Wow first off , I am sorry to hear you had to deal with that as a child , its something no child should be raised with and although my parents never harmed me physically , I was constantly berated mentally and emotionally and I know how damaging that can be . Likely why I too am against most confrontational circumstances and people myself . This doesn ' t sound like it ' s your fault though , you did nothing wrong but if this is a common occurrence , perhaps you should consider moving on . Let go of that which no longer serves you , including toxic people and places . However if you truly love each other , there is hope , people can change . Ask yourself what your heart wants and follow your truth . Much luck to you .