Trust issues . It ' s been 3 years . I ' ve been asked out and accepted numerous dinner dates with decent men , but I ' ve cancelled every single time . I get panicky , usually an hour before a date and cancel . The most recent one was last week , # 25 . I got dressed up , make up , hair etc . , I looked like a million bucks ! I made it all the way to my living room this time ! ! Poured a glass on wine , sat down on the sofa , concocted my latest excuse , called cancelled ! I ' ve pissed off a bunch of probably very nice men . My therapist says I have a low self image because my ex cheated with a younger woman but , I disagree . I know I ' m an exceptional woman . funny , smart and pretty a lethal combination ! Apparently after 3 years , I ' m just not ready !