So if you're faced with casual slut-shaming, how should you handle it? Instead of making a joke at your own expense, Chrisler says it's better to be upfront and vulnerable with the person. "Vulnerability is the only way out of that moment," she says. "A simple, 'Ouch, that didn't make me feel good,' can be really effective, and most friends will be totally up for cleaning up their behaviour." There are, however, some people who may not be open to being called out, and those situations can be tricky. "A lot of people won't want to take responsibility if it's said in jest, or they'll try to justify their comments because of the deep-seated beliefs they have," Dr. Zeising says. "But don't be afraid to hold your ground if they push back. Say, 'I was just giving you some feedback,' and end the conversation that way." It's also a good idea to consider what you share with certain people — a lesson I had to learn the hard way.