Is it wrong to live simple and responsibility free at my age?
I'm turning 21 this week, and I am behind my peers in terms of life accomplishments. I have no job, I am pursuing college online this summer, but in terms of goals they are very slim at the current moment. I have had a rough childhood, dealing with molestation and abuse, I never got to live the childhood I wanted,... show more I'm turning 21 this week, and I am behind my peers in terms of life accomplishments. I have no job, I am pursuing college online this summer, but in terms of goals they are very slim at the current moment. I have had a rough childhood, dealing with molestation and abuse, I never got to live the childhood I wanted, and now that I'm older, I have found myself just simply living and breathing with no obligations. I live with my grandmother, and play video games with my friends and boyfriend (gay youth was also a troubling topic), and it just genuinely makes me happy. Am I wrong for wanting to live this way for a while? Am I wasting my time?
If your grandma doesn't mind and you don't mind, I guess it is what it is. Some households are less strict than others.
However, it rarely benefits to wait. If your grandma wasn't around, what would you do? Do some self analysis and get proper job training. By the time you get a certain age you should be making enough money to live either independently or with a spouse.
You live responsibility free because your grandmother is enabling you to do that. But you aren't twelve years old anymore. You're an adult and need to be able to take care of yourself financially. You can and should find a job that will enable you to support yourself and your simple lifestyle.
I wouldn't say it's "wrong", but unless your grandmother is quite wealthy, your "responsibility-free" lifestyle is at the expense of another person. You're an extra mouth to feed, and extra bathroom to clean, extra clothes and dishes to wash, etc.
If you're not yet ready to enter the workforce to contribute to household expenses, then you should at least be pulling your weight at home. You could cook, clean, care for the yard, maintain the house and car, or whatever you can do to make yourself easy to live with, so your grandmother thinks you're a joy to have around, not a burden.
i will not make much comment other than ;live how you want.
I'm turning 21 this week, and I am behind my peers in terms of life accomplishments. I have no job, I am pursuing college online this summer, but in terms of goals they are very slim at the current moment. I have had a rough childhood, dealing with molestation and abuse, I never got to live the childhood I wanted, and now that I'm older, I have found myself just simply living and breathing with no obligations. I live with my grandmother, and play video games with my friends and boyfriend (gay youth was also a troubling topic), and it just genuinely makes me happy. Am I wrong for wanting to live this way for a while? Am I wasting my time?
I'm only 16 in college and...?
If I get bad grades does it matter much? but say when I leave school and go college I try and improve?