Sounds like he does care about you , but your issues have drained him to a point of no return and he ' s trying to ease out of the relationship . I ' m sure his intentions are good , but in the long run this strategy will just cause both of you more pain . I agree that you should treat this like a breakup and focus on overcoming your own issues with anxiety and intimacy . Honestly , what you wrote in your post would be a deal breaker for me and many others , I ' m sure . You need to get yourself in a good place before you can be a good partner and have a healthy relationship . You mention that you ' ve been trying to get over them , but if that doesn ' t include professional therapy , it needs to . It doesn ' t seem like working on it on your own has been successful .