Or at least, choose wisely and use it sparingly. A little extra lubrication can certainly make sex more enjoyable, especially if you don't naturally get super-wet during sex. But consider using a water-based lube over an oil or silicone one . Not only are they safe to use with condoms and toys, but water-based options also tend to have a little less "slip" than other types, which can be a good thing when you're dealing with your partner's mega member.