Reality TV stars live their lives in front of a team of cameras and producers. Many of them face a level of scrutiny on a daily basis from viewers and followers to critics and plain old haters that few of us can understand. So what happens when these curated-for-TV personalities get married? Do they go the other way and handle the ceremony (and the dress) in a low-key manner that is different than their on-screen lives? Or, do they go over-the-top, sparing no expense for their look on their big day?

If the wedding dress is any indication, the answer to the question is: it depends. No one would seriously expect one of the Real Housewives to tone it down on her wedding day. And the ladies (and gentlemen) of Bachelor nation have a pre-existing tendency towards princess fantasies anyway. So heck, why hold back?

We’ve pulled together wedding photos from some of our favorite reality stars. If we are what we wear, then perhaps these looks give us some clues into the real person behind the reality.

Click through and decide for yourself.