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Good Times, Bad Times in the Book Trade
The New York Times created a dust-up recently by posting an article about what was said to be the current glut of memoirs. The writer seemed to think that everyone and his dog and cat were writing their book of memories, and that there should be some type of pre-publication test of worthiness. Most did not meet his standards. Of course, that was but one person's opinion, one which I happen not to share. If there's one area in which the publishing industry seems to have shone brightly in 2010-2011, it's in the publication of some fine memoirs.
Five memoirs are on my recommended list: The Memory Palace by Mira Bartok (nothing short of brilliant), The Foremost Good Fortune by Susan Conley (a cancer survivor), Between Me and the River by Carrie Host (another cancer survivor), No Place Like Home: A Memoir in 39 Apartments by Brooke Berman (about being nearly homeless in New York City), and Perfection by Julie Metz (sometimes frustrating but ultimately satisfying). It also appears that new and worthwhile releases are on the way, including The Long Goodbye by Meghan O'Rourke (about a daughter's crushing grief following her mother's death) and History of a Suicide by Jill Bialosky (an examination into the causes of a sister's self-destruction).
But then there are a couple of negative trends that I will touch upon here. When it comes to popular fiction, tight editing seems to have been relegated to the sidelines. More and more I run across novels that seem to have no beginning; they meander on and ramble for dozens of seemingly unstructured pages. And some make things worse by incorporating non-chronological structures that veer back and forth between the present and past, past and present until it becomes dizzying. Every now and then I'm reminded of the frustrating quick-cut and overly trendy music videos of the 70s.
Are there no longer any editors who will tell a writer, "Look, you need to be very clear about the storyline at the start and quickly hook the reader. Confusion has its costs!" Who has the patience to read a hundred or two hundred pages just to figure out what story is being told? Sigh… Well, I guess some people do.
Then there's the release of what I call the non-biographical biography. These are the ones that decide to be clever by telling us everything about the subject except precisely what it is they're supposed to be known for! If the subject is an actor, we're told about his sex life, his animals, his apartments and homes, marriages and divorces, where he went on vacations, what he liked to eat, and how much he tipped the servers. Yes, we come to learn about everything in his life except his acting and the films he made.
The same rule seems to apply to politicians – the cool author writing a bio of Ronald Reagan using this style would cover everything except Reagan's acting career and his terms as governor of California and president of the U.S. If you prefer, substitute the name Robert F. (Bobby) Kennedy or Edward M. (Ted) Kennedy and the same strange rule will apply – there are sideways bios on them out there on the book store shelves. I won't name names but they're not that hard to find.
So, despite the view from Manhattan when it comes to memoirs the state of the publishing industry seems to be strong. When it comes to editing today's novels, improvements may be in order. And when it comes to biographies, readers should hold out for the old-fashioned substantive kind, even if it requires a journey over to Powell's Books to find a used one.
Pictured: The Long Goodbye: A Memoir by Meghan O'Rourke, which will be released by Riverhead Books on April 14, 2011.
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No Place Like Home: A Memoir in 39 Apartments by Brooke Berman (Harmony Books, $23.00, 251 pages)
"There are so many times I have asked the question: Am I home?"
This is a fun one that will remind adult readers of the struggling times in their twenties, looking for stability, romance and a place that feels like home. Brooke Berman tells about her period as a struggling young playwright and writer in Manhattan and Brooklyn during the period from 1998 through the summer of 2002. It was in these years that the chronically penniless Berman lived in 39 different apartments.
One thing that's entertaining about this memoir is learning about the language of real estate in New York City. There are terms like floor-through apartments, couch-surf, railroad flat (I once lived in one in Los Angeles) and 420 friendly. OK, the latter term is not actually mentioned by Berman but she made apartment shopping in Manhattan and Brooklyn sound so interesting that I came upon the term online.
Note: 420 friendly means that one's prospective roommates smoke pot and want their new tenant to be cool with that.
There's also the reminder of what it's like to be without money among people of prosperity. Part of the experience, for Berman, is a good one: "When I'm struggling, I know what to do and who to be: I don't spend money… When I have money, I am forced to make choices." I recall a friend who in college said, "I feel pure when, as a struggling student, I have no money. It feels better than when I do have money and I feel like I've done something wrong."
But because Berman was raised by a stylish mother in the fashion industry in Michigan, she also knows how far she's fallen…
"I was the only eight-year-old in the Detroit suburbs who could speak on Giorgio Armani's fall line. …now I feel like I come more from Avenue A. From the poppy-seed cafe and dance workshops, downtown sublets and unmatched clothes, care of Salvation Armani."
That should give you a hint of Berman's humor which is laced through more serious things. During this period she seems to be extremely unlucky in love, always choosing the guy who's exactly wrong for her. It's as if she has a personal radar system for finding Not the Right Guy or Mr. Wrong. There's also the fact of having to deal with her mother's illness and apparent demise after not one but two kidney transplant operations: "My mother's death is the thing I have been most afraid of my entire life… The fear of (her) death is more threatening to me, and more primal, than anything."
Brooke's mother's illness seems to stand as a symbol of the things that have gone wrong in Brooke's life: "I want to feel better, too."
While this is an engaging memoir, it does have one disturbing flaw. Like Julie Metz in her memoir Perfection, Berman tells us far more about her sex life (with whom she did what, and exactly what) than we'd care to know. Too much information, girl, way too much. Is there some type of anti-privacy virus going around that makes people disclose everyone they've gotten next to in their lives?
And, yet, the true tale ends with Berman living happily ever after in perfect city abodes, with the perfect "forever" partner and the long dreamt of career. Who says that modern fairy tales don't come true?
"To deny change is to deny life. And the present moment contains miracles. …I can say now that I have many homes."
A review copy was received from the publisher. Thanks to Elaine at Wink Public Relations (wink pr) for her assistance.
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Perfection: A Memoir of Betrayal and Revival by Julie Metz (Voice, $14.99)
"There is no real perfection, there'll be no perfect day." Pete Ham
"A good place to spend life. That's what I would need to find for myself." Julie Metz
I honestly thought that I would likely hate this book, based on a couple of synopses that I looked at before deciding to take a leap of faith and purchase it anyway. This is the nonfiction tale of graphic designer-wife-mother Julie Metz, who is 43 with a five-year-old daughter when her writer-husband suddenly drops dead. Metz goes through an extended period of mourning and loss before finding out that her husband, while alive, had several affairs with women both close to her and unknown. The actions appear to be unforgivable and Metz begins to isolate herself with her anger. She becomes highly dysfunctional and comes close to shutting down.
I feared this was going to be the second coming of Happens Every Day by Isabel Gillies, an unpleasant memoir with a lot of whining and anger. In Happens Every Day Gillies is unable to come to terms with her husband's suddenly leaving her for someone else (a female former friend), even though her own mother is quoted as stating that Gillies has an overly controlling personality. Apparently her husband simply escaped.
But Happens Every Day was basically a tale of depression and loss, while Metz – true to the sub-title – learns to revive her life after her shock and period of denial. When her lawyer brother helps to locate her husband's e-mail communications with his mistresses, she's able to analyze what happened and when things happened, and even speaks with some of his women flings. Eventually, she puts things in context ("Perhaps we all want our secrets to be found out at last…") and learns to grant her husband Henry a type of forgiveness.
"I see that, having been through a year of loss and change, I will change still more in this next time of my life."
The telling flows pretty easily. Metz tends to have a lot of deep thoughts, but she also has an excellent memory and applies it to good use here. She tells the story of a marriage – in non-chronological order – even if it was a bit unusual. As Metz made money, Henry worked for years and years on a book about what constitutes great food; it remained incomplete at his death. Henry had, however, chosen the title for what was to be his literary masterpiece – Perfection.
Metz can also be funny, as in relating the scene where she and her daughter decide to sprinkle some of Henry's fine ashes (that still contain a few traces of bone and metal) in the backyard. They do so but mix Henry's ashes with those of a deceased male cat. That kind of put Henry in his place!
Metz' almost photographic memory is jarring when she writes about her sexual relationships, both before and after her marriage. She seems to feel the need to describe every encounter she's ever had with a male, and it becomes numbing and weary. (Metz is clearly highly attractive but she seems to have had a life-long need to be desired by men.) There are so many sex scenes that one can only wonder what her young daughter Emily will think of all this one day. Perhaps she will just decide that her mom had a good time in life.
"It was helpful to remember that life could offer flavors other than sour and bitter."
At the end of this memoir's 342 pages, Metz has moved herself and her daughter to Brooklyn, she's found a nice man to live with (one who is kind to her daughter), and is re-energized and hopeful. She and her mate become domestic partners and she comes to see that this new life may well be a contented one – a "perfect fit."
This reader had his doubts – serious doubts – about this work but Metz pulls this one out before the screen goes black. Recommended.
As noted previously, this book was purchased by the reviewer.
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