Look , you gotta learn the local language , culture and customs if you are moving to Asia especially if you ' re dating local people . A lot of folks there don ' t which is ignorant as immigrants in the USUKAus sometimes face violence if they do not speak English . Think of yourself as a Mexican going to work in the US . Dont think of yourself as going on vacation in a tropical country . This includes learning about social hierarchies there and viewing them with a critical eye from the education you received about equality . Whether or not the country in question has been colonized by people who look like you , and how this may affect your reception . Really , really try to think about this from a local person ' s perspective , and most importantly have local male friends of a variety of socioeconomic classes so you can learn about a local man ' s perspective . Go to regular pubs and restaurants rather than expat hangouts . Learn slang , as well as the standard language . Whether or not your child will be subjected to different treatment because of their perceived skin tone . What are the social and occupational hierarchies there for example who has maids , and who becomes maids does the maid look like the person who hires the maid and really thinking about how you want to behave .