When I was 19 , my ears were badly frostbitten . Frostbitten skin is always more sensitive and heals damaged so my ears are the same , and turn red in extreme temps or rapid temp changes . I dated a guy for a while who had to ALWAYS point it out . Omg , your ears are so red ! Like your head is gonna explode . sings Fin the Red Eared Girlfriend . You ' re like a human mood ring ! No , I think it ' s cute . Like a baby ! He would point it out to other people . He would flick my ears to purposely irritate them . Main reason he ' s an ex , right there . I would tell him yes , I know , they ' ve been that way 20 years . I can ' t control it . Please stop touching and flicking them , it doesn ' t feel good . Nope . Didn ' t care . Haha big joke . People that care for you don ' t make you the butt of their jokes . People that care about you defend you . People that care about you STOP a behavior you tell them is hurtful , even if they think it ' s not a big deal . Its a big deal to YOU . Jokes are only funny if EVERYONE is laughing .