What can you do? Be your own leader in this regard. Speak to younger women and girls about what both of these Trump women are doing. Have conversations about those uncomfortable and unacceptable relationship dynamics. Even some of the most progressive women often bristle when people talk to them about gender or relationship roles; it’s so ingrained in us that we have to act in certain ways in our personal and professional lives. But often larger women’s rights issues like abortion or maternity leave start with having honest, frank discussions about these more normalized social behaviors we all encounter every day. One of those? The expectation that women’s opinions shouldn’t be taken seriously when they need to “stand by their men.”