Education is not only prioritize the process of transfer knowledge, but also include the process of transferring values ​​to students. In fact, according to Muhammad Syafii Antonio and Tim Tazkia, "Transferring values ​​cannot be done by memorizing the concepts of value only, but it needs to be experienced directly by involving all aspects that exist in each student, be it cognitive, affective, or psychomotor aspect."(2017: 4).
The process of transferring value cannot just happen as we learn science, but "... A new value will 'live' in a student if he has experienced these values ​​repeatedly in a real-life context" (Muhammad Syafii Antonio and Tim Tazkia, 2017: 4).
Therefore I will discuss how social relation affect one's education by dividing it into three sub-chapters, namely: is value important in the world of education; how values ​​are internalized through relationship; who can becomes an actor of internalization and its influence; and closed with a brief conclusion.
We need to know that in addition to the cognitive aspects, we must pay attention to the affective aspect that involve the internalization of values. According to Gita Anggraini, "Basically the education process is an attempt to inherit values ​​from one generation to the next generation, in the inheritance process there are also innovative and dynamic efforts to renew value in a better direction" (2016: 91).
Real education must concern output both in society. Education cannot only be measured by how smart or how much knowledge a person has, but education must be able to change a person's behavior so that it can be accepted by society.
An understanding of values ​​can be our driving force for doing good and bad things. "A person's attitude and actions can be seen from how he consistently hold values. And the value that is believed to be can be a driver of realizing determination to be an act "(Parnomo, 1995: 21). An understanding of values ​​is very useful for education because it involves affective aspects where if students get good value internalization, the output of attitudes, behaviors, and characters will be good too.
A good environment, will provide good value internalization. The thinking of George Harbert Mead (1863-1931) in Nugroho (2018) concerning "The Theoretical Perspective" sparked a "Symbolic Interaction Theory" which contained, "Every non verbal signal and verbal message are interpreted based on mutual agreement by all parties involved in an interaction is a form of symbol that has a very important meaning.
A person's behavior is influenced by symbols given by others, as well as the behavior of that person "(Nugroho, 2018: 503). If we compare the values ​​that exist in society is a symbol that has important meaning and is mutually agreed upon, then the value in the form of symbols can affect the people around them through internalization.
The difference in internalization of each participant is based on differences in student environment. According to Mancini et al. (2006) student behavior is influenced by peers and family relationships based on economic, educational and marital status of different parents. These differences have different values ​​and impacts on students. As an example from Mancini et al. earlier, families with low education level and higher education level will produce different behavioral output.
But in my opinion, the close relationship between child and family is also important. Families with a higher level of education do not guarantee the success of education without the close relationship between students and family. But that does not mean that closeness or strong relation is the main factor.
The two factors between good family and also the bonds that are built between children and family are mutually compatible which can be one of the factors in the success of children's education.
The relationship between students and other students must also be considered. The attitudes, behavior, and character of other students can influence students as said by Mancini et al. and the Symbolic Interaction theory by Mead. Other students who have good character, will provide good internalization to students.
Students are also in a time of confusion looking for their identity, as said by Mancini et al., "Adolescents often feel fragile and insecure and searching for their identity" (2006: 143). So the relationship between students and other students must be considered because actually students are still in the search for identity level which makes them vulnerable to the values ​​received.
Based on the description above, we can understand that education is not only a matter of transfer knowledge, but also transfer of values. In practice, transfer of values ​​or internalization is not easy to do because it relates to one's life experience. It can be said that internalization can be obtained from the students' environment because they are directly offended by the internalization actors. Selection or formation of a good environment will affect the relations of students which if the environment is chosen and formed well, it will also have a good impact on students, and vice versa.
Therefore, it is important for parents to create a good environment at home by strengthening relationships with their children. Parents also have to choose good school because in the school environment there are many actors of internalisation that can affect children's education. The more internalisation actors who provide good value, the better the attitudes, behavior, and character of students, and vice versa. So it is important to choose and make the environment so that students can have good relations because it will affect the education of students.