Considering my name means literally God is my Judge , I will always seek peace and amity with my fellow names . I seek to set an example for all names of how to be their best , and what a truly good name Daniel is . <| sep |> A Prayer for Owen Meany by John Irving I usually start crying about two thirds of the way through and carry on until the end . <| sep |> Don ' t go back at Christmas too ? This is why I suggest sending the message explaining your position and why you aren ' t coming home . Either they will realise the problem and work to fix it or they will continue being assholes and you know where you stand . Once you know they are committed to being horrible even when you have raised the issue it puts it into clear context for you If you meet them they ' ll be cruel and mean for no good purpose , so why go ?