ok that ' s a TIL . I mean I know the trigger for Lover ' s Comfort it just never clicked to me or maybe because I always tend to marry Elisif . She looks something like edit The mod I use is one WARNING This mod changes her body texture so she ' ll literally be naked if you pickpocket her clothings away . found out about that the hard way To marry you need consoles commands quotes are what you type in . Don ' t forget to get the amulet of Mara from that priest in Riften , console ' d amulet doesn ' t seem to work copypasting a guide I ' ve found before Find the NPC you want to make a followermarry . Open console with the tilde key . Click on the NPC . The NPC ' s ID will pop up when you click them , take note of the ID , you ' ll be using it later when you are setting relationship via console command . addfac 19809 1 addfac 5 C 84 D 1 Inorder for the followmarriage choice to appear , the NPC has to like you . To do this , you need to set the NPC ' s relationship level . To set the relationship between you and the follower correctly , you need to type in BOTH OF the following lines into the console . Setrelationshiprank NPC ID HERE 4 Player . setrelationshiprank NPC ID HERE 4 Help NPCs Name 4 This will give you the ID , along with a lot of other random data about the NPC , take the code you find and type in the line below . setessential The ID you found 1