If you convince yourself you are unable to improve , you will be unable to improve . I ' ll go ahead with one of those staples of antidepression advice , something you have heard and ignored 1000 times . Exercise , I once heard the line Every man should lift and for some reason it stuck with me . Doing exercise releases endorphins , you feel good , you feel good about yourself , it reduces anxiety , following an exercise routine gives you something to focus on . Going to the gym can be and should be fun . It ' s a challenge to rise up to . After a while lifting weights raises your base testosterone levels , this improves your sense of well being . I think having something to focus on , something that improves yourself would do you the world of good . I could list the advantages for hours , but in the end it ' s up to you to choose what to do .