Controlling , manipulative and abusive . 100 %. Do not question yourself there . Can you get away ? Do you have anywhere to go ? <| sep |> Gates did it , and he ' s a for sure hof . A lot of TE played basketball in college . <| sep |> Yes I would suggest a kit to try it out first . Cross stitch is such a slow yet fun ! hobby . I can ' t tell you how many times I have started one and got half way through and never finished becuase I just lost interest . And if you put one down for a few weeks it ' s hard to start back up because you forget which color is which and whatnot . Try out about a 5 x 7 sized project kit , that will give you a good idea if you like it <| sep |> As someone who lives close by to this whole thing and in a county that is sending peace officers there I shall put this in the immortal words of Joseph Biden it ' s a bunch of malarkey