is it with HA especially the gible ? if yes then added me and what is the iv spread ? <| sep |> By unbreaking an egg . next ! <| sep |> There ' s a difference between what one wants to do for a loved one , and what one can do for a loved one . You want to be supportive , and want to show that you ' re not homophobic or transphobic . But , holy shit honey , this is , as you said , a lot to take in . Gender roles may be a social construct in service of the patriarchy blah blah , but they ' re also a hugely important part of how people perceive and relate to one another on a continuous basis . Otherwise , it would not be so distressing for trans folk to be forced into a gender role that ' s in conflict with who they are , and they would not feel such an overwhelming need to change that . This goes both ways . Changing your gender role and gender expression is a hugely important thing for the other people in your life because those are aspects of how they have always perceived of you and related to you . It ' s a big change . For the people who love the trans person , it ' s going to take time to process , and might require a full grieving process to come to terms with the loss of the person you once knew , because in a real sense that ' s what ' s sort of happening . In the meantime , one may not be capable of showing the kind of love and respect and acceptance that one wants to show in this situation . Especially not by like next Thursday ! And especially especially when one is only eight years old . Good grief . I can see where your parent is coming from . I really can . I ' m going through the same thing right now from your parent ' s end . Once you exhaust your own ability to continue to pretend to be someone you aren ' t and like it , that ' s it you ' ve got to stop , and you need lots and lots and lots of support and affirmation and acceptance , especially from loved ones . But by god , one week is too soon . I ' ve been trying to give my loved ones like a period of as many months as I can give , and that ' s hard for me and has required me to go out and lean on a lot of external support , but , geez . I feel like I ' ve been incredibly selfish regarding how I have handled this whole thing , but even so , I would never have even thought of asking my spouse to switch name and pronouns in only one week , let alone forcing my children to do that . It ' s just . no . Way too much , way too soon . But it ' s not like you can do anything about it . If your parent is able to demand this , then they are either ridiculously insensitive or are totally addlepated by the situation which I was for the first couple of weeks . And they ' re your parent , and are in a position of power and control over you and your sister , like it or not . Fortunately , you sound really brave and together . You ' re going to need to support your sister if you can because your dad might not be able to right now . I ' m so so so sorry honey . This absolutely fucking sucks . Please get as much help as you can get from as many places as you can get it and please keep being so brave because your family needs you , but don ' t feel bad about not instantly being able to give your parent the needed level of unconditional support . You are also a human fucking being .