All parents know that by nature all children are enthusiastic whyers. Developing their thinking with the help of exciting games from IQClub, they can find the answers themselves for some questions. But sometimes their “why” is turned towards their parents, which put them at a deadlock.
The main task of an adult is to stimulate the cognitive interest of his child, so it’s impossible to simply dismiss or laugh at the important question. Deception is also not an effective way to solve the problem – the kid will soon understand forgery, and therefore will no longer talk to parents about exciting topics.
How to answer “deadlock” questions?
In the understanding of a child, a parent is an authority and the main source of obtaining important and interesting information about how everything is arranged in the world. Even if you are busy, tired and do not have the desire to understand issues that seem trivial to you, do not ignore your child and his natural craving for knowledge.
There are situations, when the next “why”, which breaks out from the mouth of the child, seems to us stupid. But the problem is not in the trifling question but in our ignorance of a logical and understandable answer to it. When adults see it all obvious and familiar, the child only learns the unknown world around and hurries to ask all questions, the answers to which he cannot find himself. Below, the IQClub team offers popular versions of answers to the “deadlock” questions. For example, we use one of the most popular questions: “Why do stars give light?”
The first option that comes to mind for an employed or tired parent is the answer without much sense and understanding:
- Because it is arranged so.
- You will grow up and tell me about it yourself.
- Learn this from your father or grandfather – he will explain it to you.
Parents themselves are well aware that such an answer does not carry any information in itself, except for the message “there’s no time for me to think about it now”. This answer helps the child to understand that his interest is so stupid and wrong that he is not worthy of the adult’s attention. On the one hand, the parent paid attention to the child, and on the other, he cut all his curiosity and desire to contact.
If you want a child to find the answer to this question by his own – tell him that, not forgetting to tell where exactly to look for it. And to distract the child from a painful thought, you can play together with him in the games that the IQClub team has developed.
If the best defence is an attack, then in the case of “deadlock” questions, parents often arrange a provocation:
- Why should not the stars give light?
- What do you think: The Sun is a star or a planet?
In comparison with the previous version, response-provocation has more benefits than harm. However, one must use this option very cautiously: parent should be ready to continue the conversation and have a logical explanation.
Receiving a provocative answer, a child begins to think, build hypotheses and show curiosity. However, provocation cannot do without problems: the lack of an exact answer causes a flood of new “deadlock” questions from the baby.
That’s the way the world wags
When a child is interested in the stars, an adult can tell him that this is how the world wags. For example, refer to the laws of physics / God’s will/vagaries of the universe. In the adult’s understanding, such a practical answer carries a philosophical meaning and prompts the child to think and analyze. But, from the point of view of a baby, an adult says a set of incomprehensible phrases that mean nothing.
Receiving a foggy answer, the child is even more lost. Lack of rich life experience does not give him the opportunity to evaluate such an answer and deeply understand its essence. That is why the child will not understand anything and will not ask anything else.
Parents, who try to conquer a baby with their knowledge, try to find a scientific explanation for the “deadlock” question. So, the stars can be called huge clots with gaseous structure. The temperature of the substances d