Those all come back to improper use of the gun by the user or owner , meaning the result is the user or owners fault . <| sep |> Yes , she suffers from BPD I didn ' t want to mention this before because it is disorder that carries the kind of stigma that nows seems to be part of your assessment . For example , being manipulative I know that she is not manipulating this situation for some ulterior purpose what purpose ? , and honestly wants treatment , but is also scared of the way she is being treated at this institution . I have known her for a very long time , and I know what she is like when she is being manipulative style of speech , tone of voice , other clues , and I have a good handle on the situations which trigger her to behave manipulatively , and the manner in which she does it . I know that she is genuinely vulnerable and scared right now , and a lot of this is due to the inconsistent information she is being provided by the institution she is currently in . I don ' t think the people at the hospital have it out for her . However , I do worry that she is going to get lost in the bureaucracy . I have heard nothing from them about what the plan is , and neither have her parents . I am going to try to meet with them tomorrow to learn . There have been no care conferences . I strongly suspect that she is either agreeing to stay or that she is deemed to be significant ongoing threat of harm to self and they are doing what they know how to keep her from harm . I don ' t believe that either are true , but for now I am encouraging her to cooperate and focus on the treatment she is getting . We would both be more comfortable if there was a clear message and plan from the institution . This is hopefully what I will find out tomorrow .