Then why don ' t they fucking vote more ? They literally could have completely reversed the Referendum result , it was that close . <| sep |> By identity I mean something fundamental about yourself that you cannot change . If they feel that they are a certain gender , there ' s nothing they can do about that feeling . They can alter their body to match that gender , but they cannot stop thinking they are that gender anymore than you can stop thinking you ' re yours . You can easily change your hair colour , hygiene and body type . I guess you ' re bigoted if you don ' t want to date someone based on eye colour , but quite frankly , I ' ve never heard of that happening . Honestly , I think eye colour is such a minor part of someone ' s identity that I ' d call it petty rather than bigoted . I wouldn ' t say the same about something as fundamental as someone ' s gender . Yes , you ' re allowed to , but it makes you bigoted . No one said you can ' t be bigoted . It ' s honestly not that bad in some cases . it seems to be used more as a pejorative term it seems , but really all it means is that you ' re intolerant of something . There are some things that it ' s probably good to be intolerant about e . g . poor hygiene . Just because you ' re transphobic doesn ' t mean you ' re the kind of person who goes around beating up trans people . There are different classes of bigots . Not wanting to sleep with someone that was born a man doesn ' t make you some kind of monster . If your gay friend doesn ' t want to date someone purely because of their race , then he ' s racist . Where is the hypocrisy here ? Why do you think that I think it would be different for gay people ?