A member of the prominent Gilmore family and widow of Charles Abbott Gilmore, she is survived by a son, Richard Gilmore, and numerous other family members and devoted friends." About the actual funeral
LORELAI: Jason. But my mother-in-law specifically requested him for the service, and... [The doorbell rings.] CUT TO ELDER GILMORE RESIDENCE - NIGHT
[After the funeral. Come on. DOYLE: What? EMILY: Apparently something his mother used to have made for him when he was a little boy, and now he wants some, and I can't seem to find anybody who has any idea what it is. EMILY: But her wishes. EMILY: His cousin Marilyn. EMILY: Last night. EMILY: Your grandmother is to have an open-casket ceremony, displayed in all her glory, then is to be cremated and have her ashes divided in two -- half to be buried with her husband in the family crypt, and the other half to be put in an urn and placed on our mantelpiece. KIRK: I read lips. KIRK: Over there with Nicole. LORELAI: But Dad...
EMILY: Skipped my best friend's funeral to golf -- that's what your dad did! Music was a little frivolous for her. RICHARD: Trix's obituary. SOOKIE: Well, about Richard's mother dying. They're listening to the sounds of yelling coming from Luke's apartment upstairs. We each have two of them. Which ones? Why don't you call Pennilyn Lott and have her plan the funeral? With extra nuts on top. [Lorelai goes back out to the living room where Emily is on the phone.]
Plan: A: The rift; Q: What does Richard's golf date widen between Emily and Richard? A: Emily; Q: Who drops everything in her daughter's lap after finding a letter in which her mother-in-law pleads with her son to marry Pennilyn instead? A: Richard; Q: Who goes on a golf date instead of accompanying his wife to the funeral of her best friend? A: clients; Q: Who did Richard go on a golf date with instead of his wife? A: Doyle; Q: Who goes on a theft and plagiarism rant? A: grief; Q: What emotion does Trix die with? A: his wedding; Q: What event did Emily's mother-in-law want her son to miss? A: Luke; Q: Who and Nicole have all of Stars Hollow listening in and reading lips as they argue? A: her parents; Q: Who is Lorelai worried about? A: Trix's exacting requirements; Q: What is Lorelai worried about fulfilling for Trix's funeral? A: Trix's funereal undies; Q: What does Lorelai have a meltdown while shopping for? A: cousin; Q: Who is Marilyn? A: tales; Q: What does Marilyn tell about Lorelai the First? Summary: The rift between Emily and Richard widens when he goes on a golf date with clients instead of accompanying his wife to the funeral of her best friend. Doyle goes on a theft and plagiarism rant; Trix dies suddenly and stricken with grief and guilt, Richard is inconsolable; Emily calls it quits on arranging Trix's funeral and drops everything in her daughter's lap after finding a letter in which her mother-in-law pleads with her son on the eve of his wedding to Emily to marry Pennilyn instead; Luke and Nicole have all of Stars Hollow listening in and reading lips as they quarrel; worried about her parents and frantic over fulfilling Trix's exacting requirements for her funeral, Lorelai has a meltdown while shopping for Trix's funereal undies; after the service, cousin Marilyn regales family and friends with tales of Lorelai the First; Emily and Richard finally reach out to each other as he defies one of his mother's last wishes for the sake of his wife.