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Feeling a Bit Disturbed
Last Friday I saw the band Disturbed play at a venue near me, and I won't soon forget the experience. The concert was powerful, and it was emotional. I've never been to a rock concert where so many people cried, or were trying not to cry.
Disturbed is a heavy metal/nu metal band, and they've written songs that center around suicide. One of the videos to these songs depicts a woman who hangs herself. The video is graphic and it comes with a PSA from the lead singer, David Draiman, pleading with people who are thinking about taking their own lives to seek help and to know there is another way. The National Suicide Helpline is displayed in the video, just as it was displayed on the big screen during the concert.
Draiman spoke very eloquently and deeply to the audience. This is a man, and band, who create a deep connection with their fans. They refer to the crowd as their family, their blood.
In the middle of the set, the band moved from the main stage to a smaller stage in the center of the floor to be more intimate with the crowd. Draiman called for the house lights to come up and he asked for anyone who has dealt with substance addiction or depression, or knows someone who has, to raise their hands. With the lights on, I could see clearly throughout the venue, and more people than not had their hands raised. Draiman then asked for everyone to look around and see that they aren't alone.
Powerful moment right there.
This is when the band sang their inspiring songs about defeating one's thoughts of suicide. The house lights stayed on, making the moment all the more sober. A mother and son sitting beside me embraced while they cried. Tears gushed from the woman's eyes and down her face. Through cries they battled through the songs. A man beside the woman caressed her shoulders.
A few minutes later, she passed by me. I was sure the moment was too much for her. She needed a break. When she came back, I thought of giving her a quick hug, but I didn't know her and she didn't know me, and maybe that would have been unwanted by her.
While the songs played I looked around me. The woman and son weren't the only ones crying. There were many tearful eyes about me. So many strong-looking men stood with their arms crossed over their chest and stoic expressions on their faces and tears in their eyes. It was all so much I almost cried myself but held it back. The pain being suffered around me was palpable.
Before the show, at the meet and greet, a fan had given the band a letter. The lead singer called this fan to the stage and asked for his permission to read the letter aloud. The shocked young man stepped onto the stage and nodded to Draiman his consent. The letter explain that this man had attempted four times to take his own life and was going to do it again until he heard the song "The Light" by Disturbed. The man stayed on stage as the band played the song marking one of the most powerful and emotional moments I've ever witnessed at a concert.
Disturbed, like other rock bands I've recently seen play, were very inclusive in their message. Draiman preached tolerance of all people, of all races and religions, and he even included gays and transsexuals, which I appreciated very much. Everyone around me cheered this message. I didn't hear any jeers or sneers.
The band ended the show with the lead singer telling everyone to take care of themselves and to take care of each other.
I went to bed that night feeling so empowered and appreciating my life. If you ever get the chance to see this band play live, please do. It's an experience like no other.
Below is a clip of the man Draiman called onto stage.
While the band played "A Reason to Fight" the mother and son beside me cried together.
A strong message of suicide preceded the song "Watch You Burn."
*I don't own the top picture of Disturbed.
Author Alicia JosephPosted on March 14, 2019 March 22, 2019 Categories Strength, UncategorizedTags a reason to fight, Disturbed, heavy metal, heavy metal band, nu metal, rock, rock band, rock bands, rock concert, suicide, suicide prevention, The Light, watch you burn2 Comments on Feeling a Bit Disturbed
Who Defines What a Hero Is?
This emotional picture recently popped up on my Facebook Newsfeed with the caption, "If Bruce Jenner wants to be a woman, so be it. His body – he can do what he wants to it. But please – stop calling it heroic, courageous & brave because it isn't. This is heroic, courageous & brave………"
The above statement screams ignorance. Yes, the picture above is very heroic, courageous, and brave, but who gets to decide what's heroic, courageous, and brave, and what isn't? To people not dealing with gender issues or feeling they were born in the wrong body, Caitlyn Jenner may seem to only be playing "dress-up." But for those struggling with this issue, and hating the bodies they live in, and fearing they will spend their ENTIRE lives never able to express on the outside, the person they know they are on the inside, Caitlyn Jenner is a hero because she's shown them they no longer have to hide in shame, or kill themselves because they don't know what else to do.
According to a recent article in the Chicago Sun-times, 41% of transgender individuals have tried to kill themselves at one point in their life. 41 percent! To put that number in perspective, according to a study by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention and the Williams Institute, 4.6% of the general public have attempted suicide in their life. One doesn't need to be a mathematician to notice the significant difference in those numbers.
The two transgender individuals who were interviewed in the Sun-Times article had both attempted to end their life, and did so because they were constantly "harassed, bullied, victimized, discriminated against, or rejected by family and friends…." A suicide attempt came at the age of 13 for one of the individuals, and as a freshman in high school for the other.
They were kids. Children. Minors. At an age when most young people are excited about their future, dreaming of being a famous baseball player, or imagining themselves as the next Taylor Swift, there are kids who have already bore so much pain that they give up on life. Feeling hopeless enough by the time they hit their teen years that ending their life seems like the better option.
According to doctors and mental health experts,suicide prevention for anyone begins with acceptance and kindness, especially by one's parents.
Love One Another. Be Tolerant. Show Compassion.
If the solution to saving lives seems so simple, then why are so many people still suffering? Simple answer? Because not everyone loves one another. Even some of the most holier than thou people don't truly "Love Thy Neighbor." Nor does everyone practice tolerance or show compassion. It's much easier to ridicule the lives we don't understand.
The caption above is a perfect example of how we judge others and put each other down.
Caitlyn Jenner may not be YOUR kind of a hero, but she's the perfect hero to someone out there.
*The quotes came from an article in the Chicago Sun-Times. The article was used as a reference for this blog.
The picture came from Facebook. I do not own it. If it violates and copyright law I will remove it.
Note: After their failed suicide attempts, the individuals in the article received good care, despite some discrimination in healthcare. Not all medical professional are properly trained in dealing with transgender health issues. This is just another obstacle transgender people have to endure.
Author Alicia JosephPosted on September 4, 2015 January 23, 2016 Categories toleranceTags Caitlyn Jenner, compassion, gender identity, hero, heroism, ignorance, suicide, suicide prevention, tolerance, transgender2 Comments on Who Defines What a Hero Is?
There's Help Out There
I was watching a movie with friends. The movie we were watching revolved around a highly-oppressed minority group of people living amidst a society filled with extreme violence and chaos. A scene unfolded as a visibly desperate man – who had fought every adversary he met as bravely as he could, whose mind had endured as much emotional suffering as it could possibly bear, and a man whose body had experienced pain it could no longer withstand – walked down a gravel street carrying a canister of gasoline. He stopped suddenly, poured the gasoline over his body and set himself on fire.
A young woman sitting beside me asked, "Why'd he kill himself?"
"Because he's a coward and that's what cowards do," her boyfriend, sitting on the other side of her, replied.
This exchange took place more than a year ago, but I haven't forgotten it, and probably never will. The tone that young man uttered his incredibly insensitive words lacked any hint of empathy or compassion. He made the ignorant statement unaware of the plight of those around him. He wasn't close enough friends with every single person in that room to know their struggles, their downfalls, or to witness the quandary of their weakest moment.
He exemplified none of the human values (compassion, kindness, tolerance ) necessary to be a decent loving human being. I remember being angry when that young man said what he had said, but I didn't say anything because I believe those who boast loudly and talk boldly, do so to hide their own weaknesses. I swallowed my dissent that night, and instead of challenging his words, I looked at the young man with sympathetic pity in my heart because maybe he was struggling a battle so deep and profound that he needed to appear stronger than he felt.
Maybe the young and confident man was putting on an act.
Or, maybe he was just an insensitive jerk.
But that night I chose to give the young man the benefit of the doubt, and I hope he made no one in that room feel like a coward if they were struggling to overcome their own weighted hopelessness.
According to Veterans Today, the annual suicide rate for veterans is 29.5 per 100,000 veterans. This suicide rate is 50% higher compared to people who never served in the military. If this young man knew of this statistic, I wonder if he would still have boldly stated that people who kill themselves were cowards.
I don't know, but I do know that men and women who serve our country and protect our freedom are not cowards – no matter how their life ends, and the same applies to everyone else who loses their life to suicide.
Be tolerant. Be compassionate. Life is uncertain. Life is unpredictable. Life is uncontrollable.
There's help for those who need it. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255
Note: I do not own this picture. If it infringes on any copyright I will take it down.
Author Alicia JosephPosted on July 6, 2015 January 23, 2016 Categories toleranceTags compassion, cowards, kindness, love, suicide, suicide prevention, tolerance, veteransLeave a comment on There's Help Out There
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