No nickname better luck next giveaway <| sep |> I ' m just a bloated duck plodding away on an elliptical , don ' t mind me . <| sep |> Do not read this ! I repeat , do not read this ! <| sep |> I think you should consider counselling irrelevant to this post if you have a hard time saying no and refer to yourself as a people pleaser . Unfortunately I can see this situation getting a lot worse if you continue to give in and feel like you have to please someone to make them stay or care about you . And with this situation in mind . I would not trust this man again . I ' m sorry to say that but I think he cared more about losing his virginity than you , or having mutually satisfying sex which it wasn ' t . as you were in pain . Sex is not sex if one person does not want it , does not enjoy it , or felt pressured . It ' s . really not healthy and I am deeply sorry this is how this happened . Sex is both people trusting each other and pleasing each other . His selfishness will not disappear from the bedroom unless you demand different treatment . All in all . wow he is just such a horrible person for what he has done . I have severe anxiety and attend therapy . Pregnancy is my biggest fear . I ' ve had many panic attacks over things that never happened , and always used double protection until I fully trusted my partner and got long term 99 % protective birth control ! Then we stopped the condoms . The audacity of your man asking to not use a condom is INSANE when he knows you have anxiety over the issue . Absolutely insane . Please do take some serious time to think about what is being said in this comments because this situation was w . r . o . n . g .