That ' s fucking bullshit . How to make him stop ? Break up with him . I don ' t say that lightly . I say that because if he was in love with you , each tear you shed would be a tear that touched his heart . He would love you the more for showing yourself to him . Yes , he loves you . But he is not in love with you . I repeat again , he is not in love with you . I ' m 31 M , my partner is 21 F . she cries a lot , over little things , over big things , probably a couple of times a week . Those moments are some of our strongest bonding moments , why ? Because when her heart aches , so does mine . I love it when she expresses herself to me , when she opens herself . I ' m sorry , really I am . But you now have to choose between love and in love they are two VERY different things .