"We all have a whole family (seems like a community sometimes) of wounded components that make up our being. Having a lot of conflicting feelings within is not a sign that we are crazy - it is a sign that we have different parts of us that want different things/are reacting to different impulses. The more we get aware of those parts of us the more we can stop being an unconscious victim of those conflicting feelings."
"This work is about becoming an integrated, whole, mature, adult person in action, in the way we live our lives and respond to life events and other people. The only way we can be whole is to own all of the parts of ourselves. By owning all the parts we can then have choices about how we respond to life. By denying, hiding, and suppressing parts of ourselves we doom ourselves to live life in reaction. "
"The inner child healing paradigm is a structure that facilitates healing. We all had our relationships with ourselves fractured into pieces as we were growing up. It is very important to start bringing some peace to our inner process by owning those different wounded parts of us. Those different wounded parts of us - which involve both repressed emotional energy and frozen splinters of ego - are what I refer to as our inner children."
On this page is an article by inner child healing pioneer on using ages of the inner child as a tool in healing codependency.
Inner Child Healing Paradigm was originally published online as Inner Child Healing - Part 10 - Inner Child Paradigm on February 23, 2001 on my Inner Child / Codependency Recovery topic page on the Suite101.com Directory.