If someone is talking about an abortion and they say the word "baby," you can say "baby." If they say "fetus," you can say "fetus." If someone describes themselves as gender queer to you, you can say "gender queer." If someone kind of looks like a he, but they say they're a she, it's cool.
Si alguien habla sobre un aborto y pronuncia la palabra "bebé", puedes decir "bebé".