I ' m lucky to get three days with my golden <| sep |> You seem to think you know exactly what ' s going on without any evidence , so yes , speculation <| sep |> What if that person wasn ' t even considering it ? a lot of people stay in unhealthy relationships . Maybe it was a 0100 and the guy wanted it to be a 5050 <| sep |> It is true though , and very relevant . Just because it ' s presented in a very clear way without much depth or density doesn ' t mean it belongs on that sub <| sep |> She was definitely trying to stir the shit pot . I would just suggest talking it out with SO . Tell her how it made you feel when you found out she lied to her mother about you being there , and ask her that in future if she is not sure what to say to her mother in regards to you , that she consult you first and you can come to a decision together . That way you are not caught off guard by finding out she lied to her mother about you , and no resentment between the two of you . Good luck 3