Shit , it only took one failed relationship for me to quit dating . It was one of those things where things got bad , she got scared , and started lying and placating me out of fear , which only made me act increasingly paranoid and insane , and the whole thing turned into a nightmarish feedback cycle of shit when a man is angry with you , ladies , he actually wants honesty , not what you think will make him feel better . in a state of anger , your manipulations are obvious and insulting , FYI As far as my friends are concerned , it was pretty much entirely me who was the asshole , and to this day I am subtly excluded from any gatherings with people who sided with her mostly everyone . I didn ' t date anyone in my 20 s because she taught me that girls are shitty , oblivious , horrible people who never get called on their behavior , who can ruin your life and leave you with no recourse , which is true . but at this point I think it ' s just my circle of friends who has given me that impression . I ' ve met enough good women by now to know that my raw hatred of femininity is . mostly not true . At this point , the only way forward that I have is to cut off all of my circle who is still her friend , move somewhere where none of them will visit me , and give women a chance . probably one who has had the shit kicked out of her by life enough to know what equality really means . Probably delete my Facebook , too , since it has morphed into a cesspit of bullshit where the female ego stuffs its face full of byzantine , emotionally manipulative food . listen , listen , listen to our bullshit . It ' s fine . Someone out there probably doesn ' t suck . The truth is , I haven ' t really put much effort into looking , and until I really do , none of what I think matters . I just wish more girls were aware of the power they have to utterly ruin lives .