hat your partner does for you. Shifting towards a more grateful mindset will change the lens in which you view each other and can make a significant improvement in the way you relate to one another.
The techniques for augmenting gratitude are relatively simple and can easily be integrated into a regular practice. The following exercises are designed to arouse feelings of gratitude and provide the means by which gratitude can be expressed easily and openly. They can be undertaken individually or as a couple.
- Gratitude journaling – each day write down at least three things your partner did that day that you are grateful for. At the end of the week share the list to the recipient.
- Gratitude letter – write a letter of gratitude to your partner about a time where you felt they had benefited you but you had not yet adequately thanked them. Then share the letter with your partner .
You can continue the exercises for as long as you wish, however once you stop actively practicing gratitude the derived benefits from the exercises will diminish over time. If you want a sustained and lasting positive change implement an ongoing gratitude practice that you and your partner can enjoy doing together.
Gratitude is a simple yet powerful way to improve your wellbeing and experience a happier, healthier relationship. So start showing a little gratitude – you’ll be thankful you did!
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