Dude , you ' ve spent the first half of your post talking about how her Dad is useless , but always makes a token effort and expects to be praised for it . You asked your girlfriend to look up a bunch of recipes , and you made just the ham ? You ' re doing exactly what her dad did made a token effort stuff a ham in the oven and expecting to be credited as though you ' ve made a full Thanksgiving lunch . She ' s broken because she ' s realising that again , she ' s stuck with a man who expects to be rewarded for doing the bare minimum . I mean . have you ever cooked a meal before ? You do know that ham is not a complete meal , right ? Did you think that the sides would just make themselves ? I told her I didn ' t know she wanted anything else . seriously , what the fuck is wrong with you ? I ' ve never celebrated Thanksgiving and even I know it ' s a feast day ! EDIT As a courtesy to her , I decided not to go to my family get together eitherCan ' t you fix this ENTIRE mess by both of you going to your family ' s event ? Why were you going to go to separate ones anyway ? You ' re engaged !