American here . We spell the contraction between you and are as you ' re . <| sep |> Okay , I just googled Sargon ' s Law , and holy shit . way to prove everybody ' s point in here . 1 <| sep |> To play devil ' s advocate This may be a shotgun wedding . The poor girl may be pregnant . Be real here . Would a 58 yearold man be willing to wear a condom with his 20 somethingyearold mistress ? I don ' t know very many men who would be willing to do that . OP ' s parents have been divorced for a very long time , so the only thing the fiancee is really guilty of is sleeping with an older , wealthier man . Stupid , in other words , but not unforgivable . Many women are attracted to older man for a variety of reasons , a few of which include familial abandonment and trauma involving men . It ' s very likely that this girl went with her heart and not her head , and is paying a pretty high price for it now . I ' ll post my advice at the top .