You might be used to saying "I want to find the woman of my dreams" but you need to know what this means for you, such as what her personality is, what she likes/dislikes or even looks like.


Think of key personality traits you consider important in a lifelong partner. Loyalty, generosity, fun-loving, outgoing, focused, and so forth. Which of your own personality traits do you want matched?
Think of the values you'd like this person to hold. Do you want her to have similar values to your own? Or, are you okay with her having quite different ones from you?
Consider your faith or lack of it. Does your ideal woman need to be of the same faith? Also consider family values––what are yours and in what way must hers match those?
What interests would you like this person to have? Does she have to have the same interests as you? Or would you prefer she had completely different interests, or a mixture of both? Is it enough that she's willing to learn about your interests?
Be frank with yourself about appearance. How important a factor is this? Might it be holding you back from finding someone with an amazing personality?
Be a devil's advocate. What sort of things do you not want in your ideal partner? What would you be willing and not willing to compromise about?;
, It is very hard for a person to measure up to an ideal or a creation of perfection in the mind. Having a dream notion of another human being can cause you to be blind to their faults initially, only to leave you extremely disappointed later when these become apparent because the dream is shattered. A realistic approach is to accept that no person is perfect and that it's important to recognize and understand the flawed sides of a person as much as seeing all the things you wish to see.


Realize that any person you date is a mixture of amazing traits and flaws. You are no different either.
You'll never find a woman to date if you expect her to be 100 percent perfect. No such person exists.
Learn to overlook imperfections that don't have a major impact on the relationship. If there are things that will have a major impact, don't be blind to them and realize early on that they could be deal breakers.
Looking for perfection may mean that you are too picky and won't ever find the woman who meets your expectations.
Realize that it takes time to get to know the real person underneath. If you have shallow ideals, you may never really get to know the amazing qualities of the woman unless you're prepared to take the time to get to know her.
 Are you likely to be the ideal man of her dreams? Do you take good care of your health and appearance? Are you interesting? To attract a person, be attractive yourself. Most importantly, you need to understand yourself well, knowing your own identity and values. If you don't know these things, you will have a hard time defining boundaries in your relationship and you may fail to connect well, be afraid of commitment or not notice when you over-rely on the other person to define you.


What are your values and beliefs? Do you have these sorted out for yourself?
Do you know what your life's goals are and what matters to you?
Are you aware of your flaws? What are you doing to address them or manage around them?
Do you have an issue with perfection? If you consider yourself to be perfect, another person will find it hard to meet that, ever. Be willing to compromise and to see your flaws.
Are you truly ready for a long-term relationship yet? You need to know this in order to be serious about your pursuit.
 Where do you find the woman of your dreams? This will depend on the kind of person you're looking for and your own interests. You'll be best off staying open to meeting a woman of your dreams anywhere you might be, so be aware at all times. That said, some of the things you can do to help you find this special person include looking where the possibilities are increased. Some examples include:


Look among your friends. Do they know of people who might be compatible with you? Ask them to keep an eye for someone with whom you might click.
Visit places where you like doing things. If you're sporty and you're looking for a woman who is also sporty, spend time doing that sport and keeping your eyes open. Join a club, take up a sport or become involved in triathlons, etc. if you're not already so involved.
Use online dating resources. There are many options here and you'll easily find matches to your criteria.
Go to social events. Mingle at parties, drinks events, dinner parties and even family events such as weddings and birthdays. You never know who you may bump into and the fun feeling of such occasions can help show people in their happiest light.
Join a hobby or activity class, club or event. For example, if you like dancing, join a dancing class or club.
Your daily commute. Maybe she sits next to you on the train or bus? Strike up a pleasant conversation if you keep seeing the same woman and feel you have a connection.
 You could be walking down the street, doing your grocery shopping or waiting in a queue to pay a bill when you suddenly get a notion that you've found the one. No matter how much you plan and act, sometimes when finding love it's that lucky moment of crossing paths and realizing instantaneously that this is someone you'd like to get to know better.
 You won't win any hearts by being gruff, rude or unpleasant to her or to her friends. Show her respect and treat her friends kindly. They will play a role in judging you and telling her what they think, so be sure it's going to be mostly good things they have to say.
 Don't make an instant judgment as to whether or not this person is the woman of your dreams. It will take time to learn more about her, to get to know her personality and preferences, to find out just how compatible the two of you are. This means being realistic about setting aside the time to do this and not rushing the relationship or your judgment.


Make regular time for each other. Do fun things together to ensure that you enjoy one another's company.
Talk about values, beliefs and things you both care about. These are important aspects for both of you.
 If it's all about you, she'll begin to feel that she's an appendage and not being treated as an individual. Take care not to fill the conversation space with everything you care about rather than allowing her plenty of space to share her thoughts too.


Find out all that you can about what she likes and dislikes. In turn, share your own likes and dislikes too. This can be an area of deal-breaking, so be aware of this at all times.
If you start talking about things that bore her to tears or bother her, tuck this information away for later reflection. Is this a problem for you or is it something you can live with?

, How the two of you cope with not agreeing with one another, having an argument or not seeing eye-to-eye will determine future conflict resolution. This is a valuable part of getting to know one another when determining if this is your dream woman.


Does she handle conflict well? Does she argue fairly to stand by her point without dismissing you?
Do you feel that you can work things out amicably when you don't agree with one another?
Can you see yourself spending a lifetime with this person, able to resolve disagreements in an acceptable way?

, Be real yourself and be genuine in how you interact with this woman. You can't expect to build strong foundations for a lifetime with the woman of your dreams if everything you've represented to her has been a fantasy. It'll all come tumbling down in the most painful way if you try to be something you're not. Instead, be real and let her get to know the person you really are. That way, you'll be absolutely certain that she's the woman of your dreams, because she connects with your true self.
Define the woman of your dreams.
Be aware that whenever you focus on someone being "a dream", you are manufacturing something that may not exist.
Consider your own contribution to this future relationship.
Begin looking.
Remember that luck plays a part in finding this person.
Be polite to the woman and to her friends.
Be prepared to get to know one another well.
Focus on getting to know her most.
Deal constructively with disagreement.
Keep things real.
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