Jase blushes and grins widely . How does it look ? <| sep |> Go with arizer air <| sep |> You are now banned from Cheese Facts . <| sep |> I had a boyfriend who was getting over rape himself . The key is to let sexual intimacy be slow if he needs it . Male survivors get a lot of shit thrown their way and in some cases are laughed off because their men they can ' t be raped in some peoples eyes . He tried a survivors group and they basically stonewalled him so you may want to check that its male survivor friendly if your BF wants to try finding a group . What we did was lots and LOTS of talking about what we were comfortable with and extended that communication during sex . We also took it slow 8 months into the relationship was when we finally did the deed P . I was his first since We also took advantage on both ends of useing the red light , yellow light and green light system during sex . Ie if its good and wanna keep doing what you two are doing say green , if you wanna switch it up or pause for a bit and discuss something say yellow , and Red for full on stop right then and there . Then follow though with this plan . It helped establish a safe and trusting relationship for both of us . I don ' t know about your partner but mine was so scared of screwing up sex for me becasue he knows how powerful a fucked up sexual experience can be so hearing me say green light frequently helped put his mind at ease . Everyone processes this at a different rate and like everyone else said therapy . Its been years and my ex and I are still extremely close , and just the other week said that he feels like its totally over and behind him now . Your partner can get past this . Just one step at a time .