It ' s a feature . <| sep |> When talking to americans I tend to sound more american , like the TV shows . Examples aluminum , color , truck , fragile . When giving a talk or talking to basically anyone else native and nonnative english speakers , I tend to speak in a more clipped british way that ' s what I learned and what comes naturally . Examples Aluminium , colour , lorry , fragile ryhmes with tile . As I am a nonnative speaker , it doesn ' t make sense to stick to the specific words I learned . It doesn ' t make sense to me if I have to explain that a torch is a flashlight . Language is for communication ! <| sep |> I totally understand your ambivalence you can love someone in the bigpicture sense , and not necessarily like them in the details . Please don ' t devalue what you do . I run my own business and mainly work at home with my two kids there because childcare costs a fortune , and being a mom is by far BY REALLY , REALLY FAR the most demanding job I have ever held . I hope your hubby understands that .