I was away on an internship when my girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me over text . I was crushed , and had a terrible time with it all . Didn ' t talk for a month , until I finally worked up the courage to ask if she had been cheating on me . I knew the answer was no , until she wouldn ' t answer the question . It ' s easier when you can hate the person . She changed , and I can look at her now and confidently say that I have no interest in her . But as another commenter said , over time you will slowly stop checking in on her . Less texting if you still are , less Facebook searches . It ' ll start to get further apart and you ' ll realize you ' re happy without her and don ' t need her . Then it ' s up to you if you want a new partner . I found that deleting her Snapchat , changing her contact to don ' t text and unfollowing her on Facebook helped a lot . It ' s about giving yourself some room away from her influence and then let time just smooth things over .