Quite honestly , the best thing you can do here is find a time to get your own self up to Salem , and celebrate with your sister . Your father is wrong , but your sister coming home for Thanksgiving isn ' t the right solution . She and her partner , and their newborn , don ' t need to be exposed his bullshit . You ' re 24 . Your relationship with your sister is your responsibility , not your fathers . Give her a call and talk to her . Tell her you support her . Tell her you want to be in her life and if your father is making that difficult , the two of you will need to make your own time to be togeather . <| sep |> I always go alone . I don ' t even understand how it ' s supposed to be a group event . Everyone just stares at the screen . There ' s no interaction . Often , I purposely go by myself to be a peace .