sep |> Thermite taking looking glass too far <| sep |> I ' m still figuring this out but I ' d say basically after I tried dating . I never dated anyone really . I had guys pursue me in high school but I just never felt anything for them so never went out with them other than maybe for 1 date . Same thing pretty much in college . I thought I was gay at this time . I actually do still think I ' m gay and romantically attracted to women . Watching lesbian couples on shows and movies gave me butterflies whereas media with straight couples didn ' t do that . However after college I tried online dating a little . Granted I only went on like 5 dates but it always felt like a friend vibe . There was 1 girl I think I did have a crush on though and honestly I still will get butterflies if I see her post something new on social media . Anyway we only texted for a few weeks and went on 1 date . The date wasn ' t even that good and I have no idea if I ' d be sexually attracted to her if we dated but I did have some type of romantic attraction . I think my experiences though definitely lean me towards asexual . I read about other gay people going on same sex dates for the first time and how right the dates felt etc . That didn ' t happen with me . I didn ' t want to jump anyone ' s bones or kiss them during the date . Basically anytime I ' m actually in these situations I am uninterested but when I fantasize I want to kiss etc . It ' s like a disconnect for me between reality and fantasy . My experience is extremely limited though so I feel it complicates things for me . I want to try experimenting but at the same time it normally doesn ' t feel right to me .