Believe it or not, some men think they don’t need to deal with their occasional episodes of premature ejaculation. They tell themselves that suffering from the condition
every so often is just the new normal and that if there was a problem, their girlfriend would let them know. They believe that as long as their girlfriends aren’t saying anything, they don’t even realise there’s a problem.
They couldn’t be more wrong.
Women know what’s up when it comes to their man’s sexual performance. No matter how much you try and hide the problem or disguise the issue, if things aren’t working the way they should, she knows. So if she knows, then why doesn’t she say anything? Maybe she is – but you’re not picking up on her cues.
She’s Pissed Off … All the Time
Sure there are lots of jokes about women being angry all the time, but there’s a big difference joking around and actually having someone snapping at you all the time. If your girl seems extra irritated, ask yourself why. Sometimes it’s easy to come up with a possible reason but if you’re stumped, it’s time to be on the lookout for any more of these common red flags.
She Doesn’t Initiate Sex
When a woman isn’t getting what she wants from sex, she’s obviously going to be less likely initiating it. When you are dealing with premature ejaculation, she’s probably never getting satisfied. So why would she initiate sex? Even if your girl was never big on taking the first step before, she likely sent you certain signals during the course of the day or evening. Maybe she would be more likely to send you a dirty text during the day, pick up a bottle of wine to share over dinner or wear THAT shirt. Whatever the cues were, if they’ve dropped off or disappeared completely, it’s a red flag.
When It’s Done, She’s Done
Not every woman goes for long cuddled up conversations after sex, but most of them don’t run right for the bathroom or turn over and start reading their kindle. When sex ends, it shouldn’t be the end of interaction completely. Unless she’s once again having to go to bed sexually frustrated, disappointed and even a little bit worried. After all it’s natural for women to wonder if the problem is with them and that kind of doubt would gnaw at the back of anyone’s mind.
Sex Isn’t On Her Radar
We’ve all been there. You’re watching something on TV and an erotic scene or something sexy comes on and the energy changes in the room. You both feel it, even if you don’t fully act on it. Maybe you exchange a look and a grin, a short kiss or something more depending on the day. But if that energy change doesn’t come when you know it should or you feel a tension that just isn’t right, that means sex is making her put up her defences or that it just isn’t even something she’s thinking about these days. Either way, it signals a pretty significant problem.
Things Are Just Off
At the end of the day, men aren’t the only ones who deal with premature ejaculation when the condition strikes. Their girlfriends knows what’s up – but they usually don’t feel as though they can talk about it. This makes them feel isolated and alone. Add to that the fact that it’s just human nature to wonder if you’re contributing to the problem and it’s the perfect storm for plenty of stress and anxiety. That will make her pull away and be less outgoing, less honest, less interested. Sometimes it isn’t something you can describe, but more like a feeling and you know – you just KNOW – something isn’t right.
The good news here is that all of these problems are 100% absolutely fixable. All you have to do is open your mouth and TALK TO HER.Is talking about premature ejaculation embarrassing? You bet! But once you get past that initial awkward phase, you’ll find that you have a happy, supportive and eager ally when it comes to finding new ways to treat the condition and improve your sex life in the meantime. So what’s holding you back?