Yeah , I did wonder how he got his job with writing skills like that . <| sep |> I think in this case , you ' re golden . Slurs without reason are inexcusable . Slurs in this context are totally understandable . I ' m even beyond my usual battle cry of cuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuunt . Your wife sounds pretty fabulous , you sound like you are growing stronger all the time , and wiser too . I ' m reading your stories right now , in a little burst , as I do . I hope all those involved one day understand the impact of their complicity in your abuse has done . Karma is real , karma is objective and karma IS coming . As to you , keep working through it all , you deserve a happy and healthy life your wife sees something amazing in you , believe her and honour that faith by getting strong and staying strong . Be blessed .