Alright fair does <| sep |> Lose ten pounds and see if it helps . It ' s very possible it won ' t having a hotter female body doesn ' t help , on the level of confidence or any other , if you ' re supposed to have a male one instead . Thought experiment two I ' m a trans woman . I used to have what would be considered a very attractive male body . Then I took estrogen and softened , lost most of my muscle , got curvy and softfaced , and zapped off all my facial hair with lasers . What is your visceral reaction to that processto the idea of a male body turning into a female one ? It ' s fine to tell me if there ' s some discomfort involved . When I was much younger , I felt a certain shock at the idea of trans men transitioning , because internally my mind screamed but you have everything I want to have already , how could you give up the Holy Grail ? It was irrational , of course , but gut emotions often are .