I think it ' s just as likely he ' s embarrassed by his family , or worried about their behavior . Sit him down and ask him what family gatherings are like at his house . Do people get along ? Are there family members who are problematic ? How does he fit in the picture ? Do people tease him , do they listen to them , does he share values with them ? Does anyone get drunk and behave inappropriately ? Keep asking so that you understand fully what he is anxious about . You ' re a year into this relationship . You should have a fairly clear idea of what his family is like without even having met them . Once you know what his reservations are even if they are about you , perhaps he thinks your values don ' t align with his families ? , you guys can sit down and make a plan on how to avoid family gathering drama .