As a Chef at a college myself this sort of thing has never happened to me . I ' ve been there like 6 years and for something like this to happen seems pretty crazy . Generally we have a pretty good kinship with the students that we serve , a lot of them come in fucked up but there isn ' t much we can do about that . I guess the big difference is that the college kids I deal with actually give a damn about the thousands of dollars they are spending to go to college and don ' t want to mess that up Chances are this kid got expelled for this crap . What a tool . <| sep |> I understand what ' show him the ropes ' means . I wasn ' t envisioning a dominatrix per se It just makes me uncomfortable when women are into virgin men SPECIFICALLY . When guys go on about taking vcards it makes my feminist side super uncomfortable . And I feel the same sort of objectification and paternalism when women bring it up . Not saying that ' s you obviously ! So as for nonrelationship sex the whole situation would make me feel very vulnerable . In a relationship I would be more comfortable to put myself in an emotionally vulnerable position though . Just speaking from my position I ' m not expecting to be in a relationship soon . I ' m going through a lot of selfimprovement and recovering from depression . It will be a while before I feel comfortable enough to pursue a relationship . But meanwhile anything casual is out of the question too because it makes me uncomfortable as I explained above . Not trying to be all ' woe is me '. I am actually quite happy with the path I am on and the decisions I ' ve been making recently