If you started out in your normal messaging app before your conversation took a horny turn, don't feel shy about asking to pivot to a safer option. “It can be as simple as saying, ‘Things are heating up, let's take this to a more private chat,’” and then using a platform that’s encrypted and is unlikely to be hacked, Battle says. She also suggests you tell your SO up front: “Please do not screengrab or share anything that we discuss or photos we share. I will do the same. If you're cool with that, let's do this!"