p for it', but not too 'up for it'; enjoy sex, but not too much sex, or the wrong kind of sex. It doesn't take long for the label to turn from 'sexy' to 'slut' in one fell swoop.
As becomes clear, the right or acceptable way to be - a permissible sexuality - is very hard to attain indeed.
Is this empowerment? No, no it's not. It's just really, really bloody frustrating.