I ' m from England Ah you being Canadian explains why you ' re so apologetic Ooh , you ' ve gotta invite her to some places to hang out with you . All this time she ' s been the one sending the invites , and you ' ve been accepting and doing nothing in return . That ' s fairly onesided on her part and maybe she ' s getting the impression that you don ' t want her company , hence why you ' re not inviting her anywhere . Don ' t think negatively Hayley ! if I asked her to hang out , she would feel like she had to say yes , no no no tell yourself that you ' re amazing and an awesome person to be around . Your friend should be delighted to have the opportunity to hang around with someone like you ! So I recommend you start to invite her to things even if it ' s just a chill out session round your house . or a meal . or a museum trip . whatever it is . Even if she declines your offer , at least you ' re now taking the initiative and inviting her to do things with you , rather than having to do it . Asking a question about whether you ' ve wore an outfit is just girl stuff , that ' s not appearing needy . It ' s like sparking conversation , so that ' s completely fine . Once you have more friends you ' ll feel so much more secure with yourself too , since your support network will be bigger than just one person . Just remember it ' s completely okay to vent to your friend about things just the smaller , petty things you can keep to yourself . The bigger things you should absolutely share with your friend and seek advice and support for . Honestly like I say , she sounds like she adores you as a friend and you ' ve been misreading the situation entirely . You ' re insecure about the friendship because you don ' t feel like you deserve such an amazing friend , and as soon as you stop thinking negatively about yourself you ' ll be a completely new person . Maybe she prefers verbal communication over messaging , since it ' s hard to determine a persons mood and tone over messages . Thing is , if you ' ve been replying instantly to her messages you cannot start taking longer to reply to hers . otherwise she will think you ' re distancing yourself away from her , when in reality you ' re not you ' re just trying to appear less ' available '. Yeah , it sounds like she loves spending time with you Not declining is fine , she knows you ' re dependable then . However don ' t bend over backwards to accommodate your friend , you do have a life of your own too and your friend needs to see that sometimes . Maybe she hasn ' t told you much recently because there ' s been nothing more to say , or she doesn ' t want to feel like putting such a deep conversation on you right now . Maybe she doesn ' t actually want to talk about it just yet . There ' s a lot of factors . You can always try and bring up a deep conversation topic and see how she responds , it might be easier if you answer first and then say ' how about you ? '. Great news ! You replied perfectly , and now everything can go on as normal . Actions always speak louder than words , and she probably knows that and is using her actions wisely . You saying ' I love you too ', it sounds kind of forced like you ' re saying it just because she said it . Of course it ' s a natural response , but it doesn ' t sound genuine . Next time she does something huge for you and I mean , something big not just giving you a lift to work , tell her the same and see how she reacts . She definitely didn ' t say it accidentally , she can ' t see it too often it ' ll lose meaning . Love is a powerful word , with many connotations , don ' t read into situations too much otherwise you ' ll dwell on them forever . Aha , no she didn ' t forget . She is just saving face , she is probably usually very stable and notemotional and now she ' s just cried ! Of course , crying is normal , but to her it might be unusual for her . So she ' s reassuring herself that it was no big deal , trust me she wont forget the time she cried on you , but she probably doesn ' t like it being discussed .