It ' s not common at all . Here ' s the thing that they are missing . When you are insecure about something you naturally and subconsciously project a body language of insecurity . A guy at the park with his kid is nine times out of time completely ignored at worst , admired at best by the other people there . A guy at the park with his kid shiftily glancing at everyone around him , sweating , acting nervous and like he has something to hide naturally raises suspicions , because he ' s acting like he ' s not supposed to be there , and what are one of the few reasons you shouldn ' t be at a park ? Obviously there ' s going to be a random outlier , because there ' s a random outlier for everything . For every person that safely drives down the road , there ' s going to be someone , somewhere else , that gets swallowed by a sink hole out of the blue , that doesn ' t mean that pulling out of your driveway represents a sink hole threat . If you don ' t act like people have a reason to judge you at a park , causing you to act with the same mannerisms that make people suspicious , no one is going to judge you for your gender .