Berry said the officer was kind and was just doing what he was told to do . I don ' t think anybody was saying the cop was an asshole . <| sep |> We all do . But if we have to be realistic , there ' s very little chance they won ' t fuck this up . <| sep |> You should tell her how you feel . You sound like a respectful guy , who would never bully her , so my advice is to that effect . Tell her how you feel , tell her that you respect her decision and will pay , but that it makes you feel sadbadwhatyou ' refeeling , and that it might be too hard for you to go with her to the termination . If you ' re up to supporting her after the procedure as I hope you are , just be there , and maybe have read up on the procedure , she might need cuddles , might be in pain , might just want to sleep , might be fine , might have a complication , might so many things . I ' m sorry you ' re in this position .