'I don't need to be raped' an Asexual activist speaks out
By Eric Morales Oct 23, 2013 in Lifestyle
An activist for Asexuality awareness is speaking out in a very public way concerning a sexual orientation many do not understand.
In his book, Understanding Asexuality, Associate Professor Anthony F. Bogaert of Brock University states that he believes one percent of the world population is bisexual, close to 70 million people, and according to Julie Sondra Decker of Tampa, Florida she is one of them.
Although she has had more offers for sex than she can count, she has never had an intimate relationship with a man or an woman. A writer the 35-year-old says she has no desire to have sex with anyone, ever.
"As far as I can tell I'll be happy being single my whole life. I have very close friendships but don't want a significant other. I don't want to find another asexual to be roommates with." Julia Sondra Decker says.
In a YouTube video she says she had kissed and cuddled with both boys and girls when she was younger but never felt any urge to be gay or straight.
" I never found anything that floated my boat."
Some on the video sharing website have commented that Decker simply needs a 'good raping.'
From the age of 15-years-old Julia has known that she is different, describing herself as nonsexual. The fact that she wasn't displaying 'normal' interest in the opposite sex, concerned her family so much so that before Julie Decker entered college her mother took her to see a doctor, after being deemed healthy and normal Julia pursued a degree in elementary education and psychology graduating from the University of Florida in 2000.
"When people hear that you're asexual, some take that as a challenge," she told the Huffington Post. "We are perceived as not being fully human because sexual attraction and sexual relationships are seen as something alive, healthy people do. They think that you really want sex but just don't know it yet. For people who perform corrective rape, they believe that they're just waking us up and that we'll thank them for it later."
The 35-year-old with her psychology degree states that asexuality can be expressed in a normal of ways. While asexual's never pursue a sexual relationship, some do have romantic relationships. However Julie Decker says she has no romantic feelings either.
In coming forward so publicly with her orientation, Julie Sondra Decker hopes to raise awareness.
"I'm not damaged, lonely or in need of a conversion because I'm not interested in sex. I want people who feel similarly to know they're not alone." Decker says.
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