5 CAN CHANGE HAPPEN IN AN INSTANT ? Just after my twenty - first birthday , though , I was exposed to a series of technologies that could make changes in people ' s lives with lightning - like speed : simple technologies like Gestalt therapy , and tools of influence like Ericksonian hypnosis and NeuroLinguistic Programming . When I saw that these tools could really help people create changes in minutes that previously took months , years , or decades to achieve , I became an evangelist in my approach to them . I decided to commit all of my resources to mastering these technologies . And I didn ' t stop there : as soon as I learned something , I applied it immediately . In each of these , I talked to people about these technologies for creating change and made it clear that if we wanted to change our lives , whether it was a disempowering habit or a phobia that had been controlling us for years , that behaviour or that emotional pattern could be changed in a matter of minutes , even though they might have tried to change it for years previously . Was this a radical concept ? You bet . But I passionately argued that all changes are created in a moment . It ' s just that most of us wait until certain things happen before we finally decide to make a shift . If we truly understood how the brain worked , I argued , we could stop the endless process of analyzing why things had happened to us , and if we could just simply change what we linked pain and pleasure to , we could just as easily change the way our nervous systems had been conditioned and take charge of our lives immediately . 토니 라빈 스 는 청춘 시절 에 아주 열정 적 인 학습 자 였 다고 느껴진다 . 그리고 NLP 등 을 통해서 배운 핵심 , 자신 이 깊이 느끼 고 사람 들 에게 전파 하 고 싶 은 핵심 은 ' 즉각 적 인 변화 , 전광석화 같 은 변화 ' 인 것 같 다 . 나 는 엔엘피 대해 문외한 이 라고 해야 맞 다 . 토니 의 이 생각 에 대해 내 가 바르 게 , 깊 게 평가 할 수 있 는 위치 에 있 지 않 다 . 그렇지만 ' 지금 ' 만 이 존재 한다 , 그러므로 변화 는 항상 ' 지금 ' 이루 워진 다는 점 에서 맞 다고 생각 하 고 , 점진주의 가 현실 적 이 라고 생각 하 기 때문 에 이런 점 에서 의문 을 가진다 . 순간 적 인 변화 와 점진주의 문제 는 어쩌면 적용 대상 을 달리 하 는 것 인지 도 모르 겠 다 . 변화 는 항상 ' 지금 ' 이루어지 고 , 따라서 토니 의 말 에 공감 한다 . 그렇지만 인간 의 여러 측면 에서 의 성장 은 점진 적 이 라는 게 내 생각 이 다 . Why is it that most people think change takes so long ? One reason , obviously , is that most people have tried again and again through willpower to make changes , and failed . The assumption that they then make is that important changes must take a long time and be very difficult to make . In reality , it ' s only difficult because most of us don ' t know how to change ! We don ' t have an effective strategy . Willpower by itself is not enough — not if we want to achieve lasting change . I stopped using the word " programming " because while I continue to use many NLP techniques , I believe it ' s inaccurate . A better metaphor for long - term change is conditioning . 엔엘피 나 , 조건 반사 이론 이나 뭔가 내게도 부정 적 인 느낌 을 주 는 것 이 있 다 . 인간 의 본성 과 는 맞 지 않 는 접근 방법 이 지 않 을까 . .... 토니 는 어떤 만남 을 계기 로 ' 프로그래밍 ' 이 라는 용어 대신 에 ' 조건 화 ' 라는 말 을 쓰 기 로 했 다고 한다 . ' 프로그래밍 ' 과 ' 조건 화 ' 의 차이 는 뭘까 ? Once we effect a change , we should reinforce it immediately . Then , we have to condition our nervous systems to succeed not just once , but consistently . You wouldn ' t go to an aerobics class just one time and say , " Okay , now I ' ve got a great body and I ' ll be healthy for life ! " The same is true of your emotions and behaviour . We ' ve got to condition ourselves for success , for love , for breaking through our fears . And through that conditioning , we can develop patterns that automatically lead us to consistent , lifelong success . NEURO - SCIENCE : YOUR TICKET TO LASTING CHANGE Great breakthroughs in our ability to understand the human mind are now available because of a marriage between two widely different fields : neuro - biology ( the study of how the brain works ) and computer science . The integration of these sciences has created the discipline of neuro - science . Neuro - scientists study how neuro - associations occur and have discovered that neurons are constantly sending electro - chemical messages back and forth across neural pathways , not unlike traffic on a busy thoroughfare . This communication is happening all at once , each idea or memory moving along its own path while literally billions of other impulses are travelling in individual directions . This arrangement enables us to hopscotch mentally from memories of the pine smell of an evergreen forest after a rain , to the haunting melody of a favourite Broadway musical , to painstakingly detailed plans of an evening with a loved one , to the exquisite size and texture of a newborn baby ' s thumb . Not only does this complex system allow us to enjoy the beauty of our world , it also helps us to survive in it . Each time we experience a significant amount of pain or pleasure , our brains search for the cause and record it in our nervous systems to enable us to make better decisions about what to do in the future . For example , without a neuro - association in your brain to remind you that sticking your hand into an open flame would burn you , you could conceivably make this mistake again and again until your hand is severely burned . Thus , neuro - associations quickly provide our brains with the signals that help us to re - access our memories and safely manoeuvre us through our lives . " To the dull mind all nature is leaden . To the illumined mind the whole world burns and sparkles with light . " RALPH WALDO EMERSON When we do something for the first time , we create a physical connection , a thin neural strand that allows us to re - access that emotion or behaviour again in the future . Think of it this way ; each time we repeat the behaviour , the connection strengthens . We add another strand to our neural connection . With enough repetitions and emotional intensity , we can add many strands simultaneously , increasing the tensile strength of this emotional or behavioural pattern until eventually we have a " trunk line " to this behaviour or feeling . This is when we find ourselves compelled to feel these feelings or behave in this way consistently . In other words , this connection becomes what I ' ve already labelled a neural " super - highway " that will take us down an automatic and consistent route of behaviour . This neuro - association is a biological reality — it ' s physical . Again , this is why thinking our way into a change is usually ineffective ; our neuro - associations are a survival tool and they are secured in our nervous systems as physical connections rather than as intangible " memories . " An illustration of this in human behaviour might be that of a person who no longer enjoys smoking but still feels a compulsion to do so . Why would this be the case ? This person is physically " wired " to smoke . This explains why you may have found it difficult to create a change in your emotional patterns or behaviours in the past . You didn ' t merely " have a habit "— you had created a network of strong neuro - associations within your nervous system . We unconsciously develop these neuro - associations by allowing our - selves to indulge in emotions or behaviours on a consistent basis . Each time you indulge in the emotion of anger or the behaviour of yelling at a loved one , you reinforce the neural connection and increase the likelihood that you ' ll do it again . 사람 들 은 그저 ' 습관 ' 을 가지 고 있 는 것 이 아니 다 . 신경 체계 안 에 강한 신경 회로 가 만들 어 져 있 는 것 이 다 . !!! 아마도 토니 에게 이것 은 인간 행태 에 관한 감동 적 인 해석 방식 이 었 을 것 같 다 . 그런데 , 사실 나 는 이것 보다 더 난감 한 이론 을 알 고 있 다 . 그냥 습관 이 아니 다 . .. 그냥 신경 계 안 에 길 들 이 나 있 는 것 정도 도 아니 다 . .. 사실 은 술 귀신 , 담배 귀신 , 섹스 귀신 , 탐욕 귀신 . .... 들 이 존재 해서 , 인간 의 욕구 , 감정 , 생각 , 언행 에 영향 을 주 고 있 는 것 이 다 . ... 아 하하하하 . ... What the science of Neuro - Associative Conditioning offers is six steps that are specifically designed to change behavior by breaking patterns that disempower you .