Oops . Fixed the spoiler tags . <| sep |> Uhm , no shit . Isn ' t everyone besides those kinds of people themselves . <| sep |> at rsociopath <| sep |> When to go home to see the baby . My SIL gave birth yesterday and the baby is in NICU as it ' s a preemie so we don ' t want to go immediately . My husband ' s best friend is staying with us for a week starting Saturday it ' s the only time we get to really see him as he lives on the east coast and we ' re in the midwest . However waiting two weeks is a bad idea because BIL is in the process of being undeployed currently incommunicado and he is the only one who knows when SIL and the kids have to move back to base several states away . Basically MIL has completely untreated unacknowledged ADHD and is projecting all the frenetic pressure on Husband who is just starting to treat his ADHD to see the baby and he ' s unraveling . Gah , I don ' t even like babies . Oh and to make things even more fun , this third child of SIL ' s is not BIL ' s . It was conceived while he was deployed and they were getting divorced paperwork was never filed . But the father assaulted SIL when she was 7 months so he ' s out of the picture and now they are getting back together . I ' m not looking forward to the continuation of the hormonal soap opera .