This so much , please everyone have some patience . <| sep |> You don ' t need to seek approval from others to know your worth . <| sep |> he is 16 years older than me and I have been blaming his unwillingness to have sex on his ageI thought you meant he was old when I began reading this . He is not too old to be engaging in an active sex life at 37 ! There is something else going on here more concerning to me and I ' d like to give you a word of caution as a 35 yr old female . He ' s not too old to enjoy sex but he is too old for you to be in a relationship with . I think some of his issue is that you are not yet on the same m e ntalintellectualemotional level yet . This isn ' t a personal failing at all . It ' s an age 21 vs age 37 thing . I am nothing like the 21 year old me anymore . My values , my goals , my general outlook on everything has changed , formed , reformed , and adjusted as I ' ve matured . You ' ll be happier in the long run with a BF under 30 yrs old .