I actually like Splinter more than Americana , but otherwise an accurate list ! <| sep |> I ' m here for the Apple Frankenstein commercial group therapy session ? Am I in the right place ? <| sep |> I don ' t think you want to leave because when the two of you started dating , she kind of wanted to date another guy . Obviously she chose you , dude . It ' s not like there were only two guys left in the universe and she wanted to be with Bill and have his babies but she couldn ' t so she settled for you . If she didn ' t want to be with you she would have ditched you after a few dates and gone out with someone else , so I don ' t think it ' s helpful to try and make this all about the Bill issue . Because this isn ' t about the Bill issue . This is about the fact that your communication , your relationship with your wife has broken down and crumbled in on itself . Your only two real options here are 1 . Be honest and tell her you want to leave her and your kids and find someone who wants to bone your brains out and makes you feel wanted . 2 . Put the hurt and the resentment you ' ve been piling up all these years aside , let go of all the pointsscoring and have a conversation with her . Open up and just tell her everything you ' re feeling , one human to another . I don ' t see how else you ' re going to get through this .