Stewart says she's known people who are so terrified of rejection that it takes years for them to finally tell a crush about their feelings — another common theme in these best friends-turned soulmates movies. Unlike the people in rom coms, though, you can't hold your feelings in for years and still expect a happy ending. Life moves too quickly for that, and there's a good chance that your friend/crush will wind up in another relationship before you finally speak up. But that doesn't mean you have to rush over to their place right now and declare your love, either. Take a month or two to weigh the pros and cons, Stewart says. You might even realize in that time that your feelings aren't really strong enough to risk losing a good friend.