They ' ve already turned . Trump won . Now we just have to Make America Great Again and the rest of the people will follow . <| sep |> she will suspect something ' s up when I start packing my most important thingsI packed up all of the small but crucial items first , things such as documents , photos , jewellery , any financial info , etc . They ' re so small , she probably won ' t notice them missing . You want to get those out of the house quickly because once she suspects , she ' ll try to hold them hostage . You can also move a lot of clothes etc out without her noticing . If she asks , tell her that you ' re having a cleaning spree and sent them to goodwill or gave them to a friend . When it came to boxing up things in a very obvious way , I told my mother that I was spring cleaning my room and getting rid of or sending to storage stuff that I didn ' t want . I labelled the boxesbags ' charity ', ' storage ', etc . She was suspicious but so delighted that I was finally getting rid of ' my clutter ' and admitting that her items required more space , that she didn ' t question it . Arrange to have your mail forwarded as soon as possible , if letters come to the house after you are gone , you won ' t receive them . I forgot to change two addresses and she destroyed letters that could have resulted in thousands in unpaid tax fines had I not caught it in time . There ' s a lot to be said for having helpers on moving day . Even if it ' s just to run interference as you speed off down the driveway . Good luck to you . I know it ' s a planning nightmare right now , my own move was like the plot of a particularly convoluted spy movie with burner phones , sneaking out in the dead of night , false addresses , lowering things out a window etc but it ' s worth it for the glorious , glorious sense of peace that descends when it ' s finally over and you are free . Be prepared for her to be furious when she finds out . It ' s been nearly three years since I got out in a similar manner and my nmom is still spitting mad about it .