I ' ve been saying this for weeks . We have ZERO pass rush . <| sep |> I realize that . I may just be me , but I think the reasons for her to get an abortion are better than the reasons to keep it . Her PCOS , birth control and marijuana use pose a high risk for both a miscarriage and birth defects . I feel that if her mom keeps trying to convince her to keep it , I need to be constantly whispering in her other ear the opposite . I know that she really doesn ' t want a child , she ' s told me prior . She says keeping it means adoption , but I ' m scared that she may change her mind after birth . I feel like I should be trying to convince her to get an abortion now , or else we ' ll regret it later when we are stuck with a child that neither of us wanted and we are not able to support .