You make very good points here , and I do agree with you . I guess the reason I wanted to tell her , was because she ' s the only one who could get me professional help at this point , since I ' m a minor . Or maybe out of hope that she isn ' t actually a narcissist , so much as a mother who can ' t see all the damage she truly caused . I think I might talk to her , but now , after reading what you said , with really no hope of actually changing anything . Just to tell myself none of this was my fault , and she ' s simply too selfabsorbed to actually care about her daughter . I often wonder if she ' s really a narcissist , or if I ' m simply too sensitive , but if she listen to what I have to say , and still make it about her , then it ' d be pretty hard to deny , and I could use that as something to reassure me that she doesn ' t really care about me , and it ' s not just that I ' m a terrible daughter . She won ' t change , and I know that , and if I do end up talking to her still contemplating , it ' ll only be as a way of proving that . Edit I added the last paragraph .