The good news is: Like many things about wedding planning, you'll feel better about the whole thing if you just chill and let the cards fall as they may. "Why not just enjoy the emotional connection and physical affection — not leading up to sex — without the added pressure of what you 'should' be doing on that day?" Dr. Needle says. It might be worth it to literally tell your partner, "We might not have sex tonight, so can we focus on having fun today, and save the celebratory vacation sex for the honeymoon?" Of course, you could very well have wedding night sex — mind-blowing sex, even — but the point is that there's no reason to stress either way. There's nothing "wrong" with your relationship if you're not all over each other every minute, Dr. Needle says.