Very good plan to get your own lawyer do not trust that your wife is going to act with your best interest in mind . She is not . It ' s odd my husband couldn ' t get out fast enough either . Until I filed for divorce , suddenly I am the bad guy for giving up on the marriage even though he was living with his girlfriend and he discovered that it was more beneficial to him to stay married and pay married income taxes not have to pay alimony and I ' m sure , being able to use still being married from having to actually marry his ap . He is dragging feet like you wouldn ' t believe . So no not trying to stay with me for kibbles or even pretend love just the money . You never know which way your divorce will swing .