And for those that attempt to help a person in the water in distress , remember reach , throw , row , go . <| sep |> Wild with Reese Witherspoon . It taught me that we have to embrace our pain and move on , but it ' s ok to stumble along the way . I thought the emotions were raw and heavy . <| sep |> The differenceNot bringing it up may not be intentional , but simply because those things are in the past and not often thought of anymore , so they didn ' t come up in the beginning stages of a relationship . Hiding it is when a topic comes up that triggers your memory and you think Oh , I wonder if I should mention blank . but then you decide not to mention it because you don ' t want them to know . You put in active efforts to keep your significant other from knowing , perhaps by refusing to hang out with a specific friend when your SO is around , deleting texts or emails , or lying . The latter implies willful intent to keep your partner in the dark , because you know they may not like who you really are . It ' s essentially scamming someone into liking you because you know the real answers may end the relationship . It means you value staying in the relationship more than you value your partner making informed decisions for themselves . What I personally deem big issues are jail time , drug use , divorce , abusive relationships as the giver or receiver of abuse , STDs that are still active or carried such as herpes , HPV , or HIV , children from past relationships , criminal records , mental health issues , chronic or progressive health issues . Because all those things can impact the stability of the relationship in both the present and future , andor are typically large life altering events that shape the person so therefore why wouldn ' t you share those events ? I ' m not saying one has to go into nitty gritty detail about their divorce , but yeah I ' d kinda like to know they were married before .