'I found out my ex's girlfriend was cheating on him - so I told him'
By 9Honey | As told to Tanya Meyer| 12 months ago
My ex-husband Sam* left me for another woman about six years ago. I was devastated at the time, but I eventually got over it and we reached a place where we were quite friendly.
I made sure we got on well for our kids' sake, as I thought there was no point being angry forever and I wanted the kids to see we could still get on.
I have a great boyfriend, Max, who I love very much and he gets on well with Sam whenever we have to get together for family functions and the like. The woman Sam left me for ended up leaving him, and then Sam hooked up with a much younger woman, Susan.
"I got the feeling from Susan that she wasn't really into Sam." (iStock)
I didn't like her at all and felt like she was only with Sam because he has plenty of money and a beautiful house. I also felt Sam was only with her because she was young – about 15 years younger than him — and she didn't want kids, which suited Sam as he and I share four.
I got the feeling from Susan that she wasn't really into Sam; whenever she's spoken about him to me she only ever talked about his job and the great holidays they can afford.
I was at work and showing some of my colleagues photos from a family wedding when one of them recognised Susan.
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She told me, "I've met her and she was with a guy she introduced as her boyfriend, but it wasn't Sam!" She also mentioned the other guy was Irish.
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My workmate messaged her friend and asked about it, and was told Susan was "definitely" dating this other guy.
Well, I had a bit of a dilemma: should I tell Sam, or just let sleeping dogs lie?
I thought long and hard about it. What would I want Sam to do if I were in his shoes?
I knew I'd want him to tell me. Of course, there was always the risk he would get angry with me, for sticking my nose in his private life, but I like to think we're still friends, and what would a friend do?
So I made the decision to phone Sam and give him the information I had – then it was up to him what he did with it.
"Do I feel guilty for ending their relationship? No, not at all." (iStock)
Sam was very calm when I told him and thanked me. He didn't tell me whether he was going to confront Susan or not, but I assumed he would. I knew Sam was a confrontational type of personality; it wouldn't be like him to do nothing.
I didn't see Sam again for a couple of weeks but, when I did, he filled me in. He told me he asked Susan outright if she was cheating on him with an Irish guy, and that was all it took – she confessed and they broke up right away.
Do I feel guilty for ending their relationship? No, not at all. I hope my ex sees me as having done him a huge favour.