The most important thing to remember, however, is that you might need to take time for yourself. "It may be hard to feel the loneliness," Sussman says. "But if you feel like you need to take a pause from dating in order to work on your self-esteem, that's fine." She, however, believes the best way to get through this time of year is moderation. "Don't fill up every free night in the calendar with dates, but don't shut yourself down from the possibility of meeting someone, either," she says. Who knows? You might meet someone by the eggnog table at that holiday party, after all. Or you might just get to enjoy a festive holiday beverage, and that's a pretty good outcome, too.