And it ' s important to bring a gift for her parents when you visit them for the first time . I ' m not sure it is just Taiwanese thing or global one . <| sep |> Unfortunately sometimes decent isn ' t available , not even to children who are wanted by their parents . We don ' t have the luxury of time to sort out the foster care system , so we need to work with what we have . On a side note I would be for reversiblenondamaging sterilization at birth if that were possible so the only babies created were by choice . I am not religious . <| sep |> I could see that working . I ' ve had it work and also get no reply . Probably depends on the girl ! . Also , it probably depends on when you say it . I ' m no expert haha . Still learning here too .