😂😂 like 3 days ago , yes haha . <| sep |> Why does it need the adapter ? <| sep |> I can take a picture for you . <| sep |> It did for me , and it was my best ruler yet . <| sep |> Wow . Your experience is so close to mine . My brother is the golden child . Everyone but me is in recovery I don ' t drink and have never done drugs and it somehow getting clean and sober earns you a badge of respect with my mother . She gushes all over my brother and criticizes me . The 1 out of 3 times she ever visited me she told me she has heroes in her life . My brother and SIL were number 2 and 3 . I was number 7 after my grandmother who abused her . Later she told me she lied to me , that I wasn ' t even on the list and she felt bad . Even in the lie I wasn ' t the first one she thought of . She only had 5 heroes and my grandmother was # 6 . She does the whole calling me to talk about how amazing my brother is too . The way I deal with it is I consider being the black sheep as a compliment . If those are the standards I ' m being judged then thank god I ' m not a part of the club . I ' ve also realized that I am now my own family . We have kids but build a healthy family for yourself with your soon to be wife and friends . You don ' t need to stick with blood relatives . Yea it stings that your own mother rejects you but realize that it is so far from healthy for a mother to reject their child for any reason . Your mom and sister are broken . Google differentiation and that will help you learn to heal . Your worth as a person is not connected to your mother ' s opinion of you . It sounds like you worked hard to pull yourself out of the muck . Don ' t keep looking into it wishing the muckdwellers would invite you back in . Unfollow your family so you don ' t keep seeing that crap and focus on the awesome you have in your life .