But, baring cultural differences or mismatched personalities, your partner disliking your friends so much that they don't want you to hang out with them either, could be a sign of an unhealthy or controlling relationship , Stewart says. So while it's okay for them to stay home when you and your pals go to lunch, watch out for signs that your partner is trying to convince you to drop your friends. Otherwise, your partner not wanting to spend much time around your friends is totally fine, as long as they have a good reason and you're okay with it. "Basically you use your best judgment,"Stewart says. "If it feels okay, then I think it's relatively okay. As long as it doesn't feel unfair."