I became really anxious about this and I still am when I go on sleepovers or when I sleep with my boyfriend for example . I am a girl . Noone except close family members knew about my condition . I lived in a constant shame and I refused to wear diapers but I wore them until around 1012 years . After that , I simply refused . I felt ' ill '. I think it affected my life so much that something triggered in my brain when I went away from home to college . i couldn ' t pee in my bed . Everyone would laugh at me I said to myself . So I took some desperate measures and slowly I was able to control it . It took me around 15 months to get rid of it totally , but at least my condition improved and from ' daily basis ' I started to pee on myself once in 23 days . Then even rare . As a girl , I thought if I train my vagina ' s muscles , i would be able to hold pee better and somehow I was right . It was just my guess . I learned my ' pee schedule ' by putting at first clock alarms from 2 to 2 hours that basically ruined my sleep for weeks , but then I learned I was peeing in bed around 23 am and 56 am . So I just started to wake myself up at these hours for months . Sometimes it worked , sometimes not . Note I did those exercices in the past too and it didn ' t work so this is why I said that gland has to be maturized enough for us those with problems to ' train it ' better . For me it simply worked now after so many attempts . Out of stress , anxiety and my refuse to suffer anymore . I guess my biggest fear is that noone would want a girl who pisses herself at night . So I ' trained ' myself to overcome the issue . Now It ' s been 4 years since my problem is gone but , as I said , I ' m still anxious when I leave my home . This psychological problem may hardly dissapear . I just wanted to encourage those with problems . It ' s not an easy road and no specific treatment can ' heal ' it . Just motivation . I personally don ' t know other people with this issue so I just felt the need to encourage someone , even if it ' s online . Excuse me for my potential mistakes . English is not my first language , but I tried to make myself understood as much as I could . If you have more questions , don ' t hesitate to pm me . Have a nice day