I ' d like decades of mostly happinesscontentedness shared with someone who I get and who gets me . To both be healthy up until the very end . And I ' d like us to die at the same time . My mother and sister are both elder law attorneys , and I hear tragic stories daily of endoflife conditions like Alzheimer ' s and ALS ravaging families . Watching the person you love and have built a life together with deteriorate before your eyes , become bedridden , pissing in a bedpan and shitting into a colostomy bag , then not even recognizing you when you walk into the room that terrifies me . I watched it happen to my grandparents . My dad ' s dad outlived his wife by 10 years , and by the time she died , he had been profoundly changed . Her descent into dementia broke him . I know being in love means risking heartbreak , but I don ' t think I could handle that myself , and I wouldn ' t want to put my partner through it . So yeah . Long , happy life followed by a quick , painless passing that ' s my long term goal .