I ' m very sorry to hear the dynamic is like this . I kind of suspected by hearing how poorly she insisted on treating you and yet your husband took their side even though your dietary needs are met at home . As someone who ' s been in therapy , therapy is great . It ' s helpful , it ' s awesome . If possible , I think your husband would benefit from getting the chance to think through how his parents treat him , how their affection is being withheld from him , and how that ' s colored his relationships with others . I ' m glad you have been able to somewhat keep her at bay . Perhaps you could show him rraisedbynarcissists or look for resources there ? One of the most important sentences I ' ve heard regarding toxic families is You cannot rely on your abuser for healing . Even if you think you need their forgiveness , their acceptance , their understanding , revenge etc . , you can ' t wait your whole life to get it from them . You have to find it yourself . Best of luck