Breaking the Iceberg uses the PSYCH-K® process to help people break through their self-limiting beliefs so they can live the life they want…
What are beliefs and where do they come from?
A belief is a thought we’ve held for a period of time. It can be held for a short or a long time and it will stay there until it is changed or no longer needed (how long a belief is held doesn’t make it stronger or harder to change).
We have beliefs about everything and everyone, especially ourselves, our capabilities and our worth.
A lot of our beliefs support us, but often they hold us back from living the life we want. Some beliefs can even be self-sabotaging.
Beliefs come from our conditioning – from what we have learned and experienced and from what we have been told by others.
Often we hold beliefs that we are completely unaware of and once we acknowledge them or they are revealed to us then suddenly we can make sense of our habits and life patterns (both positive and negative) and take steps towards changing the ones that are holding us back.
The negative or self-sabotaging beliefs are called “limiting beliefs”.
Many of our limiting beliefs come from our childhood – from our parents, family, friends, teachers and other children. They are not necessarily intentionally shared as limiting beliefs but they can be restrictive and therefore limiting. For example, if a parent says that “You’ll never amount to anything” or “Money is the root of all evil” or a child is told that “You’re no good at that” then the impressionable child may adopt the statement as true and the statement goes into the child’s subconscious mind and becomes a belief they live by.
We are like sponges up to the age of 7 years when our analytical brain is not really functioning. Most people are not aware of the extent that our childhood programming becomes our adults’ beliefs, habits and behaviours – information that we received as a child may be what we live by now as an adult.
Just think about your life now – can you recognise a lot of your parents’ attitudes and opinions in your views? If you can, these are acquired beliefs and some of them might serve you well and some might not.
As adults we continue to pick up limiting beliefs from all areas of our life – in the workplace from bosses and peers, and in our personal life from friends, family, healthcare professionals and others.
Your life is a reflection of your beliefs. They are the driving force behind your actions, behaviours and ultimately your life. If your beliefs are negative, life becomes a vicious cycle. For example, if you believe you are unworthy you will consciously or unconsciously allow others to treat you that way, which reinforces your beliefs and your perceptions of how your life always is … and the cycle is perpetuated, until you change your beliefs and transform your life.
Here are some examples of life-enhancing beliefs:
• I am proud of who I am
• I deeply appreciate and accept myself
• My family is proud of me
• I am confident and very successful
• I accept health as being a natural part of my life
• My body heals itself naturally and quickly
• I radiate with perfect health and wellness
• I have more than enough money to live the life I want
• It is okay for me to have lots of money
• I am successful in business
• I enjoy incredible, rich relationships with wonderful people.
Here are some examples of limiting beliefs:
• Things never seem to go my way
• I’m just not a lucky person
• I can’t find the right partner
• I have to work hard to be a success
• I have to be perfect in everything I do so I’m not criticised
• I’m doomed by my genes
• My body is falling apart but that’s what happens when you get older
• I never have enough money
• I will never own my own home
• My boss doesn’t understand me
• I have trouble finding new clients
• I’m not good at sport
• It’s hard for me to change
• I just don’t have the energy I used to
• I’m not worthy of making lots of money
• We live in a dangerous world.
Where do we hold our beliefs?
Beliefs are stored in both our conscious and subconscious minds. Only