"It's almost like someone else is trying to incite drama," Post says about those pointed remarks. But the good news is you don't have to engage. Instead, she suggests saying something like, "It doesn't matter to me that we're eating different food, what I care about is being here and spending quality time with family." You don't have to explain your choices, and if someone keeps bringing it up, Post says you can follow up with something like, "You know I'm not too concerned about the choice that I made, but I'm curious why this is really something you you focus on so much."