But what we often neglect to mention is that these two viewpoints can coexist. You can be pissed off at the patriarchy for upholding the tired notion that women must look a certain way to be taken seriously, and still want to get under-eye filler to reduce the genetic dark circles that make you look exhausted all the time. You can be confident and independent with a thriving social life and career and still, as Fleabag once said, fear losing the currency of youth. We are large, we contain multitudes.