wence away.I was refused maintainance because I refused to go home and obey. This is why abused women do not go all the way in the legal process.It is all a secret though.shhhhhh What message is the system sending out?? VIOLENCE IS REWARDED.!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh, never mind Johnny, we know he bet the shit out of your mum, we know he beat you too. We know he pointed a gun at you but you must now shut up and get into that room and obey us. That gives you all a glimmer of what to expect. Happy new year. I plan to change all that with your help in speaking out and ignoring the gagging order.No one has the right to shut out Truth.!!!!|
|Mixie Posted: 29/12/2006 04:36|
|I don't for the life of me know why women put up with abuse from their partners. Why can't they just get out. What their children see, is more deeply routed in their psyche than any words. Women are not helpless. If a man raised his hand to me or my kids, I would be gone tomorrow. We ban cigerettes but we still have a huge problem with homelessness and alcohol. Isn't it time we took our own destinies into our own hands, if for nothing else but for the mental health of our children?|
|Alice Posted: 02/01/2007 10:03|
|NO Lillith, that is not acceptable treatment for any human being. You do not have to put up with violence. You are entitled to maintenance for your children and a safe home to grow up in and you are not legally (or indeed morally) obliged to obey anyone exept the law of the land and that law prohbits violence to any adult in any circumstances except self defence. Also, no child will be dragged to see a prent they don't want to see - I have personal experience of this. A court will not compel a child to see a violent parent. In fact, judges will prevent a violent father from having access to their child|
|Lillith Posted: 18/01/2007 21:18|
|I also note that social worker asked me to lie and mention the ex good points.I asked what good points and he could find none either, so he said \"well lie about him and tell them he is really ok deep down\" This is my experience and it stinks to high heaven.|
|Lillith Posted: 21/01/2007 19:25|
|The solicitors tell you to drag the children to access..by the hair if necessary or the Judge will throw you/abused in jail.Of course it beggers belief but it happens.Now te latest news is that we made it up because womens aid is run by feminists like germaine greer and these women put us up to it. Anew one on me considering feminism is a patriarchial creation to try and keep us fighting against each other and they clean up financially. The Judge say no accesss but HSE said yes as he appeared so sweet and innocent.Well they fell for it just like I did. But they were very anti woman I can tell you.And boy can they lie under oath. I heard so much about myself that Idid not know who they were all talking about. Go Home and Obey..will ring in my ears forever though. Of course I refuse to and they can all do what they please, but I chose peace and safety for my children and myself too.|
|Anon Posted: 24/01/2007 21:48|
|Lillith, While I realise from reading your posts that you have been through a bad time. Nevertheless, the Father of your children is the Father of your children. They have a right to see him and he has a right to see them. If he mistreats them or is violent to them then that is another story but he should be allowed SUPERVISED visits with them for both their sakes. That is not an area that you have any business involving yourself with. If you cannot be next,nigh or near him then let the Social Workers deal with the children seeing him and let the Social Workers supervise the visits. He is their Father and will be forever. If they don't want to see him, then they have to tell the Social Workers that, not you as if you interfer it will be totally counterproductive to your situation.|
|Alice Posted: 25/01/2007 10:33|
|Anon, if a child does not want to see their father or is afraid of him, then they should not be forced to see him. You don't need to be a child psychologist to know that, you just need a bit of common sense. 