are these at the same time ? <| sep |> Oh that ' s weird <| sep |> I have trouble with my work and personal lives mixing . Like , I don ' t know how to act . One time recently , I was at a work team bonding thing at a bar , and my boyfriend decided to come . It made the whole thing feel weird because no one else had their SO there , he didn ' t know anyone we were talking about . it just made me and them feel really really uncomfortable . I ' m an extremely affectionate person with people I love and am close to , so it feels weird to suddenly not be able to be really physical with my boyfriend around my supervisors and coworkers . It just feels uncomfortable . So when out with work people and an SO , I tend to give more attention to my coworkers because I have to keep up some kind of image , I suppose , whereas if it ' s just me and him or me , him , and a bunch of friends , I have nothing to lose by being our normal selves together . I know that I don ' t like to be surprised , and I REALLY don ' t like my friends and coworkers mixing and my family mixing with my friends , etc . I keep everyone separate for a reason .