Too many nmc contracts signed . <| sep |> seriously why did they add more time to the regents shuttle ? I ' ve never seen anyone actually go the new stops at the shiley eye center . <| sep |> As a person who has gone through multiple stages , I agree with you in some sense . While the actual choice may not be true , as in you actually can choose your orientation , being an absolutist is harmful . I ' ve had friends who have been abandoned by the lgbt community for getting into hetero relationships , because too many see it as black and white . Same goes for straight people abandoning friends who came out of the closet . It shouldn ' t be that if you feel sexually attracted to a sex you are bound to it for life even if you begin to feel differently . In my youth I felt like I was not a female , cut off my hair , dressed like a boy , always my characters when playing were male , even so far as banning anyone from having female characters when playing with me , yet overtime I began to begrudgingly accept I was female , was straight till I got a crush on a girl in high school , started considering I may not be , continued dating men though until age 17 when I began dating mainly girls , up through this point I had only ever been aroused by females in porn etc . Yet then I began dating men again , and fell in love with a man I dated for 4 . 5 years , we broke up but during this time I was still only attracted to females in porn . Now I ' m in another relationship with another guy , and I have begun to find men extremely sexually attractive and no longer have an interest in women , it ' s literally the first time in my life I find naked men sexy instead of somewhat repulsive . I do not know exactly why this happened . People change overtime and sexuality can evolve with them , so I do believe it is important for people to remember it ' s a spectrum and be allowed to feel what they feel when they feel it . It ' s not a sworn oath and it ' s entirely fine to allow yourself to go with the flow of your own preferences and desires even if they deviate from your starting point . I would like sexuality to be seen more like this , so everyone is free to be who they fully are throughout their lives .