I lived in Chicago across the hall from a woman who was a concentration camp survivor . She is still one of my role models . At 90 years old , she was still living by herself on the second floor , carrying her groceries up the stairs like everybody else . She told me stories about living in the camp every time I talked to her , and why wouldn ' t she ? 50 years later it still hurt more than anything else she had ever experienced . Whenever she greeted people in the building , she didn ' t say hi or hello . she waved and shouted a cheerful I ' m still alive ! She really , really was . <| sep |> I understand , but these Asian men who only date Asian girls may be just the same as my friend they feel like white girls will reject them despite being more attractive so they stick to Asian girls .