I think for people who ' ve been through what we have we don ' t get comfort on the holidays . We get something I call ' Further UnAbused ' at best . It ' s not the presence of healing , it ' s the absence of abuse . They ' re not the same thing and are often confused . This is assuming one is nocontact . I think the normal rules just don ' t apply to us . Not in a human decency way but in a general mediasociety way . Saw yet another person on a talk show talking about how you can ' t pick your family and family is forever seriously , screw that noise . <| sep |> That episode is a good one for closed captions . You know the guy typing it out had fun with it . <| sep |> It ' s the most popular . The other 4 can easily be bought at msrp and in most cases below msrp .