 is my experience and it stinks to high heaven.|
|Lillith Posted: 21/01/2007 19:25|
|The solicitors tell you to drag the children to access..by the hair if necessary or the Judge will throw you/abused in jail.Of course it beggers belief but it happens.Now te latest news is that we made it up because womens aid is run by feminists like germaine greer and these women put us up to it. Anew one on me considering feminism is a patriarchial creation to try and keep us fighting against each other and they clean up financially. The Judge say no accesss but HSE said yes as he appeared so sweet and innocent.Well they fell for it just like I did. But they were very anti woman I can tell you.And boy can they lie under oath. I heard so much about myself that Idid not know who they were all talking about. Go Home and Obey..will ring in my ears forever though. Of course I refuse to and they can all do what they please, but I chose peace and safety for my children and myself too.|
|Anon Posted: 24/01/2007 21:48|
|Lillith, While I realise from reading your posts that you have been through a bad time. Nevertheless, the Father of your children is the Father of your children. They have a right to see him and he has a right to see them. If he mistreats them or is violent to them then that is another story but he should be allowed SUPERVISED visits with them for both their sakes. That is not an area that you have any business involving yourself with. If you cannot be next,nigh or near him then let the Social Workers deal with the children seeing him and let the Social Workers supervise the visits. He is their Father and will be forever. If they don't want to see him, then they have to tell the Social Workers that, not you as if you interfer it will be totally counterproductive to your situation.|
|Alice Posted: 25/01/2007 10:33|
|Anon, if a child does not want to see their father or is afraid of him, then they should not be forced to see him. You don't need to be a child psychologist to know that, you just need a bit of common sense. As their mother, Lillith has every business involving herself with this as her children obviously seme afraid of their father. Then if my father abused me or indeed my mother, I reckon I would never want to so much as be in the same room as him not to mind visit him - no child would. They'd either fear or hate him or both.|
|Anon Posted: 25/01/2007 13:58|
|Alice, I agree with you. IF a child is afraid of their father they should not be forced to see him. HOWEVER, if that is the case, and the visits are supervised by a 3rd party, that will become abundantly obvious to the 3rd party and then something can be sorted. Unfortunately due to some women (and I am not saying this about Lillith) using their children to grind an axe with their spouses, it is hard for the 'system' to always figure out the real truth. I am speaking from personal experience here. If you heard what my ex sister in law said about her husband and how she tried to brain wash the children to do her dirty work for her, it was scandalous. My brother was accused of everything under the sun ie. violence, abuse, sexual abuse of children, homosexuality, the whole works WITHOUT ONE SINGLE piece of evidence. In fact, my ex sister in law still abuses all of us. 25 years later and she still makes abusive phone calls to me until eventually 1 caring officer of the state gave her a serious warning. Enough to make her stop. I haven't even been in contact with her for all those years yet she still carries on like this. If you met her she would convince you that black was white! Totally believeable in her (what I can only call) insanity! The abuser in their case was the Mother. Women like that are never dealt with by the system and they are the ones that have caused this problem in the first place.|
|SS Posted: 18/06/2008 22:08|
|It is hard to know why a man wants to beat a woman and make you a woman know or feel they have no worth. I have been beaten by my father for years. He is a great man to tell me what a fb I am. He puts his fist in my face and tells me he w