His mom added that she felt like Toby was "tip-toeing around to keep from setting [Kate] off." It's true that Kate and Toby had been experiencing some stress during the wedding-planning process. Anyone who's participated in a wedding could tell you that a certain amount of anxiety is normal, especially for those who have lost someone who can't be in attendance . But, could his parents have a point in saying that Kate's unresolved familial issues could be bad news for Toby's mental and emotional health? Some fans think so.