Evidence . Not proof . <| sep |> 160 hr is not high at all . if you do steady state at lower heartrates you may aswell just sit on a chair watch tv . <| sep |> All you can do is be honest . When I do Internet dating now , even if things are going well and we ' re flirting a bit , I find it hard to get excited or even particularly optimistic about it , because you can meet and it can go nowhere . The only time I would is when the woman specifically compliments your appearance , which does happen very occasionally . It ' s tough to accept , but you have almost no control over whether any individual woman is attracted to you . All you can do is maximise your appeal , but you can do this and still strike out over and over and over again . And there is nothing anyone can say , do or advise that will change that .