Lars' Video On Self Identity
1 Silently Read Levels; Watch Videos First 2 Sidebar Videos
2 Levels 1, 2, 3
What examples have you seen in real life?
Why do these limit making good choices?
Why do people get stuck in these levels?
3 Levels 4, 5
What is the difference between following the rules because they are rules and following the rules because it helps things work better?
Which 'Golden Rule' is best?
Do to others as you would have them do to you.
Do to others what helps them.
Don't make others suffer unnecessarily.
4 Level 6
What really sets level 6 apart from the other levels?
Research: What are...
morals?
ethics?
values?
principles?
Why do you have to be open to changing your values?
What is the problem with thinking through every action?
Why do we have principles or values?
5 You Are in Charge of Yourself
Why do the higher levels take more self control?
Why is that so hard?
Is it okay to mess up?
Kholberg's Levels of Moral Development
Level 1. I Don't Want to Get in Trouble
Level 2. I Want a Reward
Level 3. I Want Others to Like Me
Level 4. I Follow the Rules
Level 5. I Am Considerate of Others
Level 6. I Think About What Is Right & I Do It,
Even If Nobody Knows
*Feeling he did not have sufficient evidence to justify its inclusion, Kholberg eventually removed Level 6.
6 Having Empathy Helps
TPS: What do they mean?
What is empathy in your own words?
How could empathy help you keep from accidentally hurting someone?
It isn't automatic. Why does it take practice to have empathy?
Why is it hard to do?
TWPS
How do you see or not see empathy in each level of moral development?
"First of all," he said, "if you can learn a simple trick, Scout, you'll get along a lot better with all kinds of folks. You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view […] until you climb into his skin and walk around in it."
Harper Lee, from To Kill a Mockingbird
"Suffering is Suffering."
John S. Armstrong, University of Washington
7 How do you define yourself?
You are more than one thing.
Draw each thing you are in its own circle: your talents, things you enjoy, things you want to work on, next steps, everything.
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Which of those circles or the most important to you? Which do you want to hang on to as you become an adult and for your whole life?
Which circles would you like to add?
Other people will try to define you.
They will try to choose which circles you define yourself by.
What are some examples you know of when this happens?
Don't let them do it.
You are the only one who gets to decide who you are.
8 Defining yourself helps you make the right choice.
Refer back to Charlotte and Jonathan from 'What does it take to learn how to do something.' How did Charlotte and Jonathan take control of their lives, and after a lot of hard work, define themselves?
Watch the sidebar videos.
Why do you think people who define themselves are happier (not like laughing and full of joy - but feel better about themselves and their lives)?
Why do you think people who define themselves tend to be higher on the levels of moral development?
Is it okay to change how you define yourself?
The hardest thing is to step back and look at yourself from the outside, from a long term view. Being able to remind yourself to think clearly when you want to impress someone, when you are making a choice, or trying to solve a problem is the key.
It does not need to be fancy: just remind yourself to step back and think about what is right and what kind of person you want to be long term. You can even make the decision later, when you are thinking clearly.
When are some times that it is important to remember who you are and who you want to be?
What can you remember to think about that will help you remember to be who you want to be?
What words can you tell yourself that will help you remember to be who you want to be?
http://blog.mrmeyer.com/2007/the-pretty-circle-part-one/