Unfortunately that really is a good enough reason for some people . <| sep |> This was frontpage a second ago for me . Now posts with 500 max karma are , and this isn ' t on any page there . P <| sep |> I ' ve gotten a lot better at social skills and have learned how to make pretty good impressions on people or ' groups ' of people and don ' t have things like this happen anymore . I can tell you from my experience that I usually don ' t think about if others like me or if I am not acting right . That in itself is the problem . Being self conscious or analyzing how a group is accepting or not accepting is THE problem . I always have a take it or leave it attitude because I am just having fun and being social and like talking to interesting people . I ' m not thinking about if we are friends or what they think about me , that ' s all counterproductive . If you elevate other peoples moods very often then they like to be around you . If you start asking them things like ' did i do something wrong ? ?' or ' did I offend you ? ' . that is the exact opposite of enjoying each other ' s company . Stop doing that . Just assume everything is fine , let there be a lot of positive space for things to progress naturally . Never question the relationship , just be present and enjoy the interactions . And don ' t take yourself or life so seriously . Try meditation and yoga . it ' ll help you relax and be more yourself .