I feel pretty sorry for him . Lots of people are shitting all over him because he ' s got four kids , and can ' t cope . I wouldn ' t be able to cope with one , so I ' ve not had any . I ' ve got this sub to thank in part for helping me realise that children are not obligatory . Maybe this guy didn ' t know he had a choice . Maybe he didn ' t know that he didn ' t have to follow the lifescript and have kids . Maybe he thought , to begin with , that he wanted kids . Or maybe he loved his wife so much he gave her what she wanted . Baby after baby after baby . Maybe she tricked him into having the first one and the others just followed . There ' s so much negative stigma around dads who bail , even if they never wanted children . Maybe he felt he couldn ' t . I really feel sorry for the guy .