As their mother, Lillith has every business involving herself with this as her children obviously seme afraid of their father. Then if my father abused me or indeed my mother, I reckon I would never want to so much as be in the same room as him not to mind visit him - no child would. They'd either fear or hate him or both.|
|Anon Posted: 25/01/2007 13:58|
|Alice, I agree with you. IF a child is afraid of their father they should not be forced to see him. HOWEVER, if that is the case, and the visits are supervised by a 3rd party, that will become abundantly obvious to the 3rd party and then something can be sorted. Unfortunately due to some women (and I am not saying this about Lillith) using their children to grind an axe with their spouses, it is hard for the 'system' to always figure out the real truth. I am speaking from personal experience here. If you heard what my ex sister in law said about her husband and how she tried to brain wash the children to do her dirty work for her, it was scandalous. My brother was accused of everything under the sun ie. violence, abuse, sexual abuse of children, homosexuality, the whole works WITHOUT ONE SINGLE piece of evidence. In fact, my ex sister in law still abuses all of us. 25 years later and she still makes abusive phone calls to me until eventually 1 caring officer of the state gave her a serious warning. Enough to make her stop. I haven't even been in contact with her for all those years yet she still carries on like this. If you met her she would convince you that black was white! Totally believeable in her (what I can only call) insanity! The abuser in their case was the Mother. Women like that are never dealt with by the system and they are the ones that have caused this problem in the first place.|
|SS Posted: 18/06/2008 22:08|
|It is hard to know why a man wants to beat a woman and make you a woman know or feel they have no worth. I have been beaten by my father for years. He is a great man to tell me what a fb I am. He puts his fist in my face and tells me he will knock me out or break my neck. I feel so terrorised and I feel I have no choice but to do what he tells me. There is no such thing as choice in terms of doing anything other than he tells me. It is far more dangerous if you don't do as you are told. He hates women and the vile and disturbing violence which he spouts about what b women are and what he will do to me if I do not listen to him or do what I am told is just unbelievable. For years I could just not literally move, I would be so terrorised. He had to control absolutely everything, the number of times I had his fist in my face because he said I was looking at him the wrong way or because he said I was looking at him at all. I wet the bed for years and years. The humiliation is great and awful. I can honestly say I did not know what was happening to me for years and years. I was always so afraid, he would always tell me he was watching me and would 'get' me or 'come after me' if I did not do as he told me. I don't know if other women have felt the same way but when you are around someone who is so violent it is better to do whatever they say so that they do not hurt you more. My father loved to humiliate me, he was and still is the greatest joker going. He thinks he is so funny. He loves the fact he makes me so scared. The verbal abuse of what a b I am, how thick I am, what a f eejit I am. His snarl and violence is so extreme. No one in my family will do anything as they are all too scared to him. I have tried to stand up to him but I ended up being more beaten. A man who is nearly six foot, when his fist beats you it is like being hit by a brick. My head would literally spin around and I would feel physically sick. I would not know what was happening to me half the time. I just saw this post and thought I would write of my own experience. How do abused women get better? Where can I go to get help for myself? If he knew I had spoken to anyone about what was happening to me he would kill me.|
|AB Posted: 19/06/2008 14:23|
|SS - your father is a dangerou