First of all , my statement started off with ' some ' and you turned it into a black and white discussion of ' always '. I used words like some , and often , and rarely . Second of all , I still believe in 95 % of the cases , there are choices that can be made . While yes , often one might have to adjust their expectations , progress can still be made . I think we can both agree that people cannot always have what they want . It appears we disagree on why . There ' s always choices , even if you don ' t fully like them . But saying you don ' t have a choice , is a bit like giving up . which is a bit of a defeatist attitude , which is also a bit why some people are successful while others are not . To imply it ' s all luck and privilege is to discount the incredible ability to change one ' s life for the better if they grab the reigns and make small changes choices , little by little . It requires modifying expectations a bit of timelines , or effort required , but there is almost always a choice to make . Often , people just have an excuse of what it is impossible , rather than start making up reasons of why it is possible . But , to each their own . Ultimately we are all responsible for our own lives .