"A lot of people love to compare their sob stories, like woe is me, tell me about your divorce, when was your last relationship," she told Business Insider. "Let's see if you like each other first... You want to learn who the other person is today. You can get to know them then learn more about the past."
"It gives them a head's up that this is important to you, and some more time to get tested before your next date if they haven't been in awhile," the article says. "For another, if they react with shock or judgment, it's a red flag that they might not take safety as seriously as you do.
2. DO NOT ask: 'Do you want kids/want to get married/stay in the area, etc?