Every order I give has the possibility of a punishment e . g . if the order is ignored , a thank you e . g . if done as expected , or a reward if the effort she put in it went well above what I expected . I try to work it the way that punishments aren ' t very common so that she isn ' t normally worried about being punished , but at the same time knows that if she simply blows off what was asked of her that there will be consequences . Of course I take into account that some things that seem obvious and simple may not be the same for her . In other words , if there is a reasonable excuse for her not having done something , there usually won ' t be a punishment . On the other end , when she goes well above what I expected , there is always a reward . I base the award on the effort , not the result . Sometimes she may try her best and still fail so I think it ' s only fair to reward her anyway .