I ' m an adoptee , and my only advice is think of which you could regret moretalking too soon or losing your only opportunity to ever talk . <| sep |> He ' d laugh just as hard as I am at these arguing points . <| sep |> It somehow gives them power to call others racists , homophobes , white supremacists , white nationalists , you name it . It ' s absolute insanity . We can ' t say anything negative to them but they ' ll slander us like there ' s no tomorrow ! <| sep |> In September of 2001 , I was dating a woman named Jen , who ' s older brother was a engineer working for a company under contract to the US military . As he tells it , on the 11 th , he was with a military man who had to interrupt their meeting to take a call . According to Jen ' s brother , he clearly overheard him say . they shot it down ? ?