And lots of sources are saying half of your relationships duration is how long itll take to get over it . And I ' m angry at that . She is moving on seemingly instantly , already with thoughts of someone else and mingling with someone else , and I get to wait two years ? . That ' s not fair . Personally I think that rule is a load of bollocks . There is no magical time limit for getting over someone , it happens when it happens . So if I were you I would just forget about that and go with the flow . You mention throwing away love letters and stuff . You don ' t have to do that if you don ' t want to . Why not put them in a box and hide them for now if looking at them is painful . Maybe in a few months or years you ' ll want to throw them away , or you might keep them as mementos of your youth . This is a cliche because it ' s true , but it does get better . Right now it ' s going to really deeply hurt , but it will get easier and you will get stronger . Eventually you ' ll start seeing the negatives about the relationship and you ' ll become less attached . Then you ' ll see other people you are attracted to . It ' s important to grieve without wallowing . By that I mean you should mourn the end of your relationship and allow yourself all those negative feelings and the time to process them . But don ' t put her on a pedestal and start telling yourself she was the love of your life or the only one for you , and try not to tell yourself that you ' ll never get over it . In my experience you get over the person , but you always carry a little bit of the hurt from the rejection you ' ve experienced . It ' s not painful or a burden and in a way I think it ' s an important thing because it allows you to be compassionate to other people going through the same thing . Keep busy if you can and try to lean on your friends and family .