Agree with all of this . I ' d add that I think guys simply come from a natural deficit in social skills compared to girls , and are more likely to try and understand things in terms of rules and direct , low context verbal communication , which is particularly terrible for romancing straight girls . Or anyone , probably . Most guys simply aren ' t that socially intuitive compared with girls . I ' d also tie this into our recent conversation where you were talking about average and even below average guys ghosting on really cute girls . This intuitive understanding of nuanced , non verbal communication is what those average guys have , and this is why they are not average . The guys who do possess such skills are the landslide winners of an unregulated SMP .