Sucks to see this news today <| sep |> That depends entirely on your relationship . My wife and I have been married for for over ten years and have shared an account the entire time without issue . <| sep |> My SO has depression and GAD . He was going through a particularly bad episode when we met . A lot of sleeping all day and not seeing friends . It lasted for a good five months . But even though he was struggling with all of this he still made space in his life for me . I met his friends on the second date , he slept over a few times a week . Hell , he would come to my place when I was at work and cuddle with my cat . Depression does not equal a lack of engagement . What do you want out of this relationship ? Do you want to be a part of each other ' s lives , friends groups , families ? Those are valid desires that he would have to compromise on depression or no depression . You cannot deepen and grow a relationship with someone who has no interest in intertwining lives . At a certain point he just might be capable of having a relationship right now . And that ' s okay . But you will burn yourself out if you keep trying to have a nonreciprocal relationship with him .