In his letter, "Secondhand Smoker" stated that he had quit chain-smoking two years before he met his wife. Obviously, she must have been smoking at the time. If her smoking was so offensive to him, why did he marry her? If he didn't tell her before their wedding that he didn't want smoking in their home, he has no right to change the rules now. After all, he accepted her for better or worse, knowing that she was a smoker.