Often older relationships – the ones that have survived you transferring from weekend phone calls on the landline to MySpace to email to Facebook to Whatsapp and back again – are the ones that take the least nurturing. They can stand up on their own and you don’t get riddled with guilt when you haven’t spoken to them for a while. Charlotte says she’s noticed this more since moving and feels more pressure when it comes to her wider group of friends, and the newer ones in particular.