Do you have a number in mind ? <| sep |> Perhaps you could try taking a look at some of these things why do you feel jealous and hurt ? This is a situation that without a doubt involves you , but I reckon that it has very little to do with you . If that makes sense . His inability to getmaintain an erection is his issue , but your reaction to said issue is , your issue . Another thing if he ' s relapsing and such that ' s forgivable . What I don ' t find forgivable is that he ' s dishonest with you about it . I mean , sure you can forgive him , lol . I just mean that lack of sincerity in the relationship is a bigger issue than masturbation looking at porn , IMO . I think the counseling or whatever you mentioned is a great idea . Best of luck D