Did he actually say the last part ? <| sep |> I ' ve found that the best antidote for judging others has been to remember the times when I have been completely wrong in my judgment or when I just did not have the entire story . So , when I catch myself judging another person I go back to this catalog of instances in my mind and go through them , reminding myself that I don ' t have the whole story , I don ' t know what it is like to be this or that person , or in some cases I may just misunderstand what is happening . I also sometimes go through the times that I have felt judged by others to remind myself what it feels like so I can remember that my judgment will not help another person become holy , it ' s my love because that is all that has ever worked for me !