If you've just met a person you like and want to start a good conversation, then you need to make the person instantly attracted to you by bringing up something original, witty, and engaging, and by flirting a little bit. When you're starting a conversation with someone you like, the way you say something is more important than what you say. Keep eye contact and face your body toward that person, showing him or her that you're paying attention. Here are some great ways to start a conversation with someone you like:


If you're at a party, talk about the music that's playing. That will give you something to talk about -- whether you both hate or love the music.
If you're meeting at a bar, ask the person for a drink recommendation. Then you can approve if you like the drink or tease the person if it's not up to par.
Talk about the person's leisure activities. Without being too pushy, ask her what she likes to do for fun on the weekends.
Don't talk about your jobs. This is just not a turn-on. You can get to that later.
Tease the person. If it's hot out and she's wearing a sweater, gently tease the girl's fashion choice.
Talk about pets. People love talking about their pets. If you have a pet, you can even swap photos.
 If you instantly develop a friend crush on someone you meet or see, or if you're just hanging out with a friend of a friend and want to get to know him better, you should show an interest in him without sounding like an interviewer, and make him laugh and want to get to know you.


Keep it positive. Don't be self-deprecating or complain right away; open with a positive remark, like talking about how great your local sports team is doing (if you think that person likes sports) or how much you love the bar or restaurant where you find yourself.
Talk about your neighborhood. People take pride in where they live and the things they love to do in that area, so if you live in the same hood, you can bond over how great it is. Then you can get more personal and talk about places where you used to live.
Ask the person what he or she likes to do for fun. Maybe you'll find that you have some of the same interests.
Don't talk so much about yourself. Make sure you're talking about each other equally. You should walk away with some new information about that person.
If you have mutual friends, ask that person how he knows your mutual friend. You could get into some funny stories about a person you both know.
 Starting a conversation with a coworker can be a little trickier than starting a conversation with a potential love interest or friend because there are some lines that shouldn't be crossed in a work environment. Still, if you keep things positive and talk about your personal lives just enough, you'll be able to have a lively conversation.


Ask your coworker about his family. Everyone loves talking about his or her family, so just casually ask how the person's family is doing. Your coworker will be whipping out photos and giving you more information than you want to hear in a second.
Talk about what you're going to do with your weekends. If you work together, then you both look forward to getting out at work on Friday and doing something fun or relaxing over the weekend. Your coworker will be happy about sharing his plans if you don't pry too much.
Bond over a mutual complaint. Mention the traffic, broken copier, or lack of creamer in the kitchen, and you both can shake your heads together as you jump into a more lively conversation.
Don't talk about work too much. Unless you're starting a conversation with a coworker because you have a work-related question, work on showing your human side and talking about your friends, families, and interests instead of your projects or reports. Find a human connection that you can make outside of working.
 Talking with an entire group of people can be a bit more tricky. The safest bet in starting a conversation is finding common ground. Though it can be hard to make everyone feel at ease and like they have something to contribute to the conversation, you should try to include as many people as possible by keeping things broad and light.


Poke fun at yourself. This is a great tactic especially if you're starting a conversation with people who know you but don't know each other very well. Let people laugh at you or tease you, and they'll be on their way to building a common bond.
Try to address the group instead of just one or two people. If you specifically direct your comment at one person, the others will feel left out.
Pet peeves make for good conversation starters because everyone has them. You can start off by telling a story about one of your pet peeves and others are sure to join in.
Think of things that the people in the group may have in common and bring them up. You don't have to be subtle. You can say, "Hey, you both love the Giants -- did you see that crazy game last night?"
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