. what an asinine statement to make <| sep |> Considering cinder blocks weigh 30 pounds a piece . ouch . Hard pass . <| sep |> smoked macncheese sounds like a smashing idea . I think I will throw some on . I am thinking about making some biscuits and gravy in dutch ovens in the hotbox right now . <| sep |> For social distractions , play online video games , even if you ' re no good just have a mic open and talk . There is always interesting people and communities in online games . You could also revive old hobbies or simply build new ones . A lot of the times there are hobby groups that you can meet up with and build friends there too . Go skating or biking while listening to music , walk scenic trails or listen to some REALLY good music . Learn something new on youtube . Good luck , and just because you two share friendships doesn ' t mean you lost friends . Only thing I can advise is be careful what you say , because it can end up coming back to you but this time through your ex SO ' s mouth . That ' s all I got for now , if you need someone to talk to or care to listen to some good music I got you .