Love Mentor | Dating Advice for Friends - Is Dating Your Friend a Good Idea?
My oldest friends from New Zealand, Dave and Julie met at university when they shared student accommodation. They got on really well as friends and one night they decided to play a prank on a friend they had staying for the weekend. They slept in the same bed so the friend would find them together in the morning and think they were a couple.
The pretence worked too well and they've now been married many years. More recently Uma Thurman and Quentin Tarantino, who are very old friends, revealed they were an item at the Cannes Film Festival. Will that relationship work as well as my friends has? What is the difference between relationships born from friendships and other relationships? Should you go for it or not take the risk?
On the positive side friends often already have similar values, shared interests and similar attitudes. In the case of my friends they were both accountants and careful with money. They already enjoyed each other's company and had a similar social circle. Like many in his situation, Dave said the biggest risk was telling each other that they liked each other, in that way. Because they were friends the risk and impact of rejection is much higher. At the other end of things, if the relationship doesn't work, particularly if it ends badly, you run the risk of ruining the friendship.