"If you have a face-time culture, then that rewards people who are always there at the office, and if you have a culture where you have to beg for a flexible schedule, or you have to ask permission to work remotely, that work system is seen as an accommodation, and something only given to mothers. It becomes sort of like a bone you throw to a lesser worker, so that you can make your gender numbers look good but you don't really value them. [With after-work happy hours] or very early morning meetings, it's not necessarily that there's, like, this nefarious cabal out there that's working to keep women down or back, but the way that it's set up is to be very exclusive.