We cannot become all that God has designed us to be if we harbor resentment and bitterness. It is vital that we make the choice to forgive and even to reconcile with the person who has hurt us.
In taking steps to reconciliation, begin with your thoughts. Ask God to help you think about the person's needs, rather than the faults. Then begin to speak well of him or her, drawing attention to strengths, rather than offenses. Next take action—begin to seek reconciliation.
Wait on God's timing for the individual to join in total reconciliation. It may not be safe to be physically reconciled with some people. Don't try to force—let God work it out in his way and time. Above all, remember that Jesus loves you, and he will give you the strength and courage you need.