A precoital chat about your orgasm style might sound like a vibe-killer, but it's actually the opposite, according to Marin. You can keep it brief and say something like, I'll let you know when I feel satisfied, or you could try something more specific like, I have a hard time orgasming with someone new, and it's not a problem with me so it shouldn't be for you. "Your partner is just as anxious as you are, so they'd love the inside scoop on how your orgasm works and what you want from them," Marin says. Describing how you come will hopefully encourage your partner to be forthright about how and when they come, too.