The Gaunts had more pride than anyone , but nothing else . We ' ll have to agree to disagree . <| sep |> When the Sharks started , they got half the Minnesota North Stars and played like crap . <| sep |> Thank you so much for your response ! It seems like this is an industry where you have to do a lot of jumping around to get to where you want to be . Do you feel like people who had did the college thing had more opportunities than you did ? Or do you feel your work is what really matters in this industry ? <| sep |> I ' m not saying to give up on Tristan or not talk to him in fact I think you really need to talk to him if you ' re ever going to sort this out . But I would agree with the sentiment expressed here that you are a bit too invested in this . This is not a fairy tale and Tristan is not the prince . He ' s a person with his own issues , imperfections and unique ways of fucking things up . I know you ' ll say you know this but look at this situation he ' s acted in a way a lot of people would confused , anxious , unsure , and you ' re so freaked out by it that you ' re refusing to speak to him and considering bailing on Thanksgiving . You need to chill . Just because he didn ' t react the way you imagined he would , doesn ' t mean that ' s it . You need to let him have some time and space to figure this stuff all out . Also and I don ' t mean this as you should give up on the relationship you both sound very codependent . You say you ' ve planned your lives together since you were nine . Have you made any proper , long term plans for your life that aren ' t centred on a life with Tristan ? I ' m not saying it ' s wrong to consider a life with him but to devote yourself to this one outcome is kinda unhealthy and if it doesn ' t work out could leave you quite bereft . What if he had never said he loved you ? What if , one day , he told you he ' d met someone and thought she is it ? I ' m not saying this to be unkind but rather to wake you up because you seem like a nice person . If Tristan really is in love with you then fantastic but he only has the importance that you ' ve given him and maybe you need to take some of the passion and dedication you ' ve invested in him and put it in your own independent life that is not linked to Tristan at all and if you haven ' t got one that ' s not linked to him get one . That shit ' s unhealthy . That is my advice you can take it or leave but for what it ' s worth , I really do hope this all turns out alright and most importantly TALK TO HIM .