o happen once to affect a young person's self-worth and ego.
"Whether it's kids being exclusionary online or being mean online, harassment happens more frequently than real cyberbullying, where somebody has more power over you and hurts you," Haber said.
And those one-time incidents are happening more often than people admit, possibly because teens and their parents don't find the threats severe enough to complain. The new studies, while saying cyberbullying incidents are over-reported, found that nearly half the teens reported being victims of cyber harassment at least once.
How Does it Happen?
With the growth of Facebook and Twitter, teens are more connected than ever — especially since mobile devices keep them online even when they're not home.
Mobile devices, though, are a true cyberbully's dream. When people first got home computers, they were careful to keep them in a central location in their home, where parents could keep an eye on their children's activities.
This meant that not only could parents protect their children from cyberbullying — but they could watch their children to make sure they weren't treating others badly online. However, mobile devices mean teens are more likely to be online and away from adult supervision. And if teens don't complain to their parents and the adults aren't monitoring their online activities, sometimes the cyberbullying raises to a fever pitch — and can escalate to tragedy — before someone takes action.
How it Crosses the Line
Teens are naturally sarcastic with each other, so it can be a slippery slope from teasing to harassment and then on to cyberbullying. Haber says much of what's said online is taken literally because it lacks tone and context, meaning even the most innocent-seeming words can seem threatening to an unsuspecting person.
"Lots of kids report that other kids say mean or hurtful things online or that they purposely leave them out of group things online," Haber said. "But because they don't have the context, they don't know if it was intentional."
Cyberbullying is mainly centered in power, just like real-life bullying. And similarly, sometimes a good "punch," or a denial of service, is all it takes to make a bully back down.
For example, police recently arrested a British teen and released him with a warning about harassing Olympic diver Tom Daley online, after the athlete said he wanted to win the gold to honor his father, a victim of brain cancer. When Daley didn't medal, the 17-year-old tweeted, "You let your dad down i hope you know that."
Being online also gives some people a sense of power they don't otherwise have, and they take advantage of it. After all, when you're online, particularly on Twitter, nobody knows how big you are, or how strong, or where you are. And often, there are very few repercussions for cyberbullying, beyond being kicked off Facebook or Twitter — and any teen knows how to get around that by creating a new, fake profile.
Psychologists say attacks increase when people can't see the faces of those they're harassing, and this sense of bravado increases when they don't think they'll get caught.
Since all non-verbal cues like body language and tone are removed online, it's easy to let a situation escalate, experts say, meaning people who would never throw a punch in person have no problem throwing verbal jabs at each other behind the protection of a hashtag.
How Do You Fight a Cyberbully?
Even if a teen doesn't realize he or she is being bullied, they still know when someone's harassing them. And for a person whose self-esteem may be low anyway — as is the case with many teenagers by nature — a cyberbully or a group of them may chip away at their self-worth, sometimes with tragic consequences.
And even if teens are reporting being cyberbullied less, they're not equating that with harassment, which could be much more subtle but every bit as dangerous. Experts suggest teens be very careful online, whether on a computer or mobile device, and limit their contacts to only the safe people they know — and block the rest.
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