I think it ' s trivially obvious that money when spent on 1000 dildos does not have the same effect on you SMV as money spent on a Ferrari . Yes it matters how you spend it . and money is only one of many ways to achieve those thingsI would argue that money is the only way to buy a Ferrari and turning up to the club in one of those immediately gives you status , all people both men and women respond to people with status . Remember that women while they have their baser instincts for things like a good body and style also want to use their own SMV to land them the best man they can possibly buy , and so a guy with style who steps out of a Ferrari immediately trumps a guy with style who ' s obviously broke as shit . For the simple reason that womens natural biology makes them attracted to good providers , it ' s a classic natural alpha male trait that alpha males are the ones with enough resources to not only provide for themselves and their harem but also other beta males . That ' s why the guy that walks into the bar and buys everyone a drink gains status . Gold digging isn ' t just a mental thought process that requires the upper brain , remember that women still have a natural attraction to people best able to provide , all else being equal the man with more money wins .