So what if the dude ' s required qualifications include being a biological woman and not a postop trans woman ? You using the term identity does not suddenly make this a bigoted stance . I ' m allowed to prefer not to have sex with someone for any fucking reason I chose hair color , eye color , hygiene , body type and yes even identity . the list goes on . This does not make me a bigot . Hell my gay buddy shared with me the huge classifications labels which gay men use to assert a preference in a partner . some of which are specific to race and body type bears , otters , rice queen , bean queen . Why is it that everyone ' s sexual preferences matter EXCEPT heterosexual versions of a sexual preference ? This is mind boggling hypocrisy .