So you are trying to transfer custody between third parties ? As in you are not capable of taking care of your child ? You have virtually no chance of doing that . If you want your child back then have a lawyer petition for custody . If you are incapable of caring for the child you will not get to dictate how they are raised , you only get that right if you are actually raising the child . You also won ' t get to simply dictate who raises her now that a court is involved . If they are violating a court order then have a lawyer file a motion based on that , If they are in fact violating the order then a judge will tell them to start following it . <| sep |> Oh I don ' t doubt you , it just made me wonder how women in porn handle Mandingo and other people like that . Like wouldn ' t taking a 10 inch dick physically hurt them ?