As soon as you become aware that your friend is mad at you, you need to figure out what you said or did that caused him to get upset.You may already know, but if you do not, take time to reflect on your recent actions around and words to him. What did you say or do that might have upset him?
If you cannot determine what made him angry with you, you will have to ask him. You cannot sincerely apologize for something that you did not know was wrong or upsetting.;
, You could have done any number of things to upset your guy friend. An important step in giving a sincere apology is admitting to yourself that you made a mistake.


It can be a challenge to do this, because many people do not like admitting that they are wrong or that they did something wrong. However, this is a key component to giving a genuine apology and repairing your friendship.
 Presumably, you know your guy friend pretty well. Another key aspect of apologizing to him involves knowing why this particular issue upset him.


Did you offend his values or beliefs?
Did you hurt his feelings?
Did you lie to him?
Did you offend his family or another close friend?
Did you physically hurt him?

, Generally speaking, in-person apologies are much preferred. However, if an in-person apology is not possible, the next best options are writing a personal letter or giving him a phone call.


Most people strongly recommend against sending an apology in a text message, because it seems insincere. You are sending the message to your friend that you do not have or do not want to take the time to apologize in person and that you do not value his friendship.
 If you chose to apologize in-person, ask your guy friend if he will meet up with you to talk the next day. Otherwise, plan to write him a letter or wait a day before calling him.


It is best to give both of you time to calm down and take a step back from the situation. In some cases, apologizing immediately comes off as insincere  and selfish. However, you want to avoid waiting too long, because that will cause resentment to build.In the meantime, prepare your apology to your guy friend.
 It is important to go into the apology prepared with what you will say. Typically, boys and men do not appreciate a lot “fluff;” rather, it is better to get right to the point.


“I need to apologize for what I did.”
“I'm sorry for what I said the other day.”
“I owe you an apology for the way I acted.”
“I want to apologize to you about how I treated you.”

, Often, these simply come across as excuses for your behavior.If you really feel the need to give a reason for your actions, it is best to stick to reasons that put the blame on you. For example, “I said those mean things about you because I felt pressured to fit in with that crowd.” Avoid saying statements like, “Well, I know I shouldn't have said those things, but you brought it on yourself.”

, However, when you are apologizing, it is best to accept responsibility for your actions.


“I recognize that I was in the wrong.”
“I know that what I did was rude, and you didn't deserve to be treated like that.”
“I'm aware that I made a mistake.”
“I made a mistake, and I fully accept that truth.”

, When you hurt a friend's feelings or somehow upset him, sometimes he loses trust in you. One way to rebuild that trust is to show him that you value the friendship and want to repair it.


“I'll buy you a replacement, since I ruined yours.”
“I don't like that they tried to make me bully someone to be friends with them, so I'm going to stay away from them. I already have great friends, like you.”
“I'll apologize to your family, as well. That was a really horrible thing of me to say.”
“I will always be honest with you from now on. Your friendship means a lot to me.”

, Once you have drafted everything you want to say to him in your apology, carry it out.


Follow through with meeting him in person to apologize, or be sure to give him a call. If you chose to write him a letter, then leave it somewhere he will find it or mail it to him.
Remember to not make excuses while you talk with him.
Remain calm while giving your apology. Crying will likely make him feel guilty, when you are the one at fault, and getting angry will turn the conversation into an argument.
Allow him to interrupt if he becomes upset or wants to say something, and do not react negatively if you do not like what he says. This shows him that you are serious and respect his friendship., In some cases, he might not be willing to accept your apology. It is important to accept this yourself.


Do not get mad at him, and do not yell at him. It is his right to accept or reject your apology, and if you really offended or hurt him, he might not want to do that.
If your mistake has cost you your friendship, you need to take responsibility for that.
Avoid begging for his forgiveness or asking him what you can do to make it up to him. Rather, take the initiative to regain his trust by doing those things on your own.
 In your apology, you likely told him a way that you will make it up to him. Show him you were serious by following through with those promises.


Do whatever it takes to make it up to him without complaint. Complaining about it will only negate your apology and possibly put the guilt or blame on him.
It is, quite possibly, even more important to follow through if he rejected your apology, because this is a big way that you will try to regain his trust.
 Once the apology and the disagreement are over, it is best to let the whole situation fall into the past.


Do not bring it up over and over again, regardless of whether he accepted or rejected your apology. If he accepted it, then bringing it up will likely become annoying and cause a new issue. If he rejected it, then bothering him about it frequently will likely only push him further away.
Identify what happened to upset your guy friend.
Recognize that you made a mistake.
Understand why your mistake upset your friend.
Decide how you will apologize to him.
Make plans to apologize to your friend after he has had time to cool off.
Plan out what you will say to him.
Avoid giving reasons for why you did the action that upset your friend.
Take full responsibility for your actions.In some cases, you and your friend might both be to blame for the disagreement.
Explain how you will make it up to him.
Apologize to your guy friend.
Accept it if your guy friend rejects your apology.
Show your guy friend that you mean your apology.
Let the situation become history.
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