Man this is awesome , thank you so much . <| sep |> What your dad did to you is absolutely wrong in every way . I use the quotation marks around that title because he ' s violated his right to be considered a parent . This is a NC situation . What did he gain from this ? Did he get off on the types of conversations that you were having ? This is not something a father is supposed to ever think of . This is not something you deserve . Get away . Far , FAR away from this . If this isn ' t sexual abuseassault in some way , then I don ' t know what is . I wish you nothing but good luck with this . We ' re all on your side . edit wording <| sep |> One of my best friends is a Nebraska fan and one of my best coworkers is an Iowa fan . who to cheer for ?