But if your finger is hovering over the "send" icon, take a minute. "If you do want to respond, ask yourself: What is it that I actually want out of responding?" DeGeare suggests. "Think: Is there anything I could want or need, or anything I could get out of this that's going to serve me right now? If it's not a toxic ex and you guys broke up for different reasons, okay, you can talk to that person and check in." But if it is.... can we suggest QuarantineChat instead?