Does your mother know that he did this ? Genuinely seeing red about that one . It ' s so wrong on so many levels ! Your dad catfished you and was explicit in the process then essentially threatens to use it against you . what the what ? ? If it were me . I would tell Ma hey . dad did this , I am not comfortable being around him . I ' m going to have to cancel . I ' d you ' d like to spend time with me I ' m happy to schedule something but I will not be in his presence as it doesn ' t seem to me that he sees how serious of a violation this was . And do not mince words . this was a huge violation . He sought you out for this . He also went on okcupid when he ' s married . So he went on it with the only idea of finding you or to find someone else and tripped over you and took advantage . There literally is no okay point to look at it .