Parents speak one year after losing son to cancer, weeks after welcoming baby girl
By Sarah Ward and Michael Yong| 3 years ago
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'We tell her about Bailey every day'
UPDATE: The parents of a little boy who died from cancer just weeks after meeting his newborn sister have spoken one year on from his tragic death.
Bailey Cooper was diagnosed with non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma in 2016 and the year after, his mother Rachel fell pregnant.
"When we told him, it completely lifted him," says Bailey's father, Lee, tells People.
"He was completely over the moon. All he was concerned about was meeting his little sister."
Lee says that Bailey was by his mother's side her entire pregnancy.
Riley, Bailey and their sister, Millie. (Lee Cooper)
"He'd always be cuddling her, trying to listen to the baby in her tummy. He'd sing to her. He was just anticipating meeting her. He'd read stories while resting his head on her tummy. He'd sing just so the baby would be familiar with his voice."
Bailey wanted to be there for Millie's birth and that he did. She was born on November 30, 2017.
"He just managed to hang on, basically. How he did it, we don't know," Lee tells the publication.
"He'd come into the hospital, he sat down. He was getting quite frail, but he'd come straight in as quick as he could, shuffling his feet. We had to pass Millie to him. He just sat in the chair with Millie in his arms and he wouldn't let her go."
The couple shared photos of Bailey, nine, cradling his little sister alongside his brother, Riley, then six.
"It was amazing, but it was hard to see as well. He was completely smitten by her," Lee says.
"The short time he was with her, he would hold her every day. He'd be by her side. He fed her. He bathed her. He changed her. He sang to her every day until he physically couldn't do it anymore."
Bailey passed away on Christmas Eve, 2017.
Lee Cooper has spoken about the tragic death of his son, Bailey, and how their little girl has helped the family to heal. (Lee Cooper)
His parents say the birth of Millie has helped them cope with Bailey's untimely death.
"It's been really hard without Bailey. It's been wonderful having Millie around. She's been helping us deal with what's happened.
"It was so hard for [Rachel], her daily routine had completely changed without him."
They're doing all they can to ensure Millie grows up knowing her big brother.
"We tell her about Bailey every day. We show her pictures of him. We've got pictures around the house of Bailey. Every time we mention Bailey's name she points up at a picture.
"She knows who he is already. Her face lights up every time she sees a picture of Bailey on our phones. We show her videos. There's no way she's ever not going to know who he is. We talk about him every day."
We previously reported:
A little boy fought terminal cancer long enough to meet and name his newborn baby sister and told his devastated parents: "You can only cry for twenty minutes."
Nine-year-old Bailey Cooper battled the disease for 15 months and was determined to hold his new sibling who was due.
Mum Rachel, 28, had her in November and Bailey named her Millie – and the day before he died Bailey was pictured cradling the baby in his arms. Tragically, Bailey died on Christmas Eve – and his proud mum and dad Lee said he smiled all the way through his treatment.
From left: Lee, Rachel, Riley, Bailey – and in front, new arrival Millie. Image: SWNS/Mega
Rachel said, "We didn't think he would last that long, but he was determined to meet Millie.
"It got to the end of November, and Millie was born. He hugged her and did everything an older brother would do – change her, wash her, sing to her."
Bailey's dad Lee, 30, added, "Doctors said he was going to go before Millie was born. He didn't. He fought, and on the way to hospital, he said we should call her Millie.
"But the moment after he met her, he began to taper off quickly. He was slipping away."
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The family knew Bailey was unlikely to survive to celebrate Christmas but encouraged him to write a list of gifts he would like. But his parents noticed they seemed to be chosen with his younger brother, Riley, aged six, in mind.
Knowing that he was dying, Bailey had planned his own funeral and asked that all guests dressed up in superhero outfits.
He told his parents in their last family meeting, "You're only allowed to cry for 20 minutes. You have to take care of Riley and Millie."
And when his grandmother said she wished he could take his place, Bailey told her, "That is really selfish, Nan. You have grandchildren to take care of."
After being taken to a hospice on December 22, Bailey's family gathered by his bedside and read him stories to keep him company.
Rachel said, "He knew he was not going to be here for Christmas, but we tried to get him to put together a Christmas list. He said he didn't want to, but we encouraged him to. By 11.45am on Christmas Eve, we were by his bedside.
"We knew it was not going to be long. We told him, 'It's time to go Bailey. Stop.'
"The moment we said 'stop', he took his last breath and had just the one tear come out of his eye. It was peaceful."
Lee added, "We were going to get everything he asked for. But most of the stuff he asked for were things he never played with. They were more suited for his little brother. He had picked everything for Riley because he knew he was not going to play with them."
Riley, Bailey and Millie. Image: SWNS/Mega
Bailey first became ill in the summer of 2016, and after a series of tests in September he was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma, which develops in the network of vessels and glands in the body.
By the time it was discovered, it was already in Stage Three.
Doctors treated the cancer with chemotherapy and steroid medication but were optimistic that Bailey would recover, and in February 2017 he went into remission. Bailey returned to Stoke Lodge Primary School in Patchway, Bristol, and was subject to regular check ups and routine MRIs every three months.
But when the family went on holiday at Easter to a Devon holiday park, they were dealt a devastating blow.
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Lee said, "On the second day, we were in Paignton Zoo when we had a phone call from the hospital that he had relapsed and they needed him back in. Bailey showed signs that he was breathless and tired."
The family were told there was a 70 per cent survival rate, and chemotherapy began again.
"The doctors threw the book at it, and told us even if he survived it, the long term effects will last for the rest of his life," Lee said.
"He had a stem cell transplant. We had to try everything we could."
In July, the family were told that Bailey was in remission, but by August the cancer had come back – and they were told there was nothing more which could be done. The cancer had spread quickly and lumps were found in Bailey's chest, lungs, liver and stomach.
Hundreds of people turned out to pay their respects to Bailey on January 6, including Bristol Rovers FC captain Tom Lockyer, who struck up a friendship with the young football fan.
Lee said, "Bailey smiled through it all. He pulled funny faces and made people laugh, even though he was in so much pain."
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