Cool video , but strange music choice . <| sep |> Dont forget that you can always use midi triggers to trigger the sidechain with plugins like cableguys volumeshaper , lfo tool . they are volume envelopes at this point <| sep |> Now its pouring fick this lol <| sep |> You two definitely need some space . Having children in the mix complicates things though . Do you have family that you can stay with who can help with them at all ? The situation you ' re in is seriously toxic . He seems to have issues that he won ' t do anything about , and he won ' t let you help him . Maybe if you ' re not there to keep things together , he ' ll be forced to do it himself . I ' m sorry you ' re going through this and I hope everything works out .