It ' s dangerous to presume that you not only can you fix it . That there is a solution to your problem . Further I dislike how your comment feels the ending doess your partner wanting to fix this ? Has she talked about how she wants to have sex ? What is it that she likes ? I ' m willing to bet that she hasn ' t because it is a continuation of you wanting to please her . I don ' t think that is what she wants i . e . you . Your world imploded because everything that you thought made you a man suddenly doesn ' t . Your confidence in your sexual prowess , your penis basically . That fact that you repel her and cannot satisfy her . It certainly is a lot to process when someone tells you that you are not actually a man . I think you should have a hobby . Get time to yourself . Workout . Instad of focusing on what she wants focus instead on things that would better yourself to help gain your confidence . consider this What your partner has done it makes sense in a world where she wants you to break up with her so she can maintain the moral high ground . Why be so cruel ? and it was cruel .