Future Sex isn't a memoir, but it isn't not one, either. In it, Witt acts as a participant seeking to understand this new romantic landscape we're operating in and how she fits into the picture. She dedicates a section to Orgasmic Meditation, a practice founded and popularised by the organisation OneTaste . She attends a porn shoot where audience participation is encouraged and the evening ends with anal fisting, and objectively contrasts that experience against the current tenor of porn culture in America.She also thinks hard about how she presents herself in online dating profiles, and how hard it is for women to be honest and get what they want on those platforms. "In some ways, these apps reveal how difficult it is for a lot of women," she says. "It revealed how difficult it was for me to overtly state my desires — to overtly present myself a sexual being. It was so much easier for me to present a somebody interested in books who wanted to go to museums, than it was to say on one of these platforms: This is what I like in sex, this is the kind of sex that I'm looking for."I just kind of became aware of a certain false presentation of myself," Witt adds. "I was on this app to look for somebody to have sex with. But I was not going to talk about sex — ever — on it."At Public Disgrace — the event where the porn shoot she attended was filmed, which she describes as a sort of "ritual humiliation of a woman" — Witt also confronted some of her own deep-rooted feelings about the kind of porn people engage with now, as well as the judgements that come to the table. At the shoot, she says she wasn't sure that she wanted the world to look like what she was seeing."I don't want these guys that are here, calling this person the c-word, thinking they can harass and humiliate her," Witt says. And yet: "The fact is we live in a democracy. This is legal. The [performers] say they wanna be there. We have to believe them. So then the question becomes: What does it mean to have these kinds of fantasies available by a simple Google search?"That stuff is out there, and I believe the women who make it [when they] say that it allows them to explore parts of themselves that they would never be able to explore. I don't know that the viewer watching it is coming to it with that same consciousness — that's what makes me nervous sometimes. But also I think it's important to separate fantasy from reality."Separating fantasy from reality — and breaking reality down into its digestible parts — is exactly what Witt does in her book, which we'd highly recommend diving into if you're even the littlest bit obsessed with the way that hookups intersect with our data-driven lifestyles. Smart, sexy, and exhaustively researched, Future Sex offers new insight into how we search for sex, and even love — and what that means for us in 2016. Future Sex was released on October 11, 2016 by Farrar, Straus and Giroux.