I ' d be down to troll people like that if the whole pronouns thing gets out of control . Excuse me , sir ? ITS ' PEDE TO YOU MOTHERFUCKER , DONT ASSUME MY GENDER <| sep |> Of course , footwear is a necessity in many situations . And I acknowledge that marriage can be right for some people . But my point is that such things should be done because they work for you , or are necessary . The things I mentioned are a few examples of what people blindly include in their lives as a matter of course . Not because it make sense to , but simply because the dominant culture has taught them it ' s normal and expected to do so . I encourage people to identify any such assumptions they may have been living by , examine them , and allow them to stand or fall on their own merits .