I hear you . my mom was crazy well , she is , we have been no contact for a couple years and taught me nothing about being a girl . I did nothing but raise my brother as well . I stumbled through a lot of it man I have some embarrassing pictures of horrible fashion choices in my early 20 s . I don ' t know why she didn ' t teach me anything she was sort of all about the fashion when I was young . I wasam pretty angry about how much she didn ' t teach me . But the thing is , she taught me a lot of what not to do and how not to do it . I don ' t have a daughter , but I have used her horrible parenting as a guideline for how not to treat him . I bet you are so much more intentional and contemplative about how you interact with your daughter and you actually think about how to prepare her for life . That is already miles ahead of your mother ' s parenting style . You will learn it little by little as your daughter grows into the girl stuff because you care and you want to learn it . You are already such a better mom to your daughter than your mother was because you care , and your daughter will get all the benefits of that .