We get a lot of messages about sex from media and society. Try not to focus on what you’ve learned about "virginity" loss from TV, movies , or even your friends, because in real life, people’s experiences can be so different from each other's. “Get rid of any expectations; the first time we have sex is typically not our best. Plus, many things you hear about the first time are not absolutes,” says SKYN Condoms’ Sex & Intimacy Expert and host of the podcast Sex With Emily, Dr. Emily Morse . “Not everyone bleeds the first time , has pain, or even enjoys it — and if you fall in those categories, know that there is nothing wrong with you.”