Yeah , if my wife was like this sooner , I prolly woulda married her sooner , lol . <| sep |> I think the root of this , which is more common then you think , is likely related to feeling shame for being gay , something that was ingrained your brain at a young age and punched down repeatedly for years , even sometimes a decade or more . So psychologically speaking it makes sense that those feelings of shame don ' t go away very quickly . Source I used to feel this way after but it did eventually stop , after I became more comfortable with being gay and after of a lot of time . If you were told to be ashamed of what you were and how you felt for so long it makes sense to believe that it wouldn ' t go away as soon as you came out . This isn ' t true for everyone and some people never feel what you and I have but that doesn ' t make it less legit and it doesn ' t mean you have a problem . Just keep doing what you ' re doing , keep working on loving yourself and being comfortable being gay and it should go away on its own . If not , there are professionals who can help !