Thank you for sharing this . It is too important not to talk about , and too prevalent to be ignored . Have a history of female abusers in my family that have caused years of suffering for many , the effects of which have been felt long after their deaths in some cases . I think another problem is endemic to the relative isolation with which a lot of middle class families can raise their kids , too I know a lot of abusers can become skilled at hiding conditions to the public eye , so it can become difficult to spot warning signs and anticipate violence , which is heartbreaking I don ' t know how we improve community oversight without impinging on people ' s sense of individual rights . <| sep |> You are right , but if they ignore it then everyone will bang on about ignoring the will of the people , so a second referundum would be a more politically palatable option .