ExGF one of them . actually both of the long term two , but here ' s the important one . Dated this girl for a year , things were going great for most of it , up until the end . Long story short on the breakup I went through hard times including a friend ' s suicide , she told me to man the fuck up and get over it 3 days after it happened before the funeral even , some fighting , some makingup my mistake for sure , and then she cheated on me . After she finally admitted to it , she pulled the whole I still want to be friends BS . I agreed , but simply put because I had been kicked out of her place I did everything there including pay half the rent without being able to collect all of my things . People that know me , know I dabble in reptiles , and she had my at the time 2 yo boa constrictor , my absolute favorite snake in my small collection , among other things . That ' s the only reason I agreed to talk to her very minimal conversations . During this time , she berated me , saying that the guy she cheated on me with was better than me among other things , and threatened multiple times to throw all of my shit out , including my pet , which she had been neglecting anyways . I finally was able to convince her to let me come over to collect my shit . I pulled my now emaciated boa out first , just in case she changed her mind , then proceeded to collect the rest of my stuff just easy things like Tshirts and some dishes . After I got the last bit , she asked me to stay for a bit . I basically , though much more politely and lengthily , told her to fuck off and never contact me again . Fast forward about 3 years end of December is when she cheated on me . Be me , be happy and following my dreams . Talking to one of my buddies who knew her and apparently never removed her on FB . She came up in conversation for whatever reason , and he fills me in on basically everything that ' s happened guy she cheated on me with died in a drunk driving accident he didn ' t even have a license so I wont touch that one except to say as douchey as he was to me , he still shouldn ' t have died , she moved back in with her parents , didn ' t finish her degree or at least isn ' t doing anything with it , and has been asking people for money and a place to crash . Sounds to me like burning that already shoddy bridge was the best thing I could have ever done .