EDIT I ' m done . Apparently the rather simple concept of He was attracted to her before he knew she was trans . He wasn ' t afterward , purely based on that . Yes , that is transphobia . You all win . I ' m done with this . Please inbox me more messages telling me I ' m a cuck and that I should neck myself . Goodnight everyone . Except if the guy was AOK with OP , right up until he learned she was trans , then it ' s safe to say he ' s a transphobe . He liked her , and there was obviously chemistry , if they did have sex , the only thing that changed was learning she used to be a man . You ' re right , everyone has the right to decline sex from anyone for any reason , even if that reason is they ' re not a very nice person . Is OP ' s behaviour a bit shitty , calling him out like that publicly ? Yeah . Doesn ' t change that transphobia is a shitty reason , as the only really valid reason to not pursue a relationship with a transgender individual upon learning of their history are is you want someone who could have children with you .