I ' d rather call them script kiddies or lamers . <| sep |> Hmm , this is strange . I ' m fairly certain I don ' t have my second monitor as my main desktop . I ' ll double check . But if it is , then Lacona doesn ' t show up on my main . <| sep |> Now that ' s a fish that looks like a better or worst way , though , I suppose ? <| sep |> Also an acceptance of the fact that if you aren ' t a psychologist you don ' t really have the expertise to make a diagnosis , but you can still use observations to predict and manage future behaviours . While I wasn ' t qualified to diagnose BPD for my wife , I read BPD literature that worked out for me . However , in my case , I had known my wife for over 10 years so I had a lot of deeper knowledge of her to connect with BPD . So for the sake of discussion , let ' s say a nBPD comes here for guidance about their relatively fresh relationship with someone that behaves like a HCP , how would the nBPD know to choose between HCP and BPD guides ? I might not grasp the point of HCP , but it feels like this is BPD management guidelines without requiring to use the term BPD due to the fact that BPD is an actual medical term and you can ' t slap that label on someone unless they are diagnosed .