es that the mother might have felt were the case at the time.|
|Sam Posted: 20/09/2006 10:45|
|First of all the abused person loses all self esteem and refuses to trust anyone. Its a cancer that the society always had a cure for but refused to act or acknowledge. It comes in all shapes and forms and does not follow gender boundaries. I have personally referred people to many wonderful self help and government funded organisations that have helped people get back to some kind of normality. Must remember though it is a huge industry worldwide. What a person needs most for now is a true friend who is always there without having to be there. Knowing how the system works also helps. A few words of advice. Keep diary of events, privately. Get a dictaphone. They are small and discreet. Call the gardai. the perpetrator is removed immediately. Call the social services they will respond and prepare a report for the courts and the gardai.Especially if it happens to be he, you will never have to hear or see him again. You will get control of your life. For now the onus is completely in favour of the woman and children for their protection. Use it wisely as it is open to abuse but extremely effective.Drinkers daughter no one deserves to be terrified, abused or treated as such. I believe even one incident as such is one too many. Word of advice ladies. When you meet a scumbag portraying himself as a man, walk away. Afterall when you see doggy poo in the street don't you walk away. Same applies to men. No more excuses please take control of yoour life. It may seem hard at first but is a doddle compared to waht you may face in the long run.|
|Sam Posted: 20/09/2006 10:54|
|Nick if you want to talk you can call me. The contact numbers you will find on www.fathers.ie. Its completely free of charge and non biased. I am sure I can help.|
|Lillith Posted: 28/12/2006 13:07|
|I went for help to get out of domestic violence and whatever self esteem I had left the so called agencies of the State knocked the rest out of me. Now, I say,,do not be fooled..do not come forward. The state wants women to know their place.Oh Lord Yes. Go home and obey him, this is a catholic country and marriage is for life. The judge has no power according to social services as they tell him what to do. they are extremely good at perjury too. I, for some reason was declared too powerful for a woman and had to be taught my place.I was ordered by social worker/male to jump every time he clicked his fingers.To repeat 3 times how he had the power.If I refused he was going to stitch me up in court. He did, bless him. Why???? because the system was forcing us back into violence and we idd not want it.The children were told they would be dragged by the hair to see him or I would go to prison and they would go to a care home/prison too. All in our lovely secret courts of course.!!!!! I just spoke to Ian Josephs and he explained the amount of money the agencies make from our misery.How lawyers only care about their fee.How evidence suddenly disappears etc, etc. I am in the middle of a book and also writing a play to illustrate this truth to all. I am gagged of course, having been dragged into the judges chambers and having my fingers rapped for taking notes in court.I mean how dare we step out of our box and reclaim our power. Now we could opt for the new safe box= a prison within a prison. The whole experience taught me a lot and I declare 2007 YEAR OF TRUTH to shed light on these gestapo courts that Hitler would be proud of. As a nation we keep copying the British instead of thinking anew when we have the chance. The Government even brought over some British social workers to teach these torture tactics to the irish gobshites and now if you check carefully you will discover that they are in high positione in the various depts. I was told go home or go homeless and we steal your children.I chose homeless/violence free and now my children are grown up with their own jobs and above all freedom and strength of their own at no expence to the state as it even took my childrens allo