There ' s a lot that went on in this marriage which fostered exhaustion and contempt from both sides I ' m sure . Sometimes it ' s worth it to work things out with your loved one . Though in this case I can ' t even refer to your husband as a ' loved one ' based on your words . No one here is going to tell you what next big life decision to make in regards to this . I can only personally reiterate my unbiased view on this . That being said , it ' s hard to see this fixing itself . Sometimes it ' s easier to start new with someone else , when there ' s nothing left to fight for in the other person . You will still have your children to see they are all relatively young and you can still ease the transition while they ' re this age . Keep in mind the state of your finances and your household are you in a position at the moment where a divorce wouldn ' t cripple your ability to sustain your children ' s and your own lives ? Take it all into account . Though again , as for the marriage directly . again , he cheated on you , you care obviously , it ' s been this long but you do not love , you feel trapped in the bedroom almost sounds like your boundaries are being violated on top of that . I don ' t know , I would personally have walked away as soon as the cheating thing happened since cheating is a 100 % deal breaker for like 90 % of people . If you ' re part of that 10 %. consider everything else I mentioned . If you ' re part of the 90 %. then I would leave .