ouraged if I-messages don’t work the first time you try them–or every time you try them. Using I-messages (as well as active listening) is not a conversational approach that most people are familiar or comfortable with. Both take practice to learn–just as any other new skill takes practice to learn. If it doesn’t work well, try again at a later time or in another situation. Over time, you will learn in what circumstances and with what people this skill is helpful, and when it is not.
Courtesy : beyondintractability